6pack:
I broke up with my ex 3 months ago. I have not been able to get her out of my mind.

She moved on got dumped by the guy in less than one month and she contacted me 5 days ago and I responded today. I tried settling it out and she said I responded late. That it can't work now. She even said she was going to see another guy . Like wtf.

What type of useless mind game is this please.
The fact is I love her so much. She is not the type that is after money or material things.
And I don't believe in double dating. We have been moving alone for 5 years now. I don't know how to get her off my mind. I have watch countless YouTube videos on how to get an ex off your mind but non is working . I have tried having sex with different girls just to get her thoughts off but its not working. This thing is affecting my hustle seriously.

Damn, let me drink some beer.
Life has been unfair to me relationship wise

This is the part where I had to sit back and laugh

Digmygold:


Are you Toke, the "Marriage Counselor" who couldn't keep her own marriage? You sound like her.

How does a woman keep a marriage with a man who doesn't want the marriage to be kept though?

This is the mindset that makes women stay in abusive marriages as well.Just because they want to keep their marriage .

post=112732574:
Online dating is almost like a box of chocolates ⁠You don't always know what you're going to get. While using dating apps is a wonderful way to get to know new people, you should still use caution when talking to a stranger on an app. Not everyone will have honest intentions, and sometimes, people may not be who they say they are.
Fake profile pictures are just the start, and these stories about being catfished prove that it's important to use your very best judgment.


Read these Three True Life stories from Real people.....

Many years ago I started talking to a guy called Zack. He lived in Pennsylvania. Nice lad. We spoke daily on MSN. We did this for a year or 2. We never bothered going on webcam with each other.

He told me about his family. His mother and sister had left him alone. He had never met his dad though had heard stories of him being a complete d*ck to his mum.

One day he came online and just didn't seem right, I was asking what was up, had something happened at school? with friends? etc. He told me he had to go on webcam. So He did.

So webcam turns on and theres this girl. She looked about 14. He was 16. Anyway. I had been talking to 'her' the whole time. Except i hadnt at the same time. Zack died a few years back. When he died (I have no idea what had happened to him) his little sister took on his personality. She had finally told her mum she has been speaking to me and her mum explained a few things to me. She believed she was zack a lot of the time. Spoke like she was him, told people she was him.

So the whole time i had been talking to a personality of a mentally ill girl. I was shocked and upset. I really enjoyed speaking with Zack, but to think he was never actually alive in the time i was talking to him.

Its a pretty strange one, I still struggle to get my head around it. i just wish I was a little older at the time so i could have understood more what was going on. This was about 10 years ago now so I can only piece together bits of the story.


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I started chatting with an army guy who was a peace keeper in DRC. We just started chatting casually, I was 21-22 when we started and he said he was 27.

I really don't remember what we spoke about. But I developed a huge crush on him. He said he loved me. I said it back. He said that he'd use his break to fly to see me. He represented himself as a 27 year old single guy. And he came across as having very high morals and being an absolute toughie.

I started to almost worship him and I placed him way above me. I one day told him (and short while before he was supposed to fly to see me) about my drunken 21 year party where I told me 2 best guy friends that I loved them.

He got all quiet and became jealous and something changed after that. We couldn't talk as usual. At this point we had never even spoken to each other. Everything was on chat. One day we were just having a normal conversation and he suddenly threw it in my face that I had gotten drunk... like that was supposed to make me feel bad.

What I didn't like was that he used a thing like that to try and hurt me, like he was waiting for the chance. Anyway, suddenly he was no longer in touch and I was completely devastated. I couldn't reach him. I thought he had told me his real name so I kept looking for his name online and found nothing. I tried over and over again and found nothing. I was broken hearted.

Then I finally had brain wave and googled his id and found that he had lied about his name. He was 40 something. He really was a peace keeper. I also found that he was known to catfish other people, he even created fake dating profiles as a woman. Someone posted a comment on one of his profiles revealing his real name and position. I eventually created a fake Facebook profile and added him as a friend. I found out he is divorced and has a young daughter and his statuses show that he's a total d*uchebag.

He really was a lieutenant colonel though and has been mentioned in a UN web page. I got over it all real fast.


