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OF COURSE THERE IS GOD, AND JESUS, IN YOUR HEADS.

I PITY YOU WHEN ON THE LAST DAY YOU REALIZE YOU'VE BEEN SERVING THE FALSE GOD INSTEAD OF HAHN, THE TRUE GOD. BY THEN, IT'LL BE TOO LATE.

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Lol...pot calling kettle black..

You can never compare how guys take rejection to how ladies take it.
An average guy would carry his two L and find his square root when you reject him to chase another babe. Except off course he invested in you so muccchhhh financially,you turned him to an ATM and yet told him no.

But ladies?forget it
Once you reject them or don't give a positive response to their "what are we now?" question ,they will block you,unblock you,stalk you,block you,then tell the world you are a player,and turn motivational speakers.

If you have slept with them they will start accusing you of rape or threaten you with going to bathe naked by the stream and curse you.

Feminists,manginas,white knights et Al blame men for women's problem and blame men for men's problem still. Any burden a Man suffers is blamed on his fellow men (is it not a male that set the system?, they will say) or blamed on men masculinity.
Their narrative is that men hurt women but no one hurts men,they hurt themselves cw,,

Many are trying to propagate the ideology that misandry doesn't exist,and even if it does,it is caused by men.

Let's see how their obsession for victim playing will end. Heaven knows who will laugh last in the end.

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YESTERDAY THERE WAS NEWS OF A GIRL GETTING MOLESTED BY 5 MALE BESTIES ALL AT ONCE.
THERE ARE JUST VERY FEW MEN IN THIS WHOLE WIDE WORLD THAT CAN GENUINELY KEEP A WOMAN AS A FRIEND WITHOUT HARBOURING NEGATIVE FEELINGS. YOU KNOW WHAT I'M TALKING ABOUT.
PEOPLE OF DIFFERENT SEX CAN BE FRIENDS BUT THE "BEST FRIENDS" THING IS ABSOLUTE BULLSHIT. SOME OF THEM GO OVER THE LIMIT TO LAY TOGETHER, SHOWER AND DRESS TOGETHER. THE WOMEN INVOLVED ARE JUST LIKE SQUIRRELS FOOLING THEMSELVES WITH FOXES. THERE'S BEEN CASES OF BESTIES HAVING INTIMACY BEHIND THEIR PARTNERS. NOW IT'S RAPE.
THE WHOLE IDEA HAS ALWAYS BEEN BULLSHIT TO ME AND MAYBE THAT IS WHY I'VE ALWAYS BEEN OUT OF TROUBLES.

I'M JUST CHECKING THE THREAD TO SEE THAT THE POSTER MARRIED HER MAN BECAUSE SHE GOT PREGNANT BY MISTAKE WHILE THEY PLAYED BESTIES. LOL. .

my stance was not whether its right or wrong,my stance was that opposite sex besties do happen.

The thing with opposite sex besties is that the ladies enjoy free stuffs,protection,companionship,esteem boost while the men hope to enjoy sex and romance to make up for his time and money.
The guys usually start making moves,depending on how responsible the guy is. A responsible guy will start making advances for a relationship (even when he is not in love) with the lines "i have always loved you ever since but i was shy to make my intentions known" or "i have always loved you ever since but you were in a relationship" ,most girls will be fooled by this to believe that he actually harbored feelings for her and begin to date. The irresponsible guys will start flirting or trying to initiate sex in exchange for the companionship,free movie tickets,et Al she has enjoyed.
My advice to guys,if you are best friends with a lady don't allow yourself to be her white knight if you will feel cheated when she doesn't recipocrate with sex and romance.

Omar09:
It good for a man to be mgtow for a certain period of his life. And such man being wise would use that PERRIOD to discover himself.

exactly!I was correctling the notion of mgtow being bad or something.

You are right,at some point a man has to be mgtow. But it depends on how you define mgtow.
A decision to stay away from women in this gynocentric world or opening topics upon topic analysing women and their lifestyle and choices.
For the first decision I support it 100%, but for the second definition...hmmn

sexylassie2:
Stop being dramatic, you didn't have.

