₦airaland Forum

uc4uandc:
Its quite relieving after the FG announced the commencement of the N-power program as many unemployed graduated seemed hopeful. This program is said to absorb over 600,000 graduate. Nobody enjoys being unemployed though but, I want you to know how tired up you will be in this program once you are given the job.
Remember they requested for ur BVN?
This means that after you apply for the job, you will not be able to apply for other Government job thereafter. As it will read in there database that you are already employed at the Federal level, there is no flexible potting. A friend who works with with a Federal Secondary School shared how he went for an interview during the CBN recruitments and after performing excellently, they told him he had a Job under the same FG through his BVN. So, if you wish to apply for this job, consider not getting any other Federal Jobs. While this may be a way to reduce unemployment think of the implications it will have in your life.
Just like NYSC, you will be supervised, you will not be allowed to leave a particularly area. Really NYSC part II
You will be tired up with 23k for 2yrs.......reflect on that

tied up bro. tied up

my sister is both a model and a lawyer. Pretty good at both.

As in, still using future tense?

Why are these our leaders like this?

I have no doubt that this set of leaders mean well but it is not bad to admit that you actually do not know what you are doing!

UIA04:
Hmmm
Mikel obi + billionaires daughter

Victor + billionaires daughter

Maybe Billionaire's daughters like Igbo boys

omusiliyu:
...when did our brothers from the east start gold digging?

Leave our daughter alone.

Anyway, I trust her dad, he wont let that happen. His hard earned money isn't meant to develop the erosion damaged place

Victor Anichebe gats his own. Even though millions are not to be compared to billions, who do you expect her to date? are there any young Yoruba billionaires for the young lady to date just to please you people? Abi you want her to date Obafemi Martins before you can be happy abi?

I don't understand what the big deal is about being ms nairaland. Is there a cash prize or some other incentive?

I tried to read but...

In my experience, a solid green light can very quickly change to yellow and from there progress into red if you do not proceed with caution. She obviously seems to like you already, but girls can be funny. Perhaps the fact that you didn't call for the first few day, or act interested at all made her develop some interest but if you now change and start acting needy, she is going to back off very quickly.

Without knowing the girl personally, i can only give you some generic advice. I would say take her out on a date and relate with her for some time without making any concrete statement of interest. You also need to be sure if she is really someone you want to be with. The longer you tease her, the harder she will fall for you. When you're ready, you won't even need to ask her out formally, just escalate your actions and let them do the talking for you.

Take your time bro.

pweeryambre:
op your girl is right to feel that way,
once had that kind of experience with my ex and it wasn't funny....
it stirs up all sorts of bad feelings, betrayal, resentment, dissapointed, disgusted, infact the relationship will never be the same again.
be a man next time.

honestly if one of my homeboys does such i would never respect him or trust him to have my back again. Once had such an experience...talk more of doing it to ones girl.

Naughtysite:
Everytime, na so so rubbish threads.

Rubbish threads and stupide people are like 5&6

This hot afternoon?

1. No one is asking you to fight off 4-5 bad guys. But knowing that that woman by your side is even more defenseless against them means that you have stand by her side through it all. The least you could have done was try and show a little confidence so that she would feel a little safe and then speak to the guys like a man, while cooperating with them. Come on. We guys are still reasonable with each other most times, and street guys have a certain code of respect.

2. Protecting a woman is not all about fighting off 4-5 bad guys. It's also about being smart enough not to lead her into an area where you know you will not be able to lead her out of.

I wonder if this story is true sef.

Pls broda Israel, no vex. I just want to know want exactly you mean by "gumming her body"??

In the context of relationships, cheating occurs when a person does something that has either romantic or sexual significance with someone other than their partner—particularly when that person is a member of the opposite sex. Going by this definition, if you are above the age of 21, or have had more than 3 romantic partners in your life so far, you have probably cheated on your partner before.

Before you sanctimoniously close your eyes and raise your hands in pious denial, think about that time when you flirted with your boyfriends best friend, or when you went out on a romantic date with an admirer, or when you had a fight with your boyfriend and you spilled your heart to your so-called male bestie whose secret admiration for you is, in fact, no secret at all.

