Any sect or gender waving the victim flag is doing so not because they see bashing as wrong but because their own team is losing out on the gender e-wars(with the exception of Single moms because I never see them insult or sham men)

If you are not egalitarian, then you should not complain.if you want to fight for equity come with clean hands

Bashing speaks volume of the content of ones life and their progress so far. Imagine someone knowing nothing about me,whether I am beggar under a bridge or a surgeon in Dallas,Texas,or even a cobbler at mushin calling me broke for expressing my opinions harmlessly.

Or imagine people proudly beating their chests to admit they stigmatise single moms and they endorse the insult they receive.

How about those that insulted bukatyne and claimed they had all right to react to a post how they wish-the same dolts are on this thread crying "oppressed" . if you can't respect your fellow woman because she has varying views with you,how do you want men to respect women?



It is all messed up here,internet isn't for kids. My child will not use a smartphone until 18 years

funmisticqueen2:
i agree.

I have now decided to choose my battles.

if I were seun,the romance section will be splitter into three:males,females and general.
Unfact there will be a section for redpill and feminism.
Before commenting on any of the section you have to prove you are one of them else you will be limited to general romance section where your gender is likely to be berated.

Because in a forum like this there are lots of people psyche that will be affected due to peoples opinion.

funmisticqueen2:
Nairaland is actually dominated by males and males with the f on their monicker. It's quite sad really, especially on romance section

Except you chose to see things from women alonr perspectives alone,most males you tag women bashers have shared their own truths of the female gender and complained about their dealings with them.
With dande 55,sexy lassie, you funmi that broke sham guys, ri ele etc ,y baby, eye ness, lil miss favvy, shuga vee and several monikers,I will conclude there are men and women who have conflating views of the opposite sex just that men are more here so it seems more pronounced.

anyone who sees nothing wrong in calling men broke and sees everything wrong in calling ladies hoes is being dishonest

Women! Women!women!una no dey tire for women matter?

I have long concluded those with counter threads suffer from a low esteem or the previous thread they decided to counter hit a sore spot.

Lol

After all the noise both en and women will log out to date or marry those who they create threads against.
Their relevance ends online.
I know many people from this forum that their spouses are worse off than those they advocated against.



My rule is simple,opt for the best for yourself,don't feel guilty. The world is not fair,don't be fair.

If you are a goldigger,wear it proudly on your head ,don't let any one guilt trip you for it. Eat and enjoy his money.

As a man if you are player,you have got my back,play very well,enjoy free vagina! In fact make her wash and cook for you all for free

MelaninSkinGirl:
I know a case with a family friend he was an older man but very good looking. He also didn't go to University so has only his WAEC certificate. His former wife cheated on him and ran off with her childhood sweetheart so he had to begin again.

He found a young girl who claimed to love him, he sent her to University and even helped to support her family. After her graduation, her parents said he was too old and not on her level. Did these parents not see that this man was older when he sent her to University and was paying for everything?

Humans beings are wicked.

no they are not wicked,they love themselves!
I advice girls to be gold diggers and guys to be players, put your self and needs first!

CAPSLOCKED:

WE DISCOURAGE FORNICATION AND ADULTERY, BUT WE STILL ACCEPT FORNICATORS AND ADULTRERS AND DO THEM NO HARM. BEING A SINGLE MOTHER IS NOT A CRIME. THERE'S A SINGLE FATHER AT THE OTHER END TOO, INSTEAD OF SHAMING THESE WOMEN, WHY NOT WE PUT ALL THAT EFFORT INTO MAKING THESE SHAMELESS MEN OWN THEIR RESPONSIBILITIES?
IMAGINE MY BROTHER UBUNJA BEATING HIS CHEST THAT ANOTHER MAN IS FEEDING HIS OWN CHILD, WHILE HE HAS TWO LEGS AND TWO HANDS.. IS THIS NOT THE BIGGEST SHAME?

leave them o,emmaodet and omar09 has never talked of baby fathers or dead beat fathers.
Look at u.bunja saying he tricks his baby mama into sex by lying he wants to give her money for child upkeep,Omar and emmaodet said nothing . But at the mention of single moms they are armed ready to launch abuses.

