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alutacontinua: aaaaaaawwwwwww
I miss you too, sweetie

should get a new phone soon and be back on BBM

-Sure.
-We have a lot to talk about.
-Hope you're enjoying our erratic power supply and our amala

alutacontinua: lol....I used my phone for charity when I came to Naija. Stuck with a boring Nokia for now, I'm mostly on viber or skype or YM these days, how are you?

I dey miss yu scatter.
Seriously

Career choice is a very important determinant of how your future will turn out. Sadly, I have come to notice that Nigerian youths still grapple with making a befitting career choice as students - secondary and university. Some are either coerced into it by family pressures, others follow their friends in their chosen career path, others happen to find themselves spontaneously making the choice.

The objective of this thread is to enable professionals brainstorm with students who are still in the deciding phase to make a sound choice.

I would appeal with the mods to leave this thread in the education section because majority of the career choice challenges we have are mostly on this section and not the career section as would have been expected. The reason for this is not far-fetched. The bulk of the people with these issues are students who frequent this section .I've noticed this after 4 years of consistently posting on this section of Nairaland.

Personally, I've had a taste of both Arts, Commercial and Science based courses at basic and advanced level. As much as I have committed myself to developing myself in these areas regardless of what I'm studying in school, I've been privileged to taste opportunities in these areas. I have also been privileged to make life-changing contacts with professionals in almost any field you can think of. So I'm going to rely on my experience, my contacts and most importantly professionals in this forum to help young people out there.

Feel free to share your career choice challenges and we'll help you brainstorm.

When you stand on your feet, you can only stand tall. When you stand on the shoulder of giants, you will definitely stand taller.

alutacontinua, top of the morning/afternoon/evening to you.

You've been off the radar.

What happened?

What's happening?

I've left you millions of messages on bbm

Sex isn't love. And sex won't make you fall in love.
However, sex with someone you already love is awesome, amazing and perfect. There's nothing like it.

I can be in a relationship without sex. For as long as possible. I can stay without sex for as long as possible. I've had enough to last me a lifetime lol.

But in my opinion, sex is very overrated. Extremely overrated. It's not rocket science. It's S-E-X

Someone shd pls close this thread

And I also notice that most people on here(the females especially) prefer to lock up when there are obvious issues to be settled.

Why do you folks prefer to lock up? Is it that you don't understand that solutions come from communication? Or are you too proud to come down to communicate especially if you bore the brunt of the hurt?

The more you lock up n your partner, the sooner you are going to resent him/her. And if you ask me, the sooner you're going to seek alternatives.

Bottling up can easily cause resentment.

Sijioke: yea, i did.. He said all my elder ones studied another course, so i should be the one to study medicine and because i am brillant..that was the main reason.

Yeah. I'm familiar with that story. Parent feels because you're smart then you should naturally study medicine. That's a very flawed perspective. Very flawed. I'd say you should persist.

Whatever happens, don't do what you don't want. In the long run, you'd need more than intelligence to sustain you.

Sijioke: i have not only discussed with them. We even invited a family freind but my dad rejected the offer. He said I must do it.

Have you asked him why he wants you to study medicine?

Parents have been making this mistake from time immemorial till now. You are not the only person. I've met countless people whose parents feel if they're not studying medicine then they are not living the life. Parents know very little about studying hard to get a spot in a good university. Parents know little about the rules and regulations that guide your stay in this place. Parents do not know that if you make a slight error, you could be pushed out of the program. Parents do not know that you spend 7 useful years of your life studying day and night. Parents do not know that this place robs you of time for yourself, time for your friends and time for family.

There are a lot of things parents do not know about med school. Most of them do it out of utter ignorance. And you must not allow it.

If you want civil engineering, go for civil engineering. Don't be bullied into what you don't want. My parents initially didn't want me to study medicine- they had their plans. I did it against their wish. Sooner or later they had to live with the reality that it's my life and the choice remains mine. And whatever would come out of it will be my responsibility.

So it's up to you. Let no one bully you. 7 years is a lot of time to spend in a course you don't want.

Have you been doing Physiotherapy post-surgery??

lofty900: , if she's in a bad mood, I'll be lucky if my hand comes out intact

Lmao.

ademega: Despite the fact that you are married and two has become one ,which make both have all access to each others body, still, you need to demand for sex in a polite and civilized manner

Lol.
You must be high on something

tlanry: I am worried bro. This is because when we are just platonic friends, she neva asked of a penny from me.

