₦airaland Forum

Thank you Akin! I'm gonna need it. I think the fact that I am originally muslim I'm half Jordanian half irish so I had an in depth understanding of the islamic culture which kinda ties in with naija one. Well thanks again and good luck to you also.

Sorry tara if youre still there. Just follow your heart.

Wow such beautiful looking people mash'allah,

The north must be very interesting, I was in Abuja but not north north.

wel what about light veg stir fry or salad vegetables or fruits perhaps, or better again a piece of grilled fish on its own.

Akin, sorry on another note, you said if you had to do it all again you woudl have married a nigerian lady. Sorry if I seem intrusive, but why was that?

So Sorry to hear that Akin, at the end of the day whats meant to be will be. I have often aske dmy husband whether or not, one day he would wake up and realise he shout marry a naija lady, he says he would never want to live in Nigeria again and loves me and that thought has never even entered his head.  He actually knows very little about his own culture.  I think also, its mind boggling how his family emembers have became so westernised (even though they all married naija only) to the point where no one speaks igbo to their children and some of the children who are even up tp my age have not got one clue about igbo language. So I suppose it depends on the person.

Personally,I would be more for cultural preservance as opposed to materialism, my husband and his family they are all very westerised and a long time living in the west. That obviously doesn't mean they don't carry on their strong moral and cultural values b'because they do. On another note, there has indeed been many a royal rumble in his family amongst themselves over very flimsy things. Nothing to do with me of course thankfully.

As time goes on one will see. I was quite amazed to see his elderly parents welcome me so warmly! I thought I was dreaming! all the wonderful things I saw in Nigeria (while stayingn with my in laws ) I do hope that warmth will continue to be mirrored and that I be accepted as a fellow human being.

You are NEVER supposed to forget your roots, you always know in your heart who you are and who your flesh and blood are, really if you love someone so much in you heart you can be who you are, if that person understands who you are and lets you be who you are. Bobs your uncle!(for a while anyway) So at the end of the day Mr Tara has indeed been a pig. I obviously feel as though poor Tara was not afforded an opportuinity to work on things as Mr tara jumped the gun without giving a damn, so sad.

it is true in a way b'cos i used to eat big plates of rice or starchy thing b4 bed. Thats when my stomach was waay bogger so I reduced the portion and make small portion instead of full plate.

Plese do not eat that olu olu pounded yam b4 bed!!!!!oooohhhh

Yeah point has been made, you can still keep in touch with his family how long will that last for though? everyones grows old. Akin, what happened to you and your white woman was there too many cultural differences there also?

Nija men no compromise,

Euromillion, you may be wrong. Applications for naturalisation here in ireland are taking quite some time. Currently, applications lodged in June 2006 are being processed.

Therefore Tara, I don no think it is too late as he needs to be married to you for x number of years and woudl have to wait x number of years to actually get a passport.

His conduct is not in line with public policy. He is breaking the law regardless. He is a scammer.

Its never too late. Even simple things like parking fines are putting citizenship aplications on hold.

I ought to know, I have studied it and have been lectured by the immigratn council of ireland. UK immigration is similar.

ie, if she married him in 2004 thats only four years ago, I doubt that he would now be in receipt of naturalistion.

Good lawyers are out there to get their money, I used to represent criminals myself. Bottom line is public policy and public securty as regards immigration law always takes precedence. I can argue both sides I can make a great case for him also. Speaking on a human level though. I thinks its of paramount importance that the immigration are informed of this.

DO IT NOW PLS. TARA DONT SIT THERE LIKE A FOOL, GET THEM PHCKERS SEND HOME.

NO ONE WILL REMEMBER THE PAST MOVE ON JUST LIKE THEY HAVE. YOU TELL YOUR SON THE TRUTH WHEN HE IS OLD enough TO UNDERSTAND. THE GRANDPARENTS!!! AS IF THEY ARE GOING TO WANT TO KNOW ABOUT THE OYIBO CHILD WHEN HE WILL HAVE HIS OWN CHILDREN WITH HIS 'REAL NAIJA WIFEY'

FORGET THEM TOO because AT THE END OF THE DAY NOW HE HAS HIS FULL BLOODED NAIJA WIFE AND FULL BLOODED KIDS ON THE WAY TO HIM. HE IS HISTORY AND SO IS HIS FAMILY SO NO POINT IN HANGING ON TO ANYTHING.

please TARA I BEG YOU WITH ALL MY HEART,  DON'T LET THEM AWAY WITH THIS!!!!!

tara. dont mind all these jokes. Tara take his child away form him and leave him to 'his own' he will treat her like a slave too so be thankfull he is gone. You are young! you have your whole life ahead of you.

REMEMBER NOW HIS YORUBA WIFE IS PREGNANT! THERE IS NO GOING BACK NOW YOU MAY FORGET IT AS THEY WILL ALWAYS HAVE FIRST PREFERENCE OVER WHITE WOMEN. YOU WILL NEVER GET RID OF HER ITS TOO LATE NOW! JUST CALL THE POLICE AS I ALREADY TOLD YOU. GET THE TWO OF THEM DEPORTED! DONT LET THEM AWAY WITH THIS. DONT LET HIM TAKE YOUR SON OUT. HE IS A USER, HE USED YOU TO GET HIS PAPERS! NOT THINKING OF HOW IT WOULD IMPACT ON YOUR LIFE. THERE IS NOTHING YOU CAN DO NOW. ONLY GET YOUR OWN BACK ON HIM. COZ AS I HAVE SAID HE DOESNT WANT YOU ANYMORE, HE GOT WHAT HE WANTED(HIS PAPER) AND SO DID HIS YORUBA WIFE. USE YOUR HEAD AND GET THEM DEPORTED. IM NOTT HE ONE JOKING ON THIS FORUM.

