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Also what about the husband submtting to his wife by giving her a bit of romance and consideration, no instead he may stay out all night and cheat. Don't question his whereabout

Sure what if he was out with an AIDS ridden mistress?

There is too many STD's out there to ignore your husbands wherabouts, as i have said this article is from the fifties. Suitable for naija couples though, but let me tell you that you will be wasting your time because they will cheat on you no matter what you do (in nigeria its too much of a mans world anyway).

white men would not agree to an article like this they would roll around laughing, but naija men wholeheartedly agree! typical indeed.

sure a nigerian wife already does all these things I would have thought. This was how oyinbo's were in the fifties and sixties. This is a joke.

so babyjinx what if you worked more hours than your husband did

Thats b'cos he rathers my cooking!! I told him he is like an old nag! he said he was just saying this as I had been complaining about money earlier that day.

I dont blame them

she will win him over you,obviously he wants her, so let them be. Thats why you need to redirect your anger to immigration division.  see he needs a woman from his own culture, don't take it personally, just be thankfull and move on. They always prefer their full blooded naija.

Hey Angolobabe, did yu marry a white guy?

Tara attacking the lady is not going to help. Its him, he wants her just as much as she wants him. I bet she is already pregnant! how can you forgive a man that is sleeping with another woman while he is married to you. She is from his tribe at the end of the day and thats what he wanted so leave them be. Its too late now love, and even if it wasnt the deed is done. No harm in crying over spilt milk now. The in laws are only to happy for them both you'll find. You need to punish HIM. I guarantee you he sucked her in by telling her he married you only for papers.

tara, also I know of another white lady whose husband got another african lady from another african country pregnant, she had the baby and they are engaged to be married now. reason be is that some women dont even see oyibo/naija marriage as bein ligit so they don't care about stealing these men.

also, are you suppsed to cut them up when they are alive? woud it not be better to soak them in bioling water to kill them??

Sorry are they land snails or sea snails. Thanks David thats a nice idea.

No, I didnt really like it that much! it was ok but to be honest i would prefer chicken!

I'll make them for hubby though!

sorry but wha other way can I cook them apart from putting them in soup?

Thanks Akin, I'll gather what I can and get back to you.

Yes, this is never gonna change mad_max. I have to ask myself some serious questions. I love him and all but he is a terrible nag, he actually never stops nagging at me. I am not the nagging type at all. I am actually way to tired to nag at all. It is unbelieveable, I have even joked at him a few times b4 saying how much more helpful and domesticated some other men can be.

Noting will make him budge. I really don't see myself being able to handle it and its beginning to show. for eg, the other night I was so tired I ordered a chinese take away when I got in from work and he start nagging over that aswell saying I was an idiot for doing so!!!! I just cannot win at all. In the long run he will have to seek out a woman that is able to be a mother, a full time employee, a full time cook/maid/servant. Its just unreal and I am feeling very tired.

Akin, I know you have been in the states for quite some time now. I am trying to locate a Dare who lived there in the 80's. This is my daughters grandfather. No one met him not even my ex husband. All I know was that he lived in Chicago and studied medicine there. We don;t know whether or not he returned to Nigeria or ended up practising in USA. I can't get the information from anywhere as my ex husbands mother died very young knowing all the information.

I am white (well mixed with arab) I don't find white men attractive at all. I find balck and middle eastern guys very attractive but not whites or asians . I jsut can't go there. My mother is as white as snow. I also never thought anyone (who was very pale) was attractive in my family. I hav asked my husband as of now which type of race is more attractive to him and he says some whites are very lovely looking and there are some blacks that are lovely too. It just depends(to him that is).

Yeah sure my ex was only attracted to black women - thats why he left me, whatever floats your boat.

thanks Omoge!

No n-gaue he chose to pay the rent himself b'because the Immigration require that he present the last six months worth of lodgements into the landlords a/c he wanted to do this to improve his chances of obtaining irish citizenship.

Some weeks, I'm lucky to get forty euro off him toward the foodstuffs.  i was getting welfare payments and getting everyting paid for all the rent etc. But he wanted me to sign off all that as he was afraid it would effect his naturalisation application.  So in reality, i could have stayed getting 400euro a week and work PT and get the rent paid for but as I have said no, he didn't want that.

I never said he paid ALL the bills. I pay the telephone and internet bill and he pays the TV/NTL bill. I am beginning to pay for most of the foodstuffs as he gives me forty euro towards them.

You could make a really good yam pottage or a okro soup.
T
hen you could make a fresh fruit salad.

Also a smoked herring salad with the sausage thrown in also.

You can just take the alcohol over ice

I would put a dash of snapps in with the fruit salad and mix it around.

thanks!

i freeze them just as they are.

tatooboy I agree, see when he tries he then gets tired and ends up the same again. its a big turn off, as much as I love him he cannot even boil water, his sister said he was always like this and it was the mother that raised him that way. I don't want to complain to him anymore.

As a lot of ladies said to me to make soup and stew on the weekend and that would keep. i have been doing that but he takes that out for his lunch at work too resulting in me cooking at home in the evenings again. men like this will never change and I just have to accept this. I cannot nag about it anymore as it might warrant trouble.

yes why when you can get a mistress/mistresses instead.

No I wont let him see that mess

Youre very lucky I mean very lucky. When you arrive, pls address his father as 'sir' and his mother as 'mama' this is a great gesture. Also express and interest in the culture. If you smoke or drink also I wouldn't do that in front of them. I do but didn't do that in front of them. Man! your one lucky woman it really shows he is not using you for papers. I was brought to Nigeria to 'get married' I will never know whats gonna happen with my marriage.

Your so lucky,

Thats really good girl I am so happy for you! cases like this are rare. he is bringing you down to Nigeria, he has all his papers. You must be really out of this world!! well fair play to you and wish you all the best of luck. If the ex wife had of been Nigerian I wouldn't have believed he was divorced. But that explains it all.

I just boiled water and threw them in and after about an hour I fried them. Oh I am grossed out!

thankfully my husband loved them and I make an ora soup and put them in. I got them in a chinese foodstore they get them fresh! it was only €1.55 for five of them.

papers papers papers kpali or whatever else you wanna call it. they would impregnate and marry a horse just to get them.

How do you know he is divorced for sure??

I bought some of these giant snails only to discover they are still alive oh I'm so freaked out I'm not used to this what can I do with them??

Typical, b'cos a an oyibo posts she gets no replies

thanks anyway.

if someone Nigerian posted this thread there would be many replies.

God Bless you too!

Akin means well and yes, i agree with you. I guess I don't have the stats afterall.

also, on another note if I lived in Jordan I would be dead by now!!! I'm not even going there, aome of those arab men are possessive phychotic maniacs. (xcuse my spelling)

Put it this way I would be buried about two years thats the sad reality doesnt bother me, i am well away from it. They are not bothered about me anyway. As handsome as they are I would not touch them with a 50ft barge pole.

yes I suppose thats true Akin, no point in concentrating on the negative points. Simi I'm so sorry that you are traumatised. You will get over it in time. Not all Nigerian men are like that. I think it was just b'cos of his family.

Thanks Iceblue those are strong, encouraging words God Bless!

No Akin, I didn't pick the wrong man. its just that most go home to roost. I mean Nigeiran women are better for nigerian men. They do everything and 'shut up and put up'. So what man doesn't want that.