₦airaland Forum

cana882:
What income is it generating for the country??

What measures are put in place in terms of maintenance??

Since we don't value anything in this country, they should sell it to those who understand the value..

Also, it is certain that these redundant money gulping beings talking about speaking for the nation conceive a selfish and ulterior motive, so they are speaking for themselves indirectly.

A sensible move would have been to get an experienced foreign private firm to manage it, generate revenue from its facilities and agree on a profit sharing model with govt.

Ngokafor:
Laudate the busybody and yoruba abobaku...will you die if you mind damned business and quit pokenising into people's comment??...abeg face your yiruba front...Thank you.

Why? What has Laudate done to you? He must have made your life miserable, which is why you are chanting his name here. I must confess I really admire that guy. He was able to put you in your place and deal decisively with your fake mentality. Tell Laudate I owe him a bottle of the best drinks, whenever you see him.

Now back to my earlier question: Why are you taking panadol for this Odua republic issue? Do you want to become their 1st president? Simple yes or no would do. It would help us to identify the cause of your bad-belle.

Why is there a 3,000 naira fee for inspection of apartment? Are you not going to collect agency fee at the end of the day?

Ngokafor:
Why not seek your own damned odudua republic and be done with it??...what is all these rubbish for.....Many Igbos are really tired of sharing one country with you reason why IPOB was popular....You guys should fight to be on your own and enact as many oduduwa laws as you like..That will make more sense than this circus runs.

Maka gini? Why are you bothered about them seeking for an Odua republic? Do you want to be their 1st president?

2m2mdarling:
sir, I can tell you they don't need your money the mother is just trying to protect her inexperienced, innocent and vulnerable daughter from you.she had fears about you and you confirmed her fears. can you imagine you dating a girl for five years and you are planning to get married to her and you don't Know if she was going through such problem or not. it only meant that you intentionally avoided money related discussions. come to think about it, for five years they never ask you for anything until now you are getting married, and that was your test and you failed. she told you the money was for her school fees (to know how dedicated you are to her personal needs) that the rest is for her brother's school fees (trying to know if you will take him as your own) and that she sees you as her son (are you ready to take her as your mom?). we read about people like you on mother's forums like mamalette who see their in-laws as a burden and tries to break their spouses away from their families. sir before thinking of getting married to her or to any other girl, work on your giving life , your ability to shoulder responsibilities and the way you treat others remember women are incubators give them a seed they will give you a tree!

And it was even the 1st time she had ever asked in 5 years! Even if he couldn't give her everything she asked for, he could have given her half of it by saying that is all he can afford for now.

Instead of even calling the girl, and seeking ways to address the issue, he wants to dump her for a demand she didn't make, and something she probably had no knowledge about. By the time he leaves her, and a different sly character enters his life that collects 5 times the amount from him under various guises, he will still come back to NL to lament.

ChiefSweetus:
If you aren't dàft as well as greedy, you would have done well to see that I addressed the so-called 5 year request. No earlier, no later. Even if it's 15yrs, why should a responsible woman ask the man fornicating her daughter for money?? God forbid!!! Una no get shame for dis nairaland sha o! Sotay u no gree see say man dey provide steady for d babe, DIRECTLY!

Anyway, op don't worry, listen to all these hungry selfish nl activists looking to indoctrinate magadom in impressionable and weak-willed kiddy-men. After 10yr dating anniversary na car she go need. 15yr dating anniversary na house. And so on. That woman is looking for highest bidder for her pikin. Anyway most Nigerian mothers are like that.

When people like you lack valid points, they resort to insults. Daft and greedy must be your middle names. If you had read all my responses on this thread, you would have seen the advice offered to the OP. You referred to the 5 year relationship as mere "fornicating' with the daughter. Some marriages do not even last that long. But then you are too myopic to see that. People go out of their way to help total strangers, how much more those they know. But then, a "hungry selfish nl activist looking to indoctrinate magadom" like you would lack the basic wisdom to understand that, wouldn't you?

olaboy1:
That’s because you are still using duration of knowing each other to give your opinion. My point still stands, I’m using what kind of relationship and the possible nuances. Find your comment below, the examples are not boyfriend and girlfriend.

“I have seen ordinary teachers help others to pay house rent in rural areas, even when they themselves did not have much. I have seen people pick up medical bills for the sick, even when they were not millionaires themselves. I repeat: generosity is a mindset. But you won't understand it, because you do not have it. undecided The OP has dated the girl for 5 years, so she is not a new girl to him. Instead of showing commitment to her, he wishes to dump her without investigating the reasons behind the mother's actions. And you support such a pathetic decision.”