You are also broke.

proof of that? Or shut the hell up..

Don't derail this thread

UyaiIncomparabl:
You're exposing yourself to LovePeddler-mongers. Take heed, lest you be deceived. I wish you well, though.

ThatKING:
but last year, you yourself posted to be seeking a spouse on here.

And your requirements were obviously that of a gold digging leach with nothing to offer (I may not be totally right tho)

Let her do her search in peace, at least she has something to offer

Ladies shaming themselves..and later when you say they are their worst enemies they will dispute it.

allandutch:
Wetin Cuadrado no go see go right-back sef.
See, I really don't blame people that see redpill wrongly on this forum. I blame the people that started it. They made a mistake or mistakes. How they made it, I'm not sure.
A lot of redpillers on this forum sees it as something that gives them an edge their battle for supremacy with women. But Redpill isn't something you use to fight or shame women.
Redpill is an education, an insight into the clusterfūck of intergender relationship.
Redpill is like the NODs that Navy Seals' use, with it you see a lot better in the dark. Which in turn improves your maneuverability. With the knowledge, you understand the opposite sex better. In doing so, you make better decisions when dealing with them.
Now to the most important part, Redpill advocates that you, as a man, should always put yourself first. In doing so, you make decisions that serves you and makes your reality - which the woman is part of - better.
Redpill is a fantastic ideology but only when it's done right. And please stop mixing up Redpillers and MGTOWs. They're not the same.

I support this..

MGTOWs aren't misogynistic ,they just want to go their own way...this set of mgtow on nairaland see it as an avenue to be throwings shades on ladies and belittling men that don't agree with them as simps

Una no dey tire?

EjaikreTheViper:
why do some guys here claim they are mtgow abi redpill guys yet all their discussions center on women.if truly you have swallowed your so-called redpill then why can't you focus on the meaningful things in your life and leave women issues alone? why do you spend all your time online discussing women? i feel these so-called redpill guys are just cheap fraud, fake, hungry, broke and frustrated bunch of demented fellows screaming up and down like orangutans! deranged and cursed retar.ds! Imbec.iles of the highest order

If you say this about redpillers what will you say about NL gals ... Lol ,pot calling kettle black.
How many redpillers are you richer than?


One day you girls will push me to do exposures on this forum like casalinda

Omar09:
I discourage men from being casual friends with women. It's either, you are her boyfriend, fùcking her or you are related to her by blood. Anything other than that, you are on your own.

I am not saying it is right or wrong,I also don't support it,he said it doesn't happen,I was disproving him based on the fact it happens

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YOU FORGOT TO ADD THAT THEIR FRIENDSHIP IN THE FIRST PLACE WAS FORCED?
ONLY FEW DOCILE MEN TRULY WANT JUST FRIENDSHIP WITH WOMEN. MOST MEN JUST PLAY ALONG WITH THE FRIENDSHIP THING EITHER OUT OF PITY, OR FOR A CHANCE TO GET LAID IN THE FUTURE.

wrong!

You are implying that men can not have female friends he doesn't harbor thoughts of sleeping with later on or dating?that is not true

1)a lot of men can not do without women. Even if they don't want a committed relationship or marriage,women is one subject of they will never do without. Why?they always discuss women. Even the mgtow still discuss women, they always want to uncover the mystery behind women and analyse woman. No man's attention can ever be completely taken away from women affairs. If its not analysing how they are ashawos,or how they are gold diggers or how they are leeches,it must be something about women.

Even the ones that call other men SIMPs are always discussing women.

2)There are wretches, who are in their prime or have never been loved and pampered by a man on this forum that broke sham men even;
a)when their net worth ain't up to ten thousand (in naira)
b)the guys they are currently dating ain't fit to shine the shoes of the guys they broke sham.

crackkhaus:
1. You used him to test if you could get pregnant because you were diagnosed with cancer and ovarian cysts.

2. By some miracle you got pregnant and he told you not to keep it, which makes sense, considering that you told him you only wanted to test pregnancy was possible.