The fact is, you have cheated on your partner if you have done any of these, but that is a post for another day. The reason for the previous paragraph is just so that we can proceed through the rest of our discussion without having to deal with your self-righteous attitude (don’t ask me how I can feel those vibes. I just can).

Today, I’d like to specifically discuss the subject of why men cheat sexually, at significantly higher rates than women do. Even though women are more likely to cheat emotionally, and get away with it, men are more likely to go a step further and cheat physically, with statistics for the US showing that 70 % of men admit to having cheated on their partners compared with 50-60 % for women.

So to answer the question that so many ladies are asking all over the world today, let me first say that there is no one reason why a man might cheat or why all men cheat: I believe there are 6 major factors (I know the title says 7. When you get to the end you'll understand why), which individually or collectively, may contribute to cheating behavior in men. Here they are:

#1. Nature

One possible examination for why men cheat is that, it is in the nature of male animals to have multiple sexual partners. From an evolutionary perspective (all animals are programmed to act in a way that sustains the existence of their species), this theory makes a lot of sense, as to ensure the survival and propagation of the human race, engaging in intercourse as frequently as possible would yield higher chances of producing offspring.

The higher volume of offspring produced would ensure that were something untoward, either natural or unnatural, to occur, the existence of human life would continue.

#2. Visual stimulation

Men are much more prone to sexual arousal visually, whereas women are much more prone to emotional arousal. This means that while women may take a while to develop a bond between themselves and a prospective temporary partner, men may get to this stage much quicker and will tend to make a move faster than a woman who desires to cheat would.

Sexual encounters follow a process for both men and women. Simplified, the process usually involves three distinct stages: arousal, engagement and completion. For men the process might begin with interest and proceed to engagement where the object of affection is approached and courted, and completion if/when their interest is reciprocated. For women, however, the process might begin with engagement and then proceed to arousal.

Put together, this is what happens in most cases:

Stage 1. Boy meets girl. Boy is interested

Stage 2. Boy engages girl. Girl nurtures engagement (or not)

Stage 3. Girl becomes interested. Continues to stage 4

Stage 4. Cycle terminates with sexual activity (may grow into a relationship)

If this is true, it explains why women in relationships might cheat less, since initiating a sexual encounter would often require that they go out of their way to initiate and nurture a relationship which takes time and requires some level of intentionality. Unless, of course, they already have a suitable suitor whose engagement could be nurtured.

#3. Prisoners Dilemma

Prisoner’s dilemma is a fictional scenario used in the study of game theory to illustrate very real choices and behavior. The story is that two friends are arrested for criminal activity and are interrogated separately.

Both are offered the same options: if you stay silent and the other person confesses, you go to jail for ten years; if you confess and the other person stays silent, you go free and he goes to jail for ten years. If you both confess, you both get two years but if you both stay silent, both of you go free. Which option is your best bet?

Obviously, staying silent is the best combination for both of you but in the absence of reliable information on which option your friend has chosen, the most tempting option might be to go with what is safest for you.

Relationships are somewhat like this fictional prisoner’s dilemma example. Perhaps men cheat partly because women also cheat and men (just like women), may have no idea if their partner is cheating.

While very few men may actually cite a lack of trust in their partners as their major reason for cheating, it is clear that in order to override their inhibitions, men may convince themselves of the possibility of their partner’s cheating.

#4. Male dominant workforce

Despite the increased economic freedoms and opportunities provided to women in the 21st century, the corporate world is still a man’s world today. What this means is:

a. Men are found in position of power more frequently

Since men occupy the bulk of senior management and executive spots in most places, it is safe to assume that the increased financial power creates more opportunities for cheating.

This might partly be because most women are attracted to powerful men, and in some cases may feel obliged to act submissively even if they are not sexually attracted to their boss. This may explain, in part, the boss-secretary stereotype or perhaps, as is more commonly found here in Nigeria, the man of the house and the maid syndrome.

b. Men travel for business more frequently

Men tend to do more business travelling than women, and get to meet many more people under conditions wherein they are separated from their spouses. This gives them more opportunity, and more temptation to cheat.

