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Uyi168:
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If we check properly now, u have never dated or go close to any edo lady all your life..

Oga shut up, it's true. In fact, any lady that grew up in Edo state is potential witch. If you like, use your life take test am.

Talking from experience btw.

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I certainly don't feel like falling in love again.
I am tired.
I'm emotionally tired.
Physically weak.
I feel betrayed by my emotions.

I try so hard to be good.
Thinking there was bad in me in the first place.
I want to cry but I can't make up tears.
I'm frustrated by the above.

I am at that place where one forgo logic and realistic data
At the place where I feel like crying out like a baby.
At that place where one screams "all girls are scum".

If only that were true.
If only I can say that for sure
It's the reason I am in this loop in the first place
The 3rd scum in a roll.

Statistically, it would make sense.
I know. I'm heartbroken.
I'm sad.

Oily marks appear in my memory files.
They tell a story that makes me sad
The marks were left by a deleted "I love you."

Scarred by "forever and always".
Punched by "you're my joy".
Slapped and mocked by "you're my heart".

I can feel my heart ache literally.
I can feel my veins warm up.
I wish love was something you could buy.
I wish for so many things.

What you say?
That it was all for the best?
Ransom notes keep falling out your mouth.
Midsweet talk on your lips.
They feel like poison.

They are the most terrible lies I've ever heard.
I never hurt you.
You didn't need to hurt me.
But it doesn't matter to you.
Because to you, I'm just another guy.

May God bless you.

Descorts:
We started as friends. We were so close she could do anything for me and I could do anything for her.

She had a boyfriend who was a serial cheat and treated her like trash. It got to a point they broke up and he left. She was heartbroken.

I gave her my shoulders to lean on. I was there for her throughout those turbulent times and made sure she was never sad again.

She moved on. 2 months on we started dating. It was all fun and rosy. I'm not the type to fall deeply in love or should I say, women don't tickle my fantasy, I'd rather be with my goons than be with any girl.

But this girl came into my life and I don't know what she did to me to make me so in love with her. I loved her, she loved me. It was a heaven made match and a relationship anyone would wish for. On my birthday she got me a really expensive gift and I fell even more for her.

3 months on, her birthday was close and I was planning to make it special for her. Then I heard her ex came back in town, I wasn't troubled, "she loves me so much and she won't bat an eyelid for him anymore" I thought.

And then it happened. She left me for her ex who came back for her. I heard from a reliable source that before he came back, they'd been communicating online and the guy told her he's coming to take her back and he did take her from me.....

I am broken.....
I shall rise again in no time, and when I rise... I AM GOING TO BE A HEARTLESS MONSTER.
These hoes... non virgins or virgins, young or old, I shall toy with their emotions and break them....

GAME ON

See, indifference is the only payback.
Imagine if she knew she was the reason you never was happy again.
The reason you were dealing with other girls.
The reason you are miserable.
The reason you came to nairaland to cry.
The reason you crying inaudibly.

Dude, she has finished you.
She will continue to have power over you.

You're here killing your hating her. She's still controlling. Ruining your life in absentia.

The best thing you do for yourself is to delete her memories.
Delete her and everything that points to her in your life.

Let this go on for 1 month or more.
You'll come back to nairaland with shame and delete this post.

LET ME ASK YOU.
IF YOU FIND A GIRL DEALING WITH OTHER GUYS BECAUSE YOU BROKE HER HEART, WON'T YOU BE FEELING POWERFUL?
NO MATTER WHAT SHE SAYS YOU'LL STILL KNOW UNDERNEATH SHE LIKES YOU.

Face it, she has power over you because she can change your mood if she likes.

If this girl wants to make you sad, she has to do is appear before you.

Can you make her sad by doing that?
Face, you're her bitch. Her beta.

You'll win this by defeating her memories in your mind.
Not by this nonsense you're saying.

Before now, did you have such plans?
You letting a girl control you.

FROGMAN101:
You are using emotions to judge what the person you quoted said. He only stated that men are under no obligation to give women they are dating money and that is fact.

Nobody cares about what you do with your money. That is your business.

Then, if you are helping someone cause "God of orphans will never forget your kindness" then you have a selfish agenda.

Finally, remember that not everyone thinks like you, infact you are living in your own head if you think everyone will remember your so-called good deeds.

