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Family / Re: On Ladies Hyphenating Their Surnames And Their Husband's by ladygogo: 10:22pm On Oct 16, 2014 |
Nice to know some Nigerian women are beginning to retain their last names. Changing your name comes with all sort of headache and I cant be bothered right now. Seriously, i'm not even interested. 2 Likes |
Family / Re: Happy Birthday To Nashville And I by ladygogo: 11:58pm On Oct 15, 2014 |
Happy birthday buka and Nashville! Please gimme me that cake. |
Family / Re: Mum’s Refusal To Have Her 5-year-old Daughter Circumcised Tears Families Apart by ladygogo: 12:15am On Oct 14, 2014 |
Definition of a strong woman. That man is a selfish bastard! 1 Like |
Family / Re: Mum’s Refusal To Have Her 5-year-old Daughter Circumcised Tears Families Apart by ladygogo: 12:12am On Oct 14, 2014 |
sassygal: Yucky indeed. ANIMALS!! |
Family / Re: Mum’s Refusal To Have Her 5-year-old Daughter Circumcised Tears Families Apart by ladygogo: 12:08am On Oct 14, 2014 |
Didnt know someone already created a topic for it. I wonder why some human beings will want to mutilate a child all in the name of culture and tradition. I cant believe this act is still being committed in Nigeria when there is a Child Right's law in place? Beats me. She is better off not marrying into that family. I hope she gets all the help she needs and if possible file for asylum in one of the Western countries. na dis kain matter dem dey like. |
Family / Re: Mum's Refusal To Have Her 5- Year-old Daughter Circumcised Tears Families Apart. by ladygogo: 12:04am On Oct 14, 2014 |
mods please close this thread. |
Family / Re: Mum's Refusal To Have Her 5- Year-old Daughter Circumcised Tears Families Apart. by ladygogo: 9:50pm On Oct 13, 2014 |
nora544: Very barbaric.Yes. It will be a good idea. However,she needs to leave Nigeria before she can file for Asylum according to Canada's Refugee protection Act. She could move to Rep of benin, Togo or some other West African country. So sad. 1 Like |
Family / Re: Mum's Refusal To Have Her 5- Year-old Daughter Circumcised Tears Families Apart. by ladygogo: 9:25pm On Oct 13, 2014 |
I wonder why some human beings will want to mutilate a child all in the name of culture and tradition. I cant believe this act is still being committed in Nigeria when there is a Child Right's law in place? Beats me. She is better off not marrying into that family. I hope she gets all the help she needs and if possible file for asylum in one of the Western countries. na dis kain matter dem dey like. 1 Like |
Family / Mum's Refusal To Have Her 5- Year-old Daughter Circumcised Tears Families Apart. by ladygogo: 8:56pm On Oct 13, 2014 |
I don’t want my daughter to suffer the consequences of circumcision like I did –Mum Her circumcision is a must as tradition demands –Dad’s family Against the background of a child Rights Law that guides against harmful cultural practices on children in Ekiti State, two families: the royal family of Olaoye in Ushi-Ekiti and the Oyenekan family are at loggerheads over the circumcision of a 5-year-old girl. The once rosy relationship between both families has now turned sour following a disagreement over the circumcision of their 5-year-old daughter, (name of baby withheld). Miss Olufunke Oyenekan, mother of the 5-year old girl and fiancee to Mr. Emmanuel Olaoye, son of the Olaoyes, a royal family in Ushi-Ekiti, Ekiti State, had disagreed with the Olaoyes over their decision to perform the traditional circumcision rites on her daughter. The woman, sensing that her husband’s family wanted to perform the rites by all means, fled with her child from the Olaoye’s family house in Ushi Ekiti in 2012 and her whereabouts has since remain unknown. Recently, the Olaoye family again raised the alarm through a representative, identified as Chief Olu Olaoye over the sudden disappearance of Olufunke and her daughter. The family said that their son’s fiancee did not mean well for the family by preventing them from performing the circumcision rites on the child. Their explanation is that it is a mandatory cultural practice to have all their children circumcised, moreso that theirs is a royal family whose duty it is to preserve the cultural