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Bro please use style to collect the phone , don't break up with her by word, use this method called ghosting. But make sure you collect that phone, you have a better chance to be respected and loved again if you collect the phone. And if she ask why, don't ever complain that she doesn't call you, its another way of bringing yourself down the more. Just tell her nothing. Move on bro, it doesn't take more than 2 weeks for a lady to fall for you, and if after all you've done she didn't love you then she will never ever love you.

PS. delete all her contacts from all your devices so that you won't be tempted to call.

Well said my brother , this is not the usual APC and PDP blame game, I was a buhari fan, i hate the man to the bone right now. This is not electric or road project that the useless snail has be dragging for years, just close the borders!!! just close the borders, i'm sure many nigerians already have this virus, just that we don't have good testing measures.

RandomVic:
Oga this is a matter of life and death! Not your usual APC, PDP nonsense. Rational governments around the world shut down schools with immediate effect whilst ours was dragging its feet leaving our borders open practically inviting the virus to our shores.

Even if they paid you to say this, why not consider the future generation, how can you call this a good leadership, how can?

Sweetamara2:
Good leadership

This is the reason your previous relationships never worked, men hate ladies that talks too much. Try to work on it, you will make a better sense if you learn to keep it simple

Leezah:
Choose. Your girlfriend has reason to feel the way she does and you know it.

Maybe.

2 out of 2 times I have ever been jealous of an ex boyfriend's friend (not with every ex boyfriend was this an issue) it was found out later that the female friend was indeed crushing on my boyfriend. Women unlike men tend to “read” people well, especially other women. When in love a woman's intuition especially tends to intensify. Then again so does her jealousy so this can be a tricky situation that requires some reflection and honesty with yourself and openness with your girlfriend.

Some of what made me feel jealous in these times was intuition, but some things I just simply understand by being a female myself and having many female friends. I knew certain subtle things females do when they like a guy and saw it. Even personally I crushed on guy friends before and some never suspected it. So it's definitely possible your girlfriend sees something you don't.

Anyways, aside from intuition and certain gestures i saw, I noticed that these 2 boyfriends would run to the female friend with all the problems we had as though she was his “refuge”. This is growing intimacy with your friend instead of your girlfriend and a BIG NO-NO. It would have been better that they went to an older and wiser man for counsel than to her.

Although you may go to your female friend for advice with other problems you should never ever come to her with relationship problems. Friends of the opposite shouldn't know all the intimate details of your relationship. As soon as you have a girlfriend this is the most immediate way in which your friendship to your friend should change. By you coming to her you are now showing her what sort of romantic partner you are and how “romantically compatible” you now are with her.

Women are weird. As soon as you deeply open up about these conditions of your heart, etc, we cant help but to at least wonder if we are romantically compatible especially since we come out the womb being relationship/love oriented. Unless you want your female friend trying to now question secretively if you and her are compatible its best you leave her in the dark about this “intimate” side of you or only expose this side of you when you are single. Also don't break up with your girlfriend and the next day run to your female about the issues. Especially in young love people break up then 2 months later are back together.

Overall allowing a female friend to see these aspects of you should be when you are single (via the title of being single and via emotionally being untied to anyone). Then and only then you should share your romantic/relationship characteristics with your opposite sexed friend and even then just know you are opening the strong possibility that this friend will now start qualifying and disqualifying you as a romantic partner. If you want female advice then ask older women but maybe not your mom or those who would have too much bias and too easily take your side. Maybe Nairaland could be good however take every answer with a grain of salt including my own.

Honestly relationships and determining what is acceptable and not acceptable is personal and takes personal reflection. You can't just take advice for everything.

I especially think in today's world with so many boys raised without fathers its not good to get all your relationship do's and don't from females. You shouldn't think like a female when dating a female. You should think like a man. For the most part men have to be more patient and giving in certain areas of relationships and women should be more patient in other areas.

