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CandyOps:
Lol who go lose? I lose nothing if that happens

Benee1000:
For guys interested in marriage or long term relationships with religious ladies, please beware of the age long trap of their promise to fulfill all your sexual desires UNTIL after marriage.
Especially the ones who claim to love you but totally avoid being sexual with you with the excuse that sex before marriage is sin.

Do not fall for this seemingly upright but ultimately destructive trap, whether she's a virgin or not.

A woman's sexuality is more important than her religious beliefs when it comes to relationship & marriage.
Females are emotional beings as much as they're sexual beings, and religion doesn't change

A lady is a female first, before her religious beliefs.

Let me explain:

A lady who genuinely desires & is attracted to a man cannot help herself from being sexual with him, whether she's religious or not.
This genuine desire and attraction predisposes her to be in the feminine and automatically, sexual towards him.
They are incapable of controlling their lust for the man they desire, and desire, is an emotion, something felt and not intentional nor negotiated.

Have you ever wondered why sex with a lady in a highly emotional state (after a quarel, aka make up sex, or when she's excited, scared, sad, drunk, high, lonely etc.) is often very intense and pleasurable for her?

It's because females require emotions to enjoy sex .
And Sex is directly proportional to a woman's emotions.
That is, the more emotional she is, the more sexual she becomes.
The more logical or less emotional she Is, the less sexual she becomes.
The more emotionally expressive a lady is, the more sexually expressive she is during sex (legends know this).

Emotions opens up a woman sexually.
When her emotions are high, sex is not far away.
This is why the easiest way to sleep with a lady is to make her emotional.
And If they're already sexually attracted to a man, they will seek an emotional connection with him.

Since desire is an emotion, and emotions opens up a woman sexually, it means a lady will hardly be able to control herself from being sexual with a man she genuinely desires because desire makes her emotional, and emotions makes her sexual.

She could be a cold blooded nun to every other guy but burns hot for the man she's attracted to.
She may withhold sex for religious reasons but cannot control being sexual or romantic with him, and unless such a man can control himself, it's only a matter of time before sex happens.

This means that the burden of keeping a 'no sex before marriage relationship' rests on the man rather than the woman.
Because she already wants it, and can't control her emotions.

Females are called weaker vessels in the Bible not because they're physically weaker than men (women can be as strong as men physically. If woman don gather mind fight you before, you will confirm ).

They're called weaker vessels because they can't control their emotions like men.

Secondly:
Desire cannot be negotiated or bought. That is, If a lady doesn't sexually desire a man, she simply doesn't, and therefore cannot emotionally bond with him because there's no emotional attachment in obligatory sex.

When a lady has sex with a man she sexually desires, there's always a level of emotional fulfilment in her, and attachment to that man.
The strength of this attachment is strongest for the man who disvirgins her and the man who can give her earth shattering orgasms. They don't easily break up and forget this categories of men.
This is the reason most married women cheat, especially with their ex. They're still emotionally attached to him.

However, the more sexual partners a lady has had, the weaker the strength of this emotional attachment, and the lesser her chances of bonding emotionally with her next sexual partner irrespective of her sexual attraction for him.

A lady who has had several sexual partners will hardly bond emotionally with any man, and is considered too damaged for marriage.
This is why it is important to vet a lady's past, irrespective of her sexual attraction for you.

A lady who cannot attach to you emotionally is not a lady you want to get married to. Neither your money nor her religion can keep her loyal in such union.

To a lady, sex with a man she sexually desires is at opposite ends to the one she does out of obligation.
The Former indulges her emotions, as well as her sexual fantasies, and fetishes, which easily takes her to the promised land (orgasm). There's no stress on the man as just caressing her, or even just hearing his voice or seeing him, with few minutes of penetration, is enough to open her flood gates (2mins women ). It's how she feels emotionally about him that really matters.

The latter, (obligational sex) is akin to prostitution and that man go drill her hole taya before him see water, if he sees at all, no matter the size of his drilling rig .
This is because it involves little to no emotions from her. She's doing it as her own duty in a business transaction. To get money or financial security from the man in return for the use of her coochie to satisfy himself.
Her own pleasure doesn't matter in a transactional sex.

