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When you cannot pick up the phone and reach out to a friend over some "hearsay", instead its to vent in the media... what is the world coming to?

Refiner

MissGdope


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dollyjoy:
I refused to be an option but a choice.

Madam, every choice was once an option.

and until he marries you, option is all you remain. You haff neva become "choice" yet

OP...i promise you this... every girl has it in her to betray the so-called girl code provided she desires you strongly enough.

Your own end of the bargain is to stoke that desire properly.

Bro at the the end of the day everybody is looking out for themselves o. Just hit the code accurately. Thank me later.

refiner:
I wouldn't actually say yes or No...

because Women are of different characters... and you and I know..

So bringing in the gender equality bill, can be quite dicey..

But in the end, according to the author of Animal farm,.... all Animals are equal, but some are more equal than others...

Even though I support the gender equality bill, but it wouldn't solve the present situations and discrimination that we ladies and women in general face... Trust Me!!

Thanks...

Refiner,

1. You earlier implied that it is wrong to generalize and therefore the argument against the gender equality bill is unfair. However, your current position as highlighted above is actually indirectly supportive of the stance to deny the passage of the referenced bill. You literally said it would be "dicey" due to the way women are.

2. You also said the bill won't solve the problem of discrimination. So why do you support it if won't serve its purpose?
Are you confused?

kinglekan:

TeamMissGdope would be very grateful

How can i get behind yall?

erico2k2:
Name o e civilian that U know that these militants have killed.

i meant to imply that rebels/insurgents could either be seen as militants or as a separate class of activist depending on their goals.

there is nothing inherently wrong in insurgency or rebellion. It all depends on the cause, methodology and legitimacy in terms of popular support.

this is obviously wrong. Even from your own definitions Mr. OP it is glaring that there is a gaping hole. If Militants do not use violence and terrorists are those who use violence against civilians, then who or what are those who use violence but not against civilians?

To be more lucid, terrorists are specifically people who use the threat of violence to civilians and to coerce others or obtain a desired outcome. Terrorism is the act of using the threat of violence to civilians either through the promise of violence, or by actual violence, to obtain a desired goal. The defining trait of a terrorists is the threat of violence (could be cyber, economic etc) to civilians.

Militancy may very well include an armed or violent struggle so long is it does not target civilians. There are also rebels/insurgents who are militants pursuing sovereignty or a related cause in a battle against the government.

goodman3:
Good day!.....
I believe there are Christians in here. I am here to speak on an issue which I have taken time to think through.
I see a lot of christian folks in the medical profession and most times I ask what they are doing there. Every medical doctor is under an oath which Its origin is not fully known. Before u can be a doctor, u will have to swear the HIPPOCRATIC OATH......on the day of your INDUCTION. in the Christian faith, it was clearly stated that swearing of any form is not allowed and considered a sin. Why then do I see Christians in medical school? Are they not aware of this OATH? Or did they just choose to turn a blind eye to the truth?
The medical profession has always been like a cult since the days of Hippocrates. It was initially designed with knowledge of secrets of the practice that should only be passed down to children of physicians in the olden days. Medical practise actually started like a brotherhood/cult.....the medical logo says it all (a snake wrapping a cross) .....my point here is anybody who calls himself a true Christian cannot become a medical doctor without SIN (TAKING THE OATH).


So my dear Christian friends, are you really for God or do you choose to go against his instruction just because you want to enjoy the gains of being a medical doctor?.......THATS BEING A HIPPOCRITE!

Hope you know that logo has biblical origins and significance?

reflx:
same i do!...atm has 15k or less always...to help with emergencies
others na online or bank hall tins!

Smart

Digriz:
Reason i don't use ATM.

I think it might be best to maintain two or more accounts: one major one which won't have an atm card, and another one or two which contain minimal amounts of money.

This way you won't be stranded when in need of petty cash, and the criminals are less likely to get violent when they don't find anything valuable on you.

Somtimes it really does seem as if these fellows merely come on nairaland and summarize a few opinions.

How can a whole senior investigative journalist for such a major paper write such a lazy article?

As a layperson, i expect at least a little expose on what exactly the "outmoded" policies in reference are, how they have impacted the country, and some quotes to provide insight into what the expert analysts are saying should be done instead. What we have in the op is something i would scold my 16 year old brother for writing.

peruse, for illustration, the obvious contradiction in the paragraph below:

"Boko Haram has been pushed back for now, but little attention is paid to the structural issues that have spurred its rise.