3. You came up with the idea of marriage because of the pregnancy, he said no, that was not the plan.

4. He finally decided to marry you, probably out of the goodwill of his heart just to avoid being a baby daddy.

5. Both of you are abusive to each other in the marriage and depending on who you ask, either of you will say the other person provoked it.

6. On top of all these problems, you still asked him to shoot into you again because you want a second child with the same man you literally hoodwinked into the first pregnancy and subsequent marriage.

7. He has told you to do whatever you want with other men since you claim to be very attractive and a good catch.



Well, my observation here is very simple - it's either you have concocted a very good story OR you have fungus growing in the space your brain ought to be in, since you still can't see what the problem is.

If a man marries a lady he doesn't love,she will suffer...that is why it is best for a man to act at will.
I have never seen a marriage that came about because the man was guilt-tripped or pressured into marrying a lady that is sweet.
A woman can manage a man that she doesn't love as long he treats her well,but no matter what a lady does for a man that doesn't love her, she will still shed tears

Sterope:
Lol. Traditional wife is so foreign. Women in most cultures in Nigeria had a job. These women were also expected to make the home right.

I am glad you used the tense "were". Women go to work now,have nannies at home,lesson teachers for kids. There are cases where your stance is true; when the lady couldn't secure a job so she manages the home while he goes to fend for the family or a stark illiterate man who makes such arrangements with his wife.

You may not know this, a woman can move mountains herself if she so desires exception include where it requires strength. It is down to biological differences. We actually had chilvary in the world, there would be less women talking about more rights.

one of the reasons I call your lots tasteless because you are ingrates.You just revealed the subtle agenda of feminism, you don't want equal rights but chivalry, to be treated as Queens

Wake me up where Chilvary include actual respect for women not some pseudo respect to keep women subdued.

you are not to determine what chivalry is. Your understanding of chivalry is your business. A man who saves a lady in distress doesn't respect her?men that give up their seats for ladies don't respect them? Men that run into burning houses to save their ladies want them subdued? Men that write risk writing exams for ladies don't respect them?
If you have never being privileged to be loved and taken care of by a man ask ladies who have been.
Ingrates!

I don't give masculinity a bad name, I am not responsible for that. I appreciate the gender differences. However, it doesn't stop me from calling out actions that harm the other gender on the umbrella blanket of 'masculinity'.

no one gives a rat ass of what you call masculinity. So don't bother me for calling naija ladies tasteless dimers. We both have rights to our opinions.

I really don't know what the problem is though, you used a very derogatory word on Nigerian women now you are trying to flip it on me. There are many Nigerian women that are ready to become traditional wives anyways. Find one and marry..

I tried to draw a margin between misogyny and having a traditional wife. You seem to call our traditional wives doormats. A doormat is the wife of a wicked or terrible man,you had to drag masculinity into it.
There are couples who live that way (traditional roles ) and happy... Good people who genuinely love each other are what makes a good home(whether traditional way or "woke" way)

Sterope:
I don't know of that woman that wants her husband to respect her as another adult but who would prefer a doormat for her brothers. Example, is me. My brothers don't want a doormat and their masculinity is not threatened because of fear of treating another human being with respect, kindness and understanding.

where did the issue of doormat or disrespect come from in our conversation? Its obvious you don't know what a traditional wife is.
Men have moved mountains and sacrificed their lives for traditional women. If you can't differentiate between doornar and not a traditional wife then I can't proceed with this conversation.

You ladies give masculinity a bad name always,you always omit chivalry from masculinity and define it in terms of oppressing women

lenghtinny:
Oh! Life’s all about the free sex now.....

You are not to decide what life should be for me. You know no shit about me. You don't know if I have a career and/or business I focus my energy on. You don't know what I do when I log out,so hush your bouche.

f na whitey Dey share puna up and down, she’s liberal but if na naija or black babe, she’s loose ( you people love to call it ashawo).

point out where I have called a girl ashawo on this forum before or called naija girls ashawo before. Else,shut your gob

I still don’t get how you hail the white babes yet bash the black babes for the same thing.