This is why the sex an olosho gives to clients is very different from the one she does with her boyfriend she loves and is sexually attracted to.
The sex with clients is considered stressful work for her and has to be paid for, after which, she then reaches out to her boyfriend when she wants to rest, feel feminine, and to enjoy the same sex she's trying to rest from, for free! and you wonder, is it not the same sex? No, it's not.

For a female, sex borne out of desire (validational) is for her, to please herself, while sex due to obligation (transactional) is for the man, to please the man and get his resources in return.

Which one do you think you will enjoy more? The sex you beg or pay for and she agrees to so that peace will reign, barely partakes in and simply lies down like a bag of beans while you pound away with a handy bottle of lubricant as drilling mud ,
or the one she looks forward to, begs you for and brings her A game so she can satisfy her sexual cravings with multiple orgasms?

The first is just like masturbating, but with a real person. The sex is like eating food to cure hunger but didn't savour the meal.

For the second, the pride, pleasure and satisfaction when a man cums after he has made the lady orgasm is on another level.
You feel like a king, the lady adores you and she feels like a Queen. You both satisfied your hunger, savoured the meal, and look forward to the next meal.

If you are made to wait for sex, you will eventually discover the sex was never worth the wait.
Because what you get at best after that wedding is obligatory sex, and after she gives birth to the first child, she will fulfil it only sparingly, because no woman really enjoys obligated sex, and that child is insurance of her financial security from you, while your obligation to provide as a man increases with each new birth.

Ever heard of women having sex time table for their husbands? This is the origin, obligation, void of desire.
Desire can not be negotiated, it is spontaneous.

Moreover, since there's no emotional attachment in obligatory sex, the day a man defaults on his own part of the deal (financial provision), or when she considers it insufficient, that is the day he loses his value and respect to her, including her loyalty to him.
She may not show it immediately, but with time, nagging, disrespect, disregard, sex deprivation and even cheating will creep into that marriage. Peace of mind will be very far from him.
She may even elope with his children.
That is If she doesn't kill him so she can inherit his resources and go be with the man she really desires.

So beware guys. If a lady demands that you must wait until after marriage for her to become sexual with you, abort mission.
Her marriage demand is not borne out of righteousness but rather a need for the security of your resources.
She's codedly offering sex in exchange for the resources that comes with your commitment.
Marrying such a lady is like marrying a prostitute, albeit a religious or sexually disciplined one, with you as the only customer.

Prostitution isn't about having multiple sexual partners, but wanting to be rewarded for sex.
It is a mindset. There's just public & private sector.
A lady who easily sleeps around (a slut), just lacks sexual discipline, she may or may not be a prostitute.
A man can marry a godly virgin, who is a prostitute to him.

Majority of marriages are just legal / institutionalized prostitution.
The moment the husband faces financial crisis, the wife locks up her shop for security reasons (financial security ).
No emotional attachment, no sentiment.

If you think a womans demand for no sex before marriage in a relationship is borne out righteousness, playfully ask her if she tells soft lies to gain favours or get out of trouble once in a while (All women do this whether religious or not. It's a preinstalled software in their OS ).
If she smiles and tries to explain why, ask her what then is the difference between lying and extra-marital sex if both of them are sin and why she considers one more seriously than the other? and watch her babble without a logical answer.

However, this is the reason.
Marriage in itself, has little to do with love, it's all about resources.
To make a man accountable for a woman and her offspring.
While this is necessary as a woman needs resources to properly cater for her offspring, a man don't need to be married to a lady to experience her love and sexual side.
That sexual side of her comes naturally when she meets a man she's genuinely attracted to.

Marriage doesn't make a woman automatically sexual towards a man.

Judolisco:
If he plays his card very well, he'll be d next president of the country

NzogbuNzogbu:
You see obi black don dey useful here

He fit even follow Dem reach mortuary from there

pansophist:
Generally speaking, If a young woman is not a virgin and has never being married, then your default assumption is that she is promiscuous. This may not be true twenty years ago. I'm referring to now. Today. 21st century.