Oh uche it wasnt that bad now. I have sorted that out and that wonthappen again. My husband is very good to me, brings me everywhere and doesnt go missing. This is in the seven years we have been together, i also was taken to Nigeria. I did not feel the need to do that Uche. But I can assure you, if i ended up in this case scenario i would be only too happy to give the immigration officers something to do.

Not only HE used her. This naija lady did too. Heads should be rollin' man!

CALL THE POLICE

How the hell is she gonna get her naija husband back? he is engaged to a naija woman and she is pregnant for him!! now what in the name of almighty God can get him back now!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Unless she (Tara) accepts being a second wife (when it suits him)
Coz the naija one will ALWAYS be 1st,

Know what I reckon she really is pregnant. So leave them be and as I have said it will be the biggest kick in the ass he will ever get if you report him. There is no point in hanging around annoying yourself, let him have his 'real wifey, know what he will cheat on her too I bet. Take your son away from the like of him. Let him apply for LEGAL CUSTODY. Punish him by doing that also. I bet that girl really bloody well is pregnant. So, before she gets her papers to stay in UK also just like he did report THEM NOW.

I'm tellling you Tara people will actually give up on you. That is just unbelievable!!!! let him stay with his own kind who is now pregnant for him. So they definetely will be married all becuase he USED YOU FOR PAPERS don't let him away with this! get them both deported at once!!!

I'm telling you. You shoudl have been watching out for this all along. You seem like such a nice person and not that type. Me I watch everything like a hawk. You really need to LEGALLY do something about this.

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You need to report the fact that your marriage is no longer subsisting and furthermore that your husband no longer intends to remain in the UK. This is the sad reality of the course of action you may need to take. I bet then he will come running back to you!!!

Eitherway he will have this other lady on the side. Well he must be making some sort of promise to her if she is calling herself his wife!!! you should tell the immigration he has another 'wife' because, according to her that what she is.

PLEASE and I mean PLEASE take this course of action,

tara, I'm from Ireland.  Any party my husband goes to I am ALWAYS brought and it shoudl have been the same for you.  he could already be married to this lady (in Nigeria or even another jurisdiction) for quite some time. Did he ever travel to Nigeria without you?  he has gotten his five year residency permit- perfect timing hey. On another note you said he dated other white girls so what? they didnt marry him as fast as you did obviously. You shoudl tell the immigration and get his visa revoked. You tell the immigration your marriage is no longer subsisting. Do this ASAP.

To me it seems as though this was his idea all along and now he is using race as an excuse!

Only God knows how long he has known this woman! he coudl have been engaged to her all along and his family are being nice to you because they knew of the plan also. Not that familiar with UK immigration law, I don't think he would as of yet be naturalised. So, now is the time to put a stop to that. As I have said if he loved you he woudl not do that to your heart, why hurt your heart like that? its just not fair.

Yeah thanks euromillion! yeah I got the first four in blackhall: prop, contract, crim and equity. In griffith at the moment for the last four!

Did my degree at DIT.

Oh I have something up my slieve euromillion. 

Another year and I'll be qualified as a solicitor. 

Then, he can go and find a slave (I'll even help him find one with all those gladic qualities)

Cooking will never solve the problems I cook all the nigerian meals and so phokn waht?
According to my husband he has no problems with me at all! Yeah! bet ya won't find me here in three years time! I'll be history, jus too many horror stories goin around about naija men and white women!

When they chite hits the fan it will be necessary to look for one of his own. I'm not a slave and I don't let him go away on 'vacations' and I don't act and speak like his own women, I am not an igbo lady and never will be. My dream to is stay with him forever. Doubt that dream is possible as I can never be as good as a naija lady. This is not according to him its according to my own reason.

Eid moubarak! Saha Eidkoum!

they always have to go home and find one of their own that will slave away for them and work all the hours god sent.

ah ha, this is how the cookie crumbles. its gonna happen to me too. The difference is I am well prepared for it. I reckon he was engaged to this lady all along and was using you for papers. Thats the sad reality.

oh Jeeez I think im wrong,

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wow Neina Kita! she is so beautiful!!!!!!!!!

but guys! what if you worked 40 hours and your wife worked 40 hours also? and you split everything (well most)

Would you do something in house then or is that only meant for women?

Hey sistawoman are you mixed ?wow my daughter is very similar to you she is white, arabic and black.

I have asked a SA colleague of mine about this dance b4. She said it takes place alright. Apparently boobs are not supposed to be viewed as a sexual thing! ends up they are viewed in that way even though its denied.

Oh dear!!

I have to agree on the ageing bit.

I'm not suggesting that! its the opposite in my[i][/i] opinion. To me black women are more beautiful.

I'm not opposed to inter racial dating as long as the couple are truly in love, willing to compromise on the cultures etc etc.

sistawoman re phrase that more like: Your brothers should leave white women alone also. Can't blame them sometimes though!!!

I'm not saying marriage is not serious I woudl love to remain with myhusband forever but its always better for him to find a wife/slave from back home.

Cool, but Binah at the end of the day men will be men. You are very young and pretty I'm sure you can find someone thats not married. If you continue with him were is it going to get you,