It’s called hypocrisy....

you have no prove for this so kindly shut up

veykey:
Until those "dope" babes frustrate you especially if they are citizens. The best thing is finding someone good.

aside the court of law(due to divorce or child support) they can't treat you wrongly. You don't have to spend a kobo on them,enjoy free sex because they are liberal (you can go a whole year without paying ashawo).

Just don't get them pregnant,or marry them, you are safe

starrygal:
That is why the women when they get to the states treat u like thrash. cos even u the man become tasteless to them.

wailer,you can go hit your head on a tree..


I stand by my words that most naija girls are tasteles. Come and beat me for it

Sterope:
You have a mother and sisters, don't you? Are they in Nigeria?

oh please stop using the you-have-mothers-and-sisters card for me.

I can't marry someone like my sister,the honest truth.

Just like how you ladies want to marry as woke women who is equal to men but you want your sons to marry traditional women.
I will love someone else to marry my sister but not myself(if I were not her brother)

jumpampass:
Hello my fellow nairalanders, I will just make this short and simple because time no too dey. I have been dating this girl since the last quarter of 2018 and all was going well. Though it was a long distance relationship but I do travel down to her place to check on her each time we are in need of each other, you know. I bought her gifts and send her some money and airtime of which i can afford. This girl will say she loves me, and even made promises that she will never leave me no matter what!!. Hmmm, my people, I'm so in love with this babe oo. I can't go a day without reaching out to her on phone or send her message. Infact, I can say 2019 was my sweetest year of being in a relationship with someone because I'm so in love with her. I even redeployed to her state of residence so that we can be together and get to know each other better because I have made up my mind that I will marry this babe no matter what.

To cut the long story short, ever since I have redeployed to her state of residence, and told her that I'm around that she can come visit me in my lodge, since that day babe have changed attitude oo. Sometimes I will call her she won't pick and even if she picked na soso cold she go dey sound on top phone. Replying me like say I dey force words out of her mouth. This babe sounds like she wasn't even happy that I relocated just to be with her at all and doesn't even ask about how my affairs has been going, I asked her why is the cold attitude but she won't say it and insisted there is nothing to talk about untill we both meet. So I made an arrangement on how we are gonna meet and discuss the issue on why she's been so like that towards me, but babe will not show up and will find excuse to cancel our meeting date. She hardly stay more than 1 min to talk to me on phone, even doe na my credit I dey use oo. She can go a week without talking to me, or texting. So I decided to lock up and see what happens, can u believe this bae no send me for like one month....she frustrated me well well. But I no fit write all, na him make me decide to write out the most important real happenings.

Fast forward to last month, due to the love I have for this gurl. I still carry my money buy credit call this babe. You can't imagine how this babe dey answer me on phone like I'm a piece of shit. So, I persuaded her to tell me what's my offense and what is making her to ghost me all of a sudden. But she didn't say anything meaningful...so after much persuading, she now said that she enter Alfa and pastor doormot go pray over the relationship between me and her then, the pastor come see vision say we no go last. Mehhen that talk vex me die!, Because how could she not tell me that for the past three months of drama, instead she decided to ghost me. Instantly, I don code say Im about to lose this gurl, but when man is in love .... Shey my people understand naw. Without wasting time, I come pour out plenty talk for her head. Tell her how much I care and love her, I even promise her marriage in which I actually meant it. I sha tell her that there is nothing prayer can not do say make we unite pray against the bad vision. She apologized and promised me not to go back to those pastors again and also not to leave me , that she will always be mine. See my people promises wey she make plenty Jarreee!!. No time to dey talk am. So that night, I accepted her back and the love wantintin restarted again naw. But as guy man,
I use my brain this time. I wanted to know if this gurl truly loves me or not...so I decided to create another WhatsApp account and was chatting my bae... within five days of toasting her she gree for the stranger and start talking about love and settling down with a total stranger she never see oooh.!!!! My people, in a nutshell. I don dey date my babe again oo, a very romantic online dating faaa. But with different Identity, chaiii!!! I was so heartbroken and sad. I could not explain how bad I felt when she told the new strange guy which she has never met in her life how much more she doesn't want to ever love me again. She denied me totally. Instantly, she has changed towards the real me, would ignore my messages and calls. But gives her full attention to a stranger and even telling him her whole life history and how she got pregnant for one fuckboy and lost the baby. Imagine gurl wey dey form virgin for me the first day we bleeped. As a coded guyman naw, I decided to play along and also I make sure she fall for me finally. Right now she's so emotional and in love with me the stranger with fake identity..lolzzz...

