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godana:
LAWYER. I KNOW WHAT You MEAN.

I DNT TNK PEOPLE UNDERSTAND THAT You ARE AVAILABLE FOR SUGGESTIONS.
I KNOW WHERE You ARE COMING FROM AND TRUST ME EVERYONE FEELS THAT WAY AT ONE POINT IN ONE'S LIFE.
I DNT THINK You ARE A BAD PERSON, BUT RATHER I'D SAY DNT ALLOW YOUR PERSONAL FEELING CLOUD YOUR GOOD ABILITY TO REASON WITH MERCY.

TO TELL You THE TRUTH MY EXPERIENCE WITH MEN HASN'T BEEN FAIR SO FAR BUT THEN WE ALL KNOW LIFE ITSELF IS UNFAIR, AND AT SOME POINT IN OUR LIVES WE ALL GOT TO PLAY THE FOOL.
I AM KEEPING MY OPTIONS OPEN WHILE BEING VERY CAREFUL NOT TO GET HURT AGAIN.

MY ADVICE TO You IS GIVE YOUR SELF TIME AND YOU'LL COME AROUND. AS FOR BEING SINGLE, ENJOY IT WITH DIGNITY.

THINGS WILL ALWAYS SORT ITSELF OUT You'LL SEE.

CHEERS.

Obviously this is the most sensible post on this thread so far and i applaud you a lot for that. Ok thanks for the advice and i'll open up my innner side abit since you were candid enough to do like wise.

1. To be frank, it doesnt give me that great joy to break up with someone but its just the fact that i have to be smart and faster to break up before she does so. Relationships are not all beds and roses. You fight and argue endlessly, mutual suspicion creeps in and when you decide to be the matured one in the relationship to get things back to level, the chick just blots out that she doesnt love you again. How often do you want to go through this kind of thing and who do you trust?

2. Actually what really peeved me about my ex that turned me this way was the height of callousness and remorsefulness in breaking up. You dont go through this kind of thing twice without getting your head messed up. I dont think i have ever loved a person that much and for it to have ended on a very diabolical note, which almost led to a depressing and failed sucidial attempt, is enough to make me even more callous and remorseless than the devil.

3. I agree that my break ups with these chicks that i lure is a reflection of my anger and hatred towards my ex and since i cant get back at her, i pick on innocent chicks. Although i dont know how innocent they might be in the long run but i cannot wait to find out any more.

4. True love really hurts and its worse when you give up your whole life to commit to one person.

5. Honestly and i swear to God as my witness, prior to that time i have never cheated on any girl before talkless of cheating on her. I did not appreciate the need to fall in love with someone and cheat outside or keep 2 lovers simulteaneously, but after that, how can someone tell me time heals all? How can someone say i need counselling as if that would solve anything. People might see it as hatred towards the female gender on my part, but why shouldnt i habour that kind of hate and anger? People dont really forgive and forget especially anything that almosts destroys their lives.

6. I know why i am doing this and i think the more i do it, the more i might get tired of it and finally make the right decision someday to quit. The more people harrange me to stop, the more the vengeance and hatred creeps in.

One more thing, i do believe that someone can impact positively on the lives on another person in funny ways and from your post, i might do one better for you. I wont break up with my girlfriend that soon. Although to be honest, she hasnt done anything bad to me and she looks like the marriage type, but i dont trust women in the long run. So for now, i'll put out a stay on execution on my plans and watch the way things play out.

Once again thanks for the post, much appreciated!

prince84:
me am all alone here!!
my girlfriend is in nigeria, i will probably call her for like two hours
n tell her many sweet sweet things

E de sweet me to play devils advocate here, lol

@prince84

How you sure say your babe never get another person to tell am sweet nonsense for your back. Shebi you de for ukraine and she de naija and you know say we naija boys like to de put sand sand for person garri.

How you sure say she de faithful for naija? You get police wey de worry am and de give am bumper to bumper marking?

How you take know say she go siddon for house that day de wait for your phone call and de miss you? Abi you never think am say one bobo go de shadow am since you no de there to do van damme protect your property

How you sure say prospective toaster for naija never promise to marry am and go use that vals day blind am with present and romance that day?

Shebi you talk say she be only your girl friend and not your wife yet abi? How you know say she never de do runs for your back and de do love wantintin with another guy now or tomorrow for your back?

And lastly no console your self say you trust am because that one na tired excuse boys de use when fear don de catch them

Chei i be devil true true! I can imagine how my mind go de scatter now if to say na me them ask all this kin questions before vals day and i no de there to monitor my babe.

God i thank you say i de single o! I no fit carry this kin hypertension at my young age!

D-reloaded:
My friend, did you not read where I said I'll be spending mine in an asylum? Tell me something that I don't know jare, Captain Obvious.

Sorry o! No vex! Na me find your trouble. I take am like joke say you be kolo mental, but since you don talk say na for your own aso rock (asylum) na im you wan spend your val, i no get yans again.

