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TV01:
I've read the post a number of times and simply couldn't figure out where to start in response. Na so I bail 0 . Genius really. Sapped the appetite for a fight right outta me. And that's saying something.


TV

bebe2:
rubbish,

the thousands of rape happening daily in this is being done by heterosexuals.

so lets not go there

mimzy:
you have spoilt it with lezz's nick

Don't really know about you guys but le.zz i laugh in spanish

A man may be born with many character failings.

Pretty girls with intelligence and well sculpted body alignment is my only defect.

Your ass and eyes make me rue death for once.
If you only knew how compelling your body is, you won't lose hope of fück-redeeming me.

JoeBlocks:
Well my good man, I'll have you know that just because you might have a different opinion from some 'women' here, they go all out and spew insults, forgetting, not only them have the monopoly of insult.

I mean, just because a [color=red]Knight[/color] is noble and gentle, doesn't mean he shouldn't react when he's provoked!.

patfenda:
Being really bothered lately cos my wife is pregnant/ist issue/,now first she is very selective with food and whenever she wants a particular food she must eat it or there would b problem....dats not the problem though
The problem is that we hardly make love,she does not get turned on,Hot or in the mood,even when it rains for where?na so so sleep tinx 0....
Even majority of the times i make a move,i end up getting locked out...as a man am being starved and it hurts me.
Fellow married matured men pls what do i do?cos i cant be like dis 4 nine months....konji go kill man pickin oooo

You didn't state the trimester your wife's pregnancy is.

And that's the worst stage for women, hormonal changes and the physical adaptability are all difficult occurrences women go through during pregnancy.

But for most women, after the first trimester they begin to yearn for sex more than they did prior to their pregnancy. So you should tarry and observe her.

Believe me, every move you make, every kiss is as irritating to her like native concoctions

From the later part of the 2nd trimester, MOST WOMEN come around to love fück even more than they usually did.

So weather the storm in your groin, it's only going to be short-lived

JoeBlocks:
Indeed this is nairaland. I wouldn't disagree to that. I've seen the wiles and gimmicks here. But I'll assure you, I'm not one of your demented type who are a special market to their marriage.

I'll advice you to know that I'm one who beliefs in fact, proof and evidence. So, care to let me show your demented self I'm all I say I am.

Better still, you can ask those who know me outside here, and let them intimate you about who I am, outside here.

Cc: le zz,

Mindfulness:
The moment you feel that you need to punish your spouse, is the moment you should ask yourself if you married the wrong person.

Nairaland's far-famed marriage pest

analice107:
Okay, maybe i didnt put it right. make i speak pigin. Men no dey like woman wey get their time. Dem women wey no send dem. Send one man, you don become door mat. Na when u no send dem, dem go want die there.

Lolz, I find your pidgin version hilariously truer.

For a woman (girl) to know this and put in this context, is pure wisdom.

That's why Feminism asking women to go after men is just promoting cheap and easy fück.

We'll always like the hunt and slight not overly resistance.

Other than the religiously strict, we'll never pass the chance of an easy fück

analice107:
Not really. There's no shame in it, the diversity or shd i say disparity makes the world interesting. Just imagine all of if doing the same things, Zombieville, wont you agree?
[b]Men don't like women say to them 'Yes Love, okay i will do', They like those who disrespect and stand them up[/b].
Women don't like easy men, Men who let them have their way.
I remember one guy long ago, anything i want to do is "Okay by him", What? Why do you always say yes? Why not say no sometimes? when i say yes, its okay. When i say no, its okay. One day i couldn't take it anymore, I told him to say no. Say no, insist on saying no if you don't like. He said " but you liked it", I was like, Which kind man be this?

joseph1832:
Em, I wouldn't know about that. Never had sex with a pregnant woman before.

joseph1832:
But seriously, these teens need to be given a tour on how awesome sex is.

Godmother:
From personal experience. Like someone said, you will feel like your whole body has been taken over by aliens and when your partner ask for sex you will struggle between anger and understanding; angry at him for wanting it when you are so sick and down, but also understanding the fact that he is a man.

joseph1832:
True that! But majority of the comments here by women seem to suggest that the OP perpetually turn into a reverend father, just to show sympathy and support, but they forget that reverend father's too now prey on reverend sisters. Lol.

joseph1832:
Its more shocking to see the way many of these women chastise the OP because he wants some good loving.

I've heard countless women say they're usually very Hot when they are pregnant. See the comments of the women here makes me even wonder why they all play to sentiment and not reason.

I even showed this thread to my friend and his wife (she's pregnant) and she told me, the OP's wife is just giving him flimsy excuses.

joseph1832:
Now that is the question.

Godmother:
Chai, this just explains it all. Its like your whole body is under attack and the last thing on your mind is sex. Just give her time and be patient and things will go back to normal.

