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ubunja:
Guys must not worry. The Miseducations will pick up where we left off. More light on female nature is needed. I'm especially eager for HOW WOMEN GOLD DIG YOU part 2 (it's already written) . And GAME OF EMOTIONS part 2.
And to finish the trilogy started by SISTERHOOD, PUSSY CARTEL.

Plus all the other Miseducations I've been promising.

ubunja, where are these write-ups?

omolasho:
Thank you oops.
Personally I believe that when you marry a lady that was disvirgined by another man, it is dishonor to your dignity, pride and Ego as a man. I can never love such lady. Imagine how they share unclothedness, the sweat, sperm, kisses, positions, etc tweeeeeh! I cringe, and the society makes it look like no big deal! Let every man marry ladies they disvirgined. Am outa here abeg

Indeed. This society wants men to accept everything. But women, on the other side, firmly maintain their standards. Thousands of years ago, women went for providers and men went for virgins. Today, women still go for providers, while men feel lucky to marry damaged and overused women.

Look, even in nature, if you are not the first you are the last. Out of the million sperms sprinting towards the egg, only one of them fertilizes it: the FIRST ONE. After fertilization, All the other sperms have no more business with the egg and are KILLED.

I observe that people tend to extreme polarization when building, assimilating, and using their ideas. It’s either completely true or completely false, either all white or all black, either PES or FIFA. I find it especially true here and today, in Cameroon’s society with internet everywhere. When some rich person is suspected to be involved in dark endeavors many people deduce that virtually all rich people are in the same game.

To me, it is a way for the average Cameroonian, overwhelmed by the harsh misery and the indifference of institutions towards it, to comfort him/herself in their poverty and mediocrity. It allows them to, for once, carry the good role. The rich people are all supposedly immoral and materialists and went as far as to engage in spiritual wrongdoings or to sell their souls/families/fertility/bodies to the devil. Of course, there does exist people who practice these activities. However, they are not all rich. Rich and Poor people are very active in the mystical realm. Do you really think that our poor neighborhoods are spiritually safe because people there aren’t rich? Of course, no! It is also the case that not all rich people are mystical criminals. There are many people that reached high levels of wealth without compromising their dignity and societal well-being.

So, young Cameroonians, let's stand up and work! Stop trying to find excuses to your laxity and laziness. The real magic is directed discipline! Succeeding without compromising oneself is possible!

Raalsalghul:
Isn't this the reason Jeshal is always talking about vetting and Jeromestarks about virginity?

For JESHAL, yes.
But I don't Jeromestarks

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"Make Money and Women Will Come"

Society and women tell this to men who are unsuccessful in dating to give them some hope. The idea is that they should not worry, they should just work harder and generate wealth. When they get money women will beg them to be their girlfriends and wives.

But, if women will come when you make the money, have you ever wondered where they are now? Let's assume that they will effectively be with you later, after you become rich. OK now, in the meantime, who are they with? Are they sitting at home, chastely waiting for you to make money? Are they working on themselves while preserving their purity to deserve you when you finally make it?

No. Where are they then? They are with other guys they judge worthy of their youth and freshness. And you are not on the list. So, you have to wait. And to not let you hanging, they give you the task to accumulate the wealth they will enjoy after the other guys have enjoyed their bodies.

See, that advice (make money and women will come) would be apt if, after becoming rich, the women that will come are virgins. But, they are not. Who took their virginity then? A guy who was just as broke as you were when girls and society told you to make money first. This advice is thus hypocritical... but also dangerous.

Many young men unsuccessful in dating will follow this advice. They will work very hard at school, at work, and in life to finally be able to attract women (among other reasons.) Eventually many of them make it. After all these painful years of work, it is high time to harvest the rewards: money, respect, security, stability, confidence, wisdom, -oh and, what did they say will come with financial success again? Ah yes, women! But, as they look left and right, they realize that most women are damaged beyond repair, many are single mothers, and virtually none of them are pure. And when they understand that the guys who took these women purity where in the very same state they thought they had to grow from to attract them, these men become bitter. They feel scammed. And rightly so. Unfortunately, this frustration can lead to hatred and violence. And this is not good for men themselves and society as a whole.

This is one of the reasons why a man should not succeed for women. Succeed for you and your legacy first and foremost. And when you do succeed, be ruthless in your selection of women.

When dealing with women, never lean on your money. That is dehumanizing as money is an object and, more importantly, it is external to you -- you are not your money. Money can come and go, but your inner strength and masculinity stays. And keep in mind that no amount of money entitles you to a woman's body. No amount of money protects you from the games women play. No amount of money can compensate for lack of attraction.

