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xtassie: I grew up in a very abusive home, my father had a very violent temper and constantly beats my mom with anything within his reach. 4 days to her delivery he beat her up mercilessly 2 days after her delivery her beat her up my mom had to run for her life and she left our new born brother @ home hungry for dat day he cried till he was tired and my mom just had to come back for her baby. The beatings never stopped, the neigbours always come to our house @ least once a week to seperate the fights or rather hold down my dad from beating my mom.wen I and my siblings grew up ie to second school level my bros was now our body guard,wen my dad wants to beat my mom he wld sheild her cos my bros was tall, my dad started using weapons like knives, shovel or cutlass to chase us or even hit us with my mom's heeled shoes( he is an engineer and well learned and exposed) so people keep wondering why he behaves like a mad man and we were not excluded from d severe beatings ooo! My dad use to kick me match my stomach till I got married! Fastfoward till now my mom is almost a grandma we are all out of the house, yet my dad still beats her till now.
THE LESSONS I HAVE LEARNT IS THIS:
An abusive spouse wld never change( my mothere said she never saw any sign of violence for d 2yrs they dated he kept it well hidding till a week after their wedding he beat her up) and it never stopped!
With continuious exposure of violence your kid may likely behave like him and wld learn his beating attitude,(my younger bros despite the fact that he was our defender then, nowthat he is a grown man he has a violent temper and I heard he beat his girlfriend.
My advice is LEAVE the MARRIAGE it is not worth it. My mom keeps saying the high BP she has was a result of my dad as she was always living in fear!
My 2cents!

some abusive spouse change, all it takes is to tap into that consciousness of being a perfect lover, it's very unfortunate that daddy didn't. I wonder why you and your siblings haven't taken your mum away from papa, that is very cruel of you guys I must say and I don't stand to be contradicted. .
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now, do one of this two things, rent a house for mama OR you poison papa. You are permitted to do both sha.

Ladies take note, we need all the adequate care we can get. E no easy to be man o. But op, your list is incomplete without vajayjay

Royal Roy: Oh ohhh!!

Alhaji you are Baba Oyo?

What?

Mehn....I didn't think you noticed my top.

Short of words.
Thanks all. You are appreciated.


***runs off

some people made Hitler their role model before and even after his deeds.
some people make tuface their role model too even after illegally putting various women in a family way.
alot more make psquare their role model even after the vulgar words they use in music. I'm not really someone who notice peoples behavior, I notice people by their relative accomplishments.
To cut long story short _{because I'm taking my dinner sha} it makes me proud to make you my role model and even more proud that I'm the only one who has... I'm..... Am.touched to the spirits, trust me, I'll emulate you.

chaircover: https://www.nairaland.com/1288881/weekend-get-away-wifey

thank me later . . . . .

haha,I bookmarked it but work, running about ain't helping but thanks anyway. besides how did you?? Oops!!!! I forgot it's in the family section.... Good woman.

Op wait o, light pains me in my eyes. When I look at bright materials esp under sunlight, the pain is very irritating, and I hardly see under sunlight unless I wear my lenses, is it part of the so called temporary blindness?? My doctor said when I will be reaching 40 years, I'll be becoming blind , tell me it's not true I rather die than to be blind.

Baba Oyo: Thank you sir....Iya Oyo sure gained most from my quick return.

wow.. Baba Baba, I had a problem of ignorance and somebody directed me to your one of your threads but I haven't been chanced to read,the guy even asked me *what kinda cave did I craw out from?? * simply because I asked a question. Imagine what would make a brother tell a quiet fellow such thing. Well, directing me to your thread to ease my ignorance means that the thread will be full of wisdom and I need to check it out asap. You are a good man and I admire you, keep it up and don't forget to pass the blessing around

DoveQueen: I hate it wen men say they dont want their wives to work. D person i'm dating now, we hav plans of settling down soon...we were together one day & he saw me surfing job sites for jobs he asked hmnn "are u searchin 4 jobs already"? I said yes now. I want to see how it goes so dat i will start forwardin my cv to firms, organisations, banks etc anywhere i find one, i will accept. He said bank what? My dear if i'm marrying u, u will teach so dat u wil take care of d house and kids. I jst lookd @him and said look i'm a career person i'm not sayin i will b married to my career but i just lov makin my money and spendin it d way i want it i hate depending on a man. I love entrepreneur too if d job is not forth coming, i will like to establish myself in a business mayb a boutique. He said if i wil b doing that too it means i will also mind d things i sell cos he does not like all those women dat sell big big lace, gold, etc that those kind of women/ladies mingle with d wrong set of friends & men snatch dem away.....i just laughed. All these can also b signs of abuse sometimes i wonder what men really want. 4 now, if he cant understand he should fvck off my life i'm not desperate or in a rush 2 settle down there is more 2 life than living 4 a man.

. [size=16pt] Wrong [/size] it can be a sign of jealousy anyway I seriously hope this thread is not having a -ve impact on labeling overprotective guys abusers.. Let's get some facts right . Thank you!!!

chokl8candie: wher in my comment did i disagree wiv her or try to sound clever??

read my post again and pay more attention to the words in between stars(*...*)

chokl8candie: cosigned! Men are the most confused creatures on earth! Everything u stated feels lyk u read my thots b4 commenting.

