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Religion / Re: Submission Is Not Weakness - Pastor David Ibiyeomie (video) by LadyTara(f): 4:36pm On Jun 19, 2022 |
bukatyne:Hopefully we will. Personally I think misogyny and the "African mentality" has influence on the perception and outlook of these preachers which can subsequently influence their interpretation of scriptures which they turn to doctrines and sermons. |
Religion / Re: Submission Is Not Weakness - Pastor David Ibiyeomie (video) by LadyTara(f): 12:47pm On Jun 19, 2022 |
baralatie:lol , Not in anywhere did I project that,infact in my opinion being "wife " to a sensible man is the most beautiful experience to have in the course of relationship and interaction as humans going through life but I see you want to stir the waters. Let me expansiate. There is nothing wrong in being a wife, so also there isn't supposed to be anything wrong in grooming a young boy to be a husband. Most men today never had the one one talk on responsibilities and emotional maturity as husband save for few who were fortunate to attend serminars. Most only grew up to terrible examples of the male figures they had in their environment,most were left to find and navigate their way in the course of relationship with the opposite gender as per say "na man". It will take the grace of God for a so called virtuous woman to live happily with a badly raised man. A virtuous woman keeps her home ,but with a badly raised man chipping at the foundation ,that home is bound to crumble. 5 Likes |
Religion / Re: Submission Is Not Weakness - Pastor David Ibiyeomie (video) by LadyTara(f): 12:35pm On Jun 19, 2022 |
Prenonjebose:That's why I fault the sermon of these preachers. The balance seems to be lacking in their sermon. I think it stems from the Society grooming the girl child to be " wife" and that mentality has subconsciously been passed to the perception of the so called preachers who mix it with their teachings and dish it out as sermons. 1 Like |
Religion / Re: Submission Is Not Weakness - Pastor David Ibiyeomie (video) by LadyTara(f): 11:47am On Jun 19, 2022 |
Prenonjebose:I see , interesting. One might have to argue if a person who commands submission is capable of love. . You as a person has to be in a place in your soul and being to be able to give love. The version of submission Nigerian men want is the "yes my Lord ", I fear such a person who feel like a demi god is not in the head space to love another. Certain things don't need to be hammered on , it's the law of natural order. The so called revolt or rebellion as some people prefer to call it from women these days didn't just start over night. If you constantly feel the need to get respect and fear ,be obeyed or followed without acknowledging that you as a human can make mistakes ,can be wrong ,then I don't think that person is in a place to give love. If we all do our part, the storms of marriage will be easy to navigate. But my own is religious leaders and even society are too focused on women,it's like there is a need to constantly keep women in check while the men get a pass. 2 Likes |
Religion / Re: Submission Is Not Weakness - Pastor David Ibiyeomie (video) by LadyTara(f): 11:06am On Jun 19, 2022 |
dominique:Maybe it's just me,I but feel these religious leaders have subconsciously passed the responsibility of keeping a marriage together on women. They keep hammering on submission, virtuous woman ,infact if there is a crisis in a marriage it's usually the woman who has to fast and pray. . I might be wrong ,but it's just my observation. 12 Likes 2 Shares |
Crime / Re: Man Jilted By Lover Commits Suicide In Aba After 5 Years Of Dating by LadyTara(f): 5:55pm On Jun 18, 2022 |
splendyuniQ:Some set of people are more susceptible to depression than others. I wonder if it's predestined or a chemical reaction or diet or something. Personally I don't blame the lady, if marriage is the end goal a five years relationship with no head way in sight should be ended . Women don't have the luxury of time like men. Back to the depression, people need to know more about trauma releasing excercises and ways to get out of dark places in their head. Getting rid of that overwhelming feeling is possible. |
Family / Re: My Brothers Wife Is Cheating, Do I Tell Him Or Mind My Business by LadyTara(f): 1:42pm On Jun 18, 2022 |
CSTRR:This jakpa culture and the effect it is taking on society is not talked about. If not for technology of video calling some children might not see what their fathers look like till they grow old as daddy is stuck in a foreign land "hustling". Some are even married for papers sometimes with the consent of the wife back home just to escape economic hardship. Some women with husband's abroad only have sex just for procreation,he comes home every two years to get her pregnant and that's it. |
