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The same respect and honour that the husband who earns higher give.
No one should even know that she earns higher. They should both build their home like their private company that it is.

Abike is unarguably a disgraceful, unapologetic tribal bigot who in civilized democracy is highly unlikely to hold any political office. That dumbstruck bug isn't worthy of the office she's holding since she isn't a detribalised mind but that's Nigeria for you. Anything goes in the hole

Here is the solution. Matter settled. Good luck, man.

Macbarba:
Remove the tanks and the tiles. Buy Dr FixIt and do the floor screeding again with dr fixit water proof cement . After that that put your tiles and tanks back then you are good to go

Here's the problem, OP.

Mayng01:
What you people call decking is known as a slab in engineering term, during the casting of the concrete work of that slab, a vibrator that consists of a poker was not used on the slab work thereby creating honey comb in the slab; it means there are voids or spaces for air or water to flow through & concrete work are meant to be tightly and closely packed. So each time rain falls or your tank overflows during pumping, there is seepage ( water flowing through the concrete) thereby causing moisture through the walls and slabs internally. Concrete are meant to hold water not to absorb it. Therefore, that fault is referred to as poor workmanship during construction.

ModestGal:
Why will I envy her, you can only envy people you ate close in proximity to. I do not even know her until I started visiting Nairaland regularly due to covid19 lockdown boredom.

Who's this piece of bitter thrash with close mindedness forming lockdown boredom on nairaland?
Can't you let people live in peace with their choice
Or you know the Daniels from "close proximity"

I love this couple so so much. I can't even pretend about it

martineverest:
u haven't been there ,u don't know that they are experiencing..... average house rent is about 300k per month..... with bills and feeding will be close to 1 million naira

Calm down. You don't know where I live and you should be smart enough to sense sarcasm even with emojis to help.

From experience, I understand.

salford1:
If you have a business going well for you in naija, would you prefer to stay back in Canada and be spending unnecessarily on hotels/meals/calls etc ?

planetx:
Speak for yourself, not all Nigerians are trying to relocate to that ice box with 9 to 10 months of winter and snow.

Calm down. You should know sarcastic question

SweetCunt97:
Person cannot do Halloween costume again

Exactly! Why are those criminals harassing this cute little boy in devil's uniform
Does he really fancy NPF

Bluntguy:
Attention seeker.

Evil spirit

Very simple matter - tell him exactly what you want and do what you want. You're an adult.
If you want to be his baby mama, grab the offer, after all Chioma Davido and Annie Idibia are role models.
If you want to be his wife, tell him that you want to be his wife and you're afraid of being a baby mama.
If you don't want him or neither of his shit, flee now.

Who did no 6 rape I'm afraid, that thing looks like a gargoyle
I can't imagine the trauma on the victims to see such evil

Babe too sharp. She has rewritten her path in life, put her name in the annals of history and eradicated poverty from her lineage. She for de press somadina dick for nothing
Ejidi afufu agha isi

Congratulations to RegiNed

Superfluous, overhyped comment. Did swanky JKA or Ramsey break your heart. Nwanne, si ebe a puo. Your opinion isn't better than the countless of beautiful reviews that the movie has been raking especially over the flawless act exhibited by the heroine-Nnamdi Okeke.
If Femi was robbed, what stops you from unrobbing her?

Amanee:
The movie was just there - Just another Nollywoood movie glorifying rituals that adds to the same old 'Africa as a dark continent' narrative.

I think it should have ended in part one. This part two is superfluous, overhyped and not in line with the modern realities in Nigeria. In short, it's a worn narrative and Ramsey Nuoah should have had a more challenging directorial debut than 'Living in Bondage 2'. He just rode on the glory of the previous film. Kemi Adetiba was really robbed at AMVCA.

I watched it months ago and I can't even remember anything memorable about the action, it was that bland.

Gundel001:
Hi good day my fellow Nairalander please I will really need your experience about this issue. Please help me read to the end as it is a little bit long.

My junior brother is 14 years old and to be sincere I haven’t seen anybody as dull as him. I don’t know if it is natural but I just can’t understand why someone at that age could still be struggling with very simple arithmetic. My brother can’t write 1 – 150 correctly at 14.

He seems too dull; note he attends one of the best private school around our area, though I know you might say maybe education is not his way but even if you want to drop out from school you should know some basic things like money, time, multiplication and so on but my brother doesn’t know anything I must say, even to write his name correctly is a problem. It is making everyone unhappy lot of money is being spent on lesson teachers and other things for him still no improvement.