Instead, the Nigerian government has diverted much-needed military resources to the Niger Delta, where rising militancy has reduced Nigeria’s oil production to less than half the country’s capacity, and half the amount required to service the national budget"

the author makes an intelligent sounding assertion when he says that little has been done to adress the structural issues that spurred the rise of boko haram. these would be issues such as poverty, corruption and illiteracy. but in his next line he goes on to say that "instead" military resources have been channeled elsewhere.

In other words, his conclusion is that military resources are what Nigeria needs to solve the structural issues he has just referenced. Without realizing it, this senior investigative reporter has contradicted himself within the space of two sentences!

just flesh

i just missed the only game i have been looking forward to this whole tournament (England v. Wales) even tho part of it fell during my alloted break period. Why? coz i have important things to finish.

I expect every man to have an understanding of priorities, needs, important wants, and luxuries. Watching football is a luxury...the least important thing one should be concerned about.

This Hodgson fella seems to be stumbling his way through the tournament...

ct2:
how does it affects u

you are obviously a hypocrite. following your line of thinking, how does my comment affect you?



learn to think things through beyond the first thing that pops into your mind.

This boy could have at least combed his hair on his wedding day.

Feranchek:
Bros you no lie o0o!! And to think that almost all the guys that are commenting are actually hailing this mumu, is quite appalling!

of a truth he should have been open with her from the start but some girls too are not very sensible. Aside from the money aspect of it, come on mann it's a date, why should your friends come along?? If i wanted to hang out in a group, don't i have friends of my own to invite?

Where else in the world is this done apart from Nigeria? Been to a lot of places mann including other African countries and i can tell you honestly no one thinks like this except for Nigerian girls, which shows that to them we men are merely tools at first sight.

It can be disheartening.

Dmitri Payet!! What an epic tale...they will tell this man's story for years.

this is the beautiful girl?

why are some black people like this?

Anuoluwapo23:
Its nice to write again and I'm really excited to share this story of mine to every Nairalander so i would be needing your help(mods) also to reach more people on this interesting tips of mine..

I'll be giving out just 3 tips,I was in a bus today and I was thinking about my life and giving thanks to God and how I could have saved over 500k in my twenties even without supports from my parents or family,we arent really financially stable so i just had to source funds for myself and all sorts by myself.


1.Socialize and Make Friends:Some people call themselves introverts but I think this is a very bad thing because it would really affect your standard of living even if you're the richest in this world because you would need someone's help to get rich or get high in life,you know you can't do this alone,just socialize,make friends,let your friends help you,let them pay for your food,let them pay for your drinks,let your rich colleague pay for your lunch, it might look like begging or some sorts but because you know where you came from,don't be shy to ask people to help you,don't be shy to talk to anyone thats helpful,it might be your lucky day.


2.Tell people your problem;In 2009 I remember when I needed a job so bad that I told a friend of mine about my difficulties,but my friend that I told had another friend,she told her friend about my issues,I should be angry but I wasn't because I didn't expect her to tell someone I don't know about myself,and I didn't request her "uncalled for BC",but I I don't know who's who,so I kept my cool,and few weeks later her friend got me a job which was actually my dream job in an accounting firm and its a very good one,when I got the job,first week,my boss liked me so much just because I was the open minded type,I do not hide my problems from people,he always pay for my lunch and drops me at the busstop of my area and it went on and on that my salary was really enough because I don't even remove up to 10k out of it in month,isn't it cool?



3.Be A Giver ;What do I actually mean by this?its not just about giving and not expecting a return on investment,its about giving and expecting nothing to come out of it,not even 5N.
Earlier this year,my aunt had her wedding ceremony and we were all excited and all sorts,some people just came and said they haven't eaten but I don't know them,and they were my aunt's guest but they had gone home for verification so I just overlooked it,although I should be angry because even me I hadn't eaten for the day so it should be annoying that someone came "after party" for God!Nobody really does that but these men did it for real,and I gave them my food that I had reserved for myself, (they were two) so they ate my one plate until earlier this month,I saw one of them in Abeokuta at a store where i was trying to decide on which blender to purchase from the 3chub store somewhere in panseke,and what they had that day was a syinix blender and the man didn't just purchase the blender though, he also bought me a huaweii device because I said I had non at the moment although I had non,I got robbed in my street by 9pm(May God Help Us In Nigeria) so they snatched my bag which had (a boom j8,a vodafone tab,my makeup kit,my shawarma,8k,and my devices charger and different stuffs " but I'm grateful to God that I wasn't even stabbed.So it just happened that way..