At least Omar is being honest he once harbored hatred towards them.

Emma,you have complained recently of attack and hatred women now have for men and tried to change the narrative of women only going for rich men and ignoring broke boys.
I don't see such harshness and harassment towards SM as different from those ladies now mete out on Nigerian men.
Don't select stigmas to encourage and stigmas to avoid.
Any fair and honest person knows berating and stigmatizing SM(with no prove of a promiscuous wife) is wrong if they have not hurt anyone. They are prostitutes,Yahoo boys,ritualists ,runs girls etc to talk of but all focus has been heaped on babymamarism(while ignoring babyfatherism)

emmaodet:


Of course, i don't like it too. Neither will i hide it nor will i allow any of my family member to marry one.
It is a stigma like many other stigmas and a wise woman will try as much as possible to avoid it.
We shouldn't encourage babymamarism in the society though i like having a fling with them because they are kind of pocket friendly compared to young single ladies.

great,I hope you hold single fathers to that same standard as well

emmaodet:


Haaaaaaaaaaaa
Bro, wetin happen?
Permanent secretary kee? For single mothers?
What did i do? to warrant such position?

you used to share posts encouraging judgement and stigmatization of them that was why

Omar09:


@bolded, yes definitely I will focus on them. Tbh, I used to hate on them, but that was in the past. But now, I'm indifferent towards them, after some of them are even better than our single sisters.

but you still attack them till date...

Will you share why you hated on them?did they wrong or hurt a man dear to you or even you?
If you are not comfortable discussing it here we can talk offline

Omar09:


I'd love it. I will work towards that. I will enlighten them on how the world will hate them as soon as they decide to have a baby without a man there

so you admit the bolded that there is hate in the hearts of those that constantly harass and attack them(for example you)

I can't wait for you to start it,now focus on the young single women and start advising them to be chaste. Then leave the single moms alone.

Focus on prevention of single mom and ignore those that are already single moms


You post buttresses my point that your issue with single mom is boiled simple down to the fact the society hates them and not for personal reasons.if the society approved on them,you will also have joined the society to approve them.

Omar09:


No one hates them single mothers, everyone is judging them, I judge them. If you don't want to be judged, then stop living (drop dead) no one will judge you, at least none you will know of if you are dead.

Being a single mom shows this irresponsibility in one both male and female. It is more pronounced in the female since they're the ones left with the kids. Yet again, a woman who is widowed and or left by her husband is viewed as a heroine depending on how her children turn out to be. But those you got their kids out of wedlock, they're just simply stup.id, regardless, they can not dwell on their mistakes for too long but to only move on.

The goal is to educate the young ones coming up on the stigma on SM. They should know to take responsibility for any actions in their life. The stigma is there already, you can't change by simply educating we the old adults. But we can phase it out by educating the young ones to practice safe sex or be chastised.

the way you carry SM matters on your head eh..

Let us make you the minister of single mom affairs.

You will be in charge of
1)advising women against pre-marital sex
2)advise women on safe sex
3)modify their character since they are "stupid people"
4)advise men not to marry them


Emmaodet will be the permanent secretary..

I am starting to feel this is your calling and destiny,to address issues of single moms...

What do you think?

By the way ,you have been offline,for long,wanted to send you a PM bro to know if all was well

Sophyrocks:


You talk like a Crude Sadist!!! No pun intended! Just read what i made bold up there. You are not happy that there are Single mothers who are turning out great after all the challenges they face or that there are success stories or that there will continue to be success stories. You seriously want single mums to suffer just to prove a point, that they are majorly responsible for their predicament or simply because the society stigmatizes them. Seriously?? You enjoy the stigma and in your judgemental mind, they have no right to happiness. They have no right to be happy simply because they are single mums? Are you kidding me? It pricks you when you hear success stories. It pricks you when you see that there are still men around, inspite of the stigma, who marry these women. What is your grudge with these women? Why can't you wish people well? why must you always wanna prove a point with stigma even when there is light at the end of the tunnel ?