heritage of the people of Ushi Ekiti in order to set an example for the people. “She (Olufunke) is not helping us, neither is she helping our daughter she has taken away. There are certain cultural practices that we adhere to in our land, some are avoidable while others are not. This practice of circumcision is part of the unavoidable ones. Olufunke cannot prevent us from carrying out cultural and traditional rites on our own blood. It is a must that we do the circumcision rites for the girl. Moreso, that the child is a princess, a daughter from the royal family of Ushi Ekiti and possibly a future regent!. “We have told them (Olufunke’s family) that they must ensure that they produce her because she cannot prevent us from performing our traditional duties. She must bring our daughter for the circumcision rites, “ he said, fuming with anger. Meanwhile, Olufunke has vowed not to allow anyone, even if it is her husband, to carry out any circumcision rites on her daughter. A member of her family, who spoke to Sunday Sun on condition of anonymity because of the sensitive nature of the matter, said: “As for the Oyenekan family, we have no problem with whatever the Olaoye family wants to do with their daughter. In our part of the world, it is the man who owns the child and has the final say over him or her. But our daughter, Olufunke is more western-oriented than many of us. She has vowed not to allow any circumcision for her daughter. She says the practice might have an adverse effect on the girl in the future. We would have been able to intervene in the matter to ensure that peace reigns but right now, I can swear to you that we do not even know the whereabouts of Olufunke and her child. In fact, we learnt that her older son has also joined his mum where she was but we do not have any idea of where that is. There was a time she took refuge with their pastor in a church in Abeokuta. The pastor assisted in getting the human rights group to intervene for peaceful resolution of the matter, but the fiance’ family became violent about the matter, they wanted to get their daughter by all means. We learnt that Olufunke narrowly escaped the attack on her and ran off with her daughter. We can only appeal to our in-laws to exercise patience on this issue till God makes Olufunke to come back, right now, there is nothing anyone can do.”, the man said. Speaking on phone to the Sunday Sun, Mr. Emmanuel Olaoye, fiancé to Olufunke, narrated how the trouble over the circumcision rites started, his words: “My fiancée, Olufunke Oyenekan and I met in February14,2006 and we love each other but haven’t married legally. We were co-habitting and eventually had two kids. A boy and a girl. “Things went on smoothly between us till I lost my father who was a traditional ruler in Ushi Ekiti, my home town. I received the message of the death of our royal father and was told I had been picked as his successor. So, I went home for the burial rites and took my wife-to-be and our children with me, actually to ensure that my extended family get to know her. We travelled to Ushi Ekiti in January 1,2012. “However, we didn’t know that a shocker was awaiting us at Ushi-Ekiti. My family demanded that we submit our children for circumcision rites. Funke, my wife-to-be, didn’t like this arrangement at all. She didn’t particularly want our daughter, who was then two years and four months old to be circumcised as she said she didn’t like what she experience as a woman who was circumcised by her parents when she was young. “But my people won’t be persuaded to spare our daughter of the treatment because our tradition forbids any of our blood not being administered the circumcision rites. “My fiancée has since fled with our daughter since the disagreement in Ushi-Ekiti. As I’m going to succeed my late father as the traditional ruler of our town, it becomes more mandatory for my children to be circumcised. Here in our land, it is part of the prerequisites of a king-to-be to have all his children circumcised. We really do not have a choice here. But my fiancee sees the practice as barbaric and outdated. She won’t have any of it for our daughter. “ “That is why she ran away with our daughter. Our son has also joined her where she is. I want to believe her people arranged her escape and know her whereabouts but they are claiming ignorance of it. We once heard she was in a pastor’s custody in one Bethel Love Church in Abeokuta, Ogun State. My people went there but she escaped from them and fled to an unknown place with the children and hasn’t been seen since then. I’m just confused about the whole development, “ Olaoye said, wearing a defeated, melancholy look. Source:http://sunnewsonline.com/new/?p=85914 1 Like