Family / Re: My Brothers Wife Is Cheating, Do I Tell Him Or Mind My Business by LadyTara(f): 12:54pm On Jun 18, 2022 |
Whiteshield:Still doesn't change the fact that the person is coward. Get evidence , present it with your full chest , heaven nor go fall. But,let me just ask o. How come people don't easily get triggered and say "I must tell am" if it's a man doing the cheating especially in this part of the world. It's seems there is a subconscious pass on that issue. |
Family / Re: My Brothers Wife Is Cheating, Do I Tell Him Or Mind My Business by LadyTara(f): 11:31am On Jun 18, 2022 |
Whiteshield:why are people such cowards though. Why does he have to hide and tell? Why ,just why? You want to report ,then come with your full chest. Only cowards throw stones and hide their hands. If he is sure ,let him tell his brother and stand by what he said . |
Romance / Re: Should I Tell My Male Friend What I Noticed About His Wife? by LadyTara(f): 10:33am On Jun 18, 2022 |
TheGoodJoe:Husband and wife matter ,na sense dem dey use. He who has ears let them hear. Anyway let me not stand in the way of "doing the right thing". The op needs to tell him, infact she should send him the picture and narrate everything to him.She should also advise him to fix whatever is wrong in his marriage. As a good friend she should sit the couple down and councel them. That's what friends are for. |
Romance / Re: Should I Tell My Male Friend What I Noticed About His Wife? by LadyTara(f): 10:20am On Jun 18, 2022 |
TheGoodJoe:No p. Let her tell her friend directly and narrate to him how she dodged them and took a picture and all to him as a good friend . I sure hope we get an update of " how the thing go" from the op. |
Romance / Re: Should I Tell My Male Friend What I Noticed About His Wife? by LadyTara(f): 8:34pm On Jun 17, 2022 |
TheGoodJoe:Do you visit your male friend's everyday ? So I don't get the buddy buddy you are talking about? |
Romance / Re: Should I Tell My Male Friend What I Noticed About His Wife? by LadyTara(f): 8:31pm On Jun 17, 2022 |
Islandlady:Well ok, do what your gut tells you. |
Romance / Re: Should I Tell My Male Friend What I Noticed About His Wife? by LadyTara(f): 8:30pm On Jun 17, 2022 |
TheGoodJoe:Don't get me wrong, I am not against what ever decision the op takes for the sake of the friendship. I am just trying to open a tunnel vision here. I think you should go back and read the ops opening post again. The fact that the woman is not uncomfortable does not give her the right to think only she has the discipline to be friends with a married man without bedding them. Personally I hope her suspicion turns out wrong so women like this will come down from their high horse of "pick me". |
Romance / Re: Should I Tell My Male Friend What I Noticed About His Wife? by LadyTara(f): 8:21pm On Jun 17, 2022 |
Islandlady:So you feel you are the only one who still visits your married friend without any motive? What makes you think you get a pass and another woman doesn't? That's my question. I am guessing you are not married ,yet you still visit your married male friend in his house who knows sometimes you meet up in the absence of his wife too , correct? So what gives you a pass and not someone else though? 2 Likes |
Romance / Re: Should I Tell My Male Friend What I Noticed About His Wife? by LadyTara(f): 8:18pm On Jun 17, 2022 |
TheGoodJoe:The op said she still visits them regularly because they stay in the same district,hence the reason for my comment. |
Romance / Re: Should I Tell My Male Friend What I Noticed About His Wife? by LadyTara(f): 7:44pm On Jun 17, 2022 |
TheGoodJoe:I am tempted to ask how her friendship with the said husband is. She seems uneasy with married woman being seen in public with a man yet she is friends with the said woman's husband. Why does she get a pass to befriend someone's husband to the extent of going to their house all the time though? Who knows if we even go into the history of this said friendship we might find feeling,lust or even intimacy in the cupboard. And that alone is enough to question the op's motive . A mall is too much of a public place to been seen with someone who you want to cheat with ,but hey that's just me. |
Romance / Re: Have Your Parents Ever Tried To Match Make You Before? Share Your Experience by LadyTara(f): 3:31pm On Jun 11, 2022 |
ravensckar:I like your father already. He sounds genuine and pure in heart. 11 Likes 1 Share |
Health / Re: Prostitutes In Zimbabwe Now Using Bread Packets As Condom Prices Rise by LadyTara(f): 1:59pm On Jun 10, 2022 |
gonkin:Alright. |
Health / Re: Prostitutes In Zimbabwe Now Using Bread Packets As Condom Prices Rise by LadyTara(f): 12:38pm On Jun 10, 2022 |
gonkin:Your gallery must be all over the place.Interesting. |
Health / Re: Prostitutes In Zimbabwe Now Using Bread Packets As Condom Prices Rise by LadyTara(f): 12:05pm On Jun 10, 2022 |
