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kaboninc:
The woman is not under much more pressure as you mentioned.

In actual sense, the man is.

A woman is married off to another man who uses her to sustain his lineage.

A man sustains his lineage. Thus he is scared of extinction.

Shoroniyen

Chillisauce:
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Coco, if you wanna enjoy it real good. Eat with pepper suya or grilled fish.

See this my kurukere grilled fish with plenty pepper. I dint know when I finished two glasses Veg and fruit smoothie.

Oh my days, this fish is calling me

Chilli, this your plate ehnn, nobody can steal it o

Anywhere I see the plate, i know it's yours

olu4life:
I totally get the drift. Yes, we know our society give men more room to cheat and be forgiven than the other way round.

About that particular thread, felt like responding but didnt. And I stated earlier, our level of forgiving differs, wwhat A accepts, B might condemn if in the same shoe.
I also advised the OP to move on if the husband is yet to apologise and be remorseful. NOTHING CAN BE DONE IF THE HUSBAND REFUSES TO ADMIT HIS FAULT. Thats why I assked some questions earlier to the OP.

Hope its now clear on where I stand on this issue?

Lastly, speaking from the man's angle, dont forget the pressure he might be getting about child ish. BUT DOESNT MEAN HE SHOULD GIVE IN TO THE PRESSURE.
Note my words in capital letter.

They are both under pressure my dear, infact, in our society, the woman is under much more pressure even when the problem is not from her.

prettytrust:
Congrat to all d mama's pls ooo with my issue of premature labour since 34wks now am 37wks plus thru d hlp of injection but it has not been funny at all wit d serious pain\contraction I do have but nw my doc ask me to com yestiday I refuse cos he want to induce me but am really scared of d pain cos my last baby was also induce n it was nt funny at all.pls is dare anytin I can do to mk it painless.i was thinkin of kpekusin all thru d day n also makin my hair or smtin dt wit quickin d deliverin.pls ur response are needed.

Kpekus all you want my dear...it's allowed

But what you really need to work on is your mind. Your issue is more of psychological than the physical pain.

I have had babies via induction and naturally before and I honestly don't see the difference. The pain and timing were not significantly different IMO

And remember, no two deliveries are the same, just pray for God's strength and good health for you and your baby.

I also dont advise you to run from your Dr, your baby is now full term. You've come a long way with your baby already, just go and shait your angel out

olu4life:
100% Its not story of someone told me or someone distant. Its over 4yrs it happened


#GBAM... How can fellow women be advising divorce at this stage. Do u expect marriage to be a fairy tale? Expecting everything to go smoothly? Whats happens to conquering the storm? So even if the husband cheated, and so f***ing what! Next is divorce?

OP ask these women advising u if they have not had close experience in theirs before. Some will just be vocal online, meanwhile they are like slaves in their home only trying to console themselves. Enough of the hypocrisy in this section. U better dont let faceless entities ruin ur marriage. Check deep within u, u know the prompt response but just waiting for advise to suit urself. Sorry for been harsh but truth be told, u need tto takee charge of ur home. Divorce is only allowed when all trials is in vain. So if u leave ur house, what next? Remarry? And face same Challenge?! Woman get up, dust urself and TAKE CONTROL OF UR ZONE

And if any of u so called advisers feel insulted, feel free to lace the shoe.

Olu, can I ask you 2 simple questions.

Are you married?

If your wife whom you love and trust so much cheated on you severally with your own blood brother, what will you do? Fight for her love all over again?

Sincerely, answer these questions.


There is a thread that got to FP yesterday where the guy said he forgave his wife for cheating on him for 5 years with a younger person and I did not find one guy that supported this act, instead, they were all insulting him for daring to forgive a cheating wife. And a lady that "mistakenly" asked if he truly saw the chats proving the infidelity got dragged all over the thread.

Now, back to the question, why should forgiveness only lie with the woman and never with the man? Because women don't get hurt or they probably don't have blood flowing in their veins

Only a man is allowed to start divorce proceedings? But with a woman, it's a taboo??

And any woman advising it must be a hypocrite?? But when men advise divorce to a cheating partner, it's okay?

