funmisticqueen2:
polygamy,

The ability to get away with infidelity.

The ability to get away with domestic violence, rape and sexual abuse

The ability to walk away from a pregnancy he helped create and deny fatherhood without consequences

funmisticqueen2:
keep holding on to your privilege oga.

Ariza:
Honestly when I read that piece, I was confused and comments didn't help matters either. All those who commented both male and female are right. Upon more meditation I realized the following :
1) Hasty Generalization : It's funny how the poster put everyone in a box and conclude what gender hurt which gender. When the truth is both genders hurt each other.Some Men aren't trained to be dictators, abrasive, abusers or manipulators like the writer poised.Like you said, you weren't brought up that way, same as my brothers.Same way some women aren't trained to be dependent or overly docile.The society isn't as harsh as it is painted because with every passing generation human relations gets more interactive, persuasive and fairer. Yes there's room for improvement but then we should dwell on old narratives like nothing changed.

2) The victim Card: I couldn't help but notice how the writer spent 99.9% of his article to condemn Men,'s actions but spared only four or three line to point out women's errors. And i ask, what/is life 'all' fair to Men? Who spends his life running here and there just to make life better for the opposite sex? Who goes to war to defend the territory? , who gets killed trying to protect another life? Who labours, tilled the ground, get his hands stained only to feed another being with hands and legs too? Who does odd jobs to cater for the family only to be rewarded with stipends in his old age because he lost his children's love to the mother who is always available.? Who the children judge inappropriately and condemns because he wasn't there to show He is a good man contrary to what the mother fed them? The list goes on and on... Men are also victims of society same as women But we downplay what men suffer because 'we' have been made to believe that Men are strong and infallible.Why do women have the right to cry out but Men don't? Why do people listen more when woman speak but Men are expected to die in silence?. Once again the society wasn't /isn't fair to both genders.


3) The choice : The beauty of it all is, we have the chance to choose. In our world today, there are lots of opportunities to choose from. If any woman desire freedom, She can have it. However it will be very foolish and vain of her to expect benefits patriarchy offers.She shouldn't expect to be fend for, fought for, or be looked out for.
If any Man wants freedom, he shouldn't expect benefits patriarchy offers either. He shouldn't expect to be nurtured, cared for or supported. Both Man and Woman would be PARTNERS of equal responsibilities and gains.


In Conclusion, Men and Women should know that they aren't created the same way neither are they created to be competitors but to complement one another. Both genders should learn to bring their strengths and weaknesses together and endeavour to make themselves better.

stanliwise:
Keep calm, It is not still the worst type of exploitation in the world.

vincentjk:

My friend lives with one at school. She does all the cooking and washing and every night correct knacking is sure for him, person pikin o imagine a small girl that her poor parent sent to school

Jasonjay101:
Please I'm new here on this platform and I just want some advice to clear my mind.

Let me just go straight to the point. My girl that we've been dating for a year plus now just told me a week ago that she lived a couple's life with her ex back in school right from when she entered 300l (4yrs course) and the guy 400l (5yrs course) and I've not been able to get over it.

It happened a week ago, we were together and she saw a post of her ex engagement to his current girlfriend and she started feeling bad, so I asked her what happened and a little bit angry with her thinking maybe she was not over her ex yet, she told me she has gotten over him but she just remembered her past so I try to console her to let go and if there's something she hasn't told me yet about her past that is still eating her up she can tell me. because before now we've talked about a lot of things about our past and we've try to forgive each other and let the past be in the past.
She had told me it was this only guy she had dated and it was the same guy that disvirgined her, I was not bothered about that because I was not a virgin either. She told me she has moved on even before I came and she stayed for close to a year to heal up and all through this time I was asking her out but she never said yes and never told me she was going through heart break.
Now, it's a year and few months into our relationship, she's been a very good girl, supportive and hard working. And now she just told me this, coupled with some lies she has used to cover it up in some of our previous conversations about her school life.
I'm not perfect either and I've had my past which I have told her. I never lived a couples life back in school and it was only a girl I've also had anything sexual relationship to do with.
Why am emotionally down now is because I know what it is like to live a couples life in school, I never lived as one but I know of people that lived as such in school and I know what happens.
Now I don't know if I can forget about this and we move on. I love this girl so much and she has shown to also love me as much and I've tried to forget about what happened but most times when i see her now I tend to always remember and it eats me up.
Do you guys think I can forget about this?