This theory is lent some credence by the fact that the majority of women who cheat are working class ladies.

#5. Escape from harsh realities

It is also possible that men may cheat simply because things are not going well at home. It is a common trend particularly in modern marriages for women to deny their husbands of sex, using intimacy as a bargaining chip or means of positive reinforcement with which to extract money or elicit some desired behavior.

In such cases, or even in cases where the breakdown of relationships at home may stem from other issues or disagreements, men may cheat as an escape mechanism.

#6. It’s kinda normal

If most men are cheating and getting away with it, including your partners close friends, then why shouldn’t he? The rationale is this: if women really believe that men are dogs, as so commonly quoted, then you really shouldn’t mind it when he does act like one. Hey, I’m not justifying cheating by the way, I’m just trying to let you into the mind of a man.

Ever heard of the Pygmalion effect? Basically this is a theory that states that when you believe people will act in a certain way, they are likely to actually prove you right. Basically, if you act like you expect a man to cheat, he most likely will.

#7. Women are possibly not quite being honest

Statistically, men are much more likely to brag or exaggerate sexual experiences whereas women are much more likely to downplay their sexual history. This means that the assumption that men cheat much more than women may actually be a false premise.

Come on sisters out there, you know you are probably not very likely to admit having had an affair or cheating on your partner before. Perhaps men and women actually cheat just as much each other but we’ll never know for sure since we can’t exactly rely on the ladies to be perfectly candid.

Anyhoo!

You wanted to know why men cheat, and there you have it.

NiRfreak:
Nice write up...good points....

But many guys are too Lazy to exercise...some even disdain people with strong looking biceps and chest muscle

I can't imagine how a man in his 20's-30's would refuse to work out regularly. I have been doing regular push-ups since i was 13 and in fact one of my ex gf's once said to me that she can't imagine why any girl would want to be with a guy who is not fit...

its a no-brainer!!

charix:
Another advantage: one who exercised regularly in their earlier years finds it easier to get the swing back in later years. Muscle memory lasts decades and's easy to re-trigger.

Yea you're right.

PRISTINEMUSCLES:
u cud not have said it any better. Exercise is good for everyone both old and young. I will keep on exercising till i drop dead. Asides the health benefits that come with regular exercising, i know how many chicks man don parole. Both young,middle-aged and old. Everywoman sure likes a man that takes very good care of his body. Talking from experience.

well done

Life in Nigeria, particularly in the Bigger Cities such as Lagos and Abuja, can be a bit frenetic and no one really has that much time to chill, let alone to workout. If you’re in your 20’s you probably have even more reason to read this and give me that corner eye look, like, "Mr! What is wrong with you? Don’t you know most of us are unemployed, who has time for exercise?"

Oga (and Madams too), relax first. You might find this a little hard to believe but better believe it because it is true: Exercise can make life more bearable for you and help you achieve your goals in Nigeria. Read on to see how:


#1. Could help you get a job


Everybody is beautiful in their own way, as we all like to say (probably to make ourselves feel better about our big noses and long ears), but studies have shown that people who are perceived to look better, often are more successful than other people. This is because, subconsciously, good looking people are assumed to be smart and potential employers will have a bias (perhaps without even realizing it) for people they feel are good looking.

Somewhere in your mind, you already know this, even if you might not acknowledge it and that’s probably why you polish your shoes for important occasions. Even if you’re not the most naturally good looking person, you could use exercise to help you even the score, and if you are naturally exceptionally good looking, you could use exercise to enhance your looks even more.

The right exercise program will help improve your posture, get rid of fat, and build some impressive looking muscles, all of which will help create a powerful impression about you from the moment you step into any interview room. This works for both fellas and ladies, as fit looking ladies are an instant attraction and are sure to turn heads.

Keeping yourself fit will also help pass on the message to the interviewers, that you are a self-disciplined person who will persevere at a challenge. Besides, who knows? There just might be a lady on the interview board that just loves to work with guys with nice biceps. *wink wink*


#2. Improve your confidence


Dear job seeker, you might not realize this but your body almost literally reeks of desperation and no one likes to be around desperate people. You simply must understand that your first impression will often determine your chances of success and that your first impression will largely be made and perceived subconsciously. So what does exercise have to do with making first impressions and getting your dream job?

