₦airaland Forum

Dklef:
Sorry OP. But must you counter every thread?

I think le.zz was high while penning this bull.

Yes I was high, high from the drag of Igbo you passed me

HaneefahAde:
Lolz. , what's there to miss?

Seems you've been on night shifts, one hardly sees you around.

I was thinking of the possibility of checking my BP E-wise, can you?

FTBOY:
hahahaha! i hope it will be similar to this one? your threads always buy you new friends as well as new enemies

Hahahaha, I hope so, but, my joy is in the penning and not the reception.

I'll give you a tag.

DemiGoddess:
Sorry I'll send it again.

Ok, thanks in anticipation.

praxisnetworks:
Lady? please do NOT abuse that word she's not anything close.

She's actually given me enough reasons not to see her is such light.

praxisnetworks:
yes and akike apart from doveda and daretodiffer

4 monikers to a single female??

FTBOY:
yes oo! i was guessing you've been banned again by one of the zealous mods...coz i've not been seeing your posts. hope all is well, bro?

Lolz, I just can't stay off their radar bro. I'm OK, and will be debuting with another interesting thread soon.

akike:
May you die in your sleep

What a crass word from a lady?

Do me the favour of editing my handle from such unrefined harangue!!!

My stomach hurts already having to digest this.

Ftboy, ma nigga, what's up? It's been a long time.

praxisnetworks:
she's a coprophiliac

check her at her outstanding best here https://www.nairaland.com/3013576/coprophilia-whats-take/3#44229797

Is she Sheilak too?

DemiGoddess:
Sorry it was late...check now

....just did now and I found nothing. Seems it's still held up by traffic.

DemiGoddess:
Go check yours

I have, and there's one still.

DemiGoddess:
Yes

Alright, go check and tell me what you think.

DemiGoddess:
Ji Igbo!! I'd be very disappionted if it's true.

Lolz!!!

Is your email to your handle functional?

DemiGoddess:
Sorry go chop frodo nunu nah

I know you had me in mind before creating this thread

Memejem:
You are the most emotional man I have ever come across. You take discourse as a personal attack. Relax. This is just nairaland and is a discussion. You can not reason articulately without insulting.its a testament to your character to be honest. The discourse at hand is marriage. And you are here going on and on as if your first born depends on it. At the end of the day it's a matter of opinion. It doesn't make anyone a bad person because of the type of marriage they prefer to have.

You still view court marriage negatively because you feel it gives a woman rights. That only shows your character. You feel threatened by a female having rights. You didnt address how a court marriage would play out if BOTH husband and wife were similar contributors to the marriage. You keep mentioning husbands estate? Is it only a husband that can contribute to an estate? What if the wife equally contributed or had some part in it. This is no longer the 1950s, women work. I don't know why you are limiting your outlook to Nigeria alone. The question has to do with court marriage. Nigerians are spread all over the world.

Your view on law is flawed to say the least. I don't claim to be a lawyer. But if a husband and wife committed a crime both of them can and will be arrested. Marriage doesn't take away culpability in a crime. If a wife or husband is an accessory to a crime then they are guilty. It has nothing to do with marriage. You are confusing getting arrested and spouses acting as witnesses in criminal trials. In the United states a spouse does not in most cases have to testify against thier spouse and in mist cases they are not seen as appropriate witnesses because they have such a strong personal relationship. But a judge can overrule that. And it goes for BOTH male and female. Not just females alone. You are very one sided in your perspective.

I don't know about any law that states what percentage of a married couples estate each is entitled to should the marriage dissolve. Unless Nigerian law is backwards these terms are agreed upon once divorce negotiations start. AFTER the marriage.

The purpose of a court marriage is to protect the individuals in the marriage. Not just the wife. But the husband as well.

I'm not 100% familiar with marital law. But if the laws states (and I doubt it) that a woman is immune to criminal acts of her husband. Then it should be vise versa that the husband is immune to the criminal acts of the wife. You are so one sided with everything it's painful.

All of your arguments are applicable to both male and female. I don't know if you just hate women. But if you don't trust why you are marrying, get a pre-nup or don't marry that person.

Bro, to be honest, I stopped reading at the first paragraph!!!

Why, it reeks of deceit, ignorance and emotional diarrhoea!!!

Firstly you claim I insulted you. You want to furnish me with a quote?

Secondly, you claim I'm being emotional. You cannot redefine that term on the pages on NL.


Lastly and conclusively, you do not know or understand the term statutory/court marriage to begin with!!!

You linked it to a church wedding!!! Phew!!!

If you're an honest man, that should have consistuted the opening remarks of your long narrative!!! But, alas, you went off mark hitting at my deportment and mannerisms!!!

So there's no point debating with you over a concept you cannot even begin to define or understand!

It's a waste of time.

Jadekitana:
Wow that's really cool. You seem to love adventure like me . Well we really should cross paths, you sound interesting I know you are.

June awaits us then!!!

Hoping I could manipulate my time away and extend my May breakbreak, I'll take you to my favourite pepper-soup joint

Memejem:
Where are you getting your facts from? You are manipulating your opinions as facts, speaking in totality as if you have done a quantitative study on the issue.