I am not using duration...I am using the fact that they know each other. The teachers and other people paying off medical bills who I mentioned earlier, knew the people they were trying to help.

The reason for mentioning the duration of the relationship, was to show that the girl was NOT a random stranger to the guy.Can you understand that, or are you still too obtuse to figure it out?

ChiefSweetus:
Brother man,

Disregard the foolish, ENTITLED leeches trying to guilt you for your legitimate and valid decision.

A mother-in-law may ask her son-in-law for money, but no self-respecting woman will ask her daughter's boyfriend for money, WTF!

She no get brothers? Sisters nko? Cousins nko? Colleagues nko? Cooperative nko? (Note i didn't mention husband sef o).. na who dey doke your daughter you wan obtain. That is manipulative, immoral and desperate! And you don't want your children inheriting those traits when grandma comes for omugwo.

I hope she doesn't see her daughter as Business. I know a woman that used to pìmp her half-caste daughter to men. Right from junior secondary school. Tufia!!!

Your concerns are valid. The idiòts complaining have no iota of shame or family pedigree.

If your girl hasn't shown such despicable tendencies in 5yrs, safe to assume she inherited her father's noble genes rather than the mom. I'd proceed on that note, but with caution cos the mama will forever feel scorned.

Did you read the story at all? Neither the mother nor the daughter have ever asked the guy for money in 5 years, since he has been dating the daughter. The mother just made the first request now....and you wrote this meaningless epistle?

olaboy1:
My point is you can’t compare OP and his GF relationship with the examples you gave. The dynamics are quite different.

They are not! The OP and his girlfriend have been in a relationship for 5 years. The people in the examples that I gave, were already acquaintances and friends to those they helped. Free your mind.

olaboy1:
Sorry your examples are random strangers who need help, it doesn’t play out the same way in this context. Be mindful of how you make outlandish comparison, apples and oranges should never be made to look the same.

Work on your logical reasoning.

Nothing in my examples suggested that these were random strangers who need help. They were people, I knew personally. If you cannot help someone close to you, is it a total stranger that you would now help? There was nothing outlandish in my post.

So work on your comprehension ability, please.

olaboy1:
You can assist anyone and it doesn’t matter who they are, but paying things like school fees, rent or feeding for a girl friend is a no no for me except he is a rich kid with plenty of money to play around with.

Why would another man spend raw cash on any would be new girl and her family. I was reading an African American guy’s blog who visited Nigeria and wrote that all Nigerian men use only money to attract their women.

It’s up to you if money is the foundation of your relationships. No wonder you can’t go on a date in Nigeria and just have milk shake without the girl demanding fried rice and chicken, because men like you have monetize relationships.

Upgrade your mentality. You sound like a self-centred, poverty stricken kid trying to survive from hand to mouth, who carefully pinches the pennies, in order to stay afloat. A generous person would not think like this. And generosity is a quality of the mind, not a fad to be picked up and dropped off, whenever one feels like it. A person who values others and wants to help them, would not put down 3rd parties willing to do so, even when he is not in a position to offer assistance to others. Rather, he would ask for God's empowerment in order to be a blessing to others.

I have seen ordinary teachers help others to pay house rent in rural areas, even when they themselves did not have much. I have seen people pick up medical bills for the sick, even when they were not millionaires themselves. I repeat: generosity is a mindset. But you won't understand it, because you do not have it. The OP has dated the girl for 5 years, so she is not a new girl to him. Instead of showing commitment to her, he wishes to dump her without investigating the reasons behind the mother's actions. And you support such a pathetic decision.

deanxy:
oh yes I do. You see, I don't having problem giving the money,infact I bought my fiancee an expensive phone (as in, very expensive) last month, which she didn't even asked for, I have done many things for her without her asking but my problem is why would the mom ask for money when I have not even married the daughter?

So why didn't you ask the daughter, why her mum was asking for money? Why decide to break up a 5 year relationship over such a thing? Especially when the mother has never asked you for money before now??

Finally, what was the brand of phone you bought the girl? It may have been an Itel cheap phone now, that you are calling very expensive....who knows?

sekem:
Maybe people neva do you sontin

See eh...

You're better off if you view every Nigerian as a 419ner at first

And then you sit back and watch them prove you wrong

Than the other way round

Guy, leave dat side. I have been swindled by those I considered close friends before, and I have also been rescued from shame by those I felt were total strangers to me, or acquaintances who I had very little in common with. My experiences have taught me that there are different types of people in this world. The good, the bad and the ugly.

