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coogar:
i guess the replies are distracting her. she wants to finish her assignment before coming back here to expose men's supposed double standards when it comes to sēxual history.

Correct!

Still didn't finish tomorrow is another day

not expsosing anyone though, men just need to stop the double standards.

smokeydrinky:
Lol i meant btw 2.5 and 3 kg.

Wow. Urs na record breaking o. A lady asked if my 2.5 dd was a premmie nd why she wasn't in an incubator . Lol

I feel you...our mothers believe big babies are healthier

Na true, like say we just dey vomit them for mouth

helovesme:
You had tears with 1.9kg

Hmmm. Maybe you didn't do enough of the "nasty" before your EDD I heard it prevents tears. Is it true?

See me thinking you must have had your baby after just one push.

yimu @ nasty



I honestly can't remember if I did it before though

helovesme:
1.9kg

Labour must have been easyprezzy for you Confess!

See me thinking 3kg-3.5kg is the norm

Heheehehehehehe

Which labour is easy biko

It wasn't easy at all at all

I will only say I was 3cm dilated when I pushed her out, I couldn't hold back anymore

So maybe if it was a bigger baby, I might have been wheeled to the theatre straight

But big baby o, small baby o, na grace we all need

sugah:
Thanks Kimoni e-hugs

My sister had a 4kg, vaginal birth, no tears baby. When he went for circumcision the nurses were shouting 'how would you bring a man ready for marriage for circumcision '

Na real ready for marriage

But how do people birth all these big babies without tears Biko?

Even my 1.9kg baby gave me tears ehnn

helovesme:
I dey pray make my own no pass 3.5kg as that was what I weighed at birth too

My neice weighed 2.4kg. My aunt couldn't stop complaining on how "small" she was and blamed/scolded the mom for stressing herself throughout the pregnancy.

Now my niece is a budding orobo. She's currently banned from taking fruit juice, ice cream and the likes

My first baby weighed 1.9kg, you need to see how fat she was at 3 months.

My colleagues in the office were shocked I had delivered, they thought I was 5 months

smokeydrinky:
No o 5 wetin ? Not.more dan 3 kg o. Lol

Shuo

No be you talk say you want 2.5 and 3kg

Lemme read ur post again

helovesme:
Me sef shock

I don't want to imagine the tears too.

She's not a FTM and she's doing great with her baby.

Pls tell her I am hailing her oo

I duff my heart for her strength and grace

smokeydrinky:
Wow. My friend gave birth to 5.1 and i was lyk jesus !!!! 5.5? Ewo o.... Plz i.j[b]ust want btw 2.5 and 3kg[/b]. My dd weighed 2.5, very small sontin but.she has been 'bigging' since den.

You want 2.5 plus 3kg baa

Ok naa, I dash you 5.5kg plus the accompanying grace for the vaginal delivery

helovesme:
Lol @ BS

4.5kg is small.

Someone I know gave birth to a 5.5kg baby two weeks ago via vaginal delivery.

whaaaaaattttt.

adonbelieveit

5.5kg vaginal delivery? I pity that mama's bum bum, the tears no go be here ooo

Hope she and the baby are good though

RashMe:
Hello mamas in d house, thanks for ur prayers all through, Princess arrived dis morning at 42wks. 4.5kg, natural birth. BS later

Waoh!!! 4.5kg

Congrats strong mama

God bless our angel

Pls dont forget to tell us our big your tummy was in ur BS



I initially interpreted your "BS later" as "BullShit later" before my brain come reset

Jennifer89:
to all ma experienced mummies Plz help me out. i have been itching a little and having discharge when i clocked 25weeks. now I'm 25 weeks 5 days and I'm still experiencing it. wat could be d cause? FTM

Not sure if this has been answered.

But pls go and see your doctor immediately. Itching coupled with vaginal discharge should not be taken with levity during pregnancy.

You don't want to risk passing any infection to your beautiful baby.

Pls go for treatment asap.

tikosdear:
I hail all the Mamas in the house o,congrats to mamas wey don born o and happy pushing for mamas like me wey still dey push o.abeg,I went for scan last week,and the result said that I had low laying placenta,the Dr said that in most cases,it normally goes up before delivery,the scan showed that I am 31wks gone,though from my calculation,I am 29 wks2days as of the day I went for the scan.pls mamas in the house, i don't know wot to do,i am a bit worried that what if it doesn't go up.pls any advice? Sorry for the long post.

Pls worry less and pray more.

Speak to your situation and decree whatever it is that you want.

Worrying is not good for your condition and it achieves nothing.

God bless mama

Waistbead, Starbucks has apologized and in fact, Sugah has accepted her apology. Pls do same.

And it won't be a bad idea to apologize to her too.