Men and women should stop giving this advice to our sons. We must encourage them by all means to generate wealth and succeed in life. But let's not fool them with "women will come", without telling them the full story. As these men are busy building, most women are busy fvcking (and most of the guys they are fucking don't have money).

Yes, I believe so.

I do personal accounting. And Excel is virtually indispensable. So, it is not even a question for a professional accountant.

I plan to make an accessible software or web application to manage and control personal finances like an accountant.

What about Nigerian education? Would you say that it is adaptive? How relevant do you find it in regards to the current and future issues the typical Nigerian faces at the personal, social, national, and international level?

Education in Cameroon was formed in the middle of the 20th century, mirroring the colonial powers’ systems with some superficial adjustments. Sixty years later, it has not substantially evolved despite the significant changes in technology, the job market, and the socio-political sphere in Cameroon and geopolitics. This is partly because the government does not collaborate tightly with teachers and researchers who have a deeply supported understanding of our realities and the actual potential of education. Consequently, Education in Cameroon is highly obsolete and irrelevant in our context. This, I believe, is the most profound and critical difficulty Cameroon faces in regards to Education. This is why I believe very strongly that thoroughly rebuilding and tailoring Education to Cameroon’s socio-cultural, historical, paradigmatic, and economic realities would be the most relevant and impactful change in this area.

Education in Cameroon does not build deeply-rooted Cameroonian citizens ready to face the country’s challenges, but numerous disoriented people, practically unknowledgeable of their country’s background and current realities.
Furthermore, the system failed to make the learner understand the (non-material) values of education. In effect, their personal development is overlooked as education is too much centralised on grades, with little to no extracurricular activities. It follows that students see education only as a means to get a job, and not as an enriching journey of self-discovery and personal growth. And many get frustrated when they do not even land that job.
Personally, I firmly believe that the future of a country resides largely in its ability to provide quality and efficient education to its youth. This means building an educational system considering its socio-politico-economic particularities, and modeled around its core values and long-term objectives. That is why if I could change one thing in Cameroon, it would be its educational system. That way, I would contribute to the development of a proactive, open-minded, reflective, and deeply-rooted Cameroonian population.

Kipaji:
Men, I wish you all the best
I hope we can all realize that there is higher value to this world than women
Please, focus on God/nature/ancestors/life/values and yourself.

From the bottom of my heart, I would like to thank every person that contributed to this forum. You built a highly valuable bank of knowledge for men all around the world.
I came to this forum to learn about life, society, men, women, relationships, and sex. Unfortunately, much of what is written here is pure misandry, degeneracy, delusion, and/or evil. But intelligent and wise people will be able to filter out the dirt and get the gold. It is what I did and I come out of this journey wiser, more mindful of intersexual and social dynamics, and better equipped to face and understand the world.

Now, I need to take women off my mind and focus on my ancestry, my family, my legacy, Africa my country, and myself. I will not log back in Nairaland for at least a year. Until then, I wish you all the very best.

Bye.

I failed. Miserably.

I tried monk mode and failed.

The fight against one's lust is a tortuous inner battle. This world bombards us left and right with lust triggers. From the media becoming pornofied to women shamelessly teasing online and offline, everything is being sexualized at an uncontrollable and worrying rate. Unfortunately, men were not raise to control their lust. And society will not help with its anti-men, anti-civilization agendas. So, it is exceptional hard for a man nowadays to maintain focus on what matters. As never seen before, almost all men are porn and/or masturbation addicts. Most do not have the drive and discipline to work consistently towards something meaningful. Men are weak and becoming weaker.

I believe that the last barrier against this degeneration of the man is the fabric and substance of his mind and spirit. The man must forge his mind and nurture his spirit to escape the tornado of degeneracy this world is caught into. But, since the inner is influenced by the outer, and vice versa, to regulate the inner, we must also manipulate the outer. So, this fight is double-dimensional. And it is a very hard one. Nonetheless, the expected rewards are definitely worth the struggle. This is why I engaged in this battle.

I keep failing. And I try my best to re-strategize and stand up stronger. I do not want to give up.

I choose strength over pleasure.

Men, I wish you all the best
I hope we can all realize that there is higher value to this world than women
Please, focus on God/nature/ancestors/life/values and yourself.

From the bottom of my heart, I would like to thank every person that contributed to this forum. You built a highly valuable bank of knowledge for men all around the world.
I came to this forum to learn about life, society, men, women, relationships, and sex. Unfortunately, much of what is written here is pure misandry, degeneracy, delusion, and/or evil. But intelligent and wise people will be able to filter out the dirt and get the gold. It is what I did and I come out of this journey wiser, more mindful of intersexual and social dynamics, and better equipped to face and understand the world.