You will really need to stop!! Your hatred for these women is sickening!! Gosh! and you call yourself a christian? Damn!

to be honest I have never fathomed the reason why some guys like to always pop up to discredit or bully SM all in the name of being moral.
They are not happy seing this women succeed. They have a problem seeing this women live healthy lives so they always pop up wherever and whenever there is discussion surrounding Single motherhood to tell them they don't deserve a normal life.

What is it if not bullying or oppression? When you tell them to leave this women in peace they will say you are encouraging or supporting promiscuity or indecency..

This same dolts will not mete the same aggression the met on single mums on single dads.


I am thinking they need mental evaluation because I can't fathom their sadistic obsession with trolling SM and calling it "being realistic"

I can't marry a single mum with a kid that is not mine,that is a personal choice. But that doesn't mean I will always be announcing how "bad" or calling them names.

I guess it is a foul spirit behind this,that if they don't input their negative vibes on SM they will have peace.

To think the Television guy is a christian and is educated baffles me.

barojana:
This is a highly controversial topic in Nigeria and I would like to have you people's opinion.




https://allafrica.com/stories/202003030478.html


Lalasticlala

lol..the op post defined rape as forcing a woman or girl..

That definition is sexism itself! Rape is forcing someone into sex

Anyway marriage doesn't stop a crime from being a crime,rape itself is a crime... Because it happens in marriage doesn't make it less than a crime.

Lionessza6:


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.then why didn't you just walk pass instead of being unnecessary rude?

Smh

Go in peace

AfroKnight:
Feminists will never speak against female privilege. They are hypocrites. Don’t you know?

I remember one web development job listing on twitter some weeks ago. It was clearly stated that the applicants must be female. No woman seemed to notice this.

Feminists only fight for equality in benefits but not in responsibilities.

Whenever a law favors them they will never call it matriarchy they will say "it is still part of patriarchy" or "are men not the ones setting the rules that are oppressing men"


I have followed feminist pages for years to know how they think and reason. Don't be deceived from their subtle appeal to the world to support feminism as what will benefit both men and women.
Its a lie!
It is strictly pro woman and not pro equality.
They don't care about your problems as a man. The focus is strictly themselves...whenever someone tried to create a balance view they will block the person from the page.
A male feminist on the page once said "also tell women to stop making fun of men penis sizes,it is a two way thing" when the Op created a thread admonishing men to stop judging ladies with wide vaginas. The male feminist was blocked!

Emer O'Toole,a feminist writer said that if you are a feminist and you talk of men issues then you are not a feminist(a feminist should not be concerned of men issues).
Our dear buda .atum,the mangina of this forum said that it is absurd when feminist talk of men issues.

Gloria Steinem the mother of American Feminism stopped receiving Farren Williams (the founder of men rights movement) calls when he wrote a book about men suffering. Farren Williams was a feminist who fought for women rights,he and Gloria were great friends and worked together
After his book on the problem men faces,she cut off from him


Pansophist ,martinez39s,Omar09,crackhhaus,crackland

starrygal:
Sorry no vex.i dnt know where ur anger is coming from.

lol .who is vexing?you that quoted me??or me that said what I said

There was a time it was relevant,they are places it is relelevant...


But in a million years to come women will blame men for everyone,when men are innocent they will blame the society.

Feminism strives on singing the victim song. How long will you mourn and narrate how men oppressed you?when will it be time for action?

They blame society for holding them back(yesterday one said that women marry because of society,that without society influence women will not marry and it is men that natural love marriage).

Yesterday one of them that has identified as a feminist in the past openly denounced equality because they were discussing on women being independent from men financially. she said she loves being traditional and she doesn't want equality. This happed on this forum

I came to a conclusion that long throat and laziness is what is hindering feminism from being actualised fully after almost 200 years.

This people don't want equality, they want to be elevated and treated like queens.

Yesterday a nairalander y baby opened a thread on grooming of male kids from an earlier age to be a provider.
If a topic was created on grooming a female kid to be submissive or wife material,I can swear they will come for her head.