Make i no too talk before you bite my butter bodi

D-reloaded:
ironically despite the fact that lawyer is a certified madman, I kind of agree with him in this instance to a certain extent

anyway zankey what kind of sin are you referring to. "dinner and a movie" is hardly sinful

Me certified MADMAN? D-Reloaded, wetin i do you? We don quarrel before? I don toast you before? I don f***k you before come fashi you? Why you don de call me madman? You be doctor for yaba left when you agree say i don be satisfied mad man?

Anyways since You confess say you de agree with mad man, it only takes a madman to agree with another mad man and in this case you be certified MADWOMAN!

amsky:
@ zankey

of course,you can go to church,clap hands and sing allelujah.That's good enough

@ lawyer,
why did you say bitter leaf?? please i feel like eating bitter leaf soup. someone please come to my rescue. , i need soup.

Eyah, i no know say you like bitter leaf soup o! I for DHL am to you but as them fit talk say i be terrorist wey de send soup through letter, i cant shout. Any way may be you fit see place for where u de stay wey dem de sell either afam, ogbono, okporoko fish, edi kin kong and all the sweet jedi jedi we de chop for naija make u use cool temper for vals day, lol

godana:
LAWYER, TAKE AM EASY, TO BE HONEST IT'S YOUR LIFE AND OLD BOY LIVE IT AS You LIKE.
BUT ON A SERIOUS NOTE THIS WHOLE THING IS REALLY GETTING OUT OF HAND AND IT'S MAKING THIS TOPIC LESS INTERESTING.

@godana

Well appreciated and noted. Honestly speaking, you noticed when you made your earlier comment, you neither said anything derogatory or personal and i just laughed it off. Meanwhile others here have been using all manner of excuses to insult me and make me look demonic.

See comments that label me as maniacal, serial dater, i need help and counselling , i need prayers, am immature etc. Do you expect me to just keep quite while their mouths run afoul? From my earlier posts, i tried to make it comedic and infuse it with a lot of dark humour but the responses were getting too personal. I neither alluded to any one in particular and actually, no one knows me personally, neither do i know any one here personally. But lacing their responses with sugar coated insults would not grant them a free boarding pass from me and i would take any one to the cleaners if they attempt to get nasty with me.

While i dont dictate what other people do with their lives no matter how good or bad, neither should they judge me. Not because i chose to do something that sounds and feels unpatable in their mouths, doesnt grant them the right to debase me personally. I wont take that from anyone.
What is so hard in saying oh! Lawyer what your doing is not good, and give me examples how they coped with such terrible break ups and engage in constructive debates? Instead they resort to cheap shots to prove a point. Well this is my territory and i'll take any one down and i mean anyone.

Anyways thanks for your kind comment and enjoy your day!

adeboo:
I think i am a romantic.
I feel if i am given the chance to truly like someone, then i would pour all ma romance into the relationship.
But sometimes obviously ma nija blood wants to creep in sometimes but i can be a romantic if am given the chance.

What chance? Stop decieving your self. You know that romance in naija is overated and disguised in the form of infatuation. Nigerian women especially show their so called romantic side when they either need money or a favour or they are feeling Hot or better still when they feel jealous and trying to fend off another female competitor fighting for her guy!

Besides you even confessed using an innuendo when you said But sometimes obviously ma nija blood wants to creep in

Stop denying the obvious. You know naija chicks arent romantic!

+osisi:
If you no get money,just say so,many gals with good hometraining will understand

Am glad you have unequivocally stated that you dont have home training, hence your barb about If you no get money,just say so. I know you fall under the category of scam artists that will be on the prowl on vals day looking for free chocolate and fanta to drink that day, lol,

If you de find flower, come pick bitter leaf for my backyard hang for your room.

Longer throat!

Yeah Right! Nigerians romantic?? Gimme a break! There is nothing like that in naija. Instead, it is laced with infatuation for the time being before reality creeps in. Nothing goes for nothing in Nigeria. The 2 of them only give each other what they want. The man spends his money to make her feels comfortable and the woman has this false sense of believe that the man cares for her while the man expects sex later at night in return.

Trust me, we dont practice romantic notions in naija, rather we fulfill a contract. I spend, you fu**ck. Finish. Live goes on!

uspry1:
@babycool

Why not you cruising with your cool yellow Audi zzzzzoooooooommmiiiiinnnnnnggg somewhere on Valentine day? Take your Val food basket with you to stop by a beautiful scenic mountian side stop-n-park place.

Just lay down your blanket on the top of your yellow Audi opening your Val food basket that contains your favorite Nigerian food and drink! Daydreaming until it get dusk going home!

Rubbish! Valentines day is an over rated experience and always tends to favour women than men. Its as if all the chicks of this planet collude that valentines day is their birthday and expect all the gifts on this planet to be by their bed side that day. Why should vals day be the chosen day to declare one's undying love to a chick? Why not the other 364 days?

I just think its a day girls turn into scam artists and 419ers to deprive men off their worldly possessions. The whole thing smacks of imbecility to me.

the chocolates, the flowers, the perfumes, the dinner and false hypocriscy of love that day just to intimidate others that are single, meanwhile the relationship is hanging on a cliff, mutual suspicion and trust exists and the cheatings that will soon follow suit.

