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expert234:
Lolz. I never expected anything less from you.

We all know a prostite that gets married is only on a temporary break; after a while she'll go back to her stock of trade.

lol. not every lady is like your mother bro.

expert234:
Mr X raised money and sold properties to sponsor his wife abroad because she had a job opportunity there. The wife on getting abroad abandoned the husband and their 3 kids in Nigeria for another man abroad.

The kids are well grown and fully understand what their mom did.

Judge by yourself, what impression do you want those kids to have about their mom and women generally? Will the boys among them ever wish to marry someone like their mother?

Your idea of feminist makes you sound stupid. Feminism shouldn't mean blindness, but that's what it means to you.

Mrs x gave mr man money to buy land based on head of the house ,Mr x went and put his name alone, got his sales girl pregnant when madam protested ,Mr x threw her out claiming ownership to a house he didn't build.


The toxic masculinity you men show is disgusting and appalling . Now will the girls with such fathers want to marry a man like their father or ever want to support a man not to talk of even lifting him out of the gutter? Another reason no daughter of mine will ever marry a man beneath her in terms of status.

expert234:
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Looks like you only see with one side of the brain and the other part is dysfunctional. Women on this platform also express hatred for men. So, we can as well say the platform is anti men, can't we?

What you girls on this platform call feminism is dumbness and intentional Stupidity at its best.

lol,oh well I didn't expect less from you. One thing is sure,this not the 1800s when a woman will be sent back to her husband after leaving. That is one thing I like about me being in this generation,the door is now wide for women to leave their matrimonial homes intead of being caged by traditions , culture or even religion .

Grandmeister:
I am not judging those who harbour animosity towards their parent(s) because I never walked in their shoes so I'm not in the position to cast aspersions....it only makes me realise how fortunate I and my siblings were to have parents that loved and provided us with all that we ever wanted materially and otherwise.

you sure are fortunate and should appreciate it. You know I used to ask why my dad couldn't just be like my neighbor's dad then. But after a while I accepted what I couldn't change.

Grandmeister:
Sometimes I wonder and pity people who grew up hating either of their parents, I could never truly understand what it means for such children because I grew up in a healthy loving family and was provided with all my needs(and wants)...it is well....

lol, it's actually not hate ,I don't hate my dad ,but I don't wish to marry a man like him. Just because he is my dad doesn't mean I wouldn't see his wickedness.


The cases of men raping their daughters is now rampant ,if such a child in the future calls her father a monster would that be out of place? Of course not.

angelfallz:
The guy is right though. When you see women that have deep hatred for men, and there are many in this forum, it is because they have a bad relationship with their fathers.
Women that have good relationships with their fathers don't habour that kind of hatred.

and when men have deep hatred for women on this forum what do we call it? . Or you still don't know this forum is anti- women or you are feinging ignorance?.

I only found out the hate men have for women when I joined nairalandand for the record.It was an eye opener for me. There is even a movement of anti- women with a handful of following on this forum but for whatever reason you choose to be biased or blind .

angelfallz:
It's a method that I use when seeking for relationships.
I have nothing against you personally. But once I realise that you have a bad relationship with your dad I steer clear of you.
I also realised from my own relationship and the relationship of others that, girls that have a good relationship with their fathers are the best to be in a relationship with.
Whereas girls that have a bad relationship with their fathers are the worst to be in a relationship with.

Girls with toxic fathers are woke,their intuition is highly alerted, they can see through bullshit and smell a man that will pose a problem from afar. Girls like this are not the ones to be naive or cowed by any man,they see the ending of the bullshit from the beginning and are usually courageous to walk away. Maybe that's what scares you cos women like that are quick to stop bullshit before it even takes off .

Akuruoulo:
your father can be anything , bt saying many nigerian men are like that is very wrong . My dad , my uncle and my mum are the best things i ever noticed in life. maybe its biological in ur home, thats why u generized it . so sorry

I said Many because from my neighbors to church members ,to even colleagues, its like a pandemic if men without sense of responsibility everywhere I turn.

angelfallz:
It's one of the easiest ways to know ladies that hate their fathers.
Ladies that have a good relationship with their fathers always respect men. But ladies with Daddy issues habour deep hatred for men, and should be avoided.

bla bla bla. How many ladies and even guys here will want their daughters to marry a man like their fathers? .


That should tell you that the men are the issue ,our mothers of old covered the nasty attitudes of these men. And let me just say this ,just because a marriage lasts doesn't mean it was healthy . Many marriages stood the test of time because our mothers had to compromise,not because the men were all that .

angelfallz:
Maybe that's why they're perfect, your mum and dad I mean.

nah, I don't even wish for such a marriage for my enemy. She endured for as long as she should till we took her to safety. So they were never a perfect match, the poor woman was just bearing for the sake of society and religion.

angelfallz:
Maybe that's why they're perfect for each other.

lol, it cost her too much though. I had to wonder to what end? Which is why I am not a fan of giving people too many chances,there are certain traits that are inbuilt .

Imagine wanting a typical Nigerian man with cultural belief of the 17th century with a bit of narcissistic triats to change. You will keep fasting and praying like a virtuous woman and hoping for the impossible.

membranus:
Thanks Bro.