Some folks believe all those they meet are liars, because they themselves know they are not truthful, so they find it easy to believe everyone is trying to fool them. Others believe everyone is trying to steal from them, because they too probably never got their money in an honest manner in the first place. In this world you meet all sorts. Listen to your guts, or your instincts and pray to God to guide and deliver you from evil people. That's all.

I cannot lie awake worrying that the next person I meet is going to cheat me. I have met all sorts. From those who would go an extra mile for me, because that is simply their nature, to those who would never lift a finger to help anyone, because that is how self-centred they are. There are different strokes, for different folks....

daclemx:
My guy, you are very lucky she isn't asking you a dime. The mum asked because she needed help. Do you know how difficult it is to beg someone? Okay, let the girl be. Na you go regret the next bus stop wey you go land. You sef go see say she better. Help her if you can.

Savage!

sekem:
See let me tell you the realities of this life

People always have a motive

And most times it's always a selfish motive

Don't ever forget that

Guy, it is not everyone that always has a motive. Sometimes, they just need help. Stop viewing all those you meet through your jaded, prejudiced lens. It is like saying every Nigerian is a 419 person. Everybody is different!

olaboy1:
His role should not be a sole provider for her and it doesn’t matter how long the relationship has been. They chose to enjoy the companionship together and she is not doing him any favor for dating him.

You are the one that needs to change your mentality. Chances of her dumping him is higher than any good stock crashing.
Once he starts paying her rent and school fees, then no turning back because he has just put himself in a provider role.

Her parents should find close family members to lend money from, not a boy friend.

Did you read the entire story at all?? In what way has he been the sole provider for her? Not once in their 5 years of dating each other, has the girl or her mother asked him for anything! The mother only asked once for him to assist with rent for the girl in school. She did not ask him for feeding money, payment of medical bills, house rent for the entire family or clothes allowance. So what do you mean by sole provider? Is it not obvious to you that within those 5 years, those women have been meeting their needs on their own, through their own source of income?

sekem:
Actually I'm not against him offering the woman the help

I'm just against him accepting it as his duty

And that's exactly what the woman is stylishly trying to establish by reminding him that he is her son

Don't ever let any woman manipulate you in any way

Women are very manipulative and they will use every tool in their bag of tricks to make you succumb

I thank God I have been able to completely master most if not all their manipulative strategies

Saying that she considers him as a son, is not being manipulative in my view. She may just have been trying to find a way to answer an unspoken question she feels he might have within his mind i.e. "Why did she come to me for help?"

This particular woman does not strike me as being manipulative, because not once in 5 years has she manipulated him, according to this story. So why would she suddenly start doing so, now? I agree that some women may be manipulative, but not all women. I have had some female friends and relatives, that came to my rescue without counting the cost one time I needed support, but the minute I got back on my feet and tried to return the favour, they declined. Since then, I have been very careful about tarring all women with the same brush.

olaboy1:
Unfortunately that’s not the reality in Nigeria. It’s amazing how people equate online comments with ones personal life. If I make comments against herdsmen consistently, would you conclude that herdsmen have killed one of my family members, you really need to grow up.

OP let me advice you man to man. When you date a girl that’s not your wife, if you have 100 Naira, spend not more than 5 Naira on her and put the other 95 Naira in company shares. If she walks out of the relationship, please don’t be mad, in 5 years try and see how much your shares are worth.

Did my questions hit too close to home? Is that why you got defensive? Guy, quit thinking like a kid. In a committed relationship that is expected to lead to marriage, which has lasted for 5 years and has stood the test of time, it is meaningless saying things like if you have a 100 naira, give the girl 5 naira. If you had a problem, and she had a 100 naira which she did not need, and you were desperate for 60 naira to solve your pressing problems, how would you feel if she gave you just 5 naira? Especially when you are aware that she has 100 naira in her pocket, that she really doesn't need?

Upgrade your mentality. Stop thinking like a poverty-stricken, myopic person....it doesn't suit you! Shares rise and fall all the time, and can even fall below the original amount you bought them.

freshkpomo:
Firstly-guys are nt offices,secondly-am nt defending d guy bt ladies see dating as a bussiness.Spread the leg to get d pay!!!Though the op did not do well,bt his fear right nw is WILL THEY HEAP THEIR FAMILY'S LOAD ON HIM AFTER HE............?

Did you even read the entire story at all?

sekem:
Of course!

There's always a first time!

And then a second time!

And then it becomes a tradition.