Why pretend when if you love your partner you can celebrate vals day tonight with your partner and not be a follow follow.

P:S: Love doesnt exist on valentines day and its just a day to make more babies and hopefully make abortion doctors richer in 5 weeks time, yuk!

@baby cool

Stop day dreaming and get a life! The real world doesnt remotely have time for such wishful day dreaming!

Why should my girlfriend sit down with me in front when my dawg is with me in the car? Rubbish! Woman go, woman come, my dawg remains. shebi she is still just a girlfriend abi? Why treat her as royalty when it is obvious that she will still go and find another man's car to sit down in front tomorrow? Besides what is a woman's own with cars sef? I dont even know who they want to f**k whether its the car or me?

My dawg will forever be in front with me as a co-pilot and if she likes, she can sit down in the boot. My guy will forever be there to help me change the tyres in case it bursts or push the car or help me handle the police during check up bust ups. But my girlfriend will just stand there and be looking like the score board in onikan stadium totally bereft of ideas and worried that her friends will see her on the road standing while she ought to be under the comfort of A/C cruising.

Nonsense. My dawg is my dawg and this same chick will all be lovey dovey today with you in your car and tomorrow she will be doing the same thing in another man's car. Dawgs never lie and will be there for you till the end. If she like, make she vex, too many chicks full this world and i cant be less bothered about her whinnings to seat down in front and distract the shit outta me!

Pepeye:
From his parochial way of thinking he obviously has a problem and a deep complex. He has labeled himself as a serial dater, serial killer … a maniac, he doesn’t need counseling but prayers

@pepeye

Wow , Parochial way of thinking I guess you have been at the recieving end of being dumped over and over again, hence your need to get all diabolical in your choice of words, tut tut, poor girl, take heart. Your time will come to do a number on someone else

You also said i have a problem and a deep sense of complex!

Wow thats the same mantra the girls i have dumped always scream whenever they are the recieving end? Are you sure your not one of my conquests years back?

Or please tell me. What problem do i have? I am living a swell life and enjoying my self and obviously dont see any form of problem afecting me this moment. Except you know something that i dont know, you definately gotta explain. Or are you trying to expound your own problems in disguise? And talk about the so called deep complex ( What a laugh) Complex of what? That i am shy of women? That i can't toast women? That i can f***k? Or that i am afraid of rejection? If you cared to read my posts, i retriated that i am in control of my destiny and the emotional destiny of the girls i sleep with. So who is the one with a deep complex? Me! I date and dump. While they scream and get shattered emotionally. Who then harbours the complex? You ought to learn how to use your syntaxes and sematics in context properly.

As per calling me a serial dater! Duh Duh! I didnt choose the name. It was one of the emotionally disturbed chicks on nairaland that labelled me thus after reading an earlier post. I kinda like the name and prefer the comparison to someone that dates sporadically and dumps without remorse. So dont shoot the messenger but the owner of the parcel. Also i never likened my self to a serial killer. Thats a new one from you and stop ascribing names and issues i never spoke about. I dont kill physically and am not one. But if you say i kill them emotionally, well thats a different kettle of fish and i cant complain there, lol

You also called me a maniac and i need prayers. Well be my guest and tell your pastor to start his 40 days of fasting. At least am not the one that would end up looking like an anorexic after wards. So you can shove your prayers up yours and free me to do what i think is right for me and how i satisfy my sinful pleasures.

@lawyer

All this struggle just to let us know you are in 'control' and having a 'fun'?

Chei! talk about 'living in bondage'

@ shinatu

What struggle? and whose living in bondage? Guess you must have watched that film a countless times. Please get a life. Too much home videos can lead you astray. Life is too short. Play more and end your life with a bang not with pangs!

@lawyer, I see that with your broken heart is your complete loss of a sense of humour. You are living a tasteless life and taking great pains to justify your lifestyle. I was just giving my sixpence ( abi no be so them dey talk am). And there's no need to get derogatory, I was only trying to bring some playful banter into the whole, extended diatribe. All in all, your life is your choice. Live it your way.

@Ufo4ma

My broken heart? I resent that totally. That was a very long time a ago. Now i have a cheerful heart made of stone i might add and yes loss of sense of humour comes with the territory. I had to take pains to counter your rubbish earlier on posted about me and its such a shame that after your earlier boasts that you were waiting for my counter reply and if i was your brother you would knock my end, you decided to just shake your head and walk away. Talk about being a whimp and chickening out when you actually started the whole "diatribe" of words. Words of advice. Dont start something you cant remotely dare to finish unless you'll get your emotions and heart burnt! Besides keep your sixpence to your self. Am all about the dollar!

@Lawyer

Shuo all this energy just to prove you are IN CONTROL, dayum talk about overcompesating .

Walahi if after all this sermon it turns out you are not Gani Fawehinmi you should go and fast and pray for 40 days mehn.

Better still use all that essay writing technique to further your education. Maybe then you will get a job at the Magisterate court.

