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why is the guy living with a lady he's not married to, the problem here is that he won't even have backup

bros you dey vex o ... lol, wetin happen

Ikomfreshest:
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she sang train wreck , lovely song

Drink Nescafe, the black one without sugar every morning, its good for the body and it will make you active all through the day.

this is clear evidence that both igbo , hausa and yoruba . we are all great people with one common problem... our government.

even inside nigeria , who does he compete with, i don't listen to his songs, all i hear is one mode, one voice and one melody

frankmoney:
real fact .... Outside Nigerian music who he wan compete with ?

yes you can, but don't make babies until the next 4years . then you will be 35 or 34, by then you would have saved enough, being married will reduce your cost of living and make you more focus, but having babies will increase it immediately. now you can rely on your wife's food, no more urgent 2k. and if your wife is working , you add it up to save for a better business.

kpk

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bukatyne:
Thank you.

Reference: this post is from a nairalander with user name : ogbonti , after reading his intelligent comment on this topic "The Disadvantages Of Having A Baby Mama" , i feel his comment need to be a topic on it own and this is only for matured minds, though i prefer marriage but for those that won't find true love easily then baby mama is not a bad idea. Never make the mistake of spending the rest of your live with someone you don't truely love.


1. Some married guys here in America that I know don’t even get regular s ex from their wife anymore because they feel they got the man caged already and if he leaves her, (divorce) - then financial calamity will befall him with regards to alimony, child support, splitting the estate and other drag on here and there.

2. The nagging too na helele. I have had one or two friends just before the pandemic who were almost living with me - they come in on Friday and leave on Sunday just to escape an irritating and over entitled wife from running up their blood pressure unending. You need to see the excitement on their faces when they arrive my place for the weekend and my wife initially didn’t understand why these guys were doing this but with time she got the picture, and she even validated my conclusion about the awkward complacencies most women display after securing the marital vow from a man - “for better for worse - love and to cherish, till death do us part..... bla bla bla”

3. There is a reason some companies here in America and even in Nigeria seldom hire permanent staff. They hire on contract basis. Now, I know someone may say what’s the difference if both contract and permanent staff can both be fired. However, it is harder to fire a permanent staff without incurring legal and financial liabilities. Same with marriage, when you tie yourself up with legal complexities just to cling to one individual for life, then you must be ready to go through the headache to untangle yourself when things go sour, and it surely will over time - because every man has his price and every dog has it’s day!

4. It takes 2 people in agreement to get married, but it takes the consent of just 1 of the 2 to destroy everything. Any human being can change, over time - because change is the only constant thing in life - and every human being is a sucker for one or multiple things of life - only known to that individual.

For a man - some of us can not resist a very beautiful and brilliant woman. Now, when she is the one initiating flirts with you, it becomes a level playing field between her and your wife for the battle for your love, affection and attention. If the beautiful woman respects you, cooks good for you and doesn’t nag you as a side chic, then your wife is in for a real fight going forward because every man appreciates peace of mind and sweet food. If she is good in bed and your wife over time has become a boring, entitled and nagging sister at home, then calamity has come knocking on the marriage and a divorce is imminent.

Same for the woman, if she is a sucker for money, sweet talks, material things and good looks, but somehow got married because her biological clock was ticking and she is getting pressured at home to get married by her parents - then whatever is available (which is you becomes her dream man at that period) . However, when all dust settles and she is no longer on the edge about her biological clock because she now has a kid or 2, and a man who she exploits financially in a marriage, she is now in a vantage position to deploy “soul searching” screeners to find what which she truly want. Believe me, whenever she finds him and that person is a willing collaborator, she will turn 360 degrees against you. You will keep wondering what has gone wrong? Nothing went wrong foolish husband- your wife has been dealing with you as an alternative to her real dream man. Now she has found him and she sees you as a horrible mistake she urgently needs to correct.

5. Money, Royalty, Power, Fame or Religion can’t tame any partner in a marriage. We have seen that with Bill Gates, Micheal Jordan, Tiger Woods, Brad Pitt, Prince Charles of UK, Ooni of Ife Ojaja, Chris Okotie, Chris Oyakhilome and even Aso Rock’s own Aisha Buhari here in Nigeria where she feels very comfortable staying away from her husband in Dubai for half a year. So what are we not talking about ?