And there's the possibility she may be going through a difficult time financially. These things happen

tlanry: I am worried bro. This is because when we are just platonic friends, she neva asked of a penny from me.

So she's now asking.
And your dilemma now is if its customary for you as a boyfriend to give in To these demands.

Well- I don't know what to say to you. Really.
When I started dating, the babes I rolled with could take care of themselves and didn't need a dime from me. Neither did they ask.

I did whatever I did for them out of volition.

As time went on, I met one babe who wasn't doing well financially but she was equally greedy. She always wanted things she couldn't afford amidst a financial unintelligent lifestyle. She was nice and caring - yeah. I think it was majorly because she didn't have anything else doing. But then - there's the possibility.

I found it strange when she started demanded for petty things and made it seem like my responsibility to provide them. I had to correct that impression very fast. I laid my military options on the table. I am not a father figure- neither am I a husband. I can only give you things out of my volition - no matter what it is. When you start making it look like its a responsibility then there's a problem.

Now I don't care so much about whether you have sex with me or not. It's irrelevant.

So bro, it's left to you. I'm not used to girls asking me for petty stuff. I don't think I can advise you well.

PS: If you ever have a next time, roll with girls who have class. Sorry, any girl that asks her man for toiletries , and recharge cards in 2014 is very classless.

I hope you have class to match with them too.

JewelBukky: Dr Lomaxx, ure such an inspiration... More ink to ur pen!

Thanks.
Hope you're sailing fairly

tlanry: She has never given me any impression that she just wanted me for the money i do give her.
Moreover she happens to care alot about me.

Then why are you worried??
You know something isn't right.
I went back to your first post.


Do you buy these things(hair , toiletries, recharge cards, provisions) spontaneously or she demands for them ??

I'm just curious.

mstik: Okay if you want to pass across any message, don't quote my posts aiit? There are other ways of doing so. And also learn to deal with the truth....

There.

I just quoted your post. I hope you got the message.
Juvenile bitc.h!!!

Well, if my woman feels staying without sex should be the modus operandi, I have nothing against it. No pressures would be applied whatsoever.

What I cannot guarantee is whether I would roll in the same boat with her. After all sex doesn't prove love, does it?

DocAdray: OP, stop generalising.

Hygiene is an individual/personal thing.

Finally, somebody with sense arrives.

Hey baby, we meet again.

mstik: I don't get you? Wat point are you trying to make? Why are you showing me this thread? What does it have to do with this topic?

That I quoted your post doesn't mean I'm communicating with you. I'm not passing a point across to you. It's a public forum and my post is for whoever is reading.

The topic was about hygiene and Nigerians. And a misguided post indicated that men are the most culprits. I quoted that post and added a link to another thread where a woman was shamelessly advocating that pubic hair should be left to grow perennially- which obviously is a case of hygiene.

Please quit thinking that quoting your post means communicating with you. I'm passing a message to those who are smart enough to understand.

mstik: So...... Why you telling' me

Do you need to be told?

It's a public forum. Deal with it!

mstik: Mostly the men sha

In this thread a woman was saying women shouldn't shave their pubic hair

https://www.nairaland.com/1804296/people-dont-shave-pubic-region

naijasaint: thanks bt am here to corrrect some misconceptions abt love not to display my writing skill

Paragraphing is not a writing skill. It's a basic requirement.

prissyluv: I dont share in his views cos I believe that some people[women] dont shave often cos of the scratch that follows.
What are your views/opinions friends?

These are the same women that would be looking forward to having you go down on them.

Women, I tire for una

tlanry: she does understand when i dont have much on me too

Whatever makes your boat sail.

But don't complain.

Whenever you go into a relationship with a girl, place your military options on the table.

Don't complain. You are a man.

Next time you want to make a verbose post, use paragraphing technique.

decode55: nothing like hurting feelings here o! Call a spade a spade.

This OP, is a first class mugu

What is sustaining their relationship is his role as the provider. The day OP is broke or can't bring the usual money as needed, his ars.e will be dumped.

Or if the girl finds a better mugu with more potential, he'll be streamlined to second position on the scale of things. He will come back here and open another thread lamenting how the girl isn't picking his calls and replying his messages.

I was just 9 years old. A new cyber cafe opened opposite our house far back then. I was curious. So I went in there and bought 30 minutes for N150 (yes it was that expensive). With the help of the cyber cafe attendant, I was able to open my first mailbox. Having had a previous exposure to a computer, taking over from there wasn't hard. I was spending useful time browsing cartoons.