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teeshet:
ladies where are you seeing money? Show us way now.

Go and ask your sister. . If you nor get sister I believe you should atleast have female cousins ,go ask them.

Hey google play me "Cry me a river" by Justin Timberlake cos the cry babies are already wailing

Una don start this nonsense again, packaging an old senile man that should be in old people's home to rule.

At what point are fools supposed to have sense? .This is nuseating abeg.

Get well soon then .

These same boys were bleating on the other thread about women wearing wigs now see natural now o, they are still gyrating like rabied dogs.Was expecting to see more of compliments here. Well I guess expecting such will be like expecting winter in hell


Dear women ,love yourself and do what is convenient and comfortable for you.

gypsey:
What do you mean by black boys? are you white? I am a black man, i like black women, i also like white women, chinese women, Indian women and so on. I ve been out with black women, white women and thai women. There were no difference in their behaviours or atitudes.


What i believe is being talked about on here is the wearing of wigs by blacks or African women, not an attack on black women. White girls wears hair extensions too, i know!

I don't like wigs wearing black women, the wigs i don't like not the person. In some African countries some of their women shaves their hairs off (chiscop hair style they call it) completely i still dated them co's they are gorgeous even with shaved hair.

Maybe you should talk to your brothers on this thread talking about black women having low self esteem and self hatred just because of wig o, hey God , nothing person nor go see for nairaland boys hand.


It's all a matter of preference but then, if you like such women seek them out and date them and even marry such ,no woman owes it to you or black men in general to keep their hair the way y'all want. It's a matter of choice ,I believe there are still women who use thread and wool only to make their hair,some cut it some perfer wigs. Enough of all the whining na ,una nor dey tire,it's nauseating abeg, new year don start una don continue ,women should this , women did this , women did not do this, wetin! Make we leave the planet for una? .

thatigboman1:
ur assumption

Nope from what I have seen.

Beze992:
I like you.

Thanks sis

Another whining thread ,geez!.

Ok let me just chip this is in , your mother is likely to spend 100% of all the money you give her on running the house.

But your dad is likely to divert and misappropriate it to other things.

Raychee:
Lol. It's bold of you to assume i don't take care of my hair very well. I'm not about to enter into that conversation. Afro textured wigs are equally as high maintenence as natural afro hair. If you wear a wig you would know that. Sacrificing my convenience to seek other people's validation or fit somebody's definition of ideal is one thing i wouldn't do. Thank you very much. Have a nice night rest.

Point 1 some monikers you see with f are not females behind it.
Point two ,these men have absolutely no idea what it takes to be a woman,it is on nairaland that someone said some women who have cravings during pregnancy are just lazy and he got lots of likes for it so you can imagine the type of mentality boys generally have about women on this forum.

These black boys would wish women were stuck in the era of their great grand parents while they get to live the modern life created by the "colonialists" ,that's how much black boys hate black women.I remember there used to be a trend of "team white " ladies on this forum too. So much for the so called high esteem rod wielders .

So my dear ,keep calm ,these daft boys won't hear you.

These boys are always in women's business. .I thought this attitude was left in 2021?


I already see some claiming it's low self esteem and colonization, soon they will tell women to stop using relaxer too and attachments . But there is a catch here ,despite claiming colonization,they still use all the things invented by the "colonialists" ,oops! I smell confusion garnished with hypocrisy. .

Dear black man that calls black women "low self esteemed" for using wigs, I suggest you go back to live like how your ancestors lived before the colonial era with your high self esteem

One even said today's woman disgusts him, oh well you can as well go sit in the grave with your ancestors .


Wig for me is more cheap, less time consuming,cos I braid my hair myself ,put on a wig cap and good to go. Less painful as well, I have soft scalp ,there is no time I go to braid my hair that I won't have to take paracetamol.

But hey ,it's my hair, my choice, I don't think I have to explain to some rod wielding misogynistic nitwit but here I am doing just that.

JONNYSPUTE:
....I don't think you can do so without going through the normal court processes.

You must need a lawyer to file for the case and which will also need a lawyer from your spouse to reply for the actual case to start.

So which ever way you look at it,a lawyer must be involved.

Alright, thanks.

frozen70:
I think you need to ho with your family to inform their inlaw that you are tired and fed up with the marriage and wants to pull out

It can be dissolved there if you think they don't need to bring you guys together again

They may plead and it's left for you to accept and give a second chance

You are the one that knows what you want

I want to do it legally. I just don't want issues in the future.

Kobojunkie:
What in the world is with the emotional rambling?

The OP asked a simple question. If you don't have anything sensible to add, move on.

many are mad but few are on nairaland,the guy is suffering from mental breakdown.

franchasng:
Fine babe with big ukwu never catch am, he will change his manifesto

she go just rub e gorimakpa shiny head e go melt like ice cube .

Nyascobar1414:
Does a man still have any business with her parent after paying her bride price...
Must he buy festive gifts to her family with his own money.. Did her parents train him?...
He should only buy gifts to his parents and the lady should buy gifts to her own parents with her own money... Thats why I say marriage benefits ladies..
But Oops, If only you are married, you will escape the generation of this men, but if not una wey be single ladies una go see shege oo.

lol, shege unto say ? I am glad it is no longer the era of women being told never to return to their father's house after marriage , neither is having a child outside marriage considered sacrilegious.

Infact Ini Edo is the typical modern woman every girl who thinks marriage is not for her should emulate . Las las everybody go dey alright.