Now, I need to take women off my mind and focus on my ancestry, my family, my legacy, Africa my country, and myself. I will not log back in Nairaland for at least a year. Until then, I wish you all the very best.

Bye.

There you go.

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Inequality in times of crisis.
What gender truly has the power?

Yes. You are not a tool.

As pansophist would say, men create the world and women integrate into it.

ubunja:
"Whóríng Enterprise". Lol.

But for real, Some married women will even give you a baby. That's how deep, cold and dark the game is. They'll literally get pregnant for you.

If you speak to a lot of married women get in the habit of jokingly saying,"I wish your next baby was mine!".
If they act shocked say you're just joking. But I assure you, say it to enough of them one day one of them will take you up on it. And you'll lose all your faith in humanity.
The reproductive game is the most cruel of all the games.

@bolded I laughed out loud hahaha

iamphenomenal:
Checked my status, saw this as posted by a lady
Remember she said "Real man"

This woman is definitely a LovePeddler.

LIVINGICONREBOR:
I can't count how many random sex i have had with no strings attached. Most of them we hit it off after gym sessions. You will hear "i don't usually do bloowjob" but let me just try it with you. The way her lips will gulp the dick, deep down you know say na pro be this. The rather cool gal becomes very "wild" in the bed.
Damn!!

Hahahah

And Fresh and fit? I am unspeakably impressed that people look up to these guys here.

MJBOLT:
....

I am freaking out about young boys looking up to Andrew Tate. I hope men can see why they should avoid this man.

JESHAL:
Redpill content to consume on YouTube;
Tom lykis
Fresh and fit podcast
Kelvin samuels
Rationale male

Absolutely not.
I don't know the first one, but the last three? Especially fresh and fit? Oh no...

Peaceyw:
I was scrolling through twitter and nairaland yesterday when I suddenly felt that a lot of people are making noise. Like the internet is just filled with noise makers, people ate just talking all over each other and do not want to keep quiet and listen. Sometimes when some people make a post online, you will wonder why they are even posting. Nobody will think you are dumb if you don't talk. People will make post where they are not wanted, trolling up and down, confusing others. And if you make long post, nobody even bothers to read them pass the third line. It's so hard to maintain focus these days, like seriously, too much noise, noise everywhere.
It's frustrating to say the least. We should all learn to shut the fûçk up sometimes.

Absolutely.

pansophist:
Your question is like asking why do tiger attack innocent sheep, or why is a scammer trying to scam you, or why some women are gold diggers. My question is, why does it matter? This is completely irrelevant in this context.

Their motive for not being good should not be your concern, but how to protect and not make yourself their victim. It's about your strength, not their benevolence. You don't expect others to care more than you should care about yourself.

I always question this notion common with women, where they expect others to act right, without taking necessary precaution themselves. Hence I always say that lots of women see the world from a fairy tale lenses, but It's really cold out there.

I sometimes even wonder why runs girls follow a stranger to his house for money, which makes me wonder whether these women do not have any sense of danger. If he kills her, you blame men, instead of the stupid woman that followed a stranger home.

As a man, my biggest fear are other men. I won't folow a stranger home, or expect them to care for me more than I should care about myself. I ask, is life so good for women that many dont have a sense of danger? I'm not a woman, so I'll never know.

I hope the day comes where men will not deceive women for sex, but until then, it is your responsibility to take necessary precaution. Just as you pray for journey mercies, you still wear seatbelt. Or look left and right before crossing the road.

The first chain of defense to prevent danger lies with you, which is taking precautionary measures. A thief can only steal something he can see, but if you hide it in the bank, you have prevented theft.

If you do not take necessary measures, why should someone else? You want others to care about you more than you should care about yourself? Wake up please, the world is not an utopia, it's filled with evil.

Once again, I understand what you wrote here pansophist. I was not defending women, my entire focus was on the man. The question matters because it can be helpful to inquire about the why behind our actions. To be clearer, here's what I was asking:
"If a man does not want to go long term/serious with a woman, why would he date her? Most likely just for sex. But is that beneficial to him? Is faking a relationship/love helpful to a man? For example, is it wise for a 20-something young man to entertain girls even though he only sees them as things to screw and doesn't want anything long term? Does being stuck in a relationship just because he wanted sex and thus being unfulfilled makes him win in life? Does that help him? Does it make his life better?
Whether the woman on the other side is clueless or gets manipulated is not considered here as we focus on what's beneficial to the man only in this inquiry."
Do you understand what I meant now?

Men's standards are too low.

gloryhomemaker:
Ayamase stew also know as Ofada sauce is so delicious for people who know it.
It can be eaten with rice, agidi, plantain, beans, etc.
This video gives a detailed easy to follow steps on how to make a delicious Ofada sauce.