@dollyp 1cute

I you guess you want to take the place of Ufo4ma and be my new sacrificial ewe. Anyway let me break your twaddles gradually.

You werent at the beginning of this discuss for you to come to a ludicrious conclusion that i wasted all this energy to justify my need of control. You just butted in and decided you had to spew your own version of a reply when you didnt know the foundation of this argument.

Secondly FYI in case you dont know, its not every body that goes to court as a lawyer that makes money or end up being a gani fahwehinmi. I have a thriving soliciting practice and i dont give 2 bleeps about being a human rights lawyer. Am all about the money and am using my legal skills to make the much desired cash i crave for and enjoying. Besides one of the cardinal points of being a solicitor is being articulate about your choice of words and stead fast presentations of essays and counter statements which i am adequately a genius in. Also for your information, court cases are not won these days through a shouting match in court but through your pleadings or better still the way you draft your arguments in paper form and am extremely good in that.

So your foolish and warped belief of me brushing up my writing techniques to further my education so as to become a magistrate begs of lack of intelligence from you. Besides am very well educated academically and i am sure your not remotely close to my academic achievements. You should try going back to school. You are in desperate need of an education right now.

Please dont pour out your frustrations on me for being a the recieving end of a bad break up that left you in ruins. Look else where to pour out your complains because am not lending a listening ear to your whinings

@ Dawi

lawyer you need help asap.
You're being totally immature.

Oh ! Bruva! Men!

Arent you guys tired of repeating this same ol' mantra?

"I need help" " Am being immature"

As if that will stop me from dumping more girls or having my way whenever i want. Immaturity is based on the level of civilization which you trump up or conjure and what is civilized and mature in Canda is definately not what is civilized and immature in afghanistan. You believe the fact that i blow my trumpet about dumping women is immature to you. Trust me, there are loads of people like me that appreciate what i am doing. So i dont care about the moral crusade that your trying to expound her trying to score your self cheap points in front of the emotionally charged girls on nairaland so as to gain your self their respect. Dont think that lumping yourself with these confused chicks that might get dumped any time from now is going to help you get laid any time soon. In life you have to be aggressive to get what you want and climb the heads of others to achieve your desires. Once again, keep your help and prayers to yourself because am doing extremely fine with the life i choose and as long as your not a girl, you have nothing to be afraid of!

godana:
LAWYER. Na wah o.

I rest my case my lord.

No objection.

case dismissed

I think you need to get laid ufo4ma, what do you think?

uf4oma:
@lawyer

to think of all the space u've taken on this particular thread to espouse your theory of 'do me i do u', i actually think urs is a cry for help

You got it wrong. Whose crying for help? The fact that i told you that i  have a girl friend that i intend to break up with in 2 weeks time, shows that i am in control of her emotional destiny. The fact that she dots on me all day and believes am her all in all, shows i am in the driving seat. Like tonight, i took her out to watch the Nigeria-Benin football match in a fancy hotspot in Victoria island and ended up having a so called romantic dinner. She is in the state of extasy now and can't stop telling me how much she appreciates and loves me and deep down she thinks she has finally found her Mr. Right. ( How Hilarious)  She tells me how she she has made so many mistakes with wrong men and she hopes she has finally got it right. I make false promises and assurances that i would never leave her and i'll do everything possible to make sure our relationship works.

Now tell me, who would finally cry for help when she would be left helpless and devasted during the valentine period? Who would be crying for help when she's going nuts in her room, swearing at all men and wishing she hadnt opened her heart for me? Who would be crying for help when her life would go all tumbling down in a spiral fashion? Who would be crying for help when she would vow never to open up her heart to any guy again? Who would be crying for help when she would have to turn down prospective and true suitors based on anger and vengeance against all men and by the time she decides to date again, maybe probably after 6 months or a year, she meets another serial dater like me?

[b]This reminds me of a chick i broke up with last year. We just had sex and it was mind blowing and after 3 hours of bed side gisting, i just decided that i have had enough of this relationship and had to move on. At first she thought i was joking. After she read my expression and stoic silence for about 30 minutes, she began to frantically shove me to speak to her and stop  play acting with her emotions. she noticed i wasnt in the mood to talk to her and she began to question what she had done wrong.

I just kept mute and kept a bold face while i was laughing inside. Her expressions and behaviour was just too amusing for me and my mind had a major flash back to when i was dumped. I could mirror my life then at the mercy of a person that doesnt give a hoot about you and doesnt give a shit if you die at that moment. She cried and cried and kept on begging me all night to forgive her for an imaginary sin which she thought she had commited. I just blanked her out and tried to cover my ears because the sobs and cries were just getting too irritating for me.

She kept on blabbering that i have destroyed her life, that i have brought shame unto her and what will her friends say, how would she react in front of people, blah, blah blah,  And trust women, when the chips are down, they will use their number one secret weapon to get a man. ( Their sexual advances). Knowing that i might easily get swayed by the sexual advances, i blotted that out too and thwarted her advances. She knew it was finally finished and kept on begging and begging but to no avail. I was having a ball and enjoying every dramatic moment.