People are always exploitative

Always have that in mind as you try to render your help

Once you show them that you have the father Christmas gene in you, your own don finish

As for me I am always ready to help people but I always have a way of letting you know that it wasn't so easy rendering the help

That way they will always appreciate whatever thing you do for them rather than bombarding you with that their despicable sense of entitlement

If I were the op, I will wait for a week or two, then I will contact the woman letting her know that I now have the money and asking her if she still needs it...

So my friend, everything is common sense

Don't ever play the fool... unless there's something for you to gain in the end!

Exploitative people do not hide their nature for long!! Their demands would have started within a few months of him dating the girl. But he has been dating this girl for 5 years, and not once in those 5 years till now, has she or her mother made any financial demands on him!

That suggests that the girl and her mum have dignity and they also have a source of income, from where their needs have been met till date. If I were the guy, I'd sit the girl down, and ask if she truly needs money to pay her rent, and why she didn't ask me directly instead of going through her mum. The girl may not have been able to summon up courage to ask him, for financial help. Or the mother may have taken out a loan from her cooperative society, and may not have been able to pay back in time, due to unforeseen circumstances, so she needs help to avoid any dire consequences that may arise, as a result of her breach.

Bottom line: If he doesn't have the entire amount being requested, he could still offer half of the sum or whatever he can afford, instead of rejecting the offer to help, outright! They are not strangers to him, and they have not been demanding thus far.

olaboy1:
And when the lady finally becomes successful she suddenly wants someone in her league base on this thread below. You think the likes of Linda Ikeji didn’t get any boy friend support whilst struggling in the university, but now demands are very high.

https://www.nairaland.com/4339785/run-away-successful-lady-above/10#64981063

Did a lady break your heart while you were still a poor struggling man? Why are you so bitter? All women are not the same, and all women do not think or react the same way. So what is your stress?? You are trying to paint all of them black, yet the whole world knows that no two people are the same. Your genes, environment, upbringing, life experiences etc., all combine to make you what you are.

rezzy:
The guy is a Christian oo

Source : we attend the same Parish

Which guy? Seun Shagaya??

Reedahgado:
Is that his only problem? He should not worry, we have met the requirements already. Imagine me being Hausa girl from the north and I have c4 in Yoruba. After all, I don't understand Yoruba deeply. If that's the criteria for admission, I don hammer be that na

Correct chic! That is the spirit! Your admission into a tertiary institution in Lagos, will not be delayed, in Jesus name. Can I get an Amen from somebody?

Enemyofpeace:
did you use the language to fok Yoruba girls?

What on earth are you talking about? You well, so?

lexy2014:
bros I agree with u totally on this. When d whole acquiring chevron story broke,I checked d dudes twitter. 2 my amazement, almost all d folks who Twitted were simply making ass kissing & ass licking statesments. And I was like how do u celebrate a guy who failed just cos he mentioned chevron, millions of dollars and he is adenugas son and we fail 2 celebrate d small scale businesses who thrive & add value everyday?

Every story about failure carries a valuable or important lesson in it, to prevent you from making the same mistakes which led to that failure, again. When will Nigerians get it? Success stories are sweet, but stories of failure are important. That is why other countries that were in the same bracket with Nigeria 40 - 50 years ago, have become 10 times more developed than Nigeria. They learnt from their failure, but we didn't!

GLeesMODEL:
Federal lawmaker and proactive sentor Dino Melaye was spotted recently sharing pleasantries with his close friends across boards including Teddy Betso at the upper chamber recently after a legislative session. The outspoken politician is known for his simplicity and humility especially in relating to friends and fans beyond his constituents.
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His friend Teddy Betso was excited to be pictured with Sen. Dino  who he regards as a dignify and noble specimen of humility at the upper chamber. The well- known astute politician, with an unusual vision for his constituency has always engaged new reforms for residents in his Constituency - Kogi West senatorial district which also includes empowering them both in employment opportunities and entrepreneurship advantages.
http://www.alexreports.info/2018/02/reunion-sen-dino-melaye-spotted-with.html?m=0

You bloggers will not enter heaven, because una sabi lie pass anything. What do you mean by saying Dino has an "unusual vision for his constituency has always engaged new reforms for residents in his Constituency - Kogi West senatorial district which also includes empowering them both in employment opportunities and entrepreneurship advantages...." What dirty vision does he have? Which employment opportunities has he created? For how many people? Someone that cannot explain the source of his wealth till date?

At least, people like Ben Bruce have been associated with Silverbird, and we all know how he made his money. But Dino? His constituency is one of the most impoverished ones in Kogi state. The silly clown of a Senator only likes courting controversy and making a fool of himself. Nansense!

ballerin:
What's her Igbo name?

How come she has a Yoruba name?