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It's a bit embarrassing to admit I was catfished... But I was.

About 10-11 years ago, I started talking to a guy on Myspace. I'm pretty sure he messaged me first, and at first we just talked about tattoos and stuff since I had JUST got an apprenticeship at a shop. The guy said he knew my friend ... Let's call her "Amanda." So I talked to Amanda, and she said she knew the guy and they grew up together and what not. Anyway, guy and I keep talking online and of course I developed feelings. We'd talk on the phone for hours and finally after a few weeks, we agreed to meet up.

This was before the show Catfish... And what do ya know? Guy doesn't show up. He wouldn't answer his phone and I was waiting around like a jack*ss. Hours later, he calls, saying he is sorry. His phone died and he got lost and we'd try again another day. I stupidly ate up the b.s., forgave him, and agreed to meet him another time.

The next time, I brought Amanda and her girlfriend to meet this guy. Even though Amanda vouched for this guy, he didn't show up again. Again, I'm feeling like an idiot and I'm crying, so Amanda and her gf drive me home. Immediately I go online and "break up" with this dude I never met.

We still talked for 6 months after that, with me questioning if he was real... But after that, he was supposedly vacationing around Europe and I wasn't trying to pursue anything anymore. I would still hang out with Amanda, and she would tell me that the guy called her and had some crazy stories about Amsterdam, or Paris or wherever.

Well, about a year ago I got a message on FB from a girl. She asked if I knew _____ (Myspace guy) and if I had ever met him. I told her no, I never met him. She messaged me back that Amanda told her I had met this guy and that she had a brief online relationship with the guy. Then, one night, this girl was staying at Amanda's house when she was sick and I guess her voice was hoarse. She said it sounded exactly like the guy she was talking to online. She confronted Amanda and Amanda came clean.

So, my "friend" of 10+ years catfished me while she had a gf. I always wondered why she was a little clingy for a friend and hated all my boyfriends. Now I know. I haven't confronted her yet, but I also haven't talked to her for a year. I feel like she most likely knows that I know now. It hurts that a good friend did that to me

The Zack story is creepy.

Let's normalize words like neighbor, colleague, acquittance. People call just anyone friend,just because you have a conversation every now and then with someone doesn't make them your friend.

Trust and loyalty are an integral part of friendship ,until you are certain a person has such towards you to an extent ,he/she is not your friend.

He is always online, yet he doesn't pick your calls or return your messages.

What other signs do you need? . He is probably holding his phone and asking himself why you just don't get it . Like shey this girl nor get sense say make she nor dey use her own dey disturb me again.



MOVE ON
MOVE ON
MOVE ON

I don't know how else you want to be told ,mind you in a few months time he will show up from no where giving you tales of how he shoot bird e mama fly.

. This is sad, mental health is very important. Like someone said ,the brain is an organ of the body that can get sick,it's nothing to be ashamed of, talk to a therapist today.



Wish her quick recovery.

Na wah, misplaced priorities. Selling eggs to get a phone.


Well sha to each his own.

Mariangeles:


How unfortunate.

Yep the entire lineage is gone, none of them had kids before their death, the second one was well over 40 too didnt get married. Both parents are dead.

Mariangeles:


How come they're both dead?
What happened to them?

The youngest died in his sleep ,had a bad heart. The eldest died about two years later of throat cancer.

kingthreat:
Twitter lies

Used to know two gay brothers, the only two children of their parents ,both are dead now.


The eldest got married at well above 40 and didn't invite us for his wedding make one person nor go wisper am to person wey go tell the bride.Heard she was a banker, guess she never found out about him and his ways.


So yes ,these stories are very possible.

DonroxyII:
Other than Mouth, I'm not too much to be handled! No need for Boys Dem!

Noted.

DonroxyII:
Come and Beat me in My House na

Na boys I go arrange for you. Only me nor fit beat you.

DonroxyII:
Na play Na: I'm not the kind to Disrespect Woman albeit a whole You:

Luminouz signature when he is tired of a Conversation is "K" same as You.. !