Very early in the morning, i just packed my things and walked out of the door ( actually i dumped her in her crib. Makes for better fun and amusement instead of doing it in your house. You never might tell what she might break in that fit of rage that she harbours, lol ) She began to swear and curse ceaselessly until i zoomed out of the room. She kept on repeating she would never trust men and she made a mistake opening up her heart. Damn i enjoyed every moment of it and after 3 days when i refused to pick up her phone calls, she knew it was game up! The beautiful part was me sending her a text message after ignoring her for a week and telling her to sod off and understand that it was all a game and advised her to take a cue from me and pass on the baton and finally deleted her number and placed her calls to divert[/b].

Ufo4ma, you can't understand the kind of joy and power that comes within you when you go through something like this. It boosts your moral and confidence and puts you in that state of semi-immortality. I know i missed out alot 5 years ago being a goody goody and cool guy as you girls will term people like me before, lol[/b]

Please Ufo4ma, tell me something better. Am in control of this ship and i know when am going to sink it based on my own terms and search for another ship to sink!  Now who is crying for help now

i don't know how u can be so cold and calculated. how can  the end of one relationship become the end of any form of real commitment for u? how long can u carry on this way? if everyone took it so bad then the world would be full of sadists like u

Hmm i became so cold and calculated the moment i realised that true love doesnt exists. A relationship is all about sex and being selfish. I don't believe in all those romantic notions any more because it only happens in the movies and am a realist now. Being cold and calculated is the only way you can dump a girl without remorse and still move forward without looking backwards. As you earlier alluded, we live in a world of "do me i do you" and good guys finish last.

When i was so warm and fuzzy with my exes, where were you to tell them that they were cold and calculated? When i would do anything to make sure my exes come first before me and she made me look like shit, where were you to tell her that that act of hers was cold and calculated? Where were you when i got beaten up by confra boys in school all in the name of saving my ex from being bullied? Where were you when i got suspended from school for helping my ex write an exam when i knew quite well that she was going to carry over the course if she didnt pass it? When news filtered to the authorities that i helped my ex write her exam, where were you when she ran away from school for me alone to face the music without any form of comfort or "stand by your man" situation? Where were you when after all my initial travails and problems in school because of her, she ended up sleeping with my friend?

So please, don't tell me why i am so cold and calculated in the way i treat women now! I have seen it all and have suffered the brunt of being a dumb and stupid romantic. Its pay back time and i don't care who is at the recieving end. All i know is that if you wear a skirt, i make my move to destroy what ever peace and happiness that chick habours.

Once again, its called tough love and i learnt very well from the best! And i don't care if the whole world become sadists in relationships. Its your headache not mine. If you choose to be the goody goody and all romantic and believing in love, its your problem not mine. I have chosen this path and life to live and i intend to enjoy every moment of it.   

u sound as if you're the only guy a girl has ditched and as if that girl was your entire world. if someone doesn't want u and u think you're good material, it is that person's loss not urs

Yes i agree with you 100%. It was my loss then. But i think you should tell that to my girlfriend,  conquests and future conquests because i don't give 2 f**ks if it end up being their loss. Its a contract and i can breach it whenever i want. I have learnt that am the man in the relationship and i control everything that happens in the relationship good or bad. Never again in my life would i give a woman the opportunity to be all controlling or deciding in a relationship. I do the dumping from now on and not the other way around anymore. As i said good guys finish last and women like bad boys. Why shouldnt i join the winning party?

please seek counselling. u desperately need it

Why should i listen to someone trying to further their own selfish interest? I don't listen to bloviates or bullshit that makes me feel sleepy when it doesnt conform with my beliefs. What do you want to tell me? "oh i should let go of the past, oh the right one will come to you soon, oh you would appreciate what love is soon going to find favour in your heart, oh time heals all", is that not the best you can say? Its a tired and broken record in my ears and am better off ignoring such stupidity all disguised as counselling. May be you need more counselling your self since you believe counselling heals all, lol These days when i see people talking about relationships, love, mushy mushy talk, it irritates the shit out of me and wish i could bitch slap them for filling my ears with nonsensical innuendoes and fairy tale stories of love, ewww, GROW UP AND GET A LIFE

your heart is still bleeding for this girl after over 4 years of the end of the relationship. talk about being stuck in time. na waoh. as if heartache na new thing. na u first experience am

Actually my heart has no blood any more, hence my cold and calculated thinking. It got broken 4 years ago and the whole blood in my heart has been drained off. Now its a stone that replaces my heart and i have to be very stone like in my thoughts and thinkings as it deals with a relationship. You also spoke about being stuck in time. Actually i have fast warded time and am carrying the banner of what i was taught to a whole new generation of women. Or are you trying to tell me that you have forgotten what your lecturers taught you in school or probably still teaching you? You don't forget it and in fact you try to build on what you were taught and end up being innovative. I am also teaching girls what i was taught and i hope they learn from me and teach others too. (No be me first experience am i agree but no be me go be the last person to cry ) The more the merrier!, Life is a bitc***h and am not going to be life's bitc**h any more!

if u like come back come counter me i ready for u. if u be my brother, i go sound that your head. nonsense.

