₦airaland Forum

How much is the money so? I bet it won't even be up to 5 million Naira,smh, poor people with poverty mindset are more dangerous than the Bermuda triangle.

AdaoraNK:
Hahaha...why you blocking them from knowing the truth, are they not our brothers? Its better they are informed so that they won't waste time and money traveling down here and regretting in disappointment.

lol.

Dauraking:
These people didn't that what they were praising was APC audio train that has been dismantled and shipped back to manufacturers. They didn't know that what we have is locomotives. The type that belches smoke like a chimney used in making charcoal. Only if they knew that Nigeria is lying.

seems you can't keep a secret, you for nor tell them na

Fathers raping their daughters is gradually becoming a norm among Nigerian men

Agbagbaregoo:
Thanks man. I will do that. She dey madd

if only she can see this reply of yours,she will not only run but block you forever. Please leave her alone, stop calling her phone ,two-faced motherfucker

toprealman:
An adult.....lol. some secondary school lads are also here. No age barrier.
You can tell his type from the tone of his response...his headache though.

you will be shocked to know it's actually a grown adult behind that moniker ,

toprealman:
His type will troll the babe like forever......we know them.

to think that guy is an adult is what irks me the most. Very anyhow human being.

MrBrownJay1:
stop trying to impress good for nothing ungrateful women with money... count your blessing you got your money back., and just send her what you owe her, nothing more then forget/block the animal.

who hurt you? Oga carry your furstration commot for this thread jor,see as you dey spit for everywhere like a rabid dog .

I want to know how much the money is that a policeman had to get involved? .


That right there is why she said she doesn't want wahala ,maybe next time na efcc or Sars you go call for her .

abbiboy:
U go take style frustrate persin pikin bcus he no get wrk.

not at all, so long as he is sensible enough to drop his ego. Women who stay at home and take care of the home and kids have been told to be lazy house wives ,so why can't men embrace being house husbands since it's a lazy job? That's the question.

Deoboss:
A man can feed, cloth, make financial sacrifices & provide for his wife for 20yrs & there will be peace, no internal quarrels & there be joy in the home.

But a wife can’t do the same for her husband for just 2months if the table where turned & there will be much insults, disgrace, ridicule, humiliation, no sex, very limited feeding etc.

In some countries a man looses half of his wealth, cash & assets to his wife in the case of divorce even if the wife only brought her clothings & personal effects into the marriage from day 1. The husband is even thrown out of his own house he bought with his hard earned money as he forfeits it to his wife.

It’s really a woman’s world but some people that are still living in ancient times still think it’s a man’s world which is 100% false

in those 20 years the man was doing his responsibility there was balance. Everyone was doing their assigned duty. But when the man stops providing ,the balance is distorted and more burden falls on the wife.


A wife has to not only do her duty but also do the man's own as well. The least he can do is not give her a hard time .


In a normal balance all a man does is go to work come back and lift his legs up to watch news but now you can't expect the woman to do all her duty and still feed you ontop while you continue to lift your legs up to watch news. If you can't be the head (which involves providing) then embrace your role as a house husband.

Most men think being house wives is a lazy job,well since you can't provide as a man ,then take up the lazy job of being a house husband ,it's that simple.


Infact these days women work and still do their duties while all the men do is work and come home to lift their legs up,you don't see women complain even though they are subjected to the same work pressure as their husbands,only to be a house husband to atleast ease the stress from madam,you hear these men whining and nagging like babies of how their penis will get smaller when they become house husbands.

In conclusion, penis nor dey pay bills ,if you ain't got the means to pay the bills ,drop your ego, nobody is dragging your manship with you and being broke is the least time you should be reminding your wife how much of a man you are.


I hate it when men start saying "na because I nor get money again make you dey talk to me anyhow". That is where these men start having issues and run to nairaland to be creating threads,na you nor get shit for yansh na you still dey raise shoulder,mteeeeeeeew.


A broke egotistic man is worse than a rattle snake. Most men don't want to embrace their house husband roles,that's where issues start.

skyfather09:
No snitching... first rule.

until you are the victim being defrauded

fergie001:
You are wide off off the mark.
Let me come down.......Abuse on women happens everywhere but because of our tradition or culture or whatever we call it we intend to endure almost till death.