Ingredients:

Green peppers
Green bell peppers
Red bell peppers
Shombo
Locust bean
Crayfish
Onions
Bleached Palm oil
Chicken (use any protein of your choice)
Boiled eggs
Fish
Kpomo
Seasoning cubes
Salt
Curry powder


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ctOzYDsbnlA


STEPS
Blend the peppers and some onions roughly, sieve out the water completely from the peppers.
Bleach the palm oil.
Add in chopped onions to the oil and fry for a minute on medium heat.
Add in Iru and stir fry for a minute also.
Add in the peppers and fry for 20-25 minutes.
Add in blended crayfish.
Add in seasoning and salt and taste to your taste buds.
Add in the washed Kpomo and fry for about 5 minutes.
Add in the boiled eggs and cook for about 5 minutes also.
Add in the chicken and or other protein of your choice.
I added some chicken broth (optional)
Steam for more 5 minutes and your Ofada sauce is ready.

All details in the video.

I admire women who find ways to make money and occupy themselves at home. You show that a woman can be a stay-at-home mom/wife and still generates income. This is creative and respectable. You got a new subscriber.

KanwuliaExtra:
Ok.

But. . .

1. High career status does not usually equate to “rich”.

2. Only a man can preserve his “masculinity” in any circumstance. A woman can only enhance it.

3. I think men or women of average socio-economic status are avoided mainly due to personality issues, more so than status.

3. It is one thing to “want” something or someone, but a totally different matter to have what it takes to appreciate and KEEP it.

4. I don’t live off attention, only empirical FACTS!

5. Yup! Everyone must guard their emotions at all times. No need entrusting them to careless hands.

The bolded is actually a great point. At the end of the day, we are the guardians of our own masculinity and if we are well secured in our shoes and strong in our spirit, a woman can hardly disoriente us in our journey.

Michelle70:
u are just a broke ass, period.

If she had said "i was lonely", u would be wagging ur tail now.

She probably didnt eat cos of the headache.

Interesting observation. But it doesn't invalidate OP's action. You wouldn't react to a man who offers you money the same to a man who asks for sex.

Perfectman91:
Guys we are the trophy! Avoid "I never chop girls"...if feeding is your problem then there's no good you can offer.

Perfect. You are a man at the command of his life. You understood that you are the one who chooses which girl you entertain and you executed.
This allows you to calibrate your focus and attention on more important things in life. Bravo!

Rozross:
Men are no longer interested in marriage generally because they are already getting marriage benefits from single ladies doing wifely duties, so it has killed their zeal and interest in marriage. It’s not about money for modern men, it’s mostly about freedom and fear of commitment. The greatest fear of a promiscuous man is commitment and almost all modern young men are promiscuous hence their lack of interest in marriage

The bolded is simply not true. Most men in this generation are virtually sexless. The idea according to which men go from women to women is not rooted in reality. Most guys do not even have the opportunity to be promiscuous. Most women like yourself believe that almost all men are promiscuous because the only valuable men in their eyes are promiscuous men while the others are invisible / not that important.

pansophist:
Come, you be man or woman sef?

See as you stylishly heap all the blame on men, but wait o, men are not the only guilty ones here, all of us na sinners. Abi you want make i start to list women's sins?

But the rule is simple. Because others don't mean well to you, doesn't mean you should not mean well to yourself. For example, there are millions of women out there that will show Dangote fake love, but it is left to him to donate himself to these women for maximum butchery.

The same applies to women. There is a reason why ''close your leg'' is drummed into women's head, and it's because women are the gatekeepers of sex. A woman decides if sex will happen, and no matter how men try to get into her pants, her verdict is final, otherwise, it would be rape, which is punishable by law.

So it is he who has something of value to lose, also has the responsibility to safeguard it. If a man allows a golddigger to embezzle his money, its his fault, and if a woman allows a forkboy to ransack her honeypot, it's her fault. got it? Yes men may come and test your resolve, but its her responsibility to padlock her pant.

At least learn from ashawos. No money, no nacking. So for normal girls, it should be, no marriage, no nacking. I repeat, women hold the power for sex to happen. So the idea that every relationship must lead to marriage would be less painful after a breakup if a woman only loose her virginity inside the marriage. Life no hard, people no just de do things the right way.

I fully understand this. As explained in the red pill forum and even by you on previous posts, women are the gatekeepers of sex which makes them bear the principal responsibility of the consequences of sex.
But here, I was focusing on the man's side of the equation, not the equation as a whole because the OP asked if it makes sense for men to go on dates. And I was questioning the very reason why most men go on dates thereby questioning if they should even go on dates at all.