Learning intimate relationships is not like learning to be politically correct or learning what's publicly proper. Although I do recommend reading relationship books from people who share your same vision of intimate relationships dating someone is the foundation in an intimate world you are creating and everyone is different in what they can accept or what they prefer. People's preferences in love ranges from the most traditional to the grotesque…

Meditate on what you want. Overall if this is a woman who fits every aspect of your vision of an intimate relationship than her opinion does matter. At the end of a day you and HER will be the main creators of a world between your walls and conforming to her in all aspects that's reasonably possible and vice versa is key in making a lasting relationship (keyword:reasonable).

Overall there are many questions you have to ask before you seek to end your friendship. In my own situation both of these boyfriends much later “confessed” that they deeply knew the female friend liked them since I first mentioned my jealousy but they thought it wasn't a big deal unless they fed into it.

Personally I felt these were feeding into it (again men don't tend to know the world of female emotion as well). Can you honestly and I mean SINCERELY look at all the encounters with your female friend say that beyond a shadow of a doubt this friend has absolutely, and I mean absolutely has no crush on you? Honestly not even her having a boyfriend matters. Having a boyfriend doesn't stop one from having basic human desires towards another. In divorce courts we see this clearly, so of course in simply dating we can't deny this simple fact of life.

Anywho, despite my own experiences, at the end of the day I would not say it's the best solution to always cut off the female friend just because your girlfriend is jealous especially without considering these things I mentioned.

Many times we date just to date and practice a long term commitment.

Look at everything mentioned here, reflect, keep intimate problems away from opposite sexed friend, and determine your motivation in dating the woman you're with. Is she practice or is she the one?
Is she seeing something you don't or is it jealous?
Is it every female friend and interaction that makes her jealous or is it just this one friend?
Is not conforming to her in this way worth risking a lifetime of not having her by your side?
Many questions to ask before you take any action.

name checkers be like "you are confusing us"

have they made any move ? have they seen it . i pray they pay ontime . i'm thinking you should sue them

Exactly my brother, the airline has done what government was meant to do, some even said why can't they stop flight going to usa, what's nigerian budget for corona virus, coz usa just released a huge budget for corona virus, i can't remember the figure but is billions. if it hits us big like itally, can we contend it? i even believe we already have lots of corona virus in africa / Nigeria, we just don't have the technicalities to confirm it, you might start hearing people die of fever soon, i don't pray for such though.

PAGAN9JA:
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- Benjamin Burombo

The Gods protect us.

28years old is naturally decent. she's still a virgin by determination, this set of people will never sleep with another man after marriage. 20 year old is just normal. she might be decent too, but you can't judge with the fact that she's a virgin at 20. But the 28 years is decent.

Yes they are my boys, they are both from my home town... meanwhile will smith loves his wife to fault while jeff bezos divorce his wife for a side chick/lover and he lost over 38billion usd on alimony which is more than Nigerian budget, that money is enough to buy an entire country and become their king(what i was trying to say is that , money won't mean anything when you are not inlove anymore contrary to what you said earlier that men respect their wife because they don't want to lose the marriage for some personal reasons, what can be more personal than 38billion usd, this money can even buy you salvation if you know the right angels)... love comes with respect

chinchonglee:
do you know who jeff bezos is
do you know will smith

you are confusing me

Jeweltz:
Sorry but you're wrong there. I'm a woman and I love men treating me right. But what I bold there is not really true.

what about Jeff Bezos (amazon) he divorced his wife regardless of the money he could loss and what about samson and delilah, he loved her till death. Most people don't really know how love works for a man, when a man finds that one woman, he's ready to give it all. What does losing money has to do with love, i'm sure you've never been in love, what most of you call love is actually something dictionary hasn't found a name for. Most men that don't believe in love and are not happily married usually leaves a mysterious life, don't go too far, just look around your street.

Omar09:
Hate to be the bearer of bad news. Most successful men are respectful to their wives because they don't wanna go through divorce! They are aware of the women they married and are not willing to let little things put them to divorce as they will be wrecked more and will become not so successful again. They just love their status.

PLEASE TAKE NOTE
BEING RESPECTFUL TO YOUR WIFE ISN'T A BAD THING IN FACT IT IS THE BEST FOR YOU AS A MARRIED MAN AND I SUPPORT BEING RESPECTFUL TO NOT JUST YOUR WIFE BUT YOURSELF AND ONE ANOTHER.

