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Why is she wrong? Because she is a wife? Does that make her less human? Or beneath everybody else in the family?

Na wa ooo

and the angel left too soon

May God give you double for your sorrow

Woged, sorry for derailing.

coogar:
so what would this woman be doing with her own salary? peruvian hair & fixing acrylic nails?

a man subjected to this kind of torture would lose his appetite permanently. it doesn't matter who cooks......even if it's gordon ramsay.

What she earns or does with it is a non-issue and nobody's business but hers, as long as she is fulfilling her wifely duties at home

of course, he would have been the head if he's marrying a woman earning N180k per month. in this case, he is not the head, he's a tail.........a tadpole's tail if i may add.

His wife's pay has nothing to do with his headship. His pay and ability to provide is what makes him the head.

coogar:
i expect this guy to start losing weight once the novelty of the honeymoon wears off. his N370k per month [b]would just disappear [/b]like that? are you aware he might have dependent relatives to care for?

It didn't disappear, he is taking care of his wife, other half, his family.

And guess what, he won't lose weight, she will be doing all the cooking for him

however if we reverse the roles, the husband still has to pay up the entire expenses as the highest earner?

Definitely! he is the head Coogar, always remember that.

coogar:
i expect this guy to start losing weight once the novelty of the honeymoon wears off. his N370k per month would just disappear like that? are you aware he might have dependent relatives to care for?

however if we reverse the roles, the husband still has to pay up the entire expenses as the highest earner?

i knew what i was saying when i said being a man in the 21st century is a criminal offence. it's lose-lose both ways.

Why does this sound familiar

coogar:
chaiiii!
you are a meanie!

. ....l know



He won't go and ask for the reminder - that would be demeaning

He would go as far as he can go with his 370k, if she is not satisfied with the standard of what his 370k can afford, she would then support in her personal capacity. Surely, there can't be a more supportive wife than this naa

coogar:
hehe!
so if the expenses are about N500k, he should use up his monthly salary of N370k completely before going to ask the wife for the remainder?

Now you are talking. God bless you brother!

coogar:
of course, nothing wrong with that....
all i am saying is - she knows his finances before going ahead with him. his resources are limited. i am not saying he should freeload on her completely.....his share shouldn't be more than 33% until he gets promoted.

I still don't agree with this part...or maybe I doubt understand you

he should be responsible for the total upkeep, but of course as far as his salary can go.

If the standard is not up to what she desires(most likely it won't), she is then free to make any adjustments from her personal pay.

Babymama1:
Afia how much
Nna mehn
Ka m si ebe a puo,ha awu o uwa ha na chi ha acid

Open another thread naa, e don tey

coogar:
i like your honesty.

she married him.
yes, he made the move. yes, he did the so called toasting but she encouraged him to make the move.

She encouraged him cuz she liked him(no crime in that) but it doesn't absolve him of his responsibilities.

Babymama1:
Threads like these are very educational
You learn aspects of people you never knew
Now an Igbo girl marrying a Yoruba man knows what she may be up against
I bet you there are many who are reading this here for the first time in their life

Osisi has seen market ooo

coogar:
madam kimoni, she makes more money. he cannot afford to bear the cost. she's a boss - which means she's high maintenance. feminism doesn't come into play here at all.

Coogar, my money is my money; his money is our money. That's the recipe for a good marriage.

If you must marry the boss, you must be ready to maintain the boss

Why do I believe this story? OP, hope you are alright?

coogar:
it depends on the kinda woman she is. she could be earning way less than him and still be a rude & choleric wife.

academic history - this is nothing as far as he's intelligent. he doesn't have a masters degree because he hasn't had the time or opportunity to pursue it, not that he is intellectually sterile to cop one.

age - mind over matter. if the couple involved don't mind, it doesn't matter. one can be 30 years of age with the emotional maturity of a prepubescent teen. one may be very young with the wisdom of a senior citizen. this can also be managed.

salary/career - this is the easiest to manage. they both know what they earn. the boss earns more than twice as much as him. it simply means the contribution towards up keep world be ratio 2:1........until the dude gets promoted at the very least.

easy peasy lemon squeezy!

She must have feminist tendencies to agree to this, this is not a traditional setting

medman007:
Hi folks,

Pls. with the BVN expiry slated for the end of June and for those of us who started our programme last year. Obviously, the expiry would affect peeps like me who has money in my account. The problem now is transferring the money to my UK account at least the much that i'm going to need before my programme rounds off. Considering the limit on the amount of withdrawals per day, the killing exchange rates and the transaction charges. Does anyone has a better way to transfer this money to my UK account? I recently found out about this TransferWise website but they don't have from Nigeria to UK yet but the reverse is possible. I'm also thinking Western Union but I haven't looked at it yet...Does anyone has a better suggestion for me?

Thanks!