we have decided to meet each other by next month sha....na there I go show face disgrace am... to be continued

propose to her,see her family,fix a date for traditional wedding.

Turn her into a intimacy gadget for yourself (she will not mind as long there is a ring in her finger) then ghost her

Why should a sane guy given the golden opportunity to travel to the states and meet dope babes over there still date this tasteless dimers?

ProphetofOdin:
Guys!! Please I will try to be very brief so that I don't waste much of your time. So I met this pretty girl during the lockdown around my neighbourhood, I asked her out and she accept.
While getting to know each other she told me she's in a relationship with a guy(which I confirm myself cos the guy always calls) and I told her I am in a serious relationship too, so it basically a fling for both of us.
So fast forward to Sunday she called me that she's coming to my house which I oblige. Thinking she will leave in the evening, but she decides to sleep over, Monday morning I told her I'm going to work, "so aunty if you're leaving just padlock the outside gate and go" only for me to come back from work and meet her, I was cool and didn't say anything and went to the fridge to get some stuff and fix us what to eat(since she's been here she doesn't cook I do all of the cooking even when I get back from work tired and she will sit down confidently and eat). The same thing still repeated itself on Tuesday up until today.
I've done everything on the play boy book to make this babe leave but none is working.
She won't even allow me touch the remote to watch news just because she's watching some stupid zee world movie.
she won't cook, since Sunday she's been here I would still be the one that will get back from work and fix us something to eat.
She even refuse us having sex, which is actually not a big deal for me though.
I have tried to ignore her, and codedly tell her to leave but it's not working.My main chick is becoming suspicious and I know she might just give me a surprise visit anytime soon, and I'm not ready for her drama.

Abeg wetin make I do biko nu......

WTF! you have an issue telling a lady to leave your house?

Filomena:
There's this guy I met in school and there has been this connection between us. We have gradually become friends. I find myself staring at him most of the time and when he tries to catch me, I hide my face. I have also observed that he stares at me a lot too and smiles and then says hey to me.

We had a small talk in school too. I didn't know he stayed in campus too so one night when I was going out to read, I saw him, like I couldn't believe it because I thought I was not going to see him again after they declared the two weeks strike, till it was called off. So I was really shocked and happy when I saw him. Then he hugged me and I hugged him too and held him tight.

So he then asked if this was my room and I told him yes. He told me he just escorted his friend that just finished cooking for him. I felt bad hearing that because I felt they had something more. So he then asked me which church I'd be attending the following day, I told him and he said okay and told me good night. He didnt even ask for my phone number. I wonder why he didnt.

The other day he just saw me and didn't talk to me and i felt bad for that. So after that day I saw him and he was just busy staring at me and smiling and I wasn't really in the mood for that but I still stared back. He then told me hey and passed. He was with his friend and I greeted him too and passed.

So the last day I saw him, I was coming back from church and was hoping I'd see him again one last time before I travelled. Lo and behold, I saw him coming towards me with some of his friends. He then hugged me and we had a small chat. I was still hoping that he'd collect my number, still he didnt..

I dont know if he wants to have something with me or not since he's yet to ask for my number..

Please guys I need your thought on this cuz I really want to go into a relationship with him..
I want to know if he likes me or bidding his time or just playing around.

Thanks.

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It will end in tears..

Your dad sent you to school,instead of reading you are doing looking contest with the guy.

I hope we will not hear " I am a single mom looking for love.." in years to come as a result of this.


My dear move on from him and read your books. When a man truly loves you no sooth saying has to say it,he will chase you like your shadow

Omar09:
Even when you built the house yourself without her contributions ni?