Away from us...they simply walk away ...and give themselves "separated' title and still remain friends.

For us here, the word Divorcee/separated is something we have not fully gotten used to.

At the bolded, wrong submission....I told you I don't judge..I am not in a position to say it is right or wrong. I just hope I don't get into the position where I have to make those kind of tough decisions.

There are still people who even with the door wide open in so the called first world that choose to stay that is the point I am trying to make here. Domestic violence is still a thing in first world countries and not all victim still report it till it's too late.


And you are right, we as Nigerians only see a good woman as that woman that endures and takes all the bullshit even to the extent of putting her life on the line, in order words "struggle love " is the only real love in this part of the world.


I love my wife because she stands up for herself,is strong , follows her dreams and takes good care of herself said no Nigerian man ever it has to be the woman who supports him,tolerates him , sacrifices to take care of him and the kids and so on.


Lastly, no one wishes to be in such situations, abusive partners are usually good manipulators and gaslighters, coupled with society that expects the woman to embrace the struggle love,it's going to be tough.

You know I went to visit an Aunt and her friend came over ,her friend made a statement that made me raise my eye brows,she said;

"na manage we dey manage all this men jor,na who nor talk e own come out you go think say e dey rosy, just bear my sister".
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That about sums it all up.

BlackSpanner:
This guys have a hidden agenda. I am of the view that all south south and south east Governors should come together to tackle this ticking time bomb.
Let's learn to be proactive and not reactive.


I watched a video on Channels TV some days back when the Army intercepted 35 buses conveying 400 of such people. And looking closely, those guys are not those street begging kids. They are matured guys.

I think the northerners are cooking something and have a sinister plan.

the jihad foot soldiers are using lockdown as a cover to move down south.


South be ready ,winter is coming!.

They will say it's conspiracy theory until these jihadist creap out of the shadows ,our Forests and bushes are surrounded, these terrorists are only waiting for the go ahead to cause mayhem ,I hope there is the brave among Southerners and it's leaders to fight this war that is about to be brought to their door step.

fergie001:
Exactly, the same thing.....I think its our mentality.

I don't judge whether its right or wrong, the prayer is just not to get into that kind of situation.

That again is not correct, no matter the reason bottom line is the victim stays so it doesn't change anything.The ones you want to praise based on race can even stay just because of Coke or booze ,I guess that is the superior mentality you want to buy into, right?

This is why there is a warning against self medication because psychology has it on record that some humans can be very stupid. See as this one use e hand buy trouble.


Anyway go and use aleovera ,only aleovera o,I repeat ,only aleovera!.

fergie001:
Its an African thing.

this statement is bogus,last time I checked "Stockholm syndrome"is not in any Nigerian dialect. Women stay with abusive partners all over the world for different reasons .The only difference is the reason a European woman will stay with an abusive partner will be different from the reason a Nigerian woman would.

You read somethings and have to pinch yourself to make sure it's not a bad dream. Smh

pocohantas:
Nah, acid is too drastic, so is burning. A lot of Nigerian men have even killed their internal organs with different consumable poisons. Some have stomach like 9mths pregnancy.

If you take him out more systematically, People will say “look at his stomach, definitely high bp”.

Most importantly, you have the support of the society as a virtuous woman who stayed and prayed for her randy husband till he died. Only widows get that love, divorcees don’t.

Choose your poison wisely.

wise words.

Oooops! .


Let me ask you,what prayer do you think your wife's ex prayed? Do you think he was happy about the whole situation?

I am sure he knelt down and said "Lord let those who have turned their back on me live long enough to regret it" .


What I am driving at is ,this could just be your karma.

Only pray now to finish serving your karma on time so your way too will be open,the table is big enough to accomodate everyone.

Datagric:
If am the not mistaken d man fit dey cheat on the wife too. Leave the lovers alone, wetin carry Ur wife go the hotel make Una go house go settle.

na who dem catch be thief,cheaters usually can't take what they dish. If them say make the man swear say since their marriage e never fvck another woman juju go kill am instantly . nonsense.