Davash222:
Crime no good, for real.. See what they settled for with 6K..
With 6K, you'll get fresh and neat girls with succulent breasts and nyash for even two nights!
Cos they're criminals, they have no choice.

Lordsonn:
Greetings to you all. I want to go straight to the point. I opened this account because of my marital problems.

From the day I met my wife, she was after marriage. In less than two weeks of meeting her, she started pressurizing me to meet her family members which I succumbed to.

These are what she told me at the beginning of the relationship:

1) She had HND from Kaduna Polytechnics
2) She has Diploma in Computer Science
3) She is a professional cake baker
4) She was three months pregnant
5) That she was 27 years

My discoveries after marriage:

1) She doesn’t have any HND, infact no good WAEC result
2) She cannot even connect laptop to printer and print. She don’t know much about computer at all.
3) She doesn’t know how to bake cake. I discovered that the cake I asked her to bake for me, she gave the contract to her friend.
4) She was never pregnant. She had fibroid and that made her tummy big
5) She was 33 years.

NOTE: the reasons why I believed all she told me at the beginning was because she was a prophetess in her church. She speaks in tongues and prophesy many times and most of the prophecies came to pass.

I was even surprised that in less than two weeks of our relationship, she made move for sex and we started having sex. I did not even think of pre-marital sex because I thought she was a holy woman.

The problems after marriage: several people began to beg me to forgive her and continue with the marriage. I find it difficult but she was still living in my house. I was just being forced my her family and her family members persuaded some of my family members to beg me too. I tried to love her but hatred for her was just building in my heart.

The fibroid surgery was successfully done and she got pregnant and gave birth to a baby boy. I thought the coming of the child may make me to forgive her but I could not recover from her betrayal. I even hate her more.

She wrote WAEC last session and got nine credits but the memory of her betrayal is giving me a lot of psychological trauma. I love an educated woman and cannot see myself glued to an illiterate woman in the name of marriage.

Major problems that made me sent her out:

1) She refused to go to my church. She always want to go to her church and even want me to join her there which I refused.
2) She doesn’t like education at all. She hate going to school and will never carry book to read.
3) Anytime I have disagreement with her, she will call her elder brother. And they will come and talk to me, sometimes in a very condescending manner
4) She is not submissive, very arrogant and talks with anger, authoritatively.
5) She is a societal woman, she loves joining several associations of women and be going to meetings every sunday which I don't like.
6) She value clothes more than human being. She can use any money from the family purse to buy Hollandis, lase, George etc just to dress to her church for show off. I am introvert but she is extremely extrovert.

I sent her out of my house three weeks ago. She is trying to come back in the disguise that she doesn’t want her child to be only one, that it will make the child suffer in the future but I told her I cannot allow her to my house again. I love my little child and I cannot live with such a woman who is full of lies and pretense. I just have hatred for such kind of people.

What do you think I should do?

Eulalia:



Oh... My goodness... I've even forgotten you called me out somewhere cos i don't keep record of wrongs. That's in the past now. I don't hold it against you. Even casalinda.l is forgiven.
Let bygones be bygones. Better days ahead is all I pray for everyone.

Shalom.

ProfDview1:
There is this lady I like so much, even my friends know that I like her so much and will love to spend the rest of my life with her.

One day, I saw her with my friend and I later asked her why she is so close to my friend. She said they are dating each other, that she cannot marry me simply because I am tailor.

My friend is a yahoo boy, he doesn't have any work. The only way he eats is via internet scam. To be honest I was so pained, moreover she is not the only lady to have done this to me. Have met several ladies that told me that they can't marry a tailor and they end up dating yahoo Boys for my street.

They always tell me to leave my tailoring job and go hustle like my frnds to make cool money.