Saintmary:
You'll get better information at the magistrate court nearest to you.



Good luck.

Alright,thanks.

FIFApresident1:
This is a big lesson to folks who seek advice on Nairaland, especially advice given by women, at least the bad advice from men is borne out of frustration, Hunger, Sapa and the very bad economy.

But these devilish Nairaland family women are all out to break homes, as my yoruba people used to say, "aje egbodo ton' wa eni kunra" meaning someone whose life is already destroyed wanting to destroy others life" that's the case of this op and other women on nairaland family section, they are mostly divorced, Evening newspaper, Psychos etcetera.

This op probably cheated on her spouse or a case of attempt murder on the mother-in-law (food poisoning like we read few days back).

Aunty, I repeat, you're a failure.

Nawa oo.

lol, your head nor correct .

FIFApresident1:
You're such a failure sister, a very big one at that.

Starting a new year with divorce.

you well so?

If you have no meaningful thing to say, scroll down na.

franchasng:
Hahahahaha but u can never say never oh

This one na suicide mission. Op na those type wey dey think say dem dey all knowing and wise such people dey hard to deal with.

naijainstinct:
Nah. I have chosen to stay single for life. Get eggs from a bank and have kids via a surrogate mum.......life shouldn't be that hard.

Do let us know how that works out for you in the future.

franchasng:
hahahaha lol



You and op fit be match oh as u don understand him, who knows

Lol

Nah, I dey quick code some kind traits for people as per say I don see things for this small life .I nor fit for e type wahala.

Biggie2000:
So, you agree that wifely duties can be bought with money? Yes or No? Please, no long talks, it's just a yes or no question.

yes.

Biggie2000:
OK, although I don't support misogyny and misandry, but permit me to ask this question:
let's say I'm able to pay for a surrogate to birth my child, I pay for someone to cook, I pay for someone to clean the house; what then will I need a wife for? What extraordinary thing will she bring to the table?
NB: I'm not asking this question in a quarrelsome manner, but simply to have a logical conversation.

If you can fund it no one is stopping you.

Surrogacy combined with ivf does not come cheap and the IVF trials is not guaranteed, you pay care givers, cook/ chef ,cleaners,pay for hookup when you want to pour, go right ahead.

But I just want you to know that despite not bringing anything to the table a wife will do all this and more for free,but it's funny how it's still not worth being on the table if such a heavily funded lifestyle can be saved by her.

franchasng:
the guy na confirm pefectionist lol



This one go plan death join

lol.

E nor go reach am do. Op na silent pain e go dey give who follow am dey house. People like op na on egg shells you go constantly dey walk around dem cos them dey always reason one kind.

LesbianBoy:
So asking a lady what she brings to the table is misogynistic? Interesting!

I blame yahoo boys and all these money miss road guys who made their money illegally.

If a man suffered to make his money he won't want to waste it on one olosho

But the comment I made was regarding how much the likes of Davido Timaya and co pay for child support ,sex and food as to draw an insight of what a wife brings to the table.


As it's stands now na aproko work you dey for here cos person mention you and you just dump dey misyarn.

Biggie2000:
Who told you they don't want to have such conversation? Are they complaining about the money? How much is the money? Let's say they drop 2 million naira for child support every month, how much is 2M to them? Is it not the same people that use such money as giveaway to their fans?
Cc Lesbianboy, abeg come and see this lady o

I meant the misogynistic nitwits asking what a wife brings to the table.

wirinet:
We are talking about what a wife brings to the table and you are talking about Wizkid, Davido, Timaya.

Ok ask Wizkid, Davido and Timaya how much they pay for child care, sex and food. You can then use the figure to extrapolate what a wife brings to the table .

This conversation is one they won't want to have

BigBashiru:
She can use her 80k to take care of herself... I support dat. But if she wants kids and the nan wants too she should drop an amount per child even if na 5k or 10k per month.... it doesn't hv to be a large amount but she has to drop something as it shows "we are in this together" and is evidence of her love for her husband.

But that's not what is at play here.


See if for nothing make we dey talk truth, I know you boys hate women with all your hearts and that's ok, but you sef check the list na.

The list is tailored according the the ops 300k earning taste ,the wife to be has to struggle to meet up with his taste. And to top it all she wasn't even there ,op just hit her with the list gbam like some CEO giving a job offer to an employee.

Basically she has no benefit being married to a man that earns more than her. She will have to keep up with appearances in that marriage to meet up with the ops 300k circle of friends and lifestyle.

wirinet:
Imagine comparing the standard of living of an 80k earner with a 300k earner.

I am sure the OP's house will have an electric stove, an electric water heater, freezer and air con in every room, the electric bill alone might be over 30k a month. About water, I hope the OP wouod be ok drinking pure water instead of demanding water dispenser.

The thing nor shock you?

Op say make e 80k earning wife come dey fund lifestyle of 300k earner yet people still think the lady is at fault one even said she is a materialistic hoe . Hey God! Shey you are seeing what all this yeye boys are saying ,you are seeing now o !

franchasng:
as in lol.


She fit de Nairaland self de read de comment too

If she is then I am proud of her. This one na devil's deal,op go give better deal to e employees than this one e give e wife to be .

franchasng:
His girlfriend must be a No nonsense chick, no time to deliberate or even argue, just japa

With someone like the op ,she must have tolerated enough and this was just the last straw so no need to argue.