Abeg i don handle people whey senior you for court and left them terribly battered and wasted. So far i have not become combative in my responses. I have only been playing the narrative card so far and if you want to turn it combative, am not sure you can withstand the heat. My best advice to you is that if your single, watch your back because you could be next either by me or an unsuspecting serial dater and if you are dating, be afraid and also watch your back because men are wiser now and WE ALWAYS WIN. We are always lurking around you. The fine quiet boy sitting in one corner, the smart and genius like guy, the most baffed up boy in the room, the smooth talker, the comedian that can make you laugh your head off, the money flasher. We know how to get you and if we don't make the advances first, we know you would love to meet people like us. Just remember, we have only one thing at the back of our minds. Its to F***k you and dump you and move on! No regrets, no remorse

Pepeye:
@lawyer what a sorry story I feel so sorry for you

Why are you sorry for me? You should feel sorrier for my conquests instead. They need your sympathies and pity right now, not me. Am having a blast here and feeling good.

@femwich

HMM, Femwich asked if i was still a slave to my ex? Well, i dunno when last i saw her facially or remotely remember how she looks like so i dont think i am a slave to her. Maybe your defination of slave means that i have decided to adopt her practices and ways of life as my own cardinal principle in life to handle relationships. In life, you have to take a stand either good or bad and in my own books, what she thought me then is very good to me and i choose to learn from her just the way the constitiution grants me the freedom of choice.

I dont give a Bleep about women any more and i dont care how they feel emotinally or pyscologically. All i want is to meet them, sleep with them and move on. And if after wards they call me the most callous person in the world, its their problem not mine. As i said earlier, i learnt from the best and i can only get better. Maybe after dumping them, these chicks could finally be slaves to me for years whenever they dump men in future.

@tete

Yes you were right when you said i chose the wrong person then. I was definately my fault for being foolishly wrong. But now that these girls choose me, is it my problem that they chose me wrongly? Its an experiment i am trying out and i am really enjoying myself these days. You really have no idea about the power that flows through your veins when your in control of someone's emotions and destiny especially when the heart is broken. At first the first girl i broke her heart made me feel very very bad, but as time went on, i saw what my ex saw in me when she broke up then in me. You look for all the flaws in her and despise what she stands for. You see the chick as a mascot for other jezebels and since you cant get to the jezebels personally, you then have to shoot the messenger, who in return will alert the jezebels that a serial dater is on the loose. You really cant understand the power i possess now especially as it deals with breaking a fragile heart. The smile and joy that comes with it, is immeasurable and you look back at the days when you were a hopeless romantic and lover and ask your self " How did i miss out from this fun during my younger years? How did i become such a weakling and fool then by believing that love exists? Any way its never too late to get back on track and am doing my best to catch up with the time lost. Once again, live with it, its called tough love and you can cry blood for all i care, life goes on , it isl a win win situation for me

@still water

You say i dont know every girl, lol, sister dear, you havent met me! Once i get pass the feeble attempt to say hello to me and you respond in the affirmative, your gone! It takes me approximately 3 days to profile what you like and dont like and i would work into your brains and heart gradually till you have no choice but to accept me into your life as a friend first and later on as a potential candidate for a blissful future. Trust me it has been working for me for quite a while now and except your from mars, i dont see you or any other chick covering under the disguise of "am a Town chick or Hard Girl" that would be too difficult to handle. Besides my preferences are the ones i suspect have broken other mens hearts before and parade themselves with that farcade of being impervious and impenetrable to mens advances.

P:s: I have a feeling my girlfriend reads naira land too. She recently said she read an article about men who are scared of valentines day blues and would try to break up the union before then. She tried to probe me on my tots and i hope she doesnt read into these things much because it would spoil my suprise i have in store for her on the 13th and that isnt going to make me happy. I always win

tete:
freedom to the max, do what you want, when you want and how you want to, no questions asked. though it gets quite lonely and boring every once in a while.

@Lawyer
Shit happens, accept it, get over it and move on. most of us have been terribly heartbroken, I personally know what it feels like, but you don't have to make others suffer for your mistakes. The law of Karma is very real what you sow you reap.

I dont understand what you mean when you say i dont have to make others suffer for my mistake. What mistake? When has the notion of falling in love been a mistake?

And as for Karma, i am Karma in this situation and i choose to unleash my vengeance to who ever i choose, just the way my ex played the role of Karma against me and made my life a miserable hell then. Dont worry, the more i dump them, the more my exes find other guys to play the role of karma on them too. Like i said its called Tough love

Shinatu:
@LAWYER

What the girl did to you in School and what you are doing currently are slightly different by virtue of your gender, often the male pursues the female.
You chased the girl in School, as a matter of fact from your post, it did not seem like she was keen from the beginning, you 'toasted' her and did not allow her to leave you earlier than she finally did because you always sent people to beg her.

