ellapius:
the biggest mistake for a Nigerian girl is to marry a guy who is not ready to marry. a Bleep boy. a jobless Bleep boy who believes his big gbola is his selling point

sexylassie2:


Good, you are in America? right? Go practice your equal right there.

Me, I love been traditional here.

Dainy1:
What's your take on this?
A lady is carelessly have pre marrital sex with my friend. She doesn't ask him for money, my friend didn't ask her out. They just met in a car and that very day decided to meet later that day in his apartment and ended up having sex. Nothing attached, she doesn't care. She seems not to bother herself about marriage, relationship or anything, although she's a very nice lady, but my friend is worried. Could she be up to something? Or what do you think?

emmaodet:

Unfortunately, the so called mansion can't go round. From my calculation, only 3 out of possible 10 ladies will have that opportunity of crying in a mansion, duplex or a personal building sef, so what happens to the remaining 7 that are also going to cry?

Mind you, cheating, flirting, seducing are not exclusively for men anymore. Lately, women are cheating ridiculously on men. Even paternity fraud is at an all time High.

o, it is also safe to say that a man should not marry a broke lady that will likely cheat on him when he can marry a resourceful, productive and financially stable woman who may likely cheat on him too Atleast, with the latter, you will be rest assured your children won't suffer if you people separate and you are not sending upkeep for reasons known to you.

emmaodet:


I don't know where women got it wrong because my mu's era wasn't like this. During their time, they struggled with our fathers, hustled their asses and struggled with them but the new generation women are a different breed entirely.
I just hope a lot of guys can focus more on themselves than women because now, hmmmmm ...... Igi da, eye fo ni oo - When the tree branch breaks off, the bird will fly away is the present situation of these modern ladies.
Men please love yourself more.

Saintmary:
Just keep Daddy's portion in a flask and eat away. Simple.

emmaodet:


A quick question bro - Is a broke lady actually doing a poor man a favour by marrying him? Anroju je eko obun, obun ni wipe eko owun kere - we are trying to eat a very dirty man's food yet he is complaining of having small food left which is not enough for him. If only he knows that we will really be glad not to even eat the smelling dirty fvcking food.

crackkhaus:
Wow, so many stories of unhappy women in their marriages.

What must be responsible for this

Is it that the men involved have always been like that, but as expected, they are very good at gaming these women with love and excellent sex... OR is it that the women never really paid attention, got carried away easily, and were quite easy to deceive?

It really has to be one or the other, because I don't believe an adult already set in his/her ways can suddenly change.
They may pretend, adapt, or be able to project a false personality but to change? NEVER.

Ishilove:

It isn't very simple my dear. This is marriage, kids are involved, families are involved and a whole lot of ramifications as well.

Jullima:
My dear you have described most Nigerian marriages. We see it here a lot on NL. Keeping malice and Nigerian husbands are 5&6. You are not allowed to express your feelings, it’s called talking back. You’re also supposed to apologise for something you were a victim of. If the husband is not 100% the breadwinner, even worse, any body language or words are interpreted as “you don’t respect me because you are contributing”

P.S our NL favourite matron will come in and blame you for not choosing right, even though he presented himself as a godly man or you must have done something to change a godly man.

Sis, it is well.

Mstick:
Hmmmmmmm this one is tough, a broke man with ego is more dangerous than a rattle snake.

MizJaY:




When I met my husband NYSC days, he was very close to God, organizing programs in church and handling them. That was the main reason I got close to him cos I wasnt so spiritual and needed someone to help me grow spiritually through life. He told me he was called to be a pastor and that excited me but I'm not seeing that now lol. He's spiritual life is almost zero. And back then, he had nothing, we would spend all my money even to reach his sick mother in the village I would buy all the foodstuff to send to her.