6. I honestly don’t believe a man will ever stay with one woman and not stray for maximum one year and I don’t believe a woman can be committed to one man and not stray for 2 years. If she is not straying then she must be an ugly and irritating sit-at-home-all-day lady that nobody wants. IF if he is not straying, he must be a dirt poor loner who lacks basic confidence to initiate and hold a conversation with a lady for even 30 minutes.


With all these being said, baby mama comes from the freedom it affords both parties (the man and the woman) to stop breathing on each other’s neck and give each other the space and opportunity to keep excelling without the suffocating complexities of an irritating spouse

And who says products from a baby mama can’t be great? Barack Obama is one, and he is one of the greatest black men to ever walk on the surface of the earth and a role model to hundreds of millions of people world wide. I know someone will say but his father married his mother - yes, they did just to take pictures lol, because the father was off before Barack even turned 3 years old and since then his (now late) mom and her family took care of him

So, OP stop propagating neediness, insecurity and lack of capacity for adults to stand their ground and hold on to face the vicissitudes of life because you want them to desperately cling to another human to bail them out with pity parties when life throws them a curve? nah- Instead I will encourage everyone to get on their A game and enjoy their life, independent of any other human being’s perpetual manipulation and psychological slavery.


As for kids born out of wedlock, they will be fine. A baby daddy can support the welfare of the kid as the spirit leads him because even kids you raise in a marriage sometimes will turn against the you their father and give priority to the mom when they grow up because right under your nose, the indoctrination was taking place whenever you are away to work and you didn’t even realize it


So baby mama or marriage is ok for anyone- it all depends on what you are comfortable with

its normal, some young people who are still God fearing believes sex is a big sin. Everything will be fine after marriage .

indomie gen

yanabasee1:
Wetin him the sing weh e go get throat cancer....


Even davido weh him frog voice the give us nanger every time never get throat cancer, na gap teeth Sound sultan come get...

those rich are focused before they got divorced, all these small small movie we use as give away, all these unnecessary calls we make, all these heart breaks they make you lose focus in most cases.

Elporo:
Clown.

Marriage brings focus.

if you are not married , there's 90% tendency that you will die early , and there's is 50% chances that you won't be succeful in life because marriage brings about focus... i'm not married , but i did this personal research

its over 2000 years already , people don't even believe Jesus is coming again

this guy might have money and don't feel like eating, don't judge

don't ever marry because of money.... money can be boring when you finally have it , haven't you heard of many rich people die of depression. a very close relative made that mistake, she now drives very big hybrid car , but she's not happy , she would give everything right now to go back to someone she use to love without the money

orohbiro:
Good day my fellow nairalanders, my sister and this guy has been dating for 4 years now he use to work in a company but lost his job 2yrs ago since then he had been a parasite to my sister coming to our house to eat our food two times a day.

There is this new guy who asked my sister out. He is gentle and he has a good job, he is a Christian he has his own house, we all like him. I have been begging my sister to give him a try because he is ready for marriage unlike the other guy who has no hope of taking good care of my sister rather sucking my sister dry.

My sister seems to love the broke guy more but that guy is not a serious person for 2 good years he can't look for a job not even a menial job. If my sister mistakenly marries the broke guy she will suffer in the marriage because all the responsibility will be on her head. Gidforbid!

Please how do I convince my sister to focus on this other guy that is comfortable? I want the best for my sister.

another method to embezzle money. is this what we need at this moment

trash... try again

donstan18:
If you want to do good, and you know it will end up hurting a particular wicked party, do it in a smart way without endangering the life of yourself and your family.

$32k is too huge for those G-Boiz to come for him or his family no matter how far he might think he is, trust me on that.

Aside the fact that he wanted to publicize the good deed, he would have simply reached the victim first, return the money, tell her to ask suspicious unanswerable questions to those boiz, also tell her to tell those boiz that she’s contacting the bank and USA security, this will enable the mam perfectly act and tell those boiz that his account has been placed under investigations for receiving such cash and might get him jailed. Simple!!! Those boiz go even dey pity am small base on say them don put am for trouble.