I am a student of one of the top federal University in Nigeria same as my other siblings even at both secondary and undergraduate level we were always above average so I can’t say his problem is genetic. I really wants to know what is the problem with him nairalanders. After I finished secondary school I once taught some pupils in primary school though there were dull ones too there but with time I could see improvement unlike my brother i always try to teach him from time to time but it kind of frustrating as he doesn’t even seems like he will ever grab anything and he doesn’t behave like he wants to learn anything.

He makes it seems as if he is not interested book or arithmetic at all …we all tried talking to him endless time to always read any time he his less busy but he never does except he is being forced.

He rarely talks, he loves to keep to himself always, he doesn’t have interest in anything unlike we the others that are die hard football fans, most times my mom will tell him to even go out to play and mingle he will not still want to go, he prefer to stay at home seating all day without reading or doing anything, even if it is to draw or play football he wont.

This matter is not making everyone happy at home we don’t even know the solution to his problem again, as in imagine having a child that is 14 years old that doesn’t know the difference between 17 and 71 it is just so bad…..

We don’t know if his case is mental or spiritual. please nairalanders I know there are child experts in the house or anybody who have experienced something like this before what do you think is the problem and possible solutions to the problem your contributions are welcome.

Please help me push this pleaseeeeee

Please, show him all the love and support you can and don't add to his problem.
There are quite a number of differentials.

1. Your brother could be simply DYSLEXIC/DYSCALCULIA, but has eventually become withdrawn too because of how you guys focus on his problems which makes him feel less of a human or not good enough.

2. He could be autistic but HIGH FUNCTIONING AUTISM and in that case, nothing is wrong with his IQ, only that he is obviously challenged with learning and communication which will improve over time. Nothing to worry about.

3. Another differential is ASPERGERS syndrome. People with aspergers do not usually have communication difficulties but may have profound learning difficulties and tend to withdraw to their shell.

In any of the cases above, only emotional and psychological support are required. There are a number of interventional approaches to improve his learning. However, let him learn steadily but NOT forcefully. If only he can grab a word in a day, that's ok. With love and support, he'll improve. Please, your family should never degrade him so he doesn't lose his self esteem. That boy is battling a lot already - learning difficulties, societal/family expectations and the almighty hormonal effects of adolescence. Please, be kind and loving.

For starters, get him simple beginner readers for dyslexia like "my name is Brian, The dyslexia advantage" whether it's dyslexia or not. Such books help those individuals to grab the ABCs of reading and better understand themselves.

If that guy is dyslexic or high functioning autistic, then you have a genius in him. That's Einstein in the making. Those individuals are usually too good with computations or arts and not abstract things. His brain is wired differently.
Unfortunately, Nigerian schools are not good in managing special kids.

ALL THE BEST TO YOUR KID BROTHER. HE'S A STAR.

These guys are loaded to their socks
Dangerously cute
You can't see these ones living abroad, they holiday and run back to their paradise - Nigeria.
They are the Arab princes and princesses of Nigeria.

kolaaderin:
The source smells shit. Igbo is only found in Nigeria Yoruba extend from southwest Nigeria through Benin and some part of Togo. This your source smell shits

Here Is a better source and educate yourself

https://travelnoire.com/amp/here-are-the-most-popular-tribes-in-africa

What a thrashy link without any credible research. Ignoring the obvious numerical strength of the Hausas who stretch across the entire west and northern Africa is a huge blight which questions the authenticity of that shitty blog.
I'm not Hausa but everyone knows they're everywhere in Africa and with their polygamous nature and high fecundity rate.

You're the one caging yourself into this bondage with your late aunt because you're bearing grudges, resentment, envy and so much bitterness in you. Just free your mind, change your ways and be positive towards everyone including your uncle (your second father) and your mother.
You see, you can't write the story of your life without mentioning that your uncle and his wife, no matter what. Focus on the positive ones they did and move on. Pick up the phone and call your cousins to ensure you're in talking terms with them. Once positive energy starts flowing around you and everything that concerns the woman, you'll have peaceful sleep.

Can't you see that you're having sleepless nights and you're the one asking for forgiveness in the nightmares That's because you're not at peace internally with her. It starts from you.
Don't make the mistake of going "spiritual" to all those fake places. You'll be doomed forever.

charlesELIKIBA:
HELLP NAIRALANDERS

I will be brief with my writeup as much as possible so I can explain my connection with this lady.

My single mom gave me away at a tender age of 5 to her elder brother (financial difficulties i assume), this ''aunty'' happens to be the wife of this my mother's elder brother.

Aready they had 4 children, all boys.

The home was a tough upbringing with strict rules about socialising, we weren't allowed to bring friends home or go to friends places. It was pretty strict and my uncles wife i would say was the mastermind of it all, she was strict and mean maybe because it was a house of 5 boys.