If for example a promiscuous woman have profiled you as husband material, and start forming good girl for you, then time will expose her if you sheathe your sword and observe.

By sheathing your sword, I mean that you should come off as someone that is completely naive in the game. If they smell your naivety, then they become emboldened and drop the nail, hammer and cross you'll crucify her with

Generally speaking, Promiscuous ladies have one thing in common, and it's their "expertise" when dealing with men. Like specialist, you can always feel the vibe of their over-experience behaviour in every interaction.

You'll notice lots of inconsistencies in her words in topics relating to sex, since she is trying to maintain her good girl image. Sexual topics doesn't shy her and she has a point in sexual matters that can defended like it's her thesis.

Ask her how long a man should last, or what constitute good sex. This question is something a woman that is still sexually pure will not be able to answer and even if she does, her points will be shaky.

Interaction with her will appear well-doctored, lacks originality, spontaneity, filled with games and open-ended route to escape being held accountable in case you detect a lie.

If lying comes naturally to her, then the chance is very high that she is promiscuous. Men lie to create good image of themselves, while women lie to fake a good image.

Also expect lots of questions concerning your sexual prowess, and to know your opinion of what you think about promiscuous women. Because she wants to know which colour, length, and thickness of nail you'll hammer her with if you find out about her lifestyle.

Also watch her close friends. If they are promiscuous, then she is promiscuous. Also observe where she catches fun. If her idea of fun is clubbing constantly, and thirst trapping via revealing clothes, then also a hint.

If she is also secretive with her phone with password everywhere, that's also a hint. Promiscuity is like drugs, you have to be banged steady. So her phone will be more secured than the white house in the US.

Although many are smart. They will delete any clue during visits, or come with a different phone, so the phone password thingy might be stale. You can't catch some through that method.

But one thing that will never fail you is patience. Just wait, and observe. An unrighteous person trying to appear righteous will nail themselves with time. Time is something humans can't fight against, and exposes everyone and everything.

Also see if she has a very high taste, and compare if her income can afford it. If she dresses flashy with expensive gadget, while she obviously doesn't work or/and comes from a wealthy home, then her honeypot was the payment.

Lemme stop here. This should help.

MenGoingThereWay:
No matter how this ladies call men dogs it still doesn't change the fact that ladies cheat more than men.

My own experience is that most of the girls I have nice time with all have boyfriends or someone they are serious with. It's so bad that they tell me about their relationship issues and I get to advise them after we have had rounds of Sex. Some even have 3 guys they claim to be serious with, some even tell me about pastors and married men who toast them or who they had unplanned Sex with and how there bf is suspecting them.

These girls keep making it difficult for me to trust ladies with their cheating and selfish ways. They don't feel a single remorse when in the act till they are caught. One was riding me and a call from her boyfriend came in and she immediately put her hands on my neck, giving me the eye sign to stop my thrusting. These babe spoke to her boyfriend as if she wasn't doing anything and even told him she loves him and after the call she aggressively rode me while she had this evil grin. I had a lot of thoughts run through my head at that moment.

The second instance, I was with this babe and her phone rang and I helped her reach for it and the call ID read " MY love" . I handed the phone to her and she just threw it on the bed saying " abeg abeg I don't have time to be answering jamb question". You can imagine.

Another one asked me in her words "how can I say I have boy friend and it feels like am single" and I was like then let him go and in her words " he is a nice guy, he understands me and will make a good husband ". These girls can be selfish and mean.

You may think it's about money, care and time but most times its not because many have serious bf who do their best to give them all these and you wonder what these girls want. I used to make out with one whose bf was super rich and cartered for her but do you know this girl opened mouth to tell me about two other men and that she will be touring with one of the men while she tells her bf she has gone to visit her sick mum.

Aside students even the working class aren't left out...That's a talk for another day.