Make we dey tread carefully! Na street we dey and nobody is too far to be hunt down by these street boiz! Boiz wey don reach level of scamming $32k no be amateur for the street and as e dey be like this, this guy fit collect shot.

so i think this was the main problem, she expected you to advise her on how to get water since you've been living there before her.

daveyjay:
I am not bossy at all.
True that I do not relate with her often.
I'm too busy with myself...

honestly , they are always very wicked and they don't have sympathy. i'm talking from experience , not one not two

Lilpen3758:
And they are mostly wicked ooh........aje

seriously we all believe in Jesus, and some people might even be muslim. but this guy will write two paragraphs completely off topic. Most people that put religion on their head like this doesn't not even have good character

Lilpen3758:
Hehehehe
don't take it to heart na attention he deh find

I don't like you

Righteousness2:
Soso that is a Good one

Education is Good
Degrees and all that is Great
Appointments and accomplishments are wonderful.
Having a Fat Pocket sweet.

But Listen, if you Don't Have a Genuie relationship with JESUS Christ all you Have is a Waste.
Education, Degrees, appointments, accomplishments and all that will not give us Qualification for Eternal Life in Heaven..

The Salvation of our Soul is the Number 1 and Topmost Pirioty.

yes i live in lagos and ibadan, i think the only reason why i won't accept this news is because its coming from pdp, i'm not an apc either, and buhari has not done well at allllll..... but electricity has never been better in nigeria since i was born .

CSTRR:
It's better in your area does not mean shitt.

In most places, it is worse.

I am sure you live in Lagos.

Work on your flaws , 1. especially some of the reason why you feel things couldn't work for you guys e.g money , education etc 2. try not to disconnect completely from her. beg her to be friends with you, call her any time you feel lonely, hearing her voice , once in a while video call and knowing she's doing well will give you joy and you won't feel lonely anymore 3. change your mind set about love, not until you have intimacy with some one you claim you love , true love is knowing she's fine with someone else , knowing she's happy either with you or with someone else. look beyond intimacy.

electricity is better in my area and in my office, i'm not a fan of buhari , but the power has improved

I've noticed that , when ever an elderly man is trying to look young , most of them are after under aged girls. I pray God makes a way for him out of this and i pray he changes for ever

your words ...lol , "this one wey you never say you won commit suicide" chai

Wiseandtrue:
When you know that you are ashamed of the black nylon bag, why you buy am in the first place

Nobody can like you more that you like yourself jàré

This one wey you never say you won commit suicide

the only elumelu we know is tony

Well my own is , if there's a better candidate , i'll go for a young guy , but if there's none . tunibu is not bad, just that i don't see him turning nigeria around, but he will perform

ThEGodFaThEr102:
Na wah o........A man who forged university of Chicago degree, denied his mother and state of origin, forged his date of birth and lied about his age. Diverted and still diverting 75% of Lagos iGR into his personal bullion vans stationed at his Bourdilion residence.

Mtchewwwww...........is that one a presidential material?

Nonsense and Mumu Lagosians.

Find someone you truely love. if you love that babe her past experience is nothing , you won't even think about it. Find someone you truely love, all this masters holder and american visit you stated won't help you at the long run even if she was a virgin . you don't love her

Lovethaa:
Have been friends with a babe at my workplace and from her frequent visit to my office plus the way she calls me to check on me . you could easily tell that she likes me .

One thing led to another and we ended up kissing , after the kiss I told her to tell me about her past relationships plus her sexual life .

She opened up to me that she was introduced to sex at 8years old by one neighbor uncle ,
she told me how the uncle take her to his room and ask her to play with his Prick and sometimes would make her suck it ,she claim she couldn't tell her mom because she will beat her mercilessly

She said she officially started having sex at 10 ,she disclosed that she had done 4 abortions so far although the abortions were for the same guy . mind you she is just 24 years old

She claimed she's telling me all this because she loves me and wants to be honest with me .

But hearing all that I was weak.. this babe is from a wealthy family , she travels to yankee like someone going to a neighboring state plus she is an MSC Holder , unknown to her I have decided that I would marry her because she's educated and wealthy family is like a bonus but now she actually disgust me and I wish she didn't tell me all that ..

Ladies are doing shit behind forget all that pretty gentle face.. if I was to judge with the face I could have bet with my life that this babe was a virgin or atleast not that experienced in sex ...


and pls ladies if you have such dirty past ,I think u should keep it to yourself...



I'm just lost for words , wish I could unhear everything