SimplyFacts:
I don't know why I find this post irritating, maybe it's due to culture differences anyway. OP & his siblings should just discuss on who (amongst the children) would take Mama in while OP takes care of her health. Don't be worried about what the family would say if possibly God calls Mama anytime soon,,,, na you be her children & God knows you have done your best. Tell any relative that wants to sound stupid to go to hell



It does not happen to every family, abeg.

May God grant those who experience such a total deliverance.

Coolcalmcollect:

lol no be must to associate with stupid family oh, block their line and delete dem from all sm, they owe you nothing, not even your mom. get that fact straight

Iseoluwani:


resign ke, no try am. are u the only child?
Be wary of ur uncle ooo

above all start praying oook


guy start to dey pray



Like some one said get a small provision for ur mum but let your extended family know u are not their responsibility. if u can bring ur mum to ur place. that will better.

neutrotoba:


Bro, check that person wey talk say make you go resign.

Go evaluate am spiritually

Nzel:



Just follow the steps of your siblings. Provide for your mum as much as you can and whenever you want to call her, switch on your old love and use it after which you will switch it off. I guess she didn't die as your siblings are following that step but your uncle obviously wants to use your mum to run you down. Finally, don't even think of quitting your job. Similar thing happened to me so I repeat, don't think of quitting your job. You will still be mocked once you stop providing for them the moment you run dry while staying in the village.

Fairbanks:


The devil that want to ruin ur destiny and bring u down to thrash is using ur mum to set trap for u and ur uncle that advised u to resign and come back to village is their agent and masterpiece. if u like fall in trap and go and experience d other side of life of total detection and humiliation in d village. ur only solution is to severe ur tie from all of them right now and make sure u send whatever u have in capacity to ur mum and not carry it totally in ur shoulder u are not the one she gave birth to. but if u despise this advice I will tell u my four years hellic experience of what u are planning to fall into. The worst part of it is that the team that brought u down to village will be ur worst nightmare when u fall. Be careful!

frozen70:


Don't switch your phone

Don't resign, they want your downfall

Keep sending money and keep t NG e physical receipts

Come one weekend see your mum and go back very quickly that same weekend

Don't give any one cash, just send it so that there won't contact with your raw cash and them by hand

If God wants he keep your mum

If they want let them dis own you

Don't get intimidated

Ceenacks:


Dump this belief. Its only imagined by you. There is no truth in this. Doesnt happen. Just be prayerful.

In life, you can never solve everyone's problems. Choose how to help when and at the extent you can. And learn a deferral line to use, when you cant help. Relative A doesnt knw you just finished helping relative B, and would never remember nor care to know. Its natural. Everybody needs care when it calls on him or her. So you are at the pivot, you learn how to balance the scale while you stil remain standing.
Use wisdom

Oizee:
don't mind that guy, this your issue is synonymous to what's happening to me presently. I wish you well in making the right decisions.

most of the numbers on my blocked list are my family members.... I'm sick and tired of their never ending demands...

1F30M4:


Look dear, don't ever give in to the call to resign.. Even your ailing mum wouldn't urge you to do that, alwayss those onkuu agbayas ati awon ebi alainironu

You & your siblings should try and get a caregiver for mama, that way you're sure your mum is well taken care of.. Keep constant communication going.. Travel home anytime you can, same with your siblings, spend time with mama.. Orrr better still bring mama to yours, get a help that will assist mama all the time.. Mama can even be rotating from one of your siblings house to the another, whichever, y'all need to talk about it

Preferably, if mama can come stay with you or any of your siblings, you'd have taken away that power/right those relatives feel they have, they'll be sooo pissed haha I'll pay to see their reaction lol jk.. In the meantime, for you to have peace of mind, I suggest you change your line.. Only mama & her caregiver should know about it and make it clear that on no account should they give it out to anybody without your consent.

NoToPile:



Your siblings are smart, some relatives are better handled with this method.


Whatever you do don't resign your job, that's their way ooo.

At worse you will move mama to live with you or your siblings.

Klass99:


Your siblings are interesting and funny, I don't blame them at all.

But, what happens in an emergency where they need to be reached for a valid reason?

Can you bring your mum to your base to stay with you for some time and find good help to cook/care for her, while you are at work? That's if none of your siblings can accompany her

NoToPile:



Your siblings are smart, some relatives are better handled with this method.


Whatever you do don't resign your job, that's their way ooo.

At worse you will move mama to live with you or your siblings.

Mindlog:


Based on her age and health status, I would suggest you and your siblings see to it that you get someone to stay with her to help prepare her meals, do her laundry , general cleaning and most importantly make sure she religiously adheres to her medication.

You know the financial strength of each of your siblings, do encourage them to contribute accordingly to support your mum's assisted living as it would help you all have the peace of mind knowing your mum is not alone and being cared for.

ImaIma1:


Are you the only child?

If you resign to go and stay by her side, where will the money come from for the bills?

What have her relatives done for her except to drag you because you have a job?

Our African culture makes it frustrating for one family member to do well. He has to carry the weight of the whole family upon his shoulders and they won't appreciate it. Instead, they think it's their entitlement.