Growing up in my uncles home, I wouldn't say I was treated diffrently because I always got matching outfits with my uncle's children during christmas, gifts during christmas, same portions of food BUT IN ALL I was always scared of doing somethings my cousins would do. I didn't feel free growing up, i felt diffrent from them. In some cases they attended the best schools than I (but I never attended a govt. school or a bad private school).

It's like if their school fees was 1m naira per term, mine would be 150,000 per term.

I lived with them until I was about 16 or 17 and one morning I woke up and they said i was going back to my mother at 15 or 16 like any kid, you would start to develop conscience (sense), maybe breaking some rules and being stubborn just like their own kids. This I assume was why they wanted to send me back to my mother OTHERWISE I CAN THINK OF NOTHING ELSE I DID WRONG OR DIFFRENT.

In all of these years living with them, I saw my mother as a strange person. I had no motherly connection with her. My anty to me, was my real mother. Whenever we went visiting my mother in very rare occasions, it was always awkward.

Well long story short, I found myself back in my mother's arms, to a new environment i knew nothing about and starting to learn to live with a woman called my mother. I was naive, had no choice but to accept realities on ground. Do you know that feeling of living in a pouch house and wake up next morning in a 1 room surrounded by thick bushes. Yes that was the change.

I was enrolled into a school, my uncle was repeatedly forced to send/ pay my schoolfees until i was in ss3 and i called him to inform him about waec enrolment. He told me on the phone ''all the exams i have been writing, how many have i passed'' and that was it. He never sent a dime anymore meanwhile at this point his children, my cousins were already miles ahead of me suddenly in education. When i left the home, the eldest son went to canada to school, the second who is my agemate was already in a private uni in Nigeria and the 3rd who i am senior to with a year is preparing to go to ukraine for school and years later the last born who i spoonfed and chewed meat for attended uni in Ghana.

Well long story short, since my uncle had failed me. My mother said it was time i go to my father. My father was old retired pensioner. My mother took me to him, as expected awkward encounter. I have never known this man, no memory of him. Well he said he would find my enrolment money and he did, he later passed on a year or two later.

I enrolled waec and pased in one sitting, thanks to miracle centres.

PS: i must say i was never an intelligent student. i wasn't even average but i wasn't the poorest and neither of my uncles children were better. We were all poor educationally.

Long story short another uncle sprang up and paid for my university diploma which i later acquiried.


YEARS LATER my uncle and aunty decided to move back to our home town, please note the home my mother stayed in was this my uncles home. It was the boy quarters, the main house was not even in sight as at the time i was returned to my mother. We did series of bush clearing and snakes killing lol. well my uncle returned home town after retirement and setup the main structure ( a 5 bed room duplex) and thats were they lived while i and my mother lived in the BQ.

I WAS very angry with myself that i happened to still live with them AGAIN, i needed to get out of their sight, my condition was bad. i was a mere teacher to some rickety school. In all of this my uncle's wife always ensured she knew what i was upto and she derived satisfaction when she knew i wasn't doing better than her kids who were all abroad. i turned to their errand boy again after years of neglect. i was very angry with myself and needed to save to get out of the house.

Well i did manage to save up and leave the house and i promised myself never to return to that house. i felt neglected, i felt they sent me away because the goodthings were coming and they couldn't bear to see me share in them because to me they were my parents.


YEARS LATER, my aunty was sick with cancer
please note before i left the home, my uncle and aunty always sent me to travel journeys to get them medicines from a monastry. i attended such trips severally and ran other seperate errands but i never dared to drive their car talkless ask for the key. i always washed their car in the mornings, i would never also dare to see myself in the living room of the duplex with the remote in hand. when they moved back to the hometown, that fear in my childhood started again but this time i was mature enough to know i would never m amount to anything in life if i continued this again hence the reason i needed to move out.

So my aunty sickness grew worse, the husband flew her to india and back but the sickness grew worse. in all of this cancer times i never went back to the house to see her. I only heard of her conditions from my siblings (my half siblings, my mother was married to 3 men in diffrent years and she had only me for my father, another for another man and 3 for another man, i was the lastborn of all).

Then my aunty died. The day she died, i saw her in my dreams and she was crying saying ''she forgave me''. A day or two later i went to my sisters store and she told me of my aunty death, i went to my rented apartment and cried profusely. i later summouned courage and maybe sympathy and went to my uncles house and i cried before my uncle and told him to forgive me too for all abandoning them all this while.

NOW ABOUT MY AUNTY SAYING SHE FORGAVE ME IN THE DREAM: i did not do her any wrong neither did i wish death on her. All her life her greatest fear was maybe i would become greater than her children. She loved these comparisms, i was never wicked to her, i never cursed her, i was never rude to her unless i some instances when she sends me errands and i tell her i have other things to do.... Otherwise i never was negative to her instead she is the one nobody likes, by nobody i mean my uncles family. Nobody talks good of her, they say she controls my uncle and also squandered his money but in all of this i never spoke of my experiences living with them and somethings they did wrong that made me feel diffrent, i did not even tell you guys neither have i told my mother ever. i don't see them as anything that would stop my growth in life. i hate to talk about the bad in people.