Some people don't ever appreciate what their fathers contribute to their lives, as though they could ever be where they were without their fathers.

well i am a living witness that one can do without the input of a father , infact his presence was a set back to us at a time.

eni4real:
I comment my reserve

lol

liberalchick:
No, I didn’t marry the wrong person. I am just being realistic, living with someone for the rest of your life will not always be romantic and easy. There are different stages in marriages where it’s excellent, good, bad, sometimes ugly and then neutral.

Also, sometimes when people say their marriage is easy, sometimes it’s one sided, they are probably oblivious of their partner’s sacrifice to make the marriage an easy one for them .

the bolded is very true.

Liposure:
all the best in your quest

thanks ,cos finding one of the few good men in Nigeria is like searching for a treasure chest in the Bermuda triangle.

Liposure:
if it's so, then there's a higher chance of u marry one

if I do, I don't have the patience to stay. Which is why I constantly praise my mum, I don't have her level of tolerance to put up with BS in the name of marriage.

Liposure:
wetin happen

lol,why are you people acting surprised? It's not a new thing that a greater percentage of Nigerian men are terrible fathers.

SavageBoy:
Na Wa oh

nothing wah for here, it is common knowledge that many Nigerian men are wicked and toxic ,na our mothers dey cover their nasty attitudes because of tradition and religion.

eni4real:

wetin happen?are you shocked that dead beat fathers is a norm among Nigerian men?nor let your eye balls fall out o

Toluwashe778:
Candid advice

Pls pray well about it especially if u are a Christian because there is more to living together than pregnancy (anyway the probability of that happening is high). What if she fall sick?
What if anything happens her.

why will a Christian even be considering cohabitation in the first place

Emaprince:
No wonder you women are too bitter towards men on Naira land.

It all makes sense now.


If I see 5 women Like my mom, I will marry all

of course if I was a guy I will definitely marry my mother over and over again ,that mother of mine, I dey gbadun her die, her tolerance level is out of this world, her second name should be meekness but my dad , never not in this life !

Lorazepam:
Wow, sorry about that sis. Sounds tough.

many Nigerian men are like that , toxic misogynists ,but my mum on the other hand , her name should have been Patience, being able to put up with such a man with an archaic orientation and outlook on life.

I always pray for God never to give me a man like my dad ,I would rather remain unmarried than marry a man like my dad!.


A wicked philanderer,a toxic misogynist,a typical traditional man still stuck in the 1800s

DJMCOTTY:
Since you no get sympathy for the fellow /May the celebration of today never sound in your family henceforth..

bla bla bla, you and the op keep self sabotaging your destiny and be blaming big head , wide nose ,distema and so on,Nonsense. My sympathy will do him no good if he refuses to face the real problem.


As you have confirmed there are people with diastema working in the bank . So STFU!!!.


And by the way, ivf and surrogacy is now a thing,but then an itiboribo like you will not know that would you? .

DJMCOTTY:
Na Ogun go punish you for opening that shithole of a mouth to insult me, if your retarded brain no fit comprehend you no go ignore the post and walk your miserable life away? Idiot.!!!!!
Dumb cow like you.. Make soak away swallow you there. Orue!!!

see who dey talk about comprehension ? Look in the mirror . Na you jump carry your rabies enter my mention dey spit shit like the rabied dog wey you be.

Make corona virus kill you and your entire family. Na me cause your frustration? If you and the op get the same problem wey make you dey find solution, forget am ,na inside this frustration you go die put ,who knows next na wide nose you go blame for your failures ,itiboribo.

Na people like you and your family dem suppose use for this corona virus vaccine test sef , idiot . Ogun don punish you finish,na trailer front tyre go crush your skull !

DJMCOTTY:
If you have a solutution why not share with him? Do you think he's happy with the way things are turning out for him? Una get for body .

my friend shut up there,see who dey talk say person get e own for body, you dey crase? The op is obviously barking at the wrong tree. How do you profer a solution to someone who doesn't know what his real problem is? You well so?

Op , you don't know your problem yet.

SweetCunt97:
So you won't collect shishi until visa and employment letter is out for reals? Nna I don't buy it. Sounds too good to be true

na organ harvester o

eni4real:
Accommodation+ Agent+agreement+caution fees etc will drain that guy!!

He has not even spent on the Wedding yet

I am just trying to picture what was going on in his mind!!

Staying in the Family's house for a while, may be the best for him!!

Nobody should discourage them

the guy has 6 siblings minus his parents o,let's remember,even if they are staying in a mansion, it will not be easy for that lady.


There is no crime in wanting comfort for one's self not everyone is built for suffer head or incovinience ,it doesn't make them a bad person either. I personally will rather be in a one room sef con in the privacy of my own place with my husband than be in a mansion with his family. Two is company,three is ... You know the rest.



Lest I forget,they live in the village ,I don't think your first statement holds water, some villages still rent out rooms as low as 500 naira.

eni4real:
Nope

then why triggered?

eni4real:
Yeah. I feel triggered!

are you still doing "mama thank you for the food?"

Donbabaj:
I left her in the sitting room without any remorse but my mind no carry am. I went to plead with her now & she agreed.

stop making her wet if you nor wan fvck . Thats the only advice I can give you.

Also you mentioned treating infection,come you sure say you fit still score goal so? Hence you are hiding under Christianity to deceive that lady .