Anni3e:
Hi, I have been married for 9 years now, the problem I have with my husband is that his family members keep sucking him dry and the way he neglects us his immediate family.

He is the first child of 7 children, his siblings even the married ladies keep asking him for money. He keeps spending money on them and their husbands. His brothers keep crying they are broke, they keep leeching off him.

His two junior brothers that always ask him for money, one of them built a house in Port Harcourt and the other one built a big house in the village. Still they won't let him rest.

His married sisters are the worst. If they cough they would call him to send money, every minor thing they would expect money. Just this evening his sister called him to ask for money. We don't have a house of our own, I keep telling my husband to stop giving in to all their demands and invest the money on something, he would say I am turning him against his family.

We have 2 kids and I have told him we need to start saving for their future, I pay the electricity bill, foodstuffs, and most times the children school fees, he pays the house rent and rarely keeps money for home upkeep, he sometimes drops two thousand and that's it for the whole week. He always complains he has no more, but once his family calls him he sends money immediately.

I have saved enough to buy a land and I am not planning to include his name in the property . I don't know what to deal with, his family entitlement mentality or the way he neglects the kids and I and treat us like outsiders.

I am really pissed off and tired.

Sorry for the long post.

the bolded ,there are people here that will tell you otherwise ,don't mind them o. Men like your husband will only end up in the "I was once a rich man " category,the question is are you willing to go down with him?.

Yes you are supposed to do things together with your husband,but it takes two to tango,your husband is not willing to play ball with you hence the ball is in your court to leave something for yourself and your kids in the future.


I am saying this because my aunty made the mistake of joining finance with a financially reckless man who is a cheerful giver outside while neglecting his own, she continues to regret it till date. Be wise.

angelfallz:
Why not just ask the OP?
We just emerged from a total lock down, is it impossible that the OP has no more money? even a first bank branch started putting 500naira into ATM because they didn't even have enough money.
What i am saying in the end is, "stop assuming".

but someone already did asked the op and your rabied dog colleagues came for the person. .

angelfallz:
You keep making assumptions.

You should ask yourself what the op does with his money that he has to be left with not even transport fare,that's the question a smart person would ask ,just saying .

angelfallz:
how do you even know, he gives his wife upkeep money?

oh he doesn't?, doesn't that make it worse for the op?you work ,you don't give me up keep ,you sqander it all and come back to be asking me for tfare. .

Godoverevery:
lol....we didn't know you his wife.

why not finish up the story slowpoke

You are too slow. Guy men go dey talk ,you sef go dey talk .

Godoverevery:
story of a pained unintelligent Grandma.....stop using my words and try be productive....the earlier u get ur brain fixed the better slowpoke

lol, I swear you nor get sense . All this "na man,na man" males with only penis to show for it .

angelfallz:
Wow, the speed with which you jumped to your conclusions, is unbelievable.

errm, una slow for this forum Sha, gosh. So you are waiting for the op to tell you he squanders his money after giving his wife up keep and later comes to be asking for tfare? .

Godoverevery:
Lol didn't no you are a grandma..... I have got what I needed to hear....U are one those gutter ladies.
Enjoy your uncivilised life and insult everyone mother......ur own mom did a wonderful job ooo cretin

Uncouth boys are from gutter mothers ,them and their mothers will be dragged in the mud where they belong. Who ever knows his mother has fish brain should leave it as a family issue,who ever knows his mother is a wh0re should also leave it as a family matter.Dont come to the internet to cast aspersions on other females because your mother is in the category.


My dear mother did a good job and told me to stand up to people that don't have sense like you and put them in their place. . I didn't come to impress idiotic mor0ns wey their mama nor train well. All this stupid male nairalanders sef,una nor dey disappoint

angelfallz:
Wow the way you jumped to your conclusions, is unbelievable.

what conclusion? The op wrote the situation clearly, if just flew past your heads .

Godoverevery:
so the next thing is for to insult her mum,father and family.....do u have a functioning brain

throw the first punch and all bets are off.

I cant see any comment I made that warranted insult the entire women gender on my behalf. If his mother has fish brain ,he should keep it within his family and not come her to rub his furstration on the internet.