Do you have a clean record?

PUSSYHOE:
that's why I will never marry a woman that doesn't have a clean record. if I don't see I will stay single, get a baby mama.

and what about the girl that killed her self because of a guy? God will heal your broken heart, check the records of highly successful men in history, they respect their wife and are happy married, the way you are going, you might not even find a gay partner not to talk of wife.

snitchbitch:
@koladata withdraw all the money in your account, sell all your properties and give it all to women, since they are very precious and very valuable!!!

A guy jumped inside the lagoon because of his girlfriend, did you know what the girl used to store his number? Mat be it was "micro finance bank"
I pray that one day guys will open there eyes and see that ladies don't give a FXCK ABOUT THEM!!!

You are happy that you don't value women anymore... i pity you

bro I see nothing but a raw talent, you should be writing comics. don't waste the talent bro "chris rock" made is money from "everybody hate cris" , you should read about him. you have a gift, it came to me like a revelation , mail me pls , we can be friends , koladata@gmail.com

please give the migration code for airtel and glo, thanks alot

Please do you know any cheap call rate that I can migrate to? I always call my partner and it cost much. is there still mtn family and friends or something better or like I can pay a monthly fee.

Thanks

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funmisticqueen:
even if u are fine and rich, it is just worse off cos u will cheat at one time in your life.

I like your skin color.

Firstly (SAVING), go and Open a fixed account that will fix that money(2million Plus) for 2 year(in the bank) before you meet her parents. ReasonMarriage and child delivery might consume the whole thing. People do marriage with just 50k(palour weeding) and Deliver baby with 10k, buy baby things with another 10k... Child go grow if he won grow, i drank orange because no money for baby food but today i'm 30 plus.

Secondly(FAMILY), you need to understand that, family is a thing you will eventually have some day, and why not now? you can't run forever, it won't consume you if you are prudence and wise, it will only add to your income, she will bring , you will bring. na so. and even some of your family member that usually task you will now understand that you are a family man and they won't ask for help or reduce it.

Thirdly(SEX), research shows that married people are more focus in life, and more dedicated to work. no more bro send me 5k for romance fee, no more urgent kongi, you will be more dedicated to your work, and this marriage doesn't mean you won't play away march o, you will still run some free shows but it won't be as frequent and this will help you save more money.

Lastly (God), almost every scripture says, sex you have in your matrimonial home is a blessing, i.e you get blessed while fucking(isn't that beautiful?) do you have an idea of how many angles curse you while you are having premarital sex? who knows you could have been more successful in life if you didn't Bleep those girls or even your said fiancee. Premarital sex is never free bro... do birth control, Bleep once or twice a week so you can enjoy it for long.

bye

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I'll give you two advises


A. If you want to leave her

1. Stop having sex with her, sex will make her blind and she won't realize you are maltreating her. Also, most ladies can't stay without sex for more than six months, she will get Hot and someone else will satisfy her sexually. Most ladies can't have sex without attaching feelings to it and most ladies won't have feelings for two guys at the same time so technically she will drop you and focus on the new dude.

2. Make sure she gain admission into a university, preferable one of the best federal university we have, unilag. university of Ibadan , OAU etc they are cheaper and more efficient. Buy her a jamb form, get her a private tutor, advise her not to chose a big course, maybe just an educational course will be okay, the most important thing is for her to gain an admission into the university. Most ladies tend to change once they gain admission into university, she will never feel lonely anymore, she will make new friends and also meet better guys. She will also forget every good things you most have done for her, you might later try to remind her but she won't remember a thing. So even if you leave her at this point she won't feel lonely and she will be more optimistic about her life with the hope that she has a brighter future ahead.


B. If you don't want to leave her.

After doing all those things I mentioned above, you might eventually fall in love with her because too much sex can make you not love a lady. Also most guys prefer a university graduate or undergraduate. And now she will look more civilized with a better dress sense.

Note:
If you leave her, you might regret it, that picture of ideal wife you have in your head will shock you when you finally experience the kind of ladies we have out here. My life is an example, i'm still searching for her till tomorrow but she will never come back.

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