All these funny monikers sef...I think I need to change my name too to "table"

Besides, why do I have the feeling that's you are pregnant waistbead?? Your hormones are at an all time high

Thanks sugah...congrats in advance also

shndy:
My sista e dey shack o, if I drink one glass cup of correct palmi e dey do me like a bottle of star

The thing no dey do me anything oo

waistbead:
Bia Starbuck or whatever u call urself,which guarantee do u have dat those ur children will live??Nobody knows 2moro (echi di ime)

Gone too far madam. Gone too far

Wish everybody well and leave it to God. He makes all things beautiful in His time.

Congratulations in advance!

starbuck:
I ain't a trouble lover besides you just misunderstood the whole eish

At this point, you should just have apologized and move on. Never too late though.

Coogar, pls don't respond till evening. Nobody should respond to me till evening.

Pls help a sister

coogar:
my dear, everybody isn't coogar!
i have an awesome wealth of experience in these matters. this proof of purity is super authentic. i have a device called hymenömeter.

Ahhhhhh una see double standards

What is your past body count Coogar? And you still want first ownership?

Thank God for alum and reconstructive surgeries sha

The more you look the less you see is what we'll be dishing out to y'all

Thunder fire that your hymenometer

coogar:
you want to see another woman's hymen? fear no even catch you?

Fear? How? hymen?? Na today??

Everybody claim first ownership these days o, even those that got married to confirmed escorts.

I need to see clear empirical evidence

I'll be back guys. Need to meet some deadlines.


TV, your conclusion refers.
How can you be the judge, plaintiff and defendant in your own case your naa

pickabeau1:
Kimoni

1. will you like to be a single mother

The fact that something is trending does not make it the ideal

2. Have u watched this movie - Single Moms Club?

What are your thoughts on the film

3. do you serious need evidence to support that STDs catch women faster than men?... or you are just trolling

1. No, I won't like to be a single mother
2. No, I have not watched the film
3. Yes, I need evidence to support the belief that women catch STDs(and other diseases as a result of promiscuity) more than men

coogar:
i said proof of first ownership.

Again my apologies

Proof of first ownership.

Seeing is believing. Show me the proof

coogar:
nah!
sister sarah of the lord......
and i have got the title deeds & the proof of first ownership.

Ahhhh, pardon my error

Sister Sarah of the Lord

First proof of ownership you say

I need empirical evidence

TV01:
Patriarchy already had a solution for this;

Women where to be chaste and appropriately married at the right time. Men who violated - as in honour not rape - would be held accountable and forced to man up or face serious sanctions. Women who acted without honour would be shamed or stigmatised.

Feminism sees this as "men controlling womens sexuality" - no, it was society' restrictions to ensure least harm to both sexes and optimal societal flourishing.

Why, one may ask, should women bear the greater burden? Because the cost of breaches weighed more heavily on them;
- Women get left holding the baby, blighting their economic or learning opportunities
- Are 7 times more likely to catch rather than give an STD
- Suffer the affects of abortion (and there are long-term pathologies for even 1)
- As well as the stigma of single motherhood
- And all round reduced marital opportunity

Casual sex does not portend as many issues for men, neither does it affect them as deeply in an emotion or psychological sense. It's why, the higher a womans number of partners, the lower her potential marital satisfasction.

And least of all with women - a potential spouses notch count is rarely an issue for women, their focus is typically a mans status and ability to provide. In fact the ability to attract quality women - and even sire children - is actually attractive to women

The notch count is higher by way of criteria for men - they are more concerned about marital quality and the paternity of any children presented to them for provision. And of course their status, which is compromised by a stigmatised (lower value) mate.

The optimal solution - as I've touched on - is high expectations on both sides, not a denial of biological and cultural reality or the chanting of "equality", as the fact remains, ultimately the fallout will always be more for women.

As for trying to queer the pitch by making it about gory details of individual relationships, that's how they operate - deceitfully. No man wants to know the detail, just the number, even generally; more than 6 but less than 12, not into double figures etc.

And both parties should present salient facts - I dated your cousin, abortions, murders, cultism, hereditary illnesses etc. - at an appropriate point (to a potential spouse).

A marriage founded on fraud - be it by lies or non-disclosure - will never enjoy the bliss, freedom, joy, expectastion and fulfillment of one that is founded on truth, and transparency.

There's nothing like a woman that rests assured her man knows and loves her regardless. All I'm hearing is the rantings of those who in the innermost recesses are deeply dissatisfied or have woefully low expectations, and are trying to reassure themselves it's like that for everyone. How sad. Some chose burger, others are being force fed it !


TV

First, this is not about feminism. Not at all. Topic for another day.

I disagree with your first five paragraphs. It contains a lot of sweeping statements with no empirical evidence (Ekwesili speaking)

Seriously, a lot of what you wrote up there are what I regard as myths.