WELL BACK TO REASON THE TOPIC WAS CREATED, why do i keep repeatedly seeing her in my dreams even after her death and its always on a negative role. its either in the dream she still plays mother, or she is gossip about me in the dream or she is against me in the dream, just think of anything negative in a dream and she will be the mastermind. This is really beginning to worry me. Why is she still attached to me in the dreams?

After she died, her husband, my uncle started his own sickness but has been sick for years now, he is bed ridden. The family has repeatedly asked him if there is anything he and his late wife did in the past to amount such sickness were he is living in pain but refused to die and he would not answer. One time they said, he said ''it was out of ignorance'' and thats all he ever said about anything.

It will also be good to note that of all my 4 cousin brothers and i today, i am the most successful by far.

i just finished my house (a 3bedroom, 2 bedroom, 1 bedrrom bungalow)
january this year i bought my 3rd car.
i travel round the world effortlessly.
YES I DID TURN OUT FAR BETTER THAN MY COUSINS WHO YOU KNOW HAD THE BEST EDUCATION.

I don't want to talk of their conditions, lets concentrate on me.


So this is my much writeup... I had to skip many things so you can bear to read but please be free to ask me questions.

Why do I repeatedly see my aunty in my dreams.... just before this writeup, i had just woken up from another dream she was present in, she was whispering to the ears of a very good friend of mine and then the friends turned to me and was like '' ah cahrles na so you be''?...and i was angry and was like '' how can you believe something someone you just met told you against i your best friends word'' and minutes later dream ended and i woke up.

At this point i am thinking of going spiritual to know why this is happening but this will be a first in my life. There are two popular places i have never being in my life until lately last year... One is a shrine and the other is a police station. Last year was my first time to be in a police station.
I was driving my unregistered car. That was my offence.

The Arabs of Nigeria, chop the money bro, na your luck
Southerners still de sleep politically and work like monkey while baboon de chop.

Righteousness89:
Awesome Bro!

Great , Beautiful and costly stuffs you have there..

But Ensure your Soul is Worth Eternal Life..


That's what Matters After all Said and Done!...

This one is completely sold to Christ. I wish I can get to this point.
People who don't believe in God, how do you cope
Only the belief in Supreme God gives sanity in this insane world.

If you check well, this same Akewi voted for Buhari after bad mouthing GEJ. This is just the beginning.
We from the SE geopolitical zone are used to such government oppression. No one speaks for us when they come against us. Now, they're going against each other.
O gan ooo

Just imagine the incoherent thrash she threw up, and some people were calling gentleman Jude names

And Peterpan jumped on it to discredit his elder brother
May we never have a prodigal stewpid *blood* sibling like peter okoye

ejihand:
Has anyone heard from Jude? I mean his version of what went wrong.

Kindly disregard Peter's comments. That's how losers behave.

This! Exactly! How can a grown man jump into a case involving his blood brother and say shit? Peter's problem is bigger than this world.

This is a rare occurrence. When all Nigerians are relocating to Canada, these one are begging to leave Canada. Is it the same Canada?

Frank schizophrenia occasioned by hallucinations as usual.
In fact, the people parading this sick woman are mad too

Benwallt:
This government is arrogating Nigerians wealth to his region in case Nigeria brakes and leaders fr other regions are sleeping.

You nailed it. Nigerians are sleeping while Gambari is getting ready for the crash. Oil does not even pay again.

https://twitter.com/davidicke/status/1261386165992730625?s=19


Who's fooling who?

https://twitter.com/davidicke/status/1261386165992730625?s=19

Globad:
Why he no comot shirt for the second picture?

Loose skin on the breast area. Most likely would need surgery to remove excess skin.

NARCISSISTIC WIFE
OP, SHE WILL NEVER CHANGE. MAKE A RUN, NOW!

Check out these links. Sounds familiar?

https://blog.usejournal.com/i-was-married-to-a-narcissist-for-12-years-and-i-had-no-idea-3398b7b15c45

Check this video, explicit!


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wKxtuFEcm7I

sweetmelanin:
I think you are the shallow one here who has clearly refused to reason!

1. Why is Bill Gates (a college dropout with no medical background) suddenly the spokesperson for global health?
2. Why is the vaccine (which we have no idea of it's long term effect) being pushed to be mandatory?
3. Why is Bill Gates pushing for digital identification of those who have been vaccinated (ID2020)?

The most beautiful and intelligent thing that I have read on nairaland in a very long long while