I wasn't hoping on people to repay me. I was hoping on God. Nobody can repay my kindness.

herzernIsHere:
Unless you are dating an orphan, you are not under any obligation to give money to your partner in a relationship.

Only few will understand.
These ones, even if they leave you, you won't feel it cos you were an angel when they needed one.
When your gf has no parent, you'll understand.
Even if she leave me, I know I've helped an orphan and the the God of orphans will never forget my kindness.
Give out of love though. Not out of trade by barter

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primesoccer:
I met my girlfriend about 2yrs ago and we've been doing pretty fine. Before we met, she was in an abusive relationship and she had to quit.

In trying to understand ourselves, we've had to agree and disagree on some things, which I believe is normal. I love her and she loves me too.

I won't say I have the cash, but I'm always there to support her when she has a very pressing issue. Aside that, I take her out, we go shopping, and lots more...

She is this type of lady that if you try to correct her (in a very respectful manner) she will just get angry and may not even talk to you for even 2 days. Anger is a big part of her life. I respect her a lot and have never used abusive words on her.

When we just met, she was kind. She hardly comes to see me without buying something, even if it's N50 corn...a gesture that I appreciate so much. About a year into the relationship, her character changed. She became somewhat stingy. But I didn't take it to mean anything because I hate to even depend on anybody for anything. It didn't stop me from supporting her and doing the much I can for her.

She doesn't ever allow me touch her phone. What she does now is that whenever I'm to see and spend time with her, she turns off her data. She rejects some calls when we are together. As someone who wants peace at all times, I've sat her down to tell her my observations and ask what the matter was. But she told me nothing was the matter.

So, I decided to buy a new SIM card. I started chatting her as a stranger. She chats with me (the stranger) till even 2am. She has opened up everything about herself to the stranger. Her name, where she's from, what she does, where she lives and lots more. I'm just wondering why someone who just chatted you today is already getting to know everything about you.

Now to the reason I opened this thread: she told the stranger guy that she isn't in any relationship. Though, she added that she just met a Guy last week through her friend and they are both trying to work things out. She even sent the picture of the new guy to this stranger.

I'm still wondering why she will do a thing like that. I'm not in her life to waste her time. She is very aware of that. I told her last December that we shall go see her people this year and seal everything, but she told me that we still have time and no need for the rush.

Personally, I had no reasons to suspect her of possibly cheating, but her actions when we are together made me get a new SIM card and started chatting her up anonymously.

On my part, I'm a guy that ladies even open up to me that they like me. They also say I'm very intelligent and all that. I'm very transparent to her. I don't hide nothing from her. I can leave my phone with her without any fear because I don't have anything to hide.

I've never had anything to do with any lady since I met her. I so much believe in keeping your body and soul to just the person you are with...whether relationship or marriage. If you can't do that, why not just tell the person that you are not interested again than going your way to deny the person before another guy.

Ladies and gents, why on earth will a man or woman do this to someone who had dedicated his or her all to you?

I will gladly welcome your contributions, including bashing...

Addition: I am business oriented. To make her depend less on any man for money, I have created a passive income source for her that generates about 20k for her monthly

This is exactly what I did in this same situation.
Take about 2 weeks and focus on getting over her.
Don't make the mistake of officially breaking up with her.
Make sure you've deleted her from your mind within that 2 weeks.

I mean, use that two weeks to mourn your break up. It won't be easy, but that's exactly how to do it do you don't feel it.

Next, block her everywhere.
Put her calls on blacklist.
Do you not attempt to talk to her else she will convince you back since you're still fragile into the break up.

Make sure you don't have virtual or voice contact with her.

Do this for over 2 months.
After the first month, open your heart to find a replacement. A new girl.

At this point, you've not broken up with her officially.

And make sure you never do.

Note: The purpose of all this is not to hurt her to but your transition to a new relationship with someone else.

If you don't do this, you will hurt yourself.

mharyamikeola92:
Pls help me move this to front page.

I am a working class lady and I hardly demand things from whosoever I love.

There is this guy that I ave been dating for years now. I don’t know what to call his behavior, whether it is stinginess or the other way round.

I noticed that whenever he comes visiting, he doesn’t bring anything and I get to cook and takecare of him. I was forced to talk 1 day.