Guys, I am tired.. Should I leave the tailoring job and join my friends to do the yahoo stuff?

Girls keep rejecting me up and down and I am fed up.

Pls advise me

Shibaraba:

Never fight with pigs. You and the pig gets dirty and the pig likes it. The best way to know a mad person on the street is how they talk to themselves . Don't let this person get to you. Only a rabid dog foams for nothing. Just hit the report button and he will be banned. This is probably his third account I got banned and I have never replied him once. Do likewise.

PS if anyone insult you na him go first read am. Na himself he insult be that because dem no kuku know you. Even the so called monikers I least expected enter you. No worry. At least you get watery soup. Thank God for that. Have a lovely day

Casalindal:
Why do MOD always quick in blocking me! Specially when I got some tea.... it okay you guys should keep it up. Anyways thanks Seun for stepping in

Casalindal:
To think someone could subject a pregnant woman into this stress. Why are human so ungrateful? Someone who doesn’t know you from Adam sent you her hard earn money and all you could do after seeing the alert is to call her fake. Wow I’m done with human

ProfDview1:


Ur father Shameless old man.. Wayray

CAPSLOCKED:


THESE DETAILS ARE IRRELEVANT. BUT WE KNOW THE FORMAT.
YOU GET PM'S AND TAKE IT FROM THERE.. SHARP!

CAPSLOCKED:


LOL, FROM THE WAY SHE'S BEEN ATTACKING THIS THREAD SHE DEFINITELY GOT THE CRUMBS. MAYBE SHE HAS MADE ONE DRUM OF WATERY SOUP TO LAST THE COMING MONTHS, I DON'T KNOW.
THEN SUCH PEOPLE WILL COME ONLINE TO TELL A HUSTLING YOUNG MAN WHO SEES MORE THAN TIMES 3 THE NATIONAL MINIMUM WAGE EVERY MONTH THAT HE'S BROKE. LOL.

Eulalia:


Hmm...you have bitten more than you can chew.

Shameless tale bearer.

Dickson44:
It was after 2 days of having unprotected sex, my pen*s started paining me. I went to the pharmacy and got ciprotab. This was administered to me after I told the pharmacist that my pen*s pains me during urination. This is the 4th day since I got the drugs. I just found that I have a penile discharge. Please, what could this be and how do I curb and get rid of it. I I'm scared of using the toilet as the pain is still there. Thanks for your assistance

Allsingles:


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funmisticqueen2:
Ta!!

Actually this is my thought process, and it is one of the reasons I bash men.


The reason why there are less single fathers than mothers is because of the stupid thing men do of shipping their children to his parents. Never taking responsibility for their actions.

As if he will die if he changes a diaper or assist his child with assignment. That's why I wrote all those years ago not to allow anyone to guilt you into being a single mom as a woman.

Just dump the child at the father's house and live your life

pasumaWONDER:
senseless

you want to earn little bucks online like i do....check my signature for info

Drince:
Should we call this innovative or what?
It looks like stupidity

pasumaWONDER:
senseless

you want to earn little bucks online like i do....check my signature for info

Omar09:


Women love live a life of illusion and this right here will distort the connection. It's one thing for women to live a life of illusion, but appalling for a man who is a logical being to also join in the illusion all in the name of love.

Right there sir, you just spoke word.

Liliantalks:
How true this ? well to me , very true



https://mobile.twitter.com/Deola__Adereti/status/1252567725693702144

MrBrownJay1:


i think the main issue is that most single mothers in Nigeria are looked down upon, which is understandable due to the Nigerian society outlook on SM... so MEN shouldnt be blamed for that, "Nigerian society" should...

Kingdavidoduse:
I have no iota of respect for those who derive pleasure in shaming single mothers, its very shameful and sad to find "Women" as the convener of this shaming venture.

A lady once wrote "Women raised by single mothers do not turn out well in life." I find this particular comment very disturbing because it shows how narrow minded and myopic people are, how far patriarchy has dominated our society and I understood better why Nigeria is where she is today.

SEE MORE DETAILS: https://www.kingsmedia.com.ng/2020/04/why-single-mothers-should-be-celebrated.html