HeWrites:
https://torimill.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/02/osinbajo-553x48089332163.jpg
Vice chairman Yemi Osinbajo's daughter, Kiki, is ready to wed the son of Billionaire Businesswoman, Hajia Bola Shagaya, Seun.

After a 12 months 2017 that she would as an alternative omit in phrases of her business and brush with the authorities, amiable society woman and billionaire businesswoman, Hajia Bola Shagaya is ready to smile again as one his sons, Seun, is set to wed the daughter of Professor Yemi Osinbajo, Nigeria's vice president.

Fondly called Kiki, the VP's daughter, who owns an Abuja-based magnificence salon, Glam d'Africa and Seun have been relationship for a whilst before figuring out to get married. We are instructed that the wedding ceremonies were fixed for March 15th-17th.

That is not all, The Boss' newspaper's supply has also revealed that Kabir, another son of Hajia Shagaya, who's the Senior Managing Director of e-commerce corporation, Zippy Logistics, will even be getting married in July.

https://torimill.com/2018/02/kiki-osinbajo-set-to-wed-the-son-of-billionaire-businesswoman-hajia-bola-shagaya-seun.html

Wait!! Is Seun Shagaya, (son of Hajia Bola Shagaya) not a Muslim? Isn't Kiki Osinbajo daughter of Prof. Yemi Osinbajo, a born-again Christian? How can two unequally yoked people such as these two, be contemplating such a serious thing as marriage?

Pigsandidiots:
Won't you go n check your properties in Italy and Australia like your bloda above?

mercyville:
lol...Igbos own Lagos just like the Ijaws own London and Tokyo..If only wishes were horses.The same cry Azikiwe cried until he went to the great beyond...they suffer from a disease called reality deficiency syndrome .

Biko, e don do..... una no go kill person with laugh for here....!

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Ihatepork:
Lol. What's the point of arguing back and forth over a bill that has already been passed. Medicine after death. They should have challenged it before it was passed. Too late already

Even DAWN commission already commended LASG. Knowing the type of person Ambode is, he doesn't give a rat's ass. They already knew what the reaction would be before they passed it lol. The usual noisemakers from potorpotor republic will huff and puff for few days and move on. The PDP dundees too will bring up the matter again when it's election time

I don't even know why they are wailing endlessly over the law. Was it passed behind the 3 Igbo legislators that are in the Lagos house of assembly? Abi, their state govts do not have state-owned tertiary institutions that they can attend? Even my own little state has about 2 higher institutions, I can still attend if I choose to go back to school, for another course. Na wa, o!

ositadima1:
Chi Onwurah is the MP for Newcastle Constituency which is 88% white.

Chuka Umunna is the MP for Streatham Constituency which is 58.2% white.

Fiona Onasanya is the MP for Peterborough Constituency which is 70.9% white.

Kate Badenoch is the MP for Edmonton Constituency which is 64.7% white.

Indirectly it supports my original point, you may not need ethnic majority to get elected to political position in a democracy. I envisage an Igbo governor elect for Lagos State, after all it's not by ethnicity as pointed out by friend;

Oh, so why were you chanting gleefully much earlier, that those Yoruba people would soon be in the minority, within Lagos state? Were you not the one that made these comments below? Why did you change your mind? Was it because someone debunked your fake stories earlier?

ositadima1:
Pls don't play dumb with me, I wrote this;

"They were elected by their constituencies where black are majority."

ositadima1:
Majority will always carry the vote, last year a total of seven Nigerians were elected into the UK parliament. They were elected by their constituencies where black are majority. If the present influx of other tribes continue, in the not so distant future the Yorubas will be outnumbered within Lagos, what do you think will happen then? Again, I don't care, just proving a point.

ositadima1:
No law is final, it can be appealed.

Thank God, you agree you don't have more claim over Lagos than I have. Yourobas may influence the happenings in Lagos today, just because they are majority, it may be different tomorrow.

zoedew:
I’ll explain just one more time. In Canada as a country unlike in Nigeria as a country where English is SOLELY the National Language The Lingua Franca is the English/French Languages which is why Canadian National Inscriptions are rendered in both languages. Now, the fact that the lingua Franca in Canada is as stated would not be reason to insist that English be spoken in Quebec! That is true Federalism! A visit to some places in America will not be liveable for a person who can’t do espanol! The fact that English Language is lingua Franca in Nigeria is no reason why a Federating State cannot demand that folks who wish to be educated or domiciled there must learn the language indigenous to that federating unit. This is more so that communication In English is not barred.

Gbam!! You talk am well! May you live long....