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godbless120:
I am not disputing the fact and i hv seen and heard about it..
My point is, in such situation, some women will and always justify and support the wife for taking such action rather than creating awareness to help the maid who might hv been play and use by the lady husband since we didn't knw what the husband might hv said to the maid to succum to him.. we all knw the pressure young girls face from men.
I hv even seen men sleeping with their daughter and the wife cover it up or agree to such.. If women can stand up to such issues, i believe it will be possible to breach the gap between inequality

we are saying the same thing ,men can be accomplices and women too. There is no gender favoured to be more decent than the other here. There are wicked people irrespective of gender.

seunfly:
Do u read my comment at all, i don't tolerates any firm of nanny in my house, we do things together to avoid any needs for nanny.

Why do I need to get any help when I can help my wife to do things at home.

i am talking about your friend you made reference to.

pocohantas:
-Put stringent laws in place.
-Let there be a token for people who report cases of child abuse/labour. Money motivates people.
-When confirmed, arrest the parents of the child or whoever gave him/her out, arrest the family that took her in too.
-Try them.
-Keep looking for other scape goats.

so much issues that goes on in this world ,but its more difficult to curtail in a third world country. Even in America there has been child maltreatment and even deaths by parents ,guardians and even foster parents. How parents still let their kids go stay with people when they are not dead baffles me sha.

There is alot to be done in this part of the world. Putting laws against child labour will not just be for maid aspect but even hawking and all,if we must go, we must go all out. But are we ready to go all out is the question here.

godbless120:
So you are telling me you have not seen nor heard how women go village demand for parent to let them take their kids to help them promising to train them either via school or handwork and at the end what those little will receive is to sleep with mens or they are not given food in a far away til they succum.
My point is women will create awareness and hashtag just to oppose and be equall men in the society but once it is madam and housemaid/help and other issues, it will be received with no much attention.

I also know of men are the ones sleeping with these minors ,which is why there is a word called accomplice. Many cases of men who have molested their maida,but the women turned a blind eye or sent the maids away to save their marriage, the word again is called accomplice. Go check it out.

seunfly:
Well I don't tolerates house help in my house, we do everything together to avoid excuse to need house help, besides my wife hates child abuse because she was abused when she was young.
However many family can't cope without househrlp especially if their kids are very young and both of them don't have enough spare time like me.

The best thing is that people should fear God in everything they do, funny thing is that those women are the most religious set of people.

I know a friend who has almost become nanny because of house maid, he gets house maids and his wife's actions keeps sending the house maid away, yet the wife is not ready to do the work of housemaid and somebody had to do it. This is affecting the husband's business seriously because he could not meet up with office obligations.

then get proper age maids,child labor has no excuse. I am sure she will watch how she treats an advanced maid or better still hire a nanny.

pocohantas:
The men don't beat them, they rape them. So, yes, they are all wicked people. Dîckhead!



Another perspective. Some people will still argue. They will even watch their wives kill a child and claim to be a good person.

I am more concerned about prevention than the cure, people should stop giving out their kids to people when they are not dead. Only orphans should be taken in,well that is just my opinion.


Children are shaped based on what they see around them,the odds of her kids turning out to grow into adults who lack empathy,feel they can get away with anything and feel they can treat people with utter disregard is very high.

seunfly:
@bolded, the husband can only do so much, most of the time the husband has talk and talk and he is tired.
Most of the fight btw husband and wife are sometime because of maltreatment of househelp, most women tends to act like this no matter what they say in public or online, their true colour comes out in their private home.
If you talk too much as husband, she starts telling u that you like the house help more than her or you are sleeping with house help or you value house help more than your family and she will start emotional black mail.
The worst thing is that her hatred for the house help will increase if you dare challenge her.

Most mrn will simply ignore it to have rest of mind.

send the help away ,simple.I am sure the kids can do what the help is doing. I personally feel having a help makes the kids spoilt and lazy.

Post-conviction bail ,i didn't know there was something like that tho

godbless120:
Explain what? a little tip.. about last year a boxer (male) kiss a journalist (female) and later apologies & twitter/other social media explode with hastag, same last yr a 19yr old boy in american got talent was kiss (his first kiss) by one of the judge (adult female) without the boy consent and at the kiss was celebrated and applauded.
In as much the guy was dealth wit and ban and other punishment, the woman also shld hv..
In as much we condem sexaul harrassment, home violence. if men were to come out also the world would explode.. i hv seen some ladies in their work place be hoverin their hand in front of men joystick but they are cool but let the men try same shitty play and it would explode like time bomb.

I am just curious how women turn their maids to sex objects that is where i want you to explain.

pocohantas:
Wickedness. As long as it is not them, they can easily look the other way. See as she lifted the girl up and slammed her down. Adults won't survive such without a broken spine.

Its just sad,honestly. I am even more concerned about how this imprints on the psyche of her kids. They either turn out just as brutal or end up being a people pleaser .

CHoccolaTE:
That's just it.

I have seen a case where the child grew up and started badmouthing the woman who took care of her till she left university, that was a woman that will beat her own kids with belt and electric cable but never beat or insult her foster child if she did wrong.