Biko No Vex.
Nevertheless, Reduce your Pepperish Na:
If I call you Toxic Now, You will go Nicki Minaj :

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Pepper body? Una sha, it's ok to yarn dust and when called out the person is either bitter, toxic or has pepper body.Una own na to dey misyarn any other person wey see through una nonsense una to give am name. What other names do you wish to tag me again? Just make a list so we can avoid all this back and forth.

luminouz:


Goan sit down jor! You didn't even understand his context and you flared dafuq up. Shuuuu! You should have asked what's up. Imagine after typing 'k' , you now replied him?

Naaah...you are not like me. I never reply after a nice, fat 'K'

K.

DonroxyII:
Luminouz I dash You this Girl: Na your Kinda

What makes you think you are in the position to dash a total stranger out to a guy?

Let's maintain decorum please. I know it's not normal to have respect for women on this forum, but make una dey use una sense sometimes ,it won't hurt.

DonroxyII:
Trust me when the Brain don't get stimulated like that she goes crazy while you keep telling her she is fine but she ain't fine... She wanna play

She only replaced the urge for Plays with toxins that's why the Toxicity

We are all victims of our suppressed Mental Prowess:

That's why many people out there go Mad on slightest provocation, Mental happiness is scarce and everyone na manage level while Ojuelegba keeps asking Ikorodu for London, Ojuelegba should go become Paris Herself ....

Make it Make Sense na : Make we no dey Cheat ourselves!

K.

DonroxyII:
You see how you easily spin off and turn a very good conversation Upside down: Why are you itching to lambast me

You claimed People say You are too picky and you need to lower your standard: Your standards are Sense, Working Brain and home training as posted up there

But I said Do you yourself truly Possessed those standards .... Because the truth is that You can't get the standard You Don't have ... You will only get what you truly have ....

Thus, the problem may not be those guys you are picky about, the problem might actually be you using your innate attitude to drawn the wrong guys or turning Good guys into bad guys:

A very good example is you trying to draw me into hit-up arguement with You but I'm cool ...

If you are to be my girlfriend now and you want Sense, working Brain and home training an average dude would have lost everything with your second Quote:

The Question is that:

How much are you helping guys to maintain Sense, Working Brain and Home Training and How much of those standards do you have yourself and at what point do you easily lose them all ....

... Sho le fe textbook, OK o !

K.

DonroxyII:
You seem kinda toxic and that's like a Sympton of Your Introversion ... Read Up, I put Brain eating there as a Consequences of Boredom ...

You also acknowledged My Point that there are times you wanna be intimate, naughty, etc but You claimed You overcome them ...

To be Specific, You didn't overcome them, You only replaced them with Toxicity because Body wants what she wants and if she can't get it with the knowledge that it is out there, she goes silent and but Berserk On other Spheres!

I didn't draw any conclusion on You, I was just Generalising until Your Personalise everything.. Kpele!

Lol ,


Seems you have the habit of assuming and pointing fingers . What is it they say about people who point fingers again?


What do we call you now?, resident nairaland diagnostic personality consultant . Well done o. May you can prescribe medication to cure this toxicity ( introversion) .


After reading one book you feel you know everything and everyone. Lol . This your over Sabi has made you judgmental, bias with a "tear them down" attitude. I don't know what is more toxic than that


Imagine using your full chest to say "toxicity is a symptom of introversion", like seriously?

DonroxyII:
I thought this is an Open Conversation why am I sensing Advises for Me when You don't even Know me Sapio ...

Once the activities in between Routines differs than that's no more Routine but Diversifying e.g. Sex is Sex but Doggy, Missionary, Wheelbarrows, Cowgirl, Reverse Cowgirl, Spooning etc. Gives it Spices and makes the action Non-Routine like Papa and Mama Missionary!