What opinions are you talking about?

Memejem:
A court marriage just means that a marriage is recognized by the state/country. Simple. A marriage license is issued. That's all it is. Outside of nigeria (perhaps africa)

Now you're guilty of everything you accuse me of!!! Court/statutory marriage isn't just a marriage that's recognised by law!!! There are a lot of legal intricacies and extra judicial interpretation and consequences than any other forms of marriage. Do not speak of what do don't know. If a couple opt for court marriage, it means the wife cannot be arrested as an accessory after the fact of a crime committed by the husband!!! So even if the wife shields a criminal husband, she is immune by law!!! Again, even if she commits adutlry, the husband can't kick her out without the court's pronouncement, and only a high court can do that in Nigeria, not magistrate court. It also means that the wife has a certain percentage of her husband's estate to inherit, fixed by law! I can't begin to go on without exhausting pages. But don't ever presume a court marriage is just a marriage recognised by law. It is more than that!

As a matter of fact both traditional and white weddings are recognised by law but they aren't as protected or governed by law as is statutory marriage!!!

Memejem:
it is the norm everywhere else. Poor and rich alike go through court marriages. Actually it's part of the church wedding.

Now how the fùck is a church wedding related to statutory wedding? Gosh!!! If I had seen this before I hit the quote button, I wouldn't have bothered you with a reply.
You do not know the first thing about statutory marriage.


It isn't the norm everywhere. It is a Western thing. It isn't so in Asia or even north Africa or northern Nigeria. It's a borrowed culture from the West.

Memejem:
All paperwork filled out and signed on the day. In regulated counties there are actually tax benefits for married couples (recognized by the law) as opposed to people who cohabitate together.

Other forms of marriage have these benefits as well!

Memejem:
It sounds as if you are threatened that a woman would want to have her marriage legitimized in the eyes of the law. I don't see the harm. At all. You seem to view a court marriage as a way for a woman to collect what you feel she doesn't deserve.

Prenuptial agreement has cured the stupidish vulnerability that statutory marriage seems to open up!!!

Memejem:
But to be honest that implies that you are marrying a woman who does not contribute to the household. If both husband and wife are working and contributing to the household, properties and such then it only makes sense that God forbid they ever separate that the assets will be shared appropriately.

I don't condone divorce, but the reality is that it happens. A court marriage benefits both husband and wife. If they separate then the allocation of assets should be split up fairly. Not based on ego.

Also I would like to correct a statement you made about pre-nuptual agreements. Their purpose is to protect the assets of the husband or wife or both previous to the marriage. In the case the couple should separate the wealth/property owned by either party stays with the rightful owner. NowbWhatever wealth that was gained while part of the marriage is shared amongst the couple in whatever way us agreed upon between the couple, thier lawyers and ultimately the judge. So to be honest while you may think you are against the "western ideology and court system" I believe the pre-nup actually benefits your ideology. It protects your interests should anything go wrong in the marriage.

The rest of your submissions are lost in the pool of subjective interpretation of my opinion of statutory marriage.

And I never opined that prenups are meant to include assets acquired after marriage. You're good at making stuffs up.

And yes in Africa, after fulfilling traditional and religious rites of marriage, I will give it more than a casual thought if my lady insists on statutory marriage.


And oh.....you've made some damning blunders which have necessitated my decision not to bother you with any more replies.

Bye!

refiner:
my dear am not surprised cos u are lady and so u are trying to defend ur gender!...buh truth be told women are more selfish!



a woman loves doing stuff DAT will favour her not minding d feelings of d guy!....u can hardly see a lady sticking on a poor diligent guy wifout having two or more guys outside!.....

let's call a spade a spade!

You have spoken the truth like a true lady.

Women are selfless only in matters that concern their children.

In all other matters and relations, they are inherently self-seeking. From chosing a mate to everyday relationship.

Only men are more likely to marry a girl of no estate, with no background or heritage.

joseph1832:
LOL Yea, I know all about it. I've heard many of them lament when their boyfriend can't keep it in bed.

Some even go as far as hating the guys of even having scorn for the guys.

Bro, if you hear the way this girls abuse guys who can't satisfy dem in bed eh, you go pity for dem sha. No be small matter oh.

Lolz, I don't blame the guyost of the time, some of these girl have no more passion than a bedframe.

Imagine hanging a girl who won't even spread her legs well and remain as unmoving as a plank

A brother has no option than spill the fluid and walk away.

Jadekitana:
I know ekpan very well, used to have a friend there! Aside that I was born and bred in lagos. I visit portharcourt every December for hols

That's the NNPC housing complex and SNAPS, I used to do school-runs for my little brother then.

My district is close to ekpan, less than 20 minutes' drive actually...

Being born and bred in Lagos makes you more of a Lagosian than a Deltan or Riverian

My Christmas has no planned pattern, I go whenever the wind of the moment takes me, and it's often Enugu, Anambra and Delta.

I love the surprise of adventure without having to plan ahead and be ready.