You manipulated her to stay in a relationship she did not want, at the end she had to leave you.

But now in your own case, these ladies you broke their hearts did not chase you, they did not force/pursue you into a relationship, you manipulated them into these relationships just for the purpose of dumping them?
What a pity, we all have questions to answer when we face our maker, which may be sooner than we think.

Now let me break your caterwauls one by one from what you have just said:

1. When you toast a girl, she has a choice to refuse or accept your advances and if she accepts and ends up living in denial in that relationship while you the man or "toastor" believes all is well in the relationship, who then is the manipulator? Who then is the jezebel or the one with a dark heart? Who then is the one with no conscience and thrives on decieving the person that all is well and accepted your proposal in good faith? This effectively rubbishes your claims about who was manipulating who.

2. Secondly isnt the cardinal point of every relationship no matter how bad the needto communicate everytime there is a problem in a relationship? Maybe you believe that once the first argument or problem occurs in a relationship, both parties must part ways and move on. You probably think once there is an argument , the parties are no longer keen on the relationship. Well FYI then i was a staunch believer on working things out and believing time will heal wounds and make us more mature. But alas i learnt that it doesnt work that way and once you break up, you break up finally. No need to work things out. And your probably right and i will take a leaf from your book of wisdom now. Anytime i break up with a girl now and she askes me for the reason, i will just say i wasnt keen at the beginning and she was the one that manipulated me to enter the relationship by forcing me to continue!


Also the issue of gender that you brought up doesnt hold water also. A girl will never enter a relationship with a man unless you have something to offer her either financially or sexually. I know what girls want, so when ever i see my latest prey, i know when to flash money that they crave for or play the sensitive fool. I know all their secrets and fantasies, so it has nothing to do with gender. Women  only date for selfish reasons and what they can get and i take advantage of that selfishness and use it for my own good

 thanks for the advice, i have learnt a lot from you!  

3. As for the reference to our maker and answering about our deeds, i rather wait to defend myself in front of our maker when the time comes, but until then, i have more conquest to conquer at my own pleasure!

uf4oma:
I am actually wondering how long ago this happened to you and why you would choose to still carry such baggage around. Do you enjoy it? You are not handling it well at all and the more you are in denial, the more entangled you will get. Bottom line: PLS GET OVER IT.

Hmm your wondering how long! Well lets just say 4 years ago since my eyes opened to the notion that love doesnt exist.

Secondly you asked why i choose to still carry this baggage! Well its a lovely baggage to carry especially when you see the fun in seeing your exes crying blood after a break up, the anger and anguish that follows for months after the break up, the loss of appetite, the need to be depressed that it's almost suicidal, the blatant hatred for the opposite sex after wards, the need to recoil back into your shell after the break up and the best of all, the need to realise true love doesnt exist only true lies

You also asked if i am enjoying it!

Am having a blast and enjoying every moment of it. The best part is feeding the innocent girl with lies and deception that you really love her. You take the extra pain to show how romantic you can get, shower her with love and affection, try and break into her inner core of suspicion and betrayal, making her feel loved and wanted , make her feel so hopelessly in love and make her not do without you for every given moment, the continous midnight calls and telling her sweet nonsense, making her friends adore and appreciate you and during sex make her feel extra loved and appreciated and when she begins to harbour those butterflies in her stomach and she's madly in love with you and dreams that she has finally met her soul mate, you then terminate it abruptly. You ignore her physically, emotionally and mentally. You leave her sitting on the kerb not knowing where to start from and her life gradually shifts into ruins all in the name of love.

Now tell me dear Ufoma, why should i say i am not enjoying myself! In my book that what i call friends with benefits and nothing more. Its none of my business if she falls madly in love with me because i entered into the relationship with one intention and she had other reasons. Why blame me for not thinking like her. At least no 2 minds are alike

You also said i am in denial and i'll get entangled.

Really! Maybe you should tell the girl that i just met 3 1/2 weeks ago that i intend to break up with on the 13th of february. ( I have always wanted to see how it feels like when you break up with someone on valentines day) May be when it happened to me i reacted stupidly then and i would love to see her own reaction too and compare notes Maybe she is the one in denial for falling for my sweet nonsense that i whisper in her ears daily  

BOTTOM LINE: Welcome to my world and i wont stop till i have satisfied myself. You can call me all the unprintable names you can conjure but it doesnt change anything that very soon the next target could be either you or your best friend or co-worker. I learnt the hard way and its only fair that i share my experiences. Its called TOUGH LOVE

GET OVER IT, The life of singledom is extremely exciting for me and am loving every moment of it  

michelin89:
@ lawyer

You need to get yourself back.
Healing from a heart-break is not breaking other hearts, but being able to love again.

Thanks for your advice. The truth is that i am already healing and am loving again. Only this time i choose the aspect of making love more than actual love

I-man:
@lawyer

You have been emotionally damaged.Keep deceiving yourself

I agree and am sharing the damages charitably

Any problem with that? Do unto others what they do unto you! Is that too hard to understand? I don't care what you think about how emotionally damaged you think i am, but you have to agree that there is love in sharing such emotional damages around

The joy is being emotionally decieving my self and learning how to decieve other women.