It is high time the movement sit back and reevaluate themselves and their goals. The founders of feminism Mary wollonscraft (permit my spelling) et Al will be ashamed of how the movement has been hijacked by tasteless dimers.

Give a girl child scholarship to study a course of her own and a billionaire man comes for her hand in marriage, she will postpone or forget about the schooling to marry him.
She will later blame society for putting pressure on her to marry
They don't even have one voice and know what they really want.
The same dolts that pushed for sexual liberation of women are now complaining of women being seing as sexual object.

Lionessza6:


If success was dependent on how hard one works ,& their drive, most people would achieve their goals or most people would be rich in this world,but that's not how the world works.You heard what you wanted to hear from my post& not what I said. If women had no will & drive to succeed then they wouldn't be pushing for change ;level playing field(where they are willing & ready to fight for their positions).

I dont know where you got the impression that I'm defending female entitlement ,but that's your own. All I did was to offer a possible reason behind the advert you were complaining about .

I am here!

GreatResearcher1:
had sex with at least two of the following men.

1. State coordinator.

2. Camp commandant.

3. Platoon Leader.

4. LGI.

5. CLO.

6. Head of PPA.

7. CDS president.

8. Corpers religious fellowship leader.

9. Man O' war



If u have never served, don't come here and argue.

if I talk na dem go call me simp.
Where will all this take you??

DaddyOpe:
I got married to my wife 5 years ago. Before we got married, she dated a guy. We all stayed in the same area. I live here because it is close to my place of work. Her ex lives in the area. He does building contractor. While they were dating, I met my wife. I was able to convince her to date me. And since the guy was always travelling, I was able to get close to her. I think I won her finally after we had sex. Because that first day, I scattered her brain. She later left the guy. I proposed, she accepted and we got married.

I will say, at that time I got married to my wife, her ex and I were on the same level financially. But, recently, the guy has turned to something else. He does building for people overseas. People said the guy's work is good and he is always getting contracts. My wife said he had a 2.1 in Civil Engineering. He started selling cement. He is now a dangote cement distributor. He built a duplex at the junction of my street. He has 3 cars in the compound (he recently bought 1 car during this lockdown that people are saying no money oo). I and my wife do not have any car. I am still a tenant. We have to pass front of his house every day.

During this lockdown, my office has being delaying salaries. It has not being easy. I have had quarrels with my wife in the past but yesterday was the worst. During the quarrel, she said she regrets marrying me. That if she had ignored me and married her ex, she would have being living comfortably. I almost beat her up. Then she told me that this her ex paid her school fees in 300 and 400 level when she almost pulled out of school for lack of finance. She regrets paying him back by leaving him to marry me.

Since then, I have not being myself. I just created this account to express myself.

chai, you theif person babe,what is yours can never be stolen.

I am sorry to say this you are a fool
You married a lady that gave in to you because of a mind blowing sex,what were you thinking?
Didn't it occur to you that she will also give in to someone else who gives her better sex than you?

The guy didn't deserve her,mother nature took a leech and a cheat from him and handed her over to you...

You were the dumpsite of such garbage of a lady...
You didn't snatch a good thing,you snatched a bad thing.

Just like a thief stealing bathroom broom instead of plasma TV

pansophist:


Because women operate from a position of perfection. Introspection is not your typical feminine trait. So admitting to herself that she is a gold digger hustling for the bag while using men as a vehicle is a painful pill to swallow. Instead, she will blame someone and absorb herself from her bad decisions. It also didnt cross her mind that she is not mentally and physically challenged to hustle as well, but no, it has to be the man that she leeches from.

I will imitate capslocked and quit gender argument because after the noise online
1)men will still log out to marry the evening newspapers and non virgin men
2)women still marry the non rich men(average/struggling) and will still submit to him.

AfroKnight:





She is confident and has a good memory. You say she’s intelligent and I’ll take your word for it.


NL ladies! Look at men gushing about the young lady. Scroll through and you’d notice they keep saying such women are a rarity.