That scenario is really funny but that's how to stay rich,Thats how I stay rich even when I have a very low income,I hope we all make use of these beautiful steps of mine, I didn't even read them from a book,Its my idea,please read and share and like.

500k in your bank account is not rich. that is just around 1, 500 dollars.

When we talk of ideas that bring wealth, lets talk of finding ways to improve processes and systems and by so doing provide value to society, for which society would be happy to exchange monetary value for. You don't get rich by sharing your problems with everyone with the hope that someone would buy you lunch everyday.

Realtouchnot:
Thank you for your level of understanding.
Since there's no much impact, why can't NYSC be scrapped

Lol i sometimes wish it could be scrapped honestly, at times it is quite a yoke. But hey man that's just the way it is

Realtouchnot:
You need to know that those doctors generate a lot of income for the state?
Do you also know that those doctors had spent between 6-10years in school, 1-3years before NYSC? Now can you compare that to your humanities graduate? I bet you every doctor's prayer is for NYSC to be scrapped. No doctor will be happy with a pay of less than 100,000. NYSC adds little or nothing to the doctor's carrier, they should be exempted from it.
You people should stop all these baseless comparisons.

NYSC is not meant to be a ground for career furtherance. And compared to other careers, i feel the doctors get to practice and gain experience, while those of us who studied social Sciences and Humanities get to teach random courses.

I ain't complaining tho, I'm glad to serve my nation and i will teach with all my heart.

Medical Doc: 50 k
Social Sciences: 5k

Why was i not told of this when i switched form science to arts stream in secondary school?

sweetcocoa:
That girl has no feelings for you mate, move the feck on.

Btw, the parting gift was brought up cos she knows you'll say no, try say yes and watch her change the whole thing to "so its just sex you wanted" some women are crazy like that.

Not necessarily true. A woman might do that to test a guy she is unsure of but not to a close male friend.

I have been in this exact situation before, with a close female friend who adamantly said no but liked to make out with me until she fell in love with some other guy.

MightyPee take your time... you are in the shallow end of the friendzone but if you keep pushing her you will enter the deep end. She has offered you physical intimacy, your best bet is to show her a good time that would make her long for more, and then withdraw from her emotionally.

She is offering sex as a consolation prize but you can make her want it badly. From their she will develop the necessary feelings of lust that may propel you out of her friendzone.

That was my logical advice. Now my honest and sincere advice:

Truthfully, your best bet is to let her fly and avoid gambling with your soul through fornication.

RealNigeriafilm:
http://www.nigeriafilms.com/news/40772/31/sexy-or-trashy-nollywood-actress-bares-it-all-in-n.html

This is hypocrisy. You are promoting your blog/website using her naked pic but condemning her for taking the pic.

easy to believe, going by the body language on display in the uploaded pics.

One might say these could be coincidences but the truth is that many things which people regularly dismiss as coincidence are often loaded with meaning. In both pics the lady is pointing her chest inwards at Mr. Vicker. Any student of psychology can tell you that this is a classic giveaway of emotional involvement.

It's to be expected. Women are phenomenally easy to manipulate once they get comfortable with you, especially for a good looking, rich and relatively powerful man.

MrKamar:

take one for the team brah

senibo1:
nice one op

Thnx boss.

MrKamar:
On behalf of Edo boys, we would graciously accept you so far you can wire us US dollars

You are a mad man. Which edo boys are you speaking for?

On behalf of Edo men everywhere, i wholeheartedly donate MrKramar to this young lady.

Every girl/woman wants to get married to the man of her dreams. The big problem, though, is learning how to recognize him when you see him. The reality is that the man of your dreams will often be hidden under the disguise of that not so handsome, average-height, shy brother at church, who steals glances at you when he thinks you’re not looking. The man of your dreams may be that guy asking you out who you think is not so bad but then again, is not really your type.

Young men are like seeds; they have immense capacity for growth and if you judge them based on their current circumstances, you might very well overlook a seed that is destined for greatness. But then again, not every seed does grow great, and not every young man will turn out great in the future so how exactly can you tell who’s who today? As much as potential doesn’t put food on the table, the last thing you want is to say no to that guy and end up saying “he used to ask me out” five years later when you see him on the cover of magazines.