Remember "FRIENDS WITH BENEFIT", You should try it, its fun!

uf4oma:
Poor lawyer. She was your dream girl but u weren't her dream guy. she manages u for 4 years of uni and dumps u afterwards, so now you're a serial dater for that singular reason. u remain her slave and u need to free yourself from that bondage. please go for some counselling.

Yes i am a serial dater and enjoying every moment of it. Actually if you think am still a slave to her, you might be very very correct. But the good thing is that i have been been able to gather more slaves to my camp. These days i see exes who can't get over the relationship and are now as tough as nails towards men and even confide in me that they too have joined the so called serial dating club. Its not my business how they feel and i don't care whether she cries me a river or blood for me leaving her because i learnt from the best and i only want to get better in it.

P:S: I don't like the word serial dating. I prefer you use the term " FRIENDS WITH BENEFIT , We hang out, have dinner, watch a movie, F****k ceaselessly for weeks and part ways unceremoniously and still regain my Singledom in between. 

Trust me am not in bondage but love to keep girls now in bandage

I remember when i was still in university, i dated this beautiful girl and she was my dream girl but i wasnt her dream guy. I loved, adored and was in total awe of this girl. But she made my life miserable and i remember we broke up more than 7 times during the 4 years we dated and i was only the one that kept one coming back to beg whenever we broke up and it would take the whole U.S army to beg her to come back and we would break up again. The final straw was when she broke up with me on valentines day b'cos i couldnt afford to take her to see a concert worth #10,000 and i was freaking broke then and left me with a parting shot that a relationship is like a musical chair and when someone breaks your heart, you dont get mad, you do it to another person. I was heart broken and for 3 years i was single and very depressed and almost commited suicide. It affected my grades in school and my living condition and pressurized my family.

One morning i woke up and decided to start dating and i also decided to take her advice literally. Since then i date girls for 4 months, sleep with them and break up first. I have realised the joy of being single and not carrying the burden of falling in love and breaking up. These days i enjoy my singledom whenever am in the mood to choose not to date and i decide when i want to date and break up. A relationship is too hard to maintain and emotionally a dangerous thing if you put your mind 100% into it. Its not worth it and you'll live longer being single and free of worries.

Danny Shittu is the only new discovery in this team and thats my only consolation

from what i am seeing, Nigeria will definately reprise the role france played in japan/korea 2002. I dont expect Nigeria to win any match in this competition and i dont expect them to score despite them having the most lethal strike force in the continent

Na wah o! See as everybody de do 419 ontop their picture! Carlosein be like taliban soldier for afghanistan, oby be like lagbaja mama, viee picture almost take 3 hours before hin open and at the end, she come resemble BINGO, ebos don show me picture of am wey de change like water colour. If pope come see this thread, e go de shake head de think how come he con recruit all this kin kolo people enter catholic church! At this rate, i no go doubt am say all of us de actually go guru marhaji church with all this winch picture me de see wey wan blind me sef!

which state all of una come sef? Shey we all be igbo-kwenu, naija delta militant, Yoruba-gbati or tinapa?

Carlosein:
lawyer u don change the pik haha wetin go come happen now.

any way i don save a copy of your pic only me go de look am and if u mess up again i go post am for here gangan not in your profile.

Why i no go change my picture wey b say na only me put my picture 4 there and una de use me catch trips

You don save my pic carlosein abi, talk true! you wan turn am to poster to go sell for alaba make money open bureau de change abi!


Chei i de come, my rice don almost burn, brb



No worry God de!

ok, since no body wan post hin picture because your all chickens, but i no go post am if nobody at least try post one, e no good now, we don know our selves for more than 6 months and still yet we no know how we take resemble, so tay we go de meet for rich toast de find our sef like all those babi-allah! Today every body must post hin picture!

Carlosein:
i know
shey him fine no be small

Who you de yab say e fine, carlosein, u don start again o! oh i forgot, voltron fine well well!

Viee or am i mistaken that its not voltron ur talking of?

Oby why una de use me laugh with my picture, if to say i remember say i post my picture there before, i for don remove am tay tay!, na only me don fall mugu for una and all of una no even post any picture of una sef, even goat picture for your profile for still betta, so i don sharp up sef comot my own, lol, meanwhile no bite my head o!

lawyer:
Carlosein, e be like say your juju don work and i must devote all the yab i get for belle to you! You know say i don forget say i get picture for my profile! I must change am to voltron sharp sharp!, lol

Yes i be voltron defender of the universe, lol , abi which picture you de talk about!

Carlosein, e be like say ur juju don work and i must devote all the yab i get for belle to you! You know say i don forget say i get picture for my profile! I must change am to voltron sharp sharp!, lol

Na me una de yab say i de kitchen de cook burnt offering abi? No worry i de re-fuel my tank 2 yab all of una one by one, lol, as for wetin i go post, e b like say i go soon post my picture the week i got dumped, i love that picture die, i be like winch!