Most men wud tell u they want independent women but wat they really want is a woman who wud kiss their a$$ and agree wiv every thing they say. Naturally men lyk to be the ones doing the controlling in a relationship due to their huge egos. When they get such submissive women then dey suddenly claim deir relationship is boring and want out.

the lady you quoted used *most men* what makes you think you are more clever than her??

pickabeau1: OK.........I.give up

lol, bro you will not understand...

https://www.yoursmiles.org/tsmile/party/t3418.gif this is the sound of victory, yeyyeyeyeyeyeye ye I can see the colors of the rainbow..https://www.yoursmiles.org/tsmile/rainbow/t115003.gif
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swag queen: It is with nostalgia that i remember the 18th day of September when i sat on my bed,thought of the entire situation that i was in and decided to bring my story to a public forum.

I've always wanted to speak out so that Women and men would listen,learn and live. I thank God immensely for this platform.

Before i brought my story here,i read through the posts of certain people on this forum that i admired greatly. I sent PMs to them but none responded except one man. He gave me the needed strength to be here today. He spoke to me and encouraged me. He asked me to separate for sometime and i was strong again. (Madam C.C had just arrived in Nigeria and the network was messed up and she couldn't reply on time). I want to say that i know people don't like responding to PMs,but you never know who's life depends on your response. At some point,i was feeling suicidal because i don't have friends and my mum who i confide in thinks i should "stay for the kids". My sister who has been my paddy would say "i told you!". It was that man who gave me the much needed strength.

I want to thank EVERYONE who came out for me and my fellow women in this bondage. I can't mention all the names but if you are oppurtuned to go through tis thread from page 1,you will see the love we got. God will bless all of you in His infinite mercy and meet you at the points of your needs. IJN,AMEN.

There are usually fights in every family talk more of a family as big as the one i see here. Please let no one be afraid of letting off the pain she feels in an abusive marriage or relationship here. There are people willing and able to help.

If you don't want to tell your story,it's your call but I'll encourage you to read from the first page to the last one. Wise and Godly counsel is here.

Once again,i say a very biiigg THANK YOU. I love you all more than words can say.

God bless. (^{This is not my suicide note o.})

https://www.yoursmiles.org/tsmile/party/t3411.gif lalala lalala lalala Lala x3 amenmmmn.

pickabeau1: A get away without kids can rekindle lost romance

lost romance?? I thought we are talking about libido??

pickabeau1: I don't get u bro

I thought you were joking with your reply to cattle ranch... How the hell is that supposed to bring back libido...

pickabeau1: Get away like a trip to obudu

it is not well, google will always be my friend.

pickabeau1: At times it does not get back

A getaway does it

what's a gateway??

fruityjojo: Ohhh dats not fair 2 d oda team naw! Cos dey probably would hav been afraid of tackling her cos of d baby!

I thought the reason you said it's not fair for the other team is because they have an extra hidden player....

2s£xy:
Okay... But you would agree with me that she likes you.

which girl allows a guy she likes not to sleep with her??

2s£xy:
She has already accepted you. So, stop ASKING her out and just play along. There are girls who wont tell you that they have accepted you.

you don't know everything, for the fact she slept with me doesn't mean she,has accepted my proposal and I know the reason why she doesn't want to, sefini??

OmoAbi: I'm not aware of any law that obliges ppl to rescue other ppl.

to me, especially not when immorality is involved.

Ajekpako: Well the funny thing is women erroneously believe that holding out on a guy & doing the initial shakara instantly purifies them and increases their self worth

but like my very wise friend would say, "a skank is a skank no matter how fast/slow she puts out"

After sex, then what? your personality is all you've got left and if it's a shitty one holding out as long as mother Theresa wont do a thing for you.

what most girls don't get is that people generally get mad when they "pay" so much for an over-hyped product only to finally realize its not worth much hence the vicious cycle of hurt & abuse ladies experience in relationships these days

i once knew a guy who spent 1yr chasing one "supposedly" good girl, the day he finally got her to sleep with him was the same day he threw her out of his room naked & when i asked why, he replied "i wasted my time on a goddam LovePeddler!". Obviously the 1yr didn't purify the girl much

i also know another guy who slept with a girl the first day he met her and spent the next one year trying to date her, she refused cos she wasn't interested in dating him. They are happily married with kids now.

There's something alluring about women who knows exactly what they want and ain't afraid to go after it!

I met a lady, slept with her days after, since then till now, I'm still asking her out, she no gree.

ebiskem: Yes but with your cash

like, if you ain't get airtime but you subscribed, it won't work??

critique101: Bad advice. Marriage is 4 better 4 worse.

Always make sure you make a good choice!

not anymore, my marriage will never be for worse, if it does, I'll know my way out.

That serves her right. The world needs to be deamericanised

This reminds me of when American ambassador came to my area, you need to see how this guys were speeding and crossing X- cross roads. Well, they were coming from a y-shaped road and unfortunately for me, I was riding on the straight road and they were coming in from the branch of the same road and they were supposed to wait for us on the straight path to move first, for. Were The worse fact was that I didn't even see them, what those bastards did was to use speed with their big 2012 Prado suv to hit my mamas Audi 80 car. Luckily for me, I. Applied brakes. In other words, if I could not apply breaks on time, my own country men would have crashed my car off the road because of some white bitch. Dear God,please save blacks from inferiority complexes. Amen!