No it won't. The bank should exempt you once you can prove to them you are now resident in the UK. Speak with ur account manager.

tchiwinnie:
I dey o. I don begin 2nd missionary journey so una b my senior nw, lol.
@lovinam

***unfollows thread***

Proudmom et al. pls holla at moi when you drop, i cannot afford to catch this loff you people are sharrringggg here

beedam:
Can you please tell me where you have been? It's been a while.
No one can meet up with my demo nah!
Me wey be say na two seasons I get.

@proudmom38, don't come and write plenty story here because you want to demo for me o. @prouddad nko? Say me well to him

You are still the reigning queen of demo ooo, Biggal would have beaten you to it, if she had dared to go back home when she was already 5cm dilated but luckily, she listened to the advices from here and maintained.

I remember you too going to ur neighbor's house to shait

coogar:
i doubt it.
it depends on the size of the nipplës....although there's a little link between small böobs & big nïpples. my partner is a rare species though. she's huge in both departments

**faints**

You even know the size of the nipple.s

You need Jesus

proudmom38:
@kimoni dis on n off u re doing diaris God ooo..

Una see life

And to think that you are the reason why I still keep coming to this thread, to hear your birth story from prouddad and to see whether your demo go pass beedam own

Quickly tap anointing from Lovinam and biggal, people why no dey feel contractions

Make you dey do your make-up dey go as you dey push your angel out

Chidoks:
You said bigger boobs produce less than the small ones and i disagree.
You cannot generalize like that.I've seen endowed people breastfeed male children till they are tired of the exercise.
While breastfeeding,I never felt dizzy for a second and I did exclusive breastfeeding for good six months before introducing any other meal.that my friend is my reason for disagreeing with you

Of course size does not matter in milk production, I should also know.

The statement you quoted was strictly in response to Coogar except you agree with him - check that part I bolded.

I was merely countering his fallacious statement with another fallacious statement.

Chidoks:
I strongly disagree.I've been through the process so I know.

Disagree with what exactly? And what's ur own assertion?

coogar:
i won't - cos my partner has 2 humongous böobs that would produce more than enough milk for the entire family.

this, however, does not mean hömosexuals or women who don't want to breast feed would not patronise them. if there are no willing buyers, there would be no market.

But you know bigger size boob.s actually produce less milk than the smaller ones?

biggal:
Mamas join me n tank God I gave birth by 3.30am today to a baby Girl. My modas una know say d doctor dat checked me played pranks on me oooooo. In all I thank God. BS later

Hahahhaahahahaha

Funny mama

Congrats! hope ur babygirl will inherit your sense of humor
And pls tell her the story of how you nearly gave birth to her on the road

God bless you and yours

babygirlfl:
You are right. I was so annoyed to advice her. I know it's not the best thing to do but honestly, her posts were very annoying to read.

I feel you honestly...it takes so much to even tell her those harsh words

TV01:
It's not about the bro' or the ho' - it's clear the OP does not possess the requisite maturity to be involved in a full-on adult relationship. And certainly not with someone who is not wholesale commited to her and her wellbeing - who coul dat least be gentle with her as she grows.

Wicked!!

How far? How et familia. Come, did you pass


TV

Lol...family is fine.

The result of that one is not out naa, just submitted last week. I banged an earlier one though

If I should fail this particular one; you, pick, Coogar and tearoses will refund me millions of fees sharp sharp

Cuz you guys must have taught me nonsense

In Fela's words, teasher son teash me nansense

TV01:
Sometimes I'm glad when I play catch-up. This is one of those times . Well put Belly.


TV

Stop playing catch up

pickabeau1:
Ok

I guess the tone of the advice resonates with so many her then

Carry go


However there is always a better way to give advice

From her subsequent posts, she has gotten to that stage where she isn't thinking straight anymore and will not heed to any gentle words

Reading those words from her, you are either too annoyed to advise her so you let her stray or you tell her some bitter truths

I hope she reads it all and makes some useful decisions for herself

They are always beclouded by "love" at this stage and lose their sense of good judgement

Chillisauce:
you dont know most nigerian men. Dem no dey use nose smell "pusshy". Them go chop finish, clean mouth come dey do fine boy no pimple.
These ones are sexxy even.

No wonder, these must be dinachi's customers

And he'll be coming to NL to vent like say we send am message

So Dinachi actually has followers on NL

Interesting! I thought we had men and not boys on NL??

Good to know

pickabeau1:
Wow..


See acidic advice

Do you want the girl to commit suicide


She was dropped on her head?...wow

Pick

By the time she goes into the marriage and comes to NL a few weeks later saying all men are cheats and evil, tell me you won't be the first person to attack her, is it not better she gets a head reset now?

Won't she still feel like committing suicide when she marries the guy? Imagine wanting to know if she is the main or side chick? Someone you are already engaged to.

Na wa o

Chillisauce:
if you like talk from now till next yr.
She fit don carry belly sef

Na so ooo

Until them enter the thing before dem eyes go come clear