Nairaland babes, Men are drawn to intelligent confident women. Men are attracted to women who can hold meaningful conversations, who don’t depend on a man for everything.

It is so difficult to engage a random naija chick online these days. They cannot even initiate and sustain simple witty conversations. All they do is post pictures of themselves looking morose (they somehow think that’s sexy) and videos of them twerking or making faces at the camera. Slide into their DM’s and you’d wonder how beauty and basic intelligence can be mutually exclusive.

Anyway, this young lady will grow up to have meaningful relationships. She attracts men who are fascinated by her progress.

bro I disagree with you on the bolded.
Most intelligent girls can't take care of themselves,the book worms(like ngozi okonjo eweala,oby ezekwesilie etc) The typical intelligent girl gives little to no effort on her looks,femininity and graciousness.
Except you mean smart and sound ladies(having common sense)

tiffanyfan:




Its very possible, some shallow thinking girls use pregnancy to hook some guys that may not even love them 100% but will only marry them out of obligation

be careful,ryan03 is here,he may beat you for this..

Ryan03:
and I said "thank you", is that the signal for fight in your town? Lol

you are welcome bro...

Ryan03:
thank you, you seem so interested in me I wonder why those of you that call yourselves red pillers just can't leave us "asslickers" alone. Do I give you nightmares?

haba...this is not fight now ,I welcomed you here,any problem with it??
Did I do wrong by calling you your name?

I can see one mangina and female asslicker has come to this thread

Ryan03,you are welcome

Votukpa:


You're father was supposed to teach you this:

A woman isn't supposed to contribute in the sense of what you expressed. Stop looking for a woman who will contribute economically in your home.

Men are more beautiful and complete than women because we don't need them like they need us. Behold real beauty when a man gives his wife everything she needs and he doesn't need anything from her except her devotion and cooperation.

If any man feels he needs a woman to contribute in his home then he isn't ready to marry yet.

A man who is rich in every way doesn't require riches from a woman.

He is not only '(al)ready made', he is GODREADYMADE.

no man minds a poor lady,how does girls peanuts benefit us?no man looks up to their finances.

We only have an issue when we are responsible for them financially,give them security ,comfort,and yet they are dragging shoulders with us .

They hate submission and devotion but yet want our pockets

Votukpa:


You're 150% correct.
Men will not accept this because it is coming from a woman. I support you on this.

my dear,all men know this

No financially comfy man minds marrying the poorest girl on the globe.

The issue is their hypocrisy which is showed in several ways such as:
1)they are self acclaimed feminists that belief men and women should split house chores and the man is not head yet they want him to be 100% responsible for them financially.

Why should I pay the rent,money for feeding and upkeep, school fees,utilities,vacations and pocket money for my wife to buy the fancy shoes and human hair yet she will want me to be sharing cooking and washing plates with her(let us not forget that house helps,washing machines,dish washers etc are still sponsored from my pocket).

2)These hypocrites want men to date broke girls,but open threads upon threads to advice girls not to date broke boys.

3)These hypocrites want a man to bring money,protection,etc(all gotten from hard work) yet they don't want to bring their virginity and youthfulness to the table. They will drag equality with us when it deals with being sexually moral and chaste(i.e if men are non virgins,women musn't be virgins ) yet when it deals with finances none of them want to be equal to men.

sexylassie2:


What is this one writing down?

when you drop hypocrisy aside you will understand

MelaninSkinGirl:
Hey, I showed you the science, you decide what you want to do with your lives. It's a free universe.

But believe me you, there is nothing sadder than a man who is 50something running around and sleeping with everything that moves. He thinks these pretty young girls love him, but he doesn't know they are in it for his wallet. It's a sad life.

you had to derail this thread with a counter argument,the op point was not for men to avoid marriage but for men to set up high standards..
Whenever a man sets his standards ladies will come here creating counter arguments.

Statistics on american men alone?lol...its enough to draw up conclusions on all men on the universe?

Then you turn back to blame society for ladies wanting to marry..

So society is the one responsible for women marrying?