I will work away...that is the price I will have to pay for marrying a nutjob.
by the way,I don't believe in moving in with a wife in a built(not rented) house. If divorce occurs I have to let her go with it. But if it were paid for annually,then I may lose just a year's rent at most

But If I am foolish enough to move in with my wife to a self owned house, then it is my cross to bear.

Anything that happens to a man during and after marriage is always his fault because he did the proposing(the Lady didn't). There is no much pressure of men to marry so why settle for a bad woman when the society doesn't trouble you to marry?
When a woman marries a bad man I always believe it is not her fault because the society puts pressure on them to marry who is available. But for a man?there is no reason to marry a bad woman since "time " is on your side,and if you do,live with the repercussions!

instinct57vm:
I have a female friend who got married last year October precisely.

Fast forward to March this year the Mother In Law came to stay with the couple in a bid to visit her hospital within the couple’s area for medical checkup, reason being that she stays a bit farther away in the same state.

Upon her Mother in law’s arrival, she came with my friend’s husband brother accompanied by his girlfriend who all planned staying and eventually stayed without prior notice.

My friend(the lady) is a banker and was only informed casually by her husband while she was at work on the day of their arrival. His excuse was the mother called impromptu about the visit which I don’t think is bad anyway.

These couple stay in a three bedroom apartment and only one room has bed in it. This is the room the couple sleep.

The first two days of the mother inlaw, brother and brother’s girlfriend arrival, the couple had to sleep in the living room while the mother in law and the brother in law’s girlfriend slept in the couple’s room.

As days goes by, the husband who is self employed suggested the the rest of them will handle cooking in the house due to the wife’s tight schedule as per banking job in Lagos.

Part of the consequence of their visit is that they have overthrown the kitchen and like most ladies my friend wasn’t cool with this but tried to keep her cool.

The lady(my friend) became curious and asked the husband to clarify if the mother in law and co intends to stay with them permanently. The husband subsequently flared up with the allegations that his wife doesn’t want his people around. This happened to be the third time his wife asked this question in the space of two weeks.

One thing led to the other on the third time of asking this question my friends husband beat her up and chased her out of the house while the mother stood and watched without interfering.

Efforts to reconcile has proved abortive as the husband refused to let her in again and categorically said to my friend’s dad he isn’t interested in the marriage anymore. The mother in law refused to interfere.

PS: The hubby’s mother is a separated single mother.
PS: My friend and her hubby both contributed to pay the rent
PS: The hubby’s father is not in support of all the happenings and all efforts to reach his son proved abortive since the misunderstanding. He wouldn’t answer his dad’s calls.

What are your opinions about this issue? Thank you.

We know its you and not your friend...

Get a good lawyer, a man has no right to beat you that way and also throw you out of the house.
Don't understand why at the slightest provocation a man chases his wife out of the house. Even if she didn't pay a dime in the rent it is wrong.
If you are tired of the worst of all women you are to file for a divorce.


That is why I wouldn't encourage any lady to contribute to rent because at the slightest of provocation he will bark "get out of my house".

If my wife annoys me I will leave the house for her to be alone,move on with my life and leave her alone in that marriage and house.

fattprince:
If I talk they will say I'm simping. I'm sure they are making Lamanii regret sharing the story already. What happened to her sister could happen to any one. It was a mistake that happened it didn't change anything from her personality.

that is the latest trend on NL. When your fellow man doesn't agree with you he callshim a simp. When a lady doesn't agree with you she calls you a misogynist

Fabuloski:
I know it's a choice, I am not forcing any options on anybody.

However, this rampant act of demeaning uninterested guys is terrible, I mean they are only trying to make sure they won't be a second priority for the rest of their life.

Any guy who is down for that though can easily make a choice without anyone questioning his decision just like the guy rejecting this shouldn't also be condemned.
Thanks

no one demeaned any uninterested guy. Rather its uninterested guys and their cohorts that demean the Op for her choices and convince her into narrowing her choices because of the warped ideology