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Religion / Re: A Story That Shows The Difference Between Nigerian And Western Christians by ladygogo: 1:58am On Oct 13, 2014 |
Very true. Creepy Nigerian churches ! I stay away from them. They only preach about miracles, enemies and the devil. 2 Likes |
Family / Re: Steve Harvey Gifts Wife A Rolls Royce As A Birthday Gift by ladygogo: 5:13pm On Oct 11, 2014 |
Gosh! I want to look like that when I'm 50! Damn! She looks damn good. . 1 Like |
Family / Re: Your Opinion On A Woman That Has Not Visited Her Husband's Village For Once by ladygogo: 3:13am On Oct 10, 2014 |
Why are you taking panadol for your uncles headache? Whats so special about visiting the village anyway? You never know. It could be that she had a bad experience the last time she was there and has decided not to tell anyone about it. 2 Likes |
Family / Re: What Is Your Orientation As To Non-ijebu Yourbas Marrying Ijebu Citizen??? by ladygogo: 11:38pm On Oct 07, 2014 |
Lol. This thread funny die.! . Lol. @alutacontinua. Bad azs combo. you will be a good money manager o. I bet kanwulia is from space. The stereotyping is worse amongst ekiti people. Even my Dads driver(an ekiti man) will tell you he can't stand ijebu people.lol |
Family / Re: Awaiting Fathers: Lets Share Our Experience by ladygogo: 6:17pm On Oct 03, 2014 |
Awww! Cute cute 1 Like |
Family / Re: Why Do Wives Manipulate Their Husbands? by ladygogo: 6:15pm On Oct 03, 2014 |
cococandy: If you don't know the details don't assume. That is ehn. Assumptions! Smh |
Family / Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by ladygogo: 10:26pm On Sep 24, 2014 |
@hispinkolo. You have said it all. I think she is just giving excuses. @diegs. Do you also remember billionaires advice? He was the very first person that told you to leave and let your husband deal with the fact that you are not always going to be there. (At home). Shock his balls out by leaving to regain your sanity. May God give you the strength to do so. |
Family / Re: Single Ladies: Let's Share Our Experiences Here by ladygogo: 6:44pm On Sep 23, 2014 |
ileobatojo: E Neva finish o. Sometimes nairalanders can make you forget your tea.lol Keep sneaking in and out you hear. Lol. I dey see you o . 1 Like |
Family / Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by ladygogo: 6:34pm On Sep 23, 2014 |
edwife: Thank you @edwife. You've said my mind. 1 Like |
Family / Re: Single Ladies: Let's Share Our Experiences Here by ladygogo: 2:10am On Sep 22, 2014 |
Sophyrocks: That's why I stay away from naija churches. They further add salt to injury. 2 Likes |
Family / Re: New Couples And How They Destroy Their Kids. by ladygogo: 10:21pm On Sep 21, 2014 |
Well said. It needs to make front page. 1 Like |
Family / Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by ladygogo: 9:56pm On Sep 21, 2014 |
diegs: Are your sisters married? Can any of them allow you stay with them for a while or assist in helping you get some form of accommodation? Can you also contact Project Alert? Although your case is different, but you never know they may be able to accommodate you for the time being. You can just give it a try. Again,I hope your situation improves soon. |
Family / Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by ladygogo: 2:43pm On Sep 21, 2014 |