Please show me exactly where the hypocrisy is coming from.

franky2013:
Hurray my lo is one, I m now a proud mum to One yr old baby, its been God all the way. And a very big thanks to all d mummies tchiwinne, lovinam,bossladymo,favoredgal,mimibe, Nita,fina4804,Gr8fulHeart n every other mum for ur support, God bless u all richly n we allalways have reasons to celebrate. Tnx

Too cute!

Happy birthday to her and God's blessings upon her always

Ibadangirl1:
Im so sorry, but please where is my homepage. *covers face*

When you log out and log in, the first page that appears showing you the first page of your form is your home page. Unfortunately, I can't remember the exact place where the print icon is, the picture is getting blurred in my head already.

justwise:
I got the payment done, actually pretty quick without any problem and got June appointment date.

Saves you lots of trouble in their office...

Juzzybabe:
Goodmorning family,I am well,baby is well,we are both somewhere save.lol.... we are doing great this morng. Thanks to all for the Love.

Happy that you are happy.

Akposy:
Tanx Ma Kimoni. How is baby?

He is fine dear. Thanks

Akposy:
He is unique.

Anyway i always get jealous and hungry with d way u present ur dishes but........d day i will visit u, u will combine dose five plates into one and serve it for me!

Hahahaahhahhhahaha

I love this young man.

Akpos, don't worry, you are our guy!

babyosisi:
Forgive my ignorance,please what is ttc and ttcing

trying to conceive

Ibadangirl1:
Hi, please do I need to choose an appointment date myself or it is automatically given to me. and also I am having troubles retrieving my completed e-passport application form. I cant find it anywhere and I heard it is one of the requirements.

You choose a date yourself after making the online payment.

Go back to your home page, there is a place somewhere there where you can print your form. I had to do a bit of searching too because it's not conspicuous but it's definitely there.

jcmaiah:
Na person girl friend be this so?

Hahahhahahahhahahaha

Congrats Ifefunmi.

God has made the delivery process a mystery.

You are feeling so much pain one second, the very next second after seeing your angel, you are so joyful that you will gladly go through the pain all over again.

And it doesn't stop there, after like 2 years, you'll miss pregnancy. You'll will feel like getting pregnant again

How does one even begin to understand that?

justwise:
Nothing much has changed in that regard then, was the same case 5 years ago.

Did you book appointment or you went without one?

Thanks for your reply though

I paid online recently but I can't recall it giving me any issues. Maybe I was lucky.

I advise you still try and make the payment online before you go to avoid unnecessary drama and time wastage. Your appointment page comes up after paying and that's the first thing they check before you are allowed into the building.

It's better you go early and finish early cuz the system was consistently having network issues when I went so those that didn't come early would have had to come back the following day.

Bebe2, many thanks for the tip on using the registered envelope. It saved me the stress of traveling down 10 days after for collection.

cococandy:
no kidding huh?

I fell down the escalator once at that Dubai airport.
High heels, handbag, luggages, jacket draped on my arms.... Everything was in the way. I lost my grip while trying to haul myself and all my orisirisi on at once and fell.
Thank God I wasn't hurt.
Nne I can't try running on that thing o.
The memory is still fresh in my mind.

Ndo!

Blame it on the high heels and the different orisirisi

I avoid wearing high heels when traveling

The distances between some terminals is just crazy

cococandy:
@damiso, is running up the escalators not dangerous?

Coco, if you have a train or flight to catch and you are almost late, trust me, you will run. Even with ur luggage that you shouldn't ordinarily carry on it, na so you go carry am dey jump

However, some peeps don't have the patience...just too slow for them

OP ndo, you are caught up in something you were not part of and you don't even realize it yet.

"Family" section is not really family like you innocently think.

Anyways, bukatyne has given you a sound advice, follow it and don't forget to constantly improve yourself, then the best of them will always be on your case.

Chillisauce:
Efe, you know them very well. See them dancing to the alter during thanks giving. They will block the queue with their heavy bum bum, turn8ng around in differwnt styles
making you stand in line for good 1hr only to drop 4 pieces of 5 naira notes.