The last time he came visiting, he brought bread and other stuffs along which he ended up eating all by himself. I decided not to cook or do anything but I couldn't take it so we went out to buy stuffs. I needed to use POS and I forgot my phone at home. So I begged him to transfer 5k to the lady and that I was going to transfer back to him when we get home. We ended up using the money to get chicken, pepper and other stuffs.

On getting home I demanded for his account details in order to transfer the money back and to my surprise, he gave me and I transferred the money.

My major concern is that this guy has never given me common N10 and he is working. I don’t know if he's worth settling down with cos I fear for my future. Will he be able to give if he has more? This is the guy that is already telling me to come meet his mum cos she wants to see me.

Pls no insults, just advice.

Stop saying I'll pay you back if get angry at paying back. If won't give you if don't say that, just leave him. But getting angry because you did what you two agreed is just ridiculous

I will start from the ones you look down on so much.

1. Somalia: Somalia oh. This country has been on war for like... But they still manage good power supply better than Nigeria.

2. Uganda: This one got me weak. They have stable power, far better than Nigeria.

3. Togo
4. Kenya: This one should not surprise you.
5. Benin
6. Ghana
7. Angola

These are just the ones I could list.
You're welcome to add your very own to the list.

I purposely omitted South Africa. We all know they have better power supply.

LagosBoi2:
It is your birthday my darling wife, I have to make public this letter because you are the best thing that ever happened to my life and I can't keep silent anymore.

My friend and lover of 16 straight years, It is usual for husbands to appreciate their wives in the name of marriage but it is unusual to state reasons for the appreciation.

I think you don't just love, there should be genuine reasons to love, I will purge out my thoughts on the reasons you should be the most celebrated wife on earth.

As a young man, if all you ever wish for is to meet your partner a virgin, I personally NEVER wished for it but women who still keep their virginity against all odds for the right man should be specially celebrated in today's crazy world. Amazingly I can confidently say that I am the only man in her life for 16yrs until date, she is a completely faithful wife.

We have never had any issues over infidelity on her part during our courtship and marriage till date, I have been the one misbehaving through the years, growing up was crazy, I was the one exploring life and doing all I could but she submitted her life to me.

As a multi talented young lady, she submitted her career and life to me, believing in me despite all my mistakes, she is the only person that understands me even without an explanation to my human mistakes.

I can not easily forget her usual lines after giving her piece of advice, she will say "I do not see you as my husband, I see you as my own son, If my son should do this same thing you have just done, will i disown him?", "you are still young, you will outgrow these behaviours and be the best man for me"

I lost my biological mother 11 yrs ago but If I call you my mother, I have a genuine reason to do so because you stood by me in a way that only a mother can.

The 16yrs wasn't all rosy, about 9 of the 16 years was full sufferings and poverty, even when I lost hope in myself, you continued to have high hopes in me without any iota of doubt.

We were homeless on two occasions in our lives and then with 2 kids, you endured with me, staying with your mom while I stay with a friend, you even came to live with me in my friend's place.

Despite the humiliation, you refused to give up on me, you absolutely signed off your whole life to me. At a point you wore your best cloth to a company where I asked you to help me submit a proposal, a young lady tapped you to inform you that your dress is torn at the back.

If you have ever had to wear a cloth that is so used up and begins to split into two from the back, you will understand what this means, my wife came home and narrated the issue to me, she actually saw the dress before wearing it, she wore it because she had no better one to wear

I couldn't control my emotions, I began to cry like a baby, I can never forget what she told me that faithful day, she said "Baby, don't worry, the same me wearing torn cloths today will have enough to wear tomorrow, I will even be giving out because it will be excess" Behold 7yrs after her words came to pass, cloths and female accessories are the least of her worries.

Your wisdom is extraordinary even me your husband can not match, your heart so pure that you forgive the unthinkable. Your ways so pure that you find it difficult to tell a lie. You gave me a girl and 2 boys. 12yr, 6yr and 2yr respectively.

You stood by your promise to see me through to success, If you look for a woman who gives in everything into a relationship without blinking, that is my wife.

You politely correct me when I am wrong, you warmly advise me and leave me to make my final decisions, you respect me as a father not as a husband.

Your culinary skills are the best I have ever known, friends and family can testify to this, you are the best mother to our kids, your daughter calls you the best mom in the world, I also call you the best wife and mother in the world. They say no perfect human but you are near perfect. You are so beautiful that people who do not know you conclude that you must have several men in your life spending money on you to look younger and beautiful even after 3 kids.