diegs: I dont know what to do. i have tried separating from my husband but my dad refused to allow me come home. i honestly tired of my marriage because my husband is not nice to me at all. it is as if i forced him into this marriage. This is someone that pratically joined me in begging my dad to allow me marry him. I just feel hopeless and useless. i dont even have a job to allow me move out and stay on my own. Hello dear. I remember you from your original post. It looks like your situation hasnt improved. Since your Dad doesnt want to meddle in your marital affairs why dont you pour your heart out to your mum? She can in turn seat your Dad down and let him know what is going on. Let her know your plans and also ask if she can be of help in sorting out a place for you to stay in the mean time. A break is definitely needed as depression isnt something to joke with. You dont need to blame yourself at this time. These issues can still be experienced by couples of the same tribe and even of the same State. I hope everything works out well for you in the end. Godspeed. |
Family / Re: Time For Fathers To Get Involved by ladygogo: 2:00pm On Sep 21, 2014 |
SAMBARRY: So as I was saying Kulyie,this pic definitely brought tears to my eyes. |
Family / Re: Single Ladies: Let's Share Our Experiences Here by ladygogo: 9:04pm On Sep 20, 2014 |
agbeke58: On the issue of stigmatization, some couple of mths back, we went for my brother's introduction. Now d time for introducing groom's sibling came, d woman doin d intoduction(my mum's very good friend) called my younger siblings one after the other, with their hubby, wife and children. Overlooked me, and my dad was trying to tell her she hasnt recognised me, d woman seems not to care, i just waived to my dad to let her be. This isht is real. smh@ the nigerian society. Please remain strong. 3 Likes |
Family / Re: Female Breadwinners Lament 'we Slave To Feed Our ‘househusbands’ by ladygogo: 4:16pm On Sep 20, 2014 |
BABE3: Hmmm. Na wa o. Thats why you see so many emotionally repressed women taking out their anger on their kids and house helps. This our do or die mentality when it comes to marriage isnt helping us at all as a society. 3 Likes |
Family / Re: Female Breadwinners Lament 'we Slave To Feed Our ‘househusbands’ by ladygogo: 4:03pm On Sep 20, 2014 |
"Just kidding . But seriously, where did the African women learnt this theme. 'divorce is not an option ' . Na ebe kwanu. This one life wey I come after how many centuries that has passed. I never existed, and here am I...trying to enjoy myself before old age catch up with me na him person go wan kill me early. Lai lai. This is survival of the fittest. Kai! I dey kamkpe." [/quote] lol @ divorce is not an option when you are constantly being disrespected. |
Family / Re: Female Breadwinners Lament 'we Slave To Feed Our ‘househusbands’ by ladygogo: 3:56pm On Sep 20, 2014 |
I was just reading this article on another website and I was just nodding to myself that it further buttresses the point Aisha made yesterday about women that still stay with cheating spouses regardless of their husbands socio-economic status. I wonder why these women are still enabling their husbands though. Chai. |
Family / Re: When A Cheating Spouse Dies by ladygogo: 8:19pm On Sep 19, 2014 |
effisyman: Because in the Nigerian society,God hates divorce and men find it easier to walk away and not experience the stigma that comes with being divorced. Yes . women do a lot of cheating. 1 Like |
Family / Re: When A Cheating Spouse Dies by ladygogo: 6:46pm On Sep 19, 2014 |
aisha2: Well[b][/b] from what I have noticed around me most people prefer losing a spouse to leaving a marriage.[b][/b] Do you think the bolded mostly happens amongst the rich? Because I think some women will leave their cheating spouses if they were poor. @op I'm not even surprised at your post.That's why I keep saying there are very few marriages in Nigeria. Most are only living like housemates. 1 Like |
Family / Re: How Do You Handle Household Chores? by ladygogo: 1:25pm On Sep 16, 2014 |
Kanwulia is obsessed with zebra prints. |
Family / Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by ladygogo: 1:05pm On Sep 16, 2014 |
Na wa o. All in this bid to remain in the husbands house. Aisha abeg to each their own. You have said my mind. Make we dey suffer and smile dey go. That's our stock in trade. I miss kobojunkie. 1 Like |
Travel / Re: Harper Government Considers Tightening ‘Citizenship By Birth’ Rules by ladygogo: 12:26am On Sep 15, 2014 |
Phema: And who/where is Harper?? Hello Phema. |
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