But I still love them. They are the boss in church. They take care of everything

This used to frustrate me back in the days ehnn, one lost small rat in the midst of those women. But I loved them all during harvest and society days. You go chop taya. My mum belonged to St Micheals society, those people pray for 5 mins and chop for 5 hrs

When we yab her about how much they love to chop and socialise, she will tell you their God does not like stress

Efe, pls invite me anytime there is chop chop, I'll borrow my mum's attire

ElDeeVee:
Hmm u may b right in some of ya assumptions sha but I don't think 6months is such a short time...if d man sees someone he likes even if its just 1month after his wife's death, he can go ahead..remember death has part them already

I honestly agree with you, even if it is one day after, let him remarry. I personally got no issues

The only problem will be when tables turn and the woman wishes to remarry, even when it's 10 years after, the whole world will remember she is a slut who never loved her husband and killed him so she could remarry several years after.

Women need to start thinking of themselves first and not what people will say. The word "woman" should stop equating to "suffering" in Naija.

lovinam:
Abeg o! My own qualification na local, na u be original product. Oya give am solution. Kimoni!!!! U sef on get experience na

Which side?? I don twale for una two naa

Herzumpther:
Chai it haf tae o.


My small lunch o jawe. I'm back from my small break.

Madam the madam!!!! Na u biko

CharmyBliz:
I use baby tribotan 4 baby rashes body nd nappy rash. I apply a very minute guantity on d face

@kimoni so u ve neva treated ur baby 4 constipation? If yes, wat did u use?

My dear, I am sure they'll both catch the drift on why I called them to advise you and really, their method works wonders!

To your question, luckily, I have never had cause to treat my infants for constipation, somehow, they always tolerate their formula perfectly; but as toddlers, yes; infact, severally and what I do is to give them more vegetables and fruits especially orange and bananas and encourage them to drink lot of water.

If you are breas.t feeding, you can increase your intake of fruits and vegetables as well and it will help your baby.

tchiwinnie:
Forgive me, bt i really dont undstd y some mamas dont hv confidence in their drs. U shld cross check d info u get here wt ur dr and nt d oda way round. I think dat confidence is impt, if u dont hv confidence in him, I ll suggest u use anoda. Dont misunderstand my post, bt I m finding it difficult understanding y u re afraid to tk a drug he prescribed and y u didnt ask him questions.

I concur 100%.

I see that many mothers don't really ask their doctors pertinent questions even when they have serious doubt, we need to understand it's part of their job and resposibility to enlighten you on whatever they intend to give or do to you and you have a right to either refuse or accept it.

I know some doctors get offended when you ask questions but you really shouldn't care, it's your body, it's your life.

CharmyBliz:
How do you treat your baby of constipation(hard stool)? Need everi help I can get pls

Don't worry dear, just wait for Lovinam and Tchwinne, they are masters in this area.

They will tell you what to do now.

hope223:
Please my dear mamas,my bb will b one year in two weeks time. I want to know weda it is advisable to introduce golden mourn for him. Is it good 4 a year baby. Thanks

Nope, golden mourn is from 3 years.

There is actually a thread on it on NL where a representative of the company had to come and clear the doubts as so many mothers were feeding their infants with it and thought it was right.

eazee:
My teammates sheweezy, Olaoyekemi, kechyl, bimsusy : God bless u mamas for bringing up this, i was almost going to call my doctor and complain about this to him, i have been experiencing same hardening of stomach oo, but without pain, its very frequent. God will see us through IJN #Team June all the way#

It's the body preparing for labour.

It is well mamas.

proudmom38:
u dey fear nurse kaffy

No be small fear sef

Woged2005:
Same thing, sweetheart - She is more difficult to be manipulated, lied to, fooled or cheated on because she applies her skills, training, technology and savvy to the relationship. Lying and manipulating an educated woman is outright insulting because when you do that you are questioning her intelligence and education. Mutual respect is the key. Respect her! An African adage says "it's respect that makes two dogs to lie down and roll for each other, not that they are afraid of a fight"

You know I kind of disagree with this...

Being book smart is entirely different from being street smart. There are two different skills altogether.

A lady who is street smart (and vice versa) will lie, fool, cheat and manipulate a guy who is only book smart and not street wise (vice versa).

One has to have both skills to detect a lying or cheating partner.

oluwawunmi:
mothers, what can i use for my baby eyes is bringing mucus or is it call out and the eyes is red and big thot is apollo.

How old is your baby? Apply drops of brea.st milk

kaffy4bill:
U too dey join proudmom abi... ok ooo

For where I dey use style highlight the kpekus part to her ni sef