I can go on and on because there is a lot to talk about you that is not open to others, you live a private life without desperation for anything in life, You are a woman of honor, dignity, value with undying strength to carry on and remain focus against all odds.

I promise to guide our union with my life, protect our family with my strength and celebrate you for the rest of your life.

Happy birthday my darling wife!

You are indeed the best!

Please help move this to FP today 26 Feb to celebrate a good woman's birthday.

Add: On your request, I have added pics.

Thank you.

Your wife really fine. I been think say you just dey compliment am oh. Kudos man. And stay out of hurting her abeg.

katyamizotta:
Ok, this might be my breakthough. Will try. Thanks

It surely will work. Happy to be of help.

Girlwhocares:
Please help me, I'm loosing my sanity everyday!
I'm scared to open up to friends and families because of what they will think or how disappointed or bad I will make them feel, also I'm afraid people will be judgemental about my actions.

I'm not physically and emotional connected with my husband which is affecting our marriage and my well-being, we live as co-tenant, we hardly have any conversation, we do things differently, we share different rooms, no sex for the past 3 years! Even during courtship and the fist two years of marriage I can account for days we were intimate.

Things are fallen out of place everyday, we have a child together who will be 4yrs and the thought of having another child has not crossed my mind.

I get irritated at everything, I hardly show appreciation towards him even if it means he has done his best, which later i will find myself guilty and try to make up but the spark and connection isn't just there.

Most times, I have a non-challant attitude towards him and everything he does to make me happy.

I feel lonely, bored and incomplete even when I'm 90% sure my husband loves me and always ready to make me happy.

I feel awkward communicating my feelings and thoughts to him because I know I might flare up with anger even when he hasn't done or said anything to warrant it.

Please I have come to this faceless forum to pour out my mind, my heart is heavy, I need someone to talk to, I'm afraid my personal intention of walking out this marriage even when my husband hasn't done anything to deserve this might backfire and has its negative effect on our child.

I honestly don't need anyone to insult me please as I'm going through a lot. All i need is mature married wo(men) opinions

Thank you for your time.

I logged in just to tell you the truth.

This is what you should do.

I was going through a breakup. My feeling were being used against me.
Suffice to say, I was being used.

But I loved this person. I was confused cause I didn't know how to stopping having feelings for this person in order to end my emotional abuse.

So one night, before I went to bed, my guardian angel whispered to me.

"Come to me all ye that are laboured and heavy ladden and I will give you rest."

I understood what he was telling me.

I meant that should tell Jesus to take away my sexual attraction for this girl away.

I cried and said that prayer. I work up the next day completely unattracted.

I don't know how explain it. But I broke up with her and never went back like I used to.

God can make you sexually attracted to your partner. I mean, He blessed your marriage at the altar.

He's just waiting for you to ask. And if your husband isn't attracted to you also, pray to God to make him sexually attracted to you. But you must do this with his consent since God will not force anyone.

Without faith, non of this will work. So pray for faith first.
I wish you good luck.

sarrki:
Please watch the video

N stop blabbing

He insulted them to there face

Ganduje is doing it through governance and never insulted sanusi to his face

So you're not even going to deny you supported Ganduje.
You're not even a smart hypocrite. Lol
Just add hypocrite to your name.
Hypocrite Sarrki

Pussywar:
You're so dumb, you don't realise it. So its men who don't betray each other? And in which world is betrayal worst that rape? And you want to compare the number of men that rape/ harass to the number of women who do same?? Mind you I don't give a fok whether you like feminism or not. The fok

Madam, don't be so bitter. This guy is not a rapist so don't talk to him like one.
You don't have respect self.

So because some useless men rape women, every man you see now is a rapist?

Aren't you like a psychopath? Who kills men because a man raped her.

I'll advise you to seek help. I don't know who hurt you but you're bleeped up if you think other men who are not rapist will pay for the sin of a rapist.

No law supports your madness.

Geminita1:
African men are embarrassing. While their mates are gaining grounds in science and technology, all they do is blame the govt and blame us. They never take responsibility for anything. I shudder at the thought of marrying one,bunch of sad misogynists, tueh.

Feminists, you have no need for a man. Feminists are low-key lesbians.
Just go and get yourself a perfect woman and date if men disgusts you so much.

If you see God now, you go dey run. And you're claiming perfect.