The answer is really quite simple: exercise has a documented effect at improving your mood in the hours after completion. If you exercise long and hard enough, you are certain to feel happier, lighter and much more optimistic, all of which will show through when you step into an interview room. You might have heard this so many times that you’re beginning to disregard it but hey, confidence really is one key every job seeker needs, and the fact is, you simply can’t fake confidence either. Why not just go for a run every morning or simply stay home and do a few sets of push-ups and squats?


#3. Improve your relationships


Ladies, you’ll have to excuse us for the next two paragraphs as this point is mainly for the fellas. In Nigeria, guys love to say that women won’t come around till you’ve got money and while this may be true to some extent, it is also true that most people still can resist their primal instincts effectively. What this simply means is that just as most men can’t resist ogling a nice pair of boobs on a good looking woman, most women are also attracted to men that look good physically.

Think about it. Chances are, you’ve personally never seen or heard of a good looking guy who struggles to attract female attention, and though it must be said that finding you attractive does not mean women are going to want a relationship with you, being fit and good looking will only give you an advantage. You’ve got nothing to lose.


#4. Improve your health


You’re in your 20’s and like most of us, you don’t have much awareness of death. You still think you’re going to live forever on earth. Gentle reminder: there any number of health conditions that are simply waiting to shorten your life span in your latter years, and most of them will have their foundations formed during your 20’s.

All that drinking, clubbing, Gala and Lacasera chopping, and your patent refusal to perform any exercise whatsoever, will set you up for an early death, to state the truth bluntly.

Exercise won’t guarantee that you will live to be a hundred years old, but it sure will improve your chances of beating 75, according to studies.

Regular cardiovascular exercise will be instrumental for protecting your heart, improving your brain function and even improving oxygen uptake, which is a measure of how much oxygen your body is able to use from the air you breathe in.

Also, strength exercises such as squats and push-ups will be instrumental for building stronger, denser bones, which will help prevent osteoporosis and other joint related issues later in life. You better take this seriously because the bones begin to hollow out once people hit their mid-thirties.


Conclusion


I hope I've been able to convince you that you need to work out if you're in your 20’s and live in Nigeria. The stress in this country can be crazy, and sometimes you’re just going to want to get some rest, plain and simple; but don’t forget these four important benefits of regular exercise that could help turn your life around and get you on track to winning big.

http://davidabraham360..com/2016/05/4-reasons-why-you-need-to-work-out.html

fratermathy:
A WHOLE LOT!!! Basically, NYSC has its own aims that are different from this initiative. There are a lot of similarities though, I agree! But NYSC is mandatory while this is VOLUNTARY and so those who register know what they want at the back of their hand.

I understand that NYSC has a different set of aims. But is there any particular reason why the NYSC cannot expand the scope of its aims to include the aims of the npower scheme? I don't see any significant operational difficulties that might acrue in the process.

The npower scheme could be included as voluntary component of the service year.

igweross:
The first to comment on this page is a practical example of the type of youths we have today, no one reads to understand, they don't do research, they not ready to understand that there is always a process.
Let me shed more light into what the OP has contributed and the directives I think the government is trying to drive.
The truth is there are jobs in Nigeria, but the quality of our education process is a serious turn off. That is why those who study abroad in developed country have a better edge of being employed than a Nigerian graduate. If you familiar with most companies when they recruit, they send the new recruits for training programs, happens in almost all organization because they know you need the skill to execute the job properly. And this happens to be a burden on the company.
Virtually all we do in our education system is not effective in Nigeria's labour market. If you take a careful look at the job description even though you studied the course in school you will notice there are demands on the roles and responsibility that you didn't even come across or have an idea of making it practical. The truth is our education is outdated. In dubai toady, no one will ask for CV, they ask 'what can you do'?
This brings me back to the N'power program, it is just simply set to make the unemployed youths employable and become employers which the result will tell in the future. Only thing I would say is, it would have been aligned with the NYSC program to reduce costs.