That dude that suggested mouth action, just wait until you get married then bring this up with your pregnant wife. The upper cut she will land you will leave you dazed for days.

MRBrownJ:
so "network" had you posting this msg on 2 different threads that AINT the thread where i wrote that above post?! ok....

again, if what your mother is doing isnt her choice but her DUTY, meaning that even if she decides one day that she doesnt want to do any of it, she still MUST, then yes, a slave she is... no matter how much she is comfortable doing her duty. same as any housegirl's duty.

ps dont confuse enforced duties with responsibility

MRBrownJ:
dont worry my brotha, we all know that when people have nothing INTELLIGENT to say on a subject, they start insulting to derail threads.
sadly, not with me, lowering myself to your level and throwing childish insults, would be only beneficial to you.

loooooolz, you were never part of the subject, buddy.

You only quoted me when a female requested you do and your need to impress her got the better of your cognitive abilities!!!

You didn't even address the issue, you brought in a new argument that wasn't even under contention!!!

You're emotionally wavering, intellectually hollow and logically numb.

Epileptic Püssy-poacher

MRBrownJ:
i am sorry if what i wrote hurt you in such a way, lol, so much insults, just because i showed how you tried to weasel your way out of the comments you made. i must have hit the jugular vein bwaaaaaah!

crackhaus:
Lol, I like how you think.

The fact that women find it hard admitting to anything that puts them at a disadvantage is enough to take the opinions of most with a pinch of salt.

A married man wearing his wedding ring is 9times more likely to get hit on than a married woman wearing her wedding ring.
With women, once they're married their 'signal' drastically reduces in the eyes of most men and they suddenly become unapproachable.
There are exceptions though, but only a crazy dude looking to score an easy lay and run away will attempt it.

On the contrary, a married man will still be getting the hits especially if he looks good.
In fact the more married he is, the more attractive he seems to a woman if only just on the surface and not for anything sexual.

Just stating facts, no need for anyone to feel threatened.






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The reason I outline these facts is to perpetuate the idea as to how cheating to men is seen differently as it is to women.

- A married man with little or no no self control in that position will cheat on his wife with any of these women and not bring emotion into it, after all she made it easy.
- A married woman who may or may not be getting more attention will not cheat at the drop of a hat. Her first line of defence to any man that even mistakingly approaches her is to reveal her marital status.
If the man persists, she automatically begins to feel really attractive and sexy within herself because she doesn't understand why a man who knows her marital status doesn't even care and is still 'dying' for her.
This is where a woman's emotions begin to kick in.
Long story short, by the time she eventually has sex with him, it won't be because she just wants to have fun but because she genuinely feels something for the dude.

Of course there are women who can disconnect emotions from sex but we know their type - we talking about the 'normal' women here.


Cheating can and will never be seen the same when it is done by a man as opposed to when it's done by a woman....unfortunately.

This of course isn't the only reason why this is so, there are other reasons but I was only expanding on Lezzs' premise.

MRBrownJ:
BWAAAAAAAH you are a comedian, i give you that! retrograde amnesia, REALLY?! are you really that clueless that you will now try to smoke screen this whole discussion with BS, just to try to look like your are making any sense?!?!?!?! ok lets recapitulate, if we may:

you sir Lezz wrote that you thought i was a female hiding behind this moniker. and that No male will be so inexperienced and subjective... you continued by saying that, given the debate-worthiness, of the females here on NL, none has found your submission worthy of debunking. None but me MBJ, a male
so we can clearly understand in theses above quotes that Lezz is not talking about the subject of this thread, he is talking about MY person, MY gender, and he actually believe that, as a man, i should think and REASON like he does, agree to whatever he is writing and have the same school of thought as he does, just because i am a MAN... i guess i should throw my brain in the lagoon, and follow him as a brainwashed sheep, right?!

so I MBJ replied that i was sorry if I (a man) didnt have the same views as he did, but that the discussion wasnt about male vs female
this discussion started by me raising a point that he made about "why people cheat", and certainly not about males of NL vs the females of NL.... and thus he shouldnt even CARE whether i am a man or woman, and instead focus on the subject (and content of what i wrote), and NOT my gender, which is irrelevant here.

and the crazy reply Lezz gives me is that this thread IS indeed about male vs female...
so i guess, because he "THINKS" it is about male vs female (and i am a male), i should disregard my views on the subject, join the "male team of NL" and agree to his views, right?! bwaaaaaah!

furthermore Lezz now writes that i came to counter his point, so our discussion is about the issue HE raised not my "points".
the problem in this discussion is that Lezz is bringing the earlier discussion he had with Bukatyne, as the subject of our debate, while it aint.i just raised a point he made during his discussion with Bukatyne, a point which i fully disagree with. does this mean that any point i make must have any relevance to the debate he has with Bukatyne, HELL NO! my issue is SOLELY on the statement that he made, aka:"A woman's cheating, by the very nature of her sexual and emotional disposition, entails far more graver betrayal than that of a man. Chauvinist? Maybe, but true all the same.A man may cheat and still worships the very ground his wife walks.A woman may cheat and she's body and soul detached from her husband completely." so, THIS is the subject of our discussion, nothing else. and makes NO difference whether he said it during a debate about couples cheating OR the reason anyone cheats?!

in simple terms: this is just as stoopid as, for example, we're having a debate on domestic violence, then someone would say a statement such as "men are inferior than women", and if i am against that particular statement, any point i bring to the table must be relevant to domestic violence?! ABSOLUTE NONSENSE!!!!! any point i bring must be relevant to why men are NOT inferior to women, and nothing else.