Men take my advice and you will be happy you did

- Men don't need love we need respect. Once a girl don't respect you dump her sorry bum

- Always have it in mind that no girl owes you anything till you pay her bride price

- Make yourself less available for these girls. These has worked for me well. Itso good you give these girls an impression that you are busy, focused and they come second. Do this and watch how they will always want to be around you and jump to come meet you each time you call.

- Give these girls space don't choke them

- When it comes to the bed be dominant let them see you using them to satisfy your sexual cravings. Don't pity them ooh..spank ass, pull hair etc. That does a lot to their psych. Topic for another day

- Never take a cheating girl back. I once advised my cousin the young man refused and 2 years down the line his girlfriend who he introduced to the family got pregnant for yahoo boy ���.

Many are still screwing me, they are unrepentant whilst they confess love to their bf.

- Mengoingthereway

PureFace1:
Why Texting a Woman Too Much Is Bad

What king, what warrior wastes his time playing with a high school girl's toy.

by Atom Smasher

Of course some texting is necessary, for setting times and other practical issues, but the more you do it, the more common you become in her eyes.

How can you remain mysterious (an absolute requisite when it comes to dealing with women) when you're available for chit-chat just like her girlfriends are? .

You need to appear ABOVE common texting.

You're a man. You don't have time to play with a high school girls' toy.

Make no mistake about it, texting makes you common and robs you of your mysteriousness. It is well worth repeating.

The dangers of texting are many, unless you really know what you are doing.

Texting leaves you wide-open to misinterpretation. She will interpret your words according to HER semantics, HER definitions of words and phrases, and HER experiences.

And guess what, guys...

Her template of interpretation consists of a culling together of the massive text conversations she has with her girlfriends.

The very fact that you're chit-chatting with her makes you one of her girlfriends.

The more words you spew, the more COMMON and boring you become.

The more you spew, the more misinterpretation that occurs; the more available and predictable you appear to be.

Texting is a torrential bleeding of your power and influence with her. It is literally a hemorrhage.

Every word that you text should emanate from a sense of intent and purpose.

Words should be used sparingly, and every one should be a soldier that has been dispatched out with a specific purpose in mind.

Chit-chat will kill you.

I also always say that for a man, texting should be like sniping. Every shot must be well-aimed, and the trigger pulled with a specific intent in mind.

I broke my own rules on this just last week. I sent out an uncharacteristically long message to a woman, and she answered with a smiley face. DOH!!

Do you guys see why this was a severe error?

The one who uses the fewest words is ALWAYS the one with the most power.

Fortunately I recovered by disappearing for an inordinately long amount of time. I wouldn't have had to clean up the mess if I hadn't spilled my guts like an excited schoolgirl.

Let your takeaway at least be that texting is a potentially dangerous activity that can be used effectively in skilled hands but is very likely to backfire on you. Once it leaves your phone it is subject to her (often wildly wrong) interpretation and it makes you common. It causes a massive hemorrhage of your power base and her perception of your value. The more you do it, the more you appear like her common, boring girlfriends.

You're a man. You're above texting.

It should appear as a necessary evil, something you reluctantly do in order to take care of practical things like scheduling meetups.

What King, what Warrior has time to tap little tiny keys to tell a women how awesome he thinks she is?

Are not your hands engaged in operating your weaponry?

Is not your mind engaged in slaying dragons and winning wars?

That is the picture of you she needs to imagine.

Not you sitting cross-legged on the floor like a little girl typing your witticisms into this tiny little phone and hoping against hope that you monkey-danced just right for her with this particular text.

Put that thing away and take up arms.

https://www.sosuave.com/quick/why-texting-a-woman-too-much-is-bad.htm

sharone21:
Know that Naija women are the REALEST deal in Africa, no other really compares with her( all her strengths).....

Moneymademedoit:
Please can I talk to you about some thing, I thought about you because you are my namesake....

ubunja:
Adam was perfect yet Eve still left him for a snake. if she wanna go she'll go regardless what you do or dont do.

Skiborobo:
If you're a man and you can't buy this please don't come near me

alpharoyalty:
Same stupid fellow typing from two different phones 🤳🤳

Nia69:
Are you gay? The question is for the ladies.