Having to improvise and be spontaneous to events, people and situations is fun my heart never ceases beating frantically for.

joseph1832:
Amen broda lez.zlie amen. Preach the gospel of the goodness of quality lashing broda le.zzlie, preach it broda.

Oh ye hypocrites, listen to the words of broda le.zzlie
Seek it, for it edify thee, taste it, for it modifies thee,
Receive it, for it nourishes thy hypocritical self,
_fuck it, for it is the best thing given to thee.

The gospel according to le.zzlie chapter 1 verse 1. LMAO.

So na me be the prophet of fück!!!



I talk lie? Don't mind all those girl keeping quiet , pretending they don't love sex.

If only you will see the frown in their faces and the pain in their hearts when their men don't last that long in bed, dropping them off half way along the journeyjourney, you'll pity them.

obontami:
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Guy Let's know y'all opinion on the subject of this thread

bro, wetin you want us to add when you done talk everything?

Ehm, prostrate.... sex is good for the health of men's postrate gland as it increases with age in all men!


And a good quality fück leaves a girl's eyes brighter and shinier than the best mascara and contact lens in the market.


The ladies in the house know what I'm saying.

If you see a lady who just got fücked the right way, the happiness and shine come forth and radiate from her, you can actually touch it.

Jadekitana:
Lol ofcourse it would be cool

Can you speak Itsekiri? What part of Warri are you familiar with?

DemiGoddess:
Very true and court marriage is even worse.I sure as hell wont agree if he tells me he wants a court marriage.As if he's envisioning disaster and a terrible ending from the beginning.

Any lady who insists on court marriage has got a scheme that doesn't include the hubby on the brighter side.

No girl insists on court marriage if the hubby is flat out broke or struggling.

If you check most homicide findings, in the West, you see couples kill couples either to acquire the estate or not having to pay for divorce and alimony settlements.


Back to Nigeria, every Nigerian woman is predisposed to fall victim to the sweet talk of thieving pastors, prophets, seers and fortune-tellers who tell her what she wants to hear.

Add that to the number of exes who can ignite her dying fires and you're looking at a potential disaster, once people start appreciating the benefits of court marriage.

Fairytales:
what can I say.

Just advice couples to say away from court/ statutory marriages, it's a borrowed culture.

It doesn't stop divorce, neither can it guarantee fidelity.

It makes the atmosphere of marriage tensed and suspicious.

The West have already started prenuptial agreement when they saw the sheer folly of it.

Any woman who fell out of love with the husband could easily kill him off to acquire his estate just as easy as walking into an open door.

Lazy gigolos would be conniving with silly wives and telemundo addicted wives to acquire their husbands hard-earned money.

Simple solution, leave a Will behind.

Court/Statutory marriage is a no no for me.

Fairytales:
why is IMO different?

I don't know how they statutorily wiggle there way into giving magistrate courts the jurisdiction of entertaining disputes in statutory marriage.

Although the jurisdiction of magistrate courts in Nigeria has been recently reviewed and given greater scope as courts of first instance, but it still doesn't carry the powers of divorce in statutory marriage.

And it's fücking expensive to initiate court proceedings, lawyers charge extra.

It isn't worth it.

Fairytales:
you see, it good to put all these into consideration before saying an out right no. Apart from the extra expenses incurred, there is nothing the man should be worried about.

As for demigoddess, i'm just pulling her legs.

I still won't do it. It is still unnecessary. By the way, statutory marriage is cheap, a couple can procure one with less than a 100k.

But the issue is it's a whole different matter opting out of it, ---even if both couples want to .

Remember, it can only take a high court to grant divorce plea except in IMO state.

And , I think it gives women so much underserved and unmerrited rights in matrimony.

Fairytales:
it's a male pretending to be female, go look at her his signature

You can't be certain of that, fair one.

Fairytales:
there are times a marriage certificate is needed in proof of marriage for certain transactions.

That's true, especially in embassies and certain work permit abroad, but then, couples can opt for it when faced with such necessities.

DemiGoddess:
Very true and court marriage is even worse.I sure as hell wont agree if he tells me he wants a court marriage.As if he's envisioning disaster and a terrible ending from the beginning.

I'm telling you, me lady, after concluding traditional and religious marriage rites, and my wife's insists on statutory marriage, I'll get the goose bumps from suspicion and apprehension already.

DemiGoddess:
I wonder o,for me I prefer a good old tradional marriage with ALL the rites carried out,white wedding will be for formality sake;because my parents will insist.Court marriage is a bloody NO.I'm a very traditional person and I feel blacks are quick to accept the white culture.I'll have a white wedding but I still think the most important thing is keeping my marriage.Wonder why an african woman will be thinking about the possibility of divorce will signing marriage papers...uwa mmebi!

You're quite right.

Insisting on statutory marriage precludes the existence of trust and faith.

It negates the very principles on which marriage is built.

I have never endorsed statutory marriage and will never.

Jadekitana:
Hahaha oh oh pls tarry well, you may just break my nairaland rule I speak in parables

Lolz, Is there anything so heart-stoping in meeting me in the flesh and saying hi ?