MRBrownJ:
i am sorry if I (a man) dont have the same views as you, but this discussion isnt about male vs female, is it?

MRBrownJ:
and my point is very clear n the issue by now...



my point is not about whether cheating is right or wrong, its about WHY people cheat... stick to the issue i raised based on the statement you made.

MRBrownJ:
.

again, my whole point is simply about WHY PEOPLE CHEA, but if you do come up with claims/questions that deviate from that school of thought then i will surely reply, as i earlier did.

MRBrownJ:
thats because the act of cheating is VERY simple... you either are strong and respect the r/ship you are in OR you cant respect that r/ship a fall. a strong person would do the RIGHT thing and control their immediate need, a weak one simply falls

MRBrownJ:
men and women do cheat because they cant control themselves and ACT RIGHT (within their r/ship) before going and have sex with another..., what they want afterwards is irrelevant to the point at hand.

MRBrownJ:
[s]you still havent said ANYTHING to counter anything i have wrote so far.. here it is again:
- how can anyone have unflinching love for a person and joyfully DISRESPECT that person and the union they are in?!
- what difference does it make why a person cheat, if the outcome (inability to control themselves aka WEAKNESS) is all the same[/s]?

bukatyne:
I do not think most cheating spouses want to end their marriages; that's why cheating is mostly hidden.

Do you want to carry out a census? There are more instances of an adulterous husband abandoning his family than an adulterous wife.

bukatyne:
@le.zz:

Do you think adulterous wives want to end their marriages?

bukatyne:
Why are more adulterous men eloping with their mistresses/marrying multiple wives than adulterous women?

TV01:
I actually agree with your premise on the whole. The only thing I would question is using the very arbitrary term "love". Outside of religion - Christianity - for me, it is simply impossible to pin down. It can mean so many things, an ddoes not necessarily precipitate or underpin marriage.

TV

MRBrownJ:
this is not a fight bro, relax, we are having a mature discussion. these are just my views on the subject of cheating....

MRBrownJ:
to"cheat" on someone, you need to be in a r/ship or union with someone with whom you have an exclusive sexual r/ship... THAT union.

MRBrownJ:
again, as much as their ego may have gotten in the way of their common sense, its their weakness that led them to say YES and do that wrongful act, instead of acting right and standing by the rules of their r/ship. ego was just the cheap excuse used because if they were NOT weak, they would have called their gf/wife, break up that r/ship FIRST, and then continue with that ego sex you are on about.

MRBrownJ:
i quoted the statement that you made (my post was referring/replying to it solely), if you have any issue understanding it, i will be glad to post it again for you. here is again the statement that you made, focus on what you wrote as this is what my post is about, NOTHING ELSE. if you dont stand for the below post, or believe that such broad statement is ONLY relevant to the question asked then so be it.

joseph1832:
I'll say it all depend on the individual. What applies to you, doesn't necessarily apply to me or someone else.

Happiness, as I've come to know it, doesn't have the same interpretation for many people. Some people might quarrel everyday, and yet, they're happy, while some don't quarrel at all and yet, they're still happy.

So, like I said above, its purely relative.

Cc: pos.tmann, lez.z, is.hilove, mind.fulness.

MRBrownJ:
again, what that cheater feels is IRRELEVANT here as the basis of it is that they couldnt respect the rules of the r/ship they have, due to their WEAKNESSES. if these men indeed had unflinching love for their partner (as if that matters) then they would TELL their spouse about it before doing the unthinkable. you know, love/honesty/trust/respect, right?
how can anyone have unflinching love for a person and joyfully DISRESPECT that person and the union they have?!

MRBrownJ:
YES, because they cant control themselves and respect the r/ship they are in.



again, because they cant control themselves and respect the r/ship they are in. you can call it whatever you like (fun/madness etc) but at the end of the day, its all about a person who cant control themselves, and respect the rules of the r/ship they are in.



read the above answer

MRBrownJ:
and i decided to reply to YOUR failed statement about why men and women cheat, thats why i quoted YOU and not her....

bukatyne:
I quoted them because they did not see anything 'wrong' in a cheated husband killing his adulterous wife.

Wanted their take on if a cheating husband deserved death.