Someone is saying he should set up a provision store, another is saying he should send half of his salary. Is it that easy to set up a store like that? How will the sick mum run the store? When family members run it to the ground, they will come back and expect you to vomit out more money for another business.

Please keep helping your mum as much as you can. But quitting your job to go and take care of her is not a good move because money will be needed.

Richy4:


I don't want to read meanings into @ bold because it won't be in your favor buddy.... But the bottom line is do the best that you can for your mother if you have... because you don't have another mother... As for family members who felt that they have struck gold , Hit the ignore button... but your parents should not be neglected no matter what...

samyj2477:
good, just take care of ur mum. try to call her if possible daily until her mind is calm. You guys should just beware of that man. He doesn't have good plans for u. See, I am a Psychologist, I know what I am saying. Have a good evening.

Mindlog:


Are you her only child? Who is presently her care giver in the villager?

samyj2477:
beware of that your devilish uncle. I am even suspecting him. Don't even think of resigning that job.... if you resign, it will be the greatest mistake of ur life. Try as much as possible to always call home possibly daily, to know how ur mum is doing until she gets well. Make sure ur mum is given the best health treatment she deserves....

Don't even think of resigning that job, beware of ur uncle, I sense evil and I am not joking.

Ebuka78:


A river that forgets it source will surely runs dry. You have to help your mum, God gave you that job to support your family.


If it were your girlfriend, you would help her without thinking twice.

You can divide your salary into half, and give your sister to start a Saloon business/ become a hair stylist.

The next salary, you divide it and assist your brothers or brother to open a trade.

In 3 months time, there wouldn't be pressure on you to help the family. It is not good for one person to be rich in a family, let the rich one help others to get rich.

You should send 50% of your last month salary to sustain your mum.


You don't know what she passed through before birthing you. She would never tell you.

Switch of your cell phone and regret it for life.

Send her half of your salary for her health and remain blessed for life.

Kobojunkie:
Please for the sake of your soul, please read the Bible with your own brain so you can learn the truth of God as it is written for you to learn in the book.

Kobojunkie:
No one can cease to exist?
According to the story, Adam did not have eternal life since he did not get th chance to eat from the Tree of Life. So when God condemned Man, beginning with Adam to die(return to dust), was that against Adam meaningless since you suppose Adam did in fact have eternal life ?

You declare that the soul does not die,implying the soul of man is eternal. So of what use is the eternal life that Jesus Christ claims He offers if eternal life already belonged to man by default?

So, you read Matthew 25 vs 31-46, right? You also read all the parables Jesus Christ told of His Kingdom and how at the end , the main character returns to then reward His sleeping servants after waking/ harvest is ready. Yet, you still don't realize at this point that just as Jesus Christ declared, it is indeed after He returns that souls will be ushered into either Heaven or Hell..till then they sleep in their graves, just like Jesus Christ said?

Are you sure you believe in Jesus Christ at all? You seem more willing to believe in ideas that are foreign to your Bible than in the ideas actually expressed in the book, even as you continue to claim to have knowledge of Truth as expressed in the book.

Kobojunkie:
Your post, your claims and even the questions you ask all point to your having learned much of what you have there from the mouth of others and not from God Himself. Here's one example, the God of the Bible would not mistake the Heaven promised by Jesus Christ with the ideas of the existence of Paradise and hell as told of in much of Greek mythology.
Again...

Kobojunkie:
Read the Bible using your own brain and not the brain of those who you have set as teacher over you. Only then will you learn the Truth that Jesus Christ revealed 2000 years ago.

Kobojunkie:
So instead of paying attention to the Truth in the information presented,you think labeling my person will make it all fo away?

Kobojunkie:
Wrong! The Story Jesus Christ told of Lazarus was a Parable, like a parable He told of the Good Samaritan or the Prodigal Son. He told us a lot of those!

Jesus Christ, Himself told you that those who are in their graves are sleeping, and will be awakened when He returns again. He explained this very phenom to you when He dealt with the actual case of Lazarus, brother of Martha and Mary

Lazarus was dead, but Jesus Christ said He was sleeping, and eventually woke Him up.
Jesus Christ, through many of His teachings, including parables, told you that it would not be until the end when He returns that those who are dead will be raised from the grave and judged for Heaven and Hell.

Unless you are about to declare Jesus Christ a Liar and deceiver next, I suggest you open that bible to the Gospels to start learning instead of the teachings of Jesus Christ Himself.
The Paradise the Israelites believed in has nothing to do with the Kingdom of God that Jesus Christ promised to His followers.

Kobojunkie:
The woman most likely had a psychological episode of sorts but she most definitely did not see her relatives in Heaven, not the same Heaven described by Jesus Christ at least.

Jesus Christ, the Truth of God, made it known to all, that no one, dead or alive, would be admitted into Heaven until after His return, when He will weigh the works of every man and give them their just rewards.

According to your story, this woman claims to have been to Heaven and seen her relatives in it. The problem is, according to the Gospel of the Kingdom of God, her relatives, if they all believed in Jesus Christ before their deaths, should still be in their graves, sleeping, just like all those who left this earth before them, even the apostles - all of them waiting for Jesus Christ's return and judgment .