The way he talked he sounded promising that things will get better with him,

So how can I handle such man cos if no be say I be quiet person, I for don receive serious beating black and blue from this man cos he has done it earlier on in our marriage not serious beating sha but I had some bruises. If not that my parents are still alive and warned him. Tho he still attempts once in a blue moon I go jus arrange myself. But I'm kind of tired. I have no money cos trust me, if I had, Maybe i for don dey plan my move sef I no dey enjoy marriage life at all

GreatResearcher1:
I am a victim of rape. I've been raped uncountable times by our maids and even my mom never believes me.
Why do we ignore male rape?
Why do we think the male victims enjoyed it yet we don't think same for female victims?
Why do we make mockery of male rape cases?
Why do we sweep male rape cases under the carpet?
Why Why Why?


I just spoke with a female friend about Jennifer's rape and she curses her rapists but when I told her I was also raped all she could do is laugh? I asked why she laughed she said it's funny.

Why is male rape funny?
Why do we not pay attention to male rape?



lalasticlala I want answers to these questions

Trayceey:
Nonsense post. No be only make rape. As if u did not enjoy it. Male rape my foot

Martinez39s:
This is not a good reason to sweep male rape under the carpet; in fact, this isn't even why male rape isn't taken too seriously. This doesn't even make any sense. If a female rape victim was discovered to be infertile, will her rape be swept under the carpet?

Utter rubbish. This is the first time I am hearing such excuse as to why male rape is less grievous than female rape? Suppose a lady was immune to any STD, do you seriously think the rape of such lady will be swept under the carpet?

I can't, for the life of me, see how this reasonably explains why male rape isn't taken too seriously. A woman who has been raped isn't even considered a slut, and no boy is hailed as a player/stud for being raped. What exactly is your point?

Please drop a statistic that confirms your percentage globally. I am happy you included "recorded cases." Less men report rape cases because of the way society views male rape victims.

Male rape victims could be little helpless boys sexually preyed upon by aunties, uncles, parents, clergymen etc. Also, physically force is not the only method of rape; a lady could drug a man (remember Cardi B?) and take advantage of him. In some instances, multiple females could ambush a male and rape him. Even male homosexuals rape men.

Your arguments so far have been irrational and disappointing. I am convinced you are being disingenuous. Your are probably a female or a weak stùpid male asslicker.

Rape is rape, male or female. Rape is rape, whether ot happens frequently or not. Who told you that rape is more devastating for females? Who told you that male rape rarely happens? Even if male rape rarely happens, is it enough reason not to take a single case of male rape seriously?

You might as well believe that all cases of male rape are fabrications. You SOUND like someone who has no sympathy or a shred of concern for male rape victims. Obviously, you think male rape isn't that serious, and you feel justified with half-baked rationalisations so far. I am sure if given the chance, you would proclaim that male rape is not a thing.

You don't know his mother, neither do l, but it's highly unlikely that a parent would do nothing if his/her daughter accused a houseboy of sexually assaulting her. I could understand if the parent does nothing if the family pastor was accused since the brains of many are so subservient to their pastors and holy books.

GreatResearcher1, a question for you.

I am not insinuating anything, but I got curious when females like Busola Dakolo open up years after their supposed incident. Could it be that they enjoyed the act?

pansophist:


When I talk that one?

pansophist:




Abi

pansophist:


Why the decorative words? They are not just fat, but obese. Using manipulatory pixel angles and palatable words such as BBW doesn't change the fact that they are obese medically. If you disagree, can you show me a photo of what is obese to you?

Well to your question, I prefer none. I prefer healthy women, just as they will surely prefer healthy men.

crackkhaus:

It is definitely about them for two reasons:

1. They just don't like you
2. What you're saying hits them like a brick.

For instance, I know for a fact that Nigerian women (majority) have more aspirations towards a successful marriage life than careers.
As a matter of fact, everyone knows this.

The ones attacking you, most of them having been dreaming about big weddings and the life of being married right since the first strand of pubic hair appeared on top of their vagînas.
Ask a sizeable number of Nigerian women where they see themselves in 10years, 98% will tell you how they see themselves as a wife and mother blessed with a loving husband, only 1% will tell you how they hope to become CEO of a business or permanent secretary in a federal job, or a well-known politician fighting for women's rights.
The remaining 1% don't even know where they'll be.