Is there any shame in single motherhood these days? I don't think so. Babymamas, side chicks are now trending more than ever
Women catch STDs 7 times more than men? I need proof
Effects of abortions? Little or no effect these days. It's almost as easy as shaiting now and besides, hardly will you even find them getting pregnant
Less marital satisfaction for women as a result of a high number of exs'
Wake up TV!!!!!!! It's the 21st century, a new millennium.
Let's not even argue this, this is a fable

TV, whether you agree or not, there is a whole new generation of girls out there and they are not smiling. They live by their own rules and have no time for conscience or physiological effect. Something they copied from the menfolk.

Now back to my point, it's high time men realize whats going on around them and trace the origin of this mess to themselves. For centuries, different rules have always applied to men and women.

~ It's okay for a man to cheat but it's at a taboo for women
~ a married woman found cheating should be divorced immediately but a man found cheating should be constant prayed for and pampered more (like seriously)
~ babymamas should be shamed but baby daddies should be accorded the right of marriage
~ girl should spill her past before marriage but guys must never kiss and tell

We are never going to move forward if we continue to preach all these to the younger generation and continue telling them it's a man's world.
A male should be held equally liable for whatever atrocities he commits with a female.

I quite agree with your ending paragraphs but with some little moderation.
Certainly, all parties concerned must come clean at one point or the other during their relationship but again, it should be all parties and not women alone.
However, in doing that, wisdom must also be applied during disclosure. If I have a partner who tells his mother or friends anything to everything, I'll know where to stop.
Or if he is the type that like to use what he knows about me as a weapon during marital spats, I'll disclose with maximum wisdom.
Materiality is also very key when spewing.

Emdee590:
Palm wine you said ooo ? What if the wife come drink to stupor nko come dae misbehave for house nko ?

Lollzzzzz

Oga you dey fear

But seriously, does fresh palm wine intoxicates?? It never intoxicates moi o

coogar:
well......
the end shall justify the means. i am happy i am in safe hands.

**yimu**

Just like Oshiomole is in the safe hands of a VIRGIN

Sister Mercy of the Lord right?

coogar:
men still have to take all the responsibility & as usual, women are the saints in this matter?

men aren't deluding themselves - we know women cheat more from time immemorial. what is shocking is the way women act all saintly & righteous in the public eye & then do something completely opposite in the dark.

at least, men don't always claim they are saints.

We are not saints, we are just following our master's footsteps

Where you lead, we'll follow

And overtake if you don't make a u-turn

coogar:
everybody has a conscience....
even if they don't show it in public, they go back home & cry their eyes out in the night for their evil deeds.....

all these women slütting around have their reasons for doing it even if some of the reasons don't make perfect sense to us.

True, everybody was born with a conscience but again, Mr Conscience is dead in many hearts

Coogar, whether you admit it or not, values are fast eroding from our society

I don't even know who cheats more these days between men and women, unrepentantly that is

And I maintain that the change to correct this has to come from men

And the first thing is to acknowledge that whatever is good for the goose must be good for the gander

The same set of rules must apply

Men cannot keep deluding themselves that they can get away with anything and everything and expect women to remain sober

coogar:
nah!
we are going to be judged by our conscience. what governs you is completely different from what governs me. if you do something evil & your conscience questions your action, you shall be judged......and that's the way it is!

And I perfectly agree with you

Unfortunately, Mr Conscience seems very scarce these days

He used to reside more with women in my mother's days but he's completely lost in my generation

bellong:
The many sorry tales and stories that touch the heart betray this assertion. Microscopic few may seem to get away with it but most don't. The getting away with it is even temporary because the truth may be revealed years later.

Yes, I agree that both gender should deal wisely. However, the point of discussion is kicking against people advising others on what is not right and the advice they themselves don't follow.

Sure, but maybe you also need to why women are beginning to advise themselves this way

Then we'll need to go back to the double standards between men and women

It's an ill wind that is blowing nobody no good

Why should a man think he will get away with some things and I won't

Personally, it irks me to the bone when I hear such comments from men

On the short run he might but on the long run, sorry he won't

I will also disagree with that word microscopic few, it's microscopic lots

Whatever we read here is a reflection of the larger society

Check out the divorce rate these days...

bellong:


@Kimoni,

My error, insert unfortunately and occassionally.

The society can punish men for every negative things they do but the physiological make up of the female put them to more psychological risk and pains.

The key is for the female to be wise in their dealings. Hence they get to bear the brunt of many things.

That what you and I used to think but the reality staring us in the face proves otherwise

We have now learnt how to chop and clean mouth (without any psychological effect whatsoever) just like our "heads" taught us

Rehrased:They key is for all (men and women) to be wise in our dealings so we all don't bear the brunt of many things