It might surprise you to learn that it is really quite easy to tell if a guy is likely to be successful even from an early age. This is because champions are not made overnight, and most successful people achieved their success because they consistently displayed certain habits. Some of these habits will be surprisingly simple and seemingly little things.

1. He's Clean

Boys can be rough especially in their early 20’s but not washing or changing one’s underwear after 2-3 days is downright filthy. In fact it is rather irresponsible, given that that area down there is particularly prone to a number of bacterial infections. You might not be able to tell if a guy has changed his boxers but there are other clues. For example, does he wear dirty socks? Polish or clean his shoes? Iron his shirts? Comb his hair?

The fact is, if you take yourself serious, it will show in your appearance and if a guy has the seed of success growing within him, he will likely take himself serious and care about the way he looks. This does not mean he will squander his resources on expensive apparel, rather he just knows how to be neat and well presented.

2. He’s punctual

The truth is, what you should be looking for are signs that this guy takes himself and his life seriously. A smart guy who has plans and a strong focus for life, knows that time itself is a precious resource and as such he does not waste it. He only goes to the places he really wants to go to and he goes there because there is something to be gained that will improve his life in some way.

Consequently, he also never goes late to such occasions. He may not speak much, depending on his personality, but he always listens attentively and gets visibly frustrated when discussions stray from the point.

Note that punctuality also shows strong planning skills, as most people who habitually go late for events do so because they failed to plan their day appropriately. Planning skills are a key trait that help people channel their resources into their most profitable use.

3. He does not spend extravagantly

Although one of the signs of strong potential is a consistently clean and neat appearance, this guy does not spend extravagantly. If you do not know him well, you might think he is either broke or stingy but really, he just takes good care of his property and resources and only spends money when he sees an important reason to. Often, this young man will wear the same shirt thrice in a week but note that it will always be clean.

4. He’s genuinely nice

There is a saying that nice guys finish last, so you might be wondering if being nice is truly a sign that a guy is likely to achieve his potential in life. Well first of all let me just say that the notion that nice guys finish last is totally false or incomplete, without the addendum that they laugh best who laugh last.

Often, those who achieve easy success by dubious and not-so-nice means fizzle out quickly or run into disrepute. If finishing last means that you finish best, then the wise young lady knows where to pitch her tent.

Genuinely nice guys (fake nice guys are guys who only act nice to get what they want) are nice simply because they are in touch with a higher purpose, and understand that God is love and therefore any success achieved without love is meaningless. What is the point of achieving success without touching human lives?

5. He is always busy

With the exclusion of people who were born into money or win the lotto, have you ever heard of a person who achieved great wealth or success without working hard? Not likely. Even sports stars, musicians and actors all have to work hard for their money and the fame they get, often incurring a great opportunity cost in terms of leisure and family time.

So if you meet a young man who always has some free time on his hands, then you should be wary. The guy who is likely to max his potential in life will have already started working on his vision and long term projects and usually has one or two things he is doing towards this.

Caveat: be wary of guys who are busy doing too many things. This shows a lack of focus and focus is a key ingredient for success.

6. He is passionate

For some reasons, I have observed that women are often attracted to passionate men. Whatever the reason(s) for this may be, passion is a very important trait that will tell you just how much effort a man will put into chasing his goals and dreams. Of course, hard work is not always a guarantee of success, but with the right focus, it usually will yield a bountiful harvest.

7. He knows how to treat a woman

There are lots of successful guys who do not treat women right so you might be looking at this and having second thoughts; however, the right guy for you is one who understands that God made women to play a very important role in the lives of men, and if you’re going to be his woman, he is going to have to honor that God-given mandate.

Scientifically, there is significant research that shows that couples who get married earlier tend to achieve more success, and seem to have higher levels of happiness. A strong couple are better than a strong individual. A wise young man will recognize this principle, and it will show in the way he relates with women, particularly his significant other. If the guy you are with does not treat you right (which includes respecting the sanctity of your body), then you need to leave him today.


So is there a guy in your life who you have hitherto overlooked but you think might fit this description? The man of your dreams might be available right under your nose and if you don’t learn to recognize him, he may just get way. As we say in Nigeria, sister shine your eyes well.