A relative once said my mum only housed him and gave him ordinary food. Lol this is a guy who was deported and had no where to stay o, three square meals for a grown adult is ordinary. Lol.Other cases i just don't want to mention i have seen.


Which ever way , you can never get the parental love your own children will have for you from another child even if you give them heaven and earth,it is what i have seen over the years. The only circumstance to take in another person's child is if they are orphans.

pocohantas:
The dumbskulls will still argue this. What do you expect when a good number of Nigerians are abusers (and apologists) in various forms. They're probably waiting to unleash the next level of abuse. If the horseband can't contain the situation, I guess it is neighbours two houses away that will do it. Mumu people.

I for one dont know how this people do it o.If i dont like something i speak up,if it persists i try to find a way to end it.

CHoccolaTE:
Wow, this is so true

Even if you are as kind as an angel, they will see maltreatment because they are not your kids

And they will go out and tell people you maltreatment then even when you treat them exactly the way you treat your own kids. They will still keep imagining that they are being maltreated.

i don't know how people do it but i cant . Many things i have seen when you try to help people especially the entitled ones,this i have seen countless times. They will have more memories of the bad times they had in your house than the good times.lol. I personally would rather you come and tell me i want to start a business or learn a trade so i can fend for my children than to come and tell me to help you raise your child. I feel its gross irresponsibility to push your parental duties to another person.

godbless120:
They will not come here to rant about domestic violence, child abuse or whatever.. in this country we hv seen madam women beating and abusing their house help, turning little girls to sex object and all feminist will not descend on her... but let a good man who just go frustrated and emotionally slap his wife and immediately apologies just see how they will give you names..

i am very much interested in this,can you explain further?

Roon9:
OK thank you.

have a blessed Sunday.

pocohantas:
Ednut, this is a very silly reason, but definitely not as silly as people who think the man who witnesses such go on- shouldn't be found culpable. It is a case of two wicked people and if you check it well, you will see it is true.

i heard ;

indifference in the time of injustice is approval.

Evil persists because good people keep silent.

But what do i know.

Roon9:
There's nothing to finish there. Learn to speak out against evil whenever you see it being done. Attempting to turn a thread as sensitive as this to a male/female war is just too disappointing.

More so most women have a penchant for such even though in a degree less serious and overt as this. The man that rapes a minor and this lady are all in the same category

Oh shut up there you biased little fellow. So also men have penchant for gruesome and most unimaginable crimes in human history. Your brothers on this thread have all be ranting and wailing of how women are more wicked than men. They started the comparison so we might all just go there.That one even brought his mother into it ,lol

Roon9:
This is really not the kind of thread to be saying this. Please be guided

go back and finish the read, and mind you will i say whatever i want ,wherever i want on this forum ,you dont tell me what to do ,be guided ,this is not your house.

Humphrizy:
My brother... No be lie.... They are naturally wicked and jealous.

Truth be told... Yes... My mom is a woman... But she can also attest to the fact that women are wicked and heartless more than men.

wicked and heartless more than men? Lol you mean the same men that are raping even babies? Or the same men raping and killing women? You mean the same men butchering a human being and selling the parts for 1k each? Which of the men ? .Don't get me started lol .



I have seen both worlds ,the one that takes care of the child as if he is hers and another that treats the dog better than the child. The only conclusion i can draw is i personally cannot raise another person's child. Not because i cant treat them right, but because no matter how much you try to integrate them into your family,you will never be accorded that parental love. Punishment you will normally give to your kids will be seen as maltreatment you will hear things like "its because they are not my parents".And in their adult stage they leave your house and forget all you did for them.


This particular video is actually very annoying,seeing that her child is almost grown like the maid.why even have a maid when your kids can do what the maid is doing. This particular woman is wicked just like my neighbor who was maltreating her late brothers two children that was staying with her.


In conclusion, which ever way ,i dont favor kids going to stay with people, except both parents are dead.

aro1:
Most People might want to always castigate naira marley..
But this guy mostly speak the truth:some girls are so unkempt,the bushes on their vagina is enough to breed rodents.. Damn!

when last did you as a guy shave down there? Nor lie o. even that your forest armpit . Things a faceless forum hides sha even an ogre looking fellow will be claiming prince charming online

MrBrownJay1:
i think you should have said: men who think that money can make women love them, are in for a shock.... these women may be attracted to such man's money, but would certainly NOT give a damn about that man. thinking that you can buy love is your fail of the day. the day that you lose the money that attracted such woman to your life, na the day you will realize that you were single all along and just foolishly paying a woman (who probably hated your guts) to be by your side unwillingly.

btw: as much as many women are attracted to bling bling , it takes a very stoopid fool to settle for the ones that wouldnt give you the time of day if you had no money.



lol, you must either look like king kong or have the WORST character on earth... no wonder men like you need money to attract women by your side.
everybody needs to take care of "their own" basic necessities, thats the principle of LIFE...how can you expect to attract women by your side if you cant even afford to feed/house/clothe yourself?! duh! but when you believe that you need to take care of other people's necessities (become mumu of the day) thats when you are making no sense whatsoever.

i will agree with you. I am currently in a dilemma. He is a police officer, gush i hate police, who knows maybe i would have had a change of heart if he wasnt too black like charcoal ugly looking,red eyes and even baldheaded. He keeps offering to get me things, from clothes to cream and i feel irritated by it. I dont know how ladies respond to the touch of guys they dont like but i cant even pick up the phone and hear him speak,it irritates me. The first day i met him was when i knew he was building a house,lol . He is just like most guys who feel if they throw a little money in there,it will make the likeness come.