So yea, what your thread is advising is actually how they already feel...but agreeing with you will expose them as nothing more than women with no larger aspirations than having a family, neither will agreement favour their dislike for you. Most are okay at just earning a stable income at a good job, without the stress of having to think about becoming CEO, president, or astronaut.
Let hubby be the one with lofty aspirations and they will support him, is more like it.
This is the reality...

Remember, not many people even have a career. What a lot of people have are jobs, that's about it and that's fine too.

xrayj:

Funny @bold
Says Someone whose existence & importance depends on instagram likes?? Lol
You should fix your life first!
You are not an introvert, but someone battling with self esteem & personality disorder & I don't blame u. U already exposed yourself here, your comments are up there, because u were so much bullied when u were young isn't enough reason to start acting abnormal, u are depressed & it is clearly written all over your comments! U Need help! Guess u have not gotten any instagram likes today? I pity u! You can drop your Instagram account link here, so people can help u...Animal!

Omar09:


Keep balling, it seems I'd go your own way. More grace G.

Ishilove:

Excuse you?!?

oluwafemme129:
Bishop David Oyedepo, the senior pastor of Living Faith Church might have explained why he said anyone opposed to church opening will die.

In recent times, the Pastor has frowned at the fact that the government was allowing markets open, while totally shutting down churches across the nation due to the Coronavirus pandemic.

Speaking at the church’s headquarters in Otta, Ogun state this morning, Oyedepo declared that churches are now open and that anyone who is against this will die for it.

”The doors to churches across Nations are again declared opened this morning. Can I tell you this? Hunger is far more devastating than any virus that will ever visit the earth.

“It kills silently. There is no vaccine for hunger. There is no medical solution to hunger

“Hunger has no treatment than to have food and Spiritual famine is far more devastating.

“That is what the devil is looking for but he has failed. The church is back on its feet. Anyone who hates to see that dies for it.



“The church of Christ on the earth is liberated. Spiritual famine shall not have its way.

“Can I tell the world, no one has the answer to a problem like Jesus,” he said.

Lizzyangel:


3....Introduce her to Nairaland....she will get tired of their gist and will always want to check the latest news and also learn some things about life on Family section.



Trying to change her won't work out soon.
Best of lucks Sir.

samincredible44:
she noticed u are a simp that's why she's bullying u to stay.Ask yourself this question,why didn't she hurt her ex despite he cheated.

Supredible:
We started dating last year and the relationship was moving fine. I realize that anytime we have misunderstanding, especially serious ones.. She'll always threaten to hurt me spiritually. There was a time last year when we were just discussing, she said she's not ordinary like she has a sort of connection or belongs to the marine/water kingdom. I actually got the message but we were already dating then. I wouldn't have started any relationship with her if she has told me before we started dating. I didn't even know if she's saying the truth or trying to scare me . So she came to my side by Feb to spend some days and I mistaken stumbled upon her chat where she was sex chatting and sending nudes to her ex. I reacted immediately and she started begging. I was really hurt and disappointed. I later realize she still really love her ex despite the fact that the guy to maltreat her the guy even dates other ladies. She said we won't do it again but i find it difficult to forget because d sexchat was mad... Coupled with her nude. Few weeks later, she started complaining, nagging and saying a lot of annoying things then i reminded her about the sexchat i saw on her phone. Then she started saying why do i have to remind her of something that has happened in the past, do i think i can have sex with her and leave, she will "show me pepper" I will regret it, she will not forgive me, she will punish me.. Guys that cheated her before are now regretting and begging her depite the fact that she was the one that cheated and bleeped up.

I told her i didn't cheat her, she cheated on me and i'm not in anyway afraid of her, "anything wey she want make she do".

I actually love her and plan a future with her but with her cheating attitude and constant threat, i cant take it anymore.. i have planned to end the relationship for the sake of my sanity.

How many of you guys have been in this kind of relationship and how did you handle it? I need advice nairalanders, thanks.

SageMK:


Is the patriarchal society fair to women?

How do you expect boys to get justice when you can't even lend your voice out to the voiceless??

So don't twist the narrative. Fight rape itself.