Diversification only fades away with Someone without versatility and Spices.
I can bet You there can never be 100% Discussions of all Issues and counter issues in the World for a life time except Docile One Way Traffic People from Academic, Professionalism, Entertainment, New Discoveries, Inventions, Innovations, Religion, Romance, Politics, Diplomacy, Career, Social-Relations, Technologies Etc No, But How many People are actually what they claim they are

Ohhh, I love Intellectual and Intelligent Persons and for a somebody that can hold Intellectual conversations for 20Mins without turning everywhere to Arguementative arena

Everyone needs to sacrifice at some point in time because Nobody has it all or a Perfect fit or Error-free: That's why anyone that states there is a Problem to all guys and girls is also a Problem due to the fact that You can't hold a guy down or a guy that can't hold a girl down:

A problem in itself can not solve another problem, it leads to complications:

How You spinned the Conversation into Advises for Me actually baffled me ... Do You know me ni, I thought it was a Open Conversation about Circumstantial Introversion and Consequences therefrom:

I could say same for you,how you spinned my comment to assume so much and draw conclusions and generic text book generalizations about me is baffling.


Quote all the text book hypothesis on human psychology, the simple conclusion is that being happy and whole from within is the only way you can better appreciate the presence of another in your life.And if you see self awareness and being whole as a problem ,that is your cup of coffee or tea which ever you prefer.

DonroxyII:
The addition is the most necessary we all tend to deny but human is a social being not a lone being: Loneliness leads to Dullness and Recoiling:

That's My thought:
Circumstantial Introversion comes with alot of Brain Eaters when all those alone play items become routine:
Human Everywhere Needs Diversification because Monotony leads to Boredom:

There is too much cost to your voice being the only sensible means of communication to You:

It's not circumstantial introversion, neither is there any recoiling. Living itself is a routine,you wake up and you sleep ,only the activities in between differs. And when you live with someone for a while the "diversification " fades away as you become used to each other.


The earlier you realize this and embrace contentment the better for you and your future spouse else you will constantly feel you are missing out on something that is not even out there, lest you end up chasing shadows despite having "the one" in your life.

DonroxyII:
How do You now manage tge Loneliness Sapio ?

I lean towards introversion. I enjoy my own company ,so there is no room for loneliness , having the company of another person will be an addition not a starting point.


Though there was a time, not having someone to call ,to be intimate with ,to say naughty things to brothered me, then I experienced growth , and now those things don't bother me, if someone comes along fine if not fine.

RealTalker02:


For this generation , that standard is high o

Even as a Guy wanting same, na few fit meet that criteria

It's just tiring. Na yamayama full the dating pool o. People wey their head correct on both sides nor plenty again.

People say I am too picky. They tell me I have to lower my standards else I will end up alone. . I don't see how wanting a guy that has sense and a working brain with good home triaining is too high standards


I refuse to believe the one that will click for me is not in the dating pool. So for that very reason I am not settling. Lai Lai.

luminouz:

You don't know the redpill....I can show you..

It's never what you think it is

Not interested ,thanks for the offer though.

FanOfMyself:

Lolz you know that is what you ladies are known for. You come online and condemn Yahoo boys and their flamboyant lifestyle but secretly you wish for a man that would provide you with all the iPhones, Brazilian hair, designer clothes, etc.

K.

FanOfMyself:

A knock will be better.

Internet warrior.

FanOfMyself:

why are you bringing the red pill enter into your emotion-filled argument?

sue me .

luminouz:


So between a redpiller (a guy who knows his worth and vets his woman thoroughly) versus incels and yahoo ritualist...which would you pick?

None.

I said repillers have an over bearing ego, false sense of worth and are mostly misogynistic. That's already a recipe for disaster to any woman who knows what self awareness is.


"It's not that bad" doesn't mean its good either.

luminouz:


Shuu.. not all of them na

I'm one of the good ones, though I'm a redpiller

I could smell the red pill from here. And most y'all have misogyny flowing through your veins and an over bloated sense of worth.

Still among the yamayama wey full the dating pool.

luminouz:




Ok I give up. Are you married?

I'm not married that is why it's even more scary cos na so so murderers , rep pillers , incels, ritualists , rapists many pass for the dating pool.

luminouz:


Lemme alone na, black witch!!!

So ladies as I said earlier,

Please stay safe ,these streets is filled with monsters looking for someone's daughter to murder and mutilate.


Be safe out there Ladies.

luminouz:


What's all this bayi?

You keep screaming ladies ladies on my mention. I'm a man naaaaaaaaa.

Dear ladies ,be safe out there, it's scary outside.


Even a hardworking legit guy can decide to do rituals one day. Dem nor dey write an for forehead.


Stay safe ladies.