That is why they end up being magas and come here to complain.They put no effort to fix other aspects of their lives especially their over bloated asswhole persona that stinks from afar. Their money will only make it easy for women to tolerate them not cherish them.

[quote author=Oreofepeters post=85068850][/quote]when you see me in heaven come and chase me away

Oreofepeters:
I just went through all your posts I can't help but say "you are part of those fiends who want equal right with men yeah?

lol , if you mean being acknowledge as a human being and being respected not based on my gender but based on my personality ,then i will say yes.

lilmax:
She doesn't want her friend to become Twitter feminist later, or nairaland single frustrated women


You see why it's good to have friends like this?

see this one still dey talk,lol what people hide behind a faceless forum sha

We are close to entering 2020 ,but it still feels like 1970 in the north. They will soon say its anti-Islam.

MrBrownJay1:
if this woman is indeed good, and we have a great r/ship. why would you think that marriage is gonna improve anything?! in the contrary, marriage would RUIN more than it would improve. both of you need to be on the edge and understand that you need to woo, care, love and cherish one another for the rest of your natural life.... aka water that flower. sadly, marriage tend to make people become emotionally LAZY, sexually REDUNDANT... aka disregard that flower because you now own it.

there is only ONE way to keep a flame alive, and thats to never marry that person. marriage is like chains that would have people who dont love/like you (any longer) stay with your sorry aaass because of that bondage called marriage. if love fades away then you guys need to part ways....sadly married people would stay together because of that piece of paper. i certainly do NOT want anyone to stay with me out of pity (aka marriage) as i certainly wouldnt.

i hope you are not a baby daddy sha. marriage is indeed not for everyone,it takes alot of work at every turn ,it takes alot of persistence ,it takes alot of adaptation heck its not easy living with someone else with a different upbringing ,beliefs from yours, It takes alot of maturity to put up with the flaws of another person , it takes alot of strength to keep going when the fire in that marriage has burned out and all that is left is just chaff feelings and lastly it take alot of determination to rekindle that dead flame and rejuvenate dead feelings towards your partner.


You are not wrong with your opinion like they say "perception is key" ,however what i don't like is when they decide to pollute the earth with their bastard seeds.litering the earth with their seeds and unsettling the flow of the family system.Please dont bring a child into this world with this mentality of yours,just live alone and die alone so other individuals don't get affected with your anti-marriage decision.

NaijadrivaCars:
They should stop inviting "worldly" entertainers to church.

The Church is not a circus!!!

with the way things are going ,the church is a circus already.The church is now worldly and the world is now churchly.

iyke0280:
Sued for what exactly? � what did davido think when he was making the video? That it would be recorded and then kept in the girl's phone for her personal viewing pleasure? �
If you say he was taken advantage of, then that's just sad because it makes him look dumb...on the other hand, if he knew what was going on but came out to distance himself from it because of the backlash it got then that's unfortunate as well...because it means he's not someone who has a mind of his own and is easily swayed by public opinion. Either way, it is a tragic comedy

Actually i think it makes the church look dumb, who even uses a circular artist that sings about asses and boobs for advert? Lol the church is a tragic comedy where clowns reside. The church is confused ,if they want to be circular let them say so we will know where they stand. soon na soapy dem go dey dance for church. Lol.


This is like a singer like sinach advertising for an oromila festival. ,that the church even deemed Davido fit to be used in a church concert advert calls for concern.

Who even came up with that idea, Davido and church advert . The church should be sued. I hate nonsense i am sure God agrees

What is the impeachment process for removing the president of Nigeria?

Alwaysachick:
When I tried to cut communications with him because of same highs and lows, he came to my house unannounced demanding to see me. He still asked me how we could make it better at the peak of the argument. And you say he ain't no lies that its all in my head?? Asking me to move in with him and I turned down and you say there was no relationship??

He knew It would be over if he admitted and ofcourse the lies just made it worse.

go and find out what gaslighting is . They always tell you "its all in your head". You better run for the sake of your sanity.

He doesn't want something serious with you yet he wants you to move in with him. My sister,that is how you will turn to his maid, and he will pack out and move to another location with his wife one day.

luminouz:
We are still saying the same thing.
Focus on the education/enlightenment you get from the forum and stop wasting time/emotions on less profitable things like the cusses and disses. I personally dont gain anything from that.

People are not who they are on SM. Few are real and themselves. I have seen so called Machos on NL come out as lambs and feminazis, man desperados. Many people dump their insecurity,anger,pain, fantasies on SM and for me,that's not the best way to evolve. Because,like a drunk with a hangover, you will STILL wake up to reality. Then,who is deceiving who?

your question begs for answers. Sighs.