gonkin:how did you get the picture ? Had it in your gallery waiting for the right moment? |
Education / Re: Lagos Teacher, Taiwo Ojo, Arrested For Defiling A Senior Secondary Student by LadyTara(f): 11:59am On Jun 10, 2022 |
Triangles1:Teenagers who need proper guidance not to be preyed on. |
Family / Re: My Wife Still Asks Her Ex For Money by LadyTara(f): 11:42am On Jun 10, 2022 |
I personally keep ex's at bay, not because I hate them but for proper boundaries.If I see you outside we exchange pleasantries ,if you message me ,I respond formally. Na there e end. Boundaries Boundaries Boundaries When will some people learn it? I wonder what they talk about, your marriage ,his marriage. . Also I feel your wife settled,she feels her ex is better than you especially the financial aspect and her long throat and lack of contentment may push her to put your marriage in danger. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Health / Re: Prostitutes In Zimbabwe Now Using Bread Packets As Condom Prices Rise by LadyTara(f): 11:36am On Jun 10, 2022 |
gonkin:so you went to buy donut and sausage just for this comment? |
Family / Re: My 17yrs Old Son Is Getting Out Of Hand by LadyTara(f): 12:12pm On Jun 09, 2022 |
Crime / Re: 18-Year-Old Boy Kills A Woman And Her Child In Adamawa After Attempted Rape by LadyTara(f): 10:53am On Jun 09, 2022 |
DKM123:gbam. 1 Like |
Family / Re: My 17yrs Old Son Is Getting Out Of Hand by LadyTara(f): 10:44am On Jun 09, 2022 |
Streetmovement:Ok now will everyone stop with the bolded please .It's nauseating. My cousin who I have not seen for years ,we went for a family reunion early this year ,he pierced his both ears ,has a tattoo all this right under his father's roof. I jokingly told my aunt that God should bring money so her son can buy diamond earrings and remove the one he has on. Who wan rotten go rotten ,good upbringing or not, presence of a father or not. You can only do much when they are still Young ,it will come to a stage ,you only have to hope the upbringing sticks and doesn't get corroded by influence of environment and internet. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Family / Re: My 17yrs Old Son Is Getting Out Of Hand by LadyTara(f): 10:31am On Jun 09, 2022 |
Originalsly: In all this I have not seen you give a solution. 1 Like |
Family / Re: My 17yrs Old Son Is Getting Out Of Hand by LadyTara(f): 10:01am On Jun 09, 2022 |
Originalsly:Did it occur to you that she might have been struggling to put food on the table for these boys to have time to raise them? Even for a house with both parents,it's hard than for one person who probably goes out to look for money and come back at night. Seeing their mother struggle and shut out every other aspects of her life to provide for them should be enough to make them coordinate themselves and not cause her pain. People have grown up in the streets and used it as a motivation to live better lives. She could have easily given them out to relatives and go about her life. In the end good upbringing or not , people choose what they let themselves get influenced by. |
Family / Re: My 17yrs Old Son Is Getting Out Of Hand by LadyTara(f): 9:32am On Jun 09, 2022 |
Its too late to try and correct them, how you want take straighten smoked fish? Personally, I think everyone has their life to live , good up bringing or not, as a widow who has sacrificed all she can to bring them up, if they can't have that compassion for you and use it as a motivation not to cause you stress ,then they are not worth being called sons.People have grown up in terrible situations and still turned out fine. Since a 19 year old is man enough to have a girlfriend and a 17 year old is independent enough to go anywhere and come home at will. Madam it's time to leave them to fend for themselves. Find your square root now while you still have time.Go and be on your own. If you die today won't these children survive? Even if their father were alive ,they would have turned out bad ,if they wanted to ,that I can assure you of. Parenting has become so tasking these days especially with the internet and this yahoo yahoo virus spreading everywhere. I feel for people with teenage kids. The other day I heard kids ,the eldest should be 14 talking about client and bombing. So madam , don't go and die because dem fit nor even do yearly remembrance for you sef. |
Crime / Re: Man Begs As Lady Confronts Him For Sexually Harassing Her In A Bus In Lagos by LadyTara(f): 4:03am On Jun 06, 2022 |
Having such a man near kids can be very dangerous especially little girls. 1 Like |
Romance / Re: My Boyfriend Broke Up With Me Because I Got A High Paying Job by LadyTara(f): 10:39am On Jun 03, 2022 |
julie90 There is no love in a place that mourns your growth Know this and know peace. 3 Likes |
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