This was the first thing that i wondered! What skills do they want to teach that cannot be taught during NYSC?

Ifeajuna sealed his fate with the tribalistic and barbaric manner in which he executed the Lagos part of the coup.

pyxon:
(1) No region in Nigeria doesnt have land issues. South has oil spill. West has flooding. North has desert encroachment.

Those are all fixable issues. But how do you turn clay into arable land? Plus i didnt mention lack of agricultural capacity in isolation, you have to also consider that while the other nations mentioned either have the capacity to produce their own food or import it, Biafra is land-locked. An economic blockade would spell absolute disaster for Biafra.

Not that i wish that for anyone, talkless of a people engaged in a legitimate struggle for self determination.

MrGerald:
You're still living in the past, we're in new age and igbos don't need most of what you mentioned to survive, we're talking about technology and you're here talking abt natural resources and agriculture, I can see you're having sleepless nights abt igbos, repent b4 it sent you to your early gr*ve

because you are going to eat chinese phones abi? I wish you could just have some sense

Oh no... Really liked the Big Boss. The way Nigerians treated him was downright unfair.

MrGerald:
Because it's was part of Biafra, but only if igbos need them

This arrogant attitude is the exact reason why the enlightened peoples of the Niger Delta simply cannot be one with the people of Biafra. Stay there and be chest beating na. By the time you have to deal with land-grabbing Cameroun on the east, and economic blockade from the North and West, we will see whether you won't come running to the south.

you have no viable agricultural land, and very few natural resources, and by the time you have to pay Nigeria (what will be left of it) and The Niger Delta Republic to import your spare parts. yougonlern.

MrGerald:
It may become part of Biafra, it's possible

Why do you think that?

This article does a major disservice to the Niger Deltan cause by lumping it under the tag "Biafran". The Niger Delta Republic is not and cannot be a part of the Biafran struggle, although there may be some form of partnership for some time.

What we want is true federalism and we are going to get it in our lifetime!

So get out of there instead of telling us these stories! What is it that you want or believe that the online community can do for you? You didn't do your research well before going to the country abi?

austinosita:
I really love to stay in Lagos, Nigeria working, but getting a job even with my experience and good grade(2.1) is almost impossible.

I have searched and searched and searched, attended interviews, but all to no avail. The worse was the interview I attended today, this morning @lekki-epe express way; I was discharged after about 2 to 3 questions only(about 3 mins).....meanwhile, the first applicant spent almost 30 mins. I just looked at the lady like.....is it my face? Is my 2.1 not enough? Didnt i answer your questions correctly? Infact i almost swore never to attend any interview again.....e beta make i kukuma explore my music talent....

I really love to base in Lagos. Get a good job, marry and have kids. I'm almost losing hope in my job search! Infact I no think say anybody for nairaland search reach me!!!

Now, I have another option to stay in America illegally, until I secure complete papers for stay(which will take time) I'll be staying with a family member, going to school and working.......general hustling till I get a green card.

Please, what do you guys suggest?

#I taya for this joblessness no be small# its killing

Why wouldn't you be discarded? You have the option of going to the US means you are capable of raising at least 300, 000 naira. Why can't you raise the money and use it for a small business??

Gerrard59:
It will be much better to increase the educational qualification for a post from the abysmally low qualification of the SSCE to Bsc/HND with an addendum that the individual MUST aspire for further education. Most likely a PhD or an MBA.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tharman_Shanmugaratnam
London School of Economics,
University of Cambridge,
Harvard University.

The profile of the deputy prime minister of Singapore. PM Lee Hsien Loong went to Cambridge University and came out with a First Class in mathematical science and computer science. One of the few world leaders who can confidently code.

Our would be leaders need to be educated rationally, and a secular education at that.
One country that has such is Singapore where over 90% of its political office holders possess a higher degree other than their first degree and from Ivy league schools. Where is Singapore today?

Leadership does not really require extensive education. Good leadership itself is a very distinct trait without which very well educated people may still fail to lead adequately. All these restrictions are not necessary because at the end of the day if the people want an illiterate child to rule them then it means there is something special about that child.