Nonsense and feminists.

May we never end up with a feminist.
I'll treat my woman right to the best of my abilities.
But may we never treat a feminist right. They deserve the worst.

simplepee:
Make sure you settle for a man who doesn't cum in 20 seconds----very important something.


Make sure you settle for a man who is not always broke-----‐It's 'importanter'.

Don't settle for a man who will calculate and drag change with you for the money he gave for pot of soup.

Don't settle for a man who will be asking for his share from the money they gifted you.

Most importantly, don't settle down with a lazy Nigerian youth or a yahoo boy.

And pleeeeaaasse make sure you settle for a MAN not a BOY...

Question is, do you deserve such a man?
Are you prepared for such a man?
Can you manage the finances of such a man?
Can you add to his wealth or just drill a hole in it?
Can you build with him?
If you can build, what skill do you have apart from sex?
Do you even have a soul to love him with?

If you do, then, you can have the guts to ask for such a perfect man. Else, make perfect the man that you'll get with your imperfect self.

Nobody holy pass.

A305:
I am concerned as well because of the future of my daughter growing up in this generation of perverted norm.

Nairamaley does his music of ignorance of societal values. Human always find a way to break societal norms and values. And exchanging such acts with taboos, then call it (civilization, Invogue or trend). I have studied human to know human are very fickle and hypocritic in nature (including myself), Now when we sometimes express these innate tendercies and desires to act bad or taboos. We are quick to attribute such behaviour(s) to one person who started a questionable trend in the society.

Don't give me that crap about social media influence and peer influence, My question is, If your daughter had good founded morals enough not to undermine her will power, will she be easily influenced?

RMD daughter and Moet Abebe recently admitted being a Marlian but would they act like how your daughter acted?

Talk to your daughter.

Will you know if they act like that?
No be Celebrity children spoil pass?
Use your sense.

kingjoe:
peer pressure is real.beating her is not the solution .rather teach her why she should not be influenced bythings easily.very soon she will enter university.not wearing pant is not the issue as many girls dont wear pants .they say it makes them uncomfortable. band wagon effect is just so terriible and just like wild fire.the marlians stuff wants to take over.its everywhere ,its so demonic,has bad meanings yet getting many fellowership daily. use this tw weeks for teaching her cause she will meet more in the future without your presence.

But first of all, she needs serious beating. Like 3 days continuous beating.
Beating is very effective.

Patrioticman007:
Lie's that Nigerians make, just to secure asylum is too childish. Imagine that a military head of state will cut off his head, if he goes back to Nigeria, even Nnamdi won't get that punishment.
One mumu said the Emir of Aba will force him, to convert to Muslim, once he steps foot on Nigeria.

One said the Sultan of sokoto, won't allow him to enjoy, his gay rights in Nigeria.
It baffles me these insidious kids sleep at night.

My brother, the lies are just too funny and ridiculous, yet these people buy them.

cococandy:
In contact with the ex who fathered her child or some other ex? What kind of things did they discuss?

Per comments on the post: So, I suppose a single mom should deny the father of her child access to the children in order for the new man to like her? Ever heard of co parenting?

If you have a child and end up not marrying the woman who bore the child , do you deserve to loose that child so that she can move on to the next man? Or is a civil arrangement where you both can have your separate relationships and still be in your child’s life not a good option.

Na una dey do una self..

So the co-parenting involves sleeping with the ex?
You well? Or you didn't read the "under my roof" part?
Or you think they were playing​ chess under his roof?

Being Born Again

The preacher: If you want to give your life to Christ, repeat this prayers after me. . .

"Lord Jesus. I repent of my sins. Come into my heart. I make you my Lord and personal saviour. Amen."

The preacher: If you just said that short prayer, you just got born again. Congratulations! Get yourself into a good bible church. . .

Cut!!!

Apologies to all my friends who believe that to be born again is to merely recite the prayers called "sinner's prayers" where you accept Christ as your personal Lord and saviour, after which you are congratulated as one who is now born again.

It is necessary we remind ourselves that the prayer is not biblical; it is not what the Bible meant when it talked about being born again.

The confession and acceptance of Christ to be our Lord and personal saviour is good, but to have said it, is not to have been born again if we are to follow the bible. Saying the prayers is just at best a step towards being born again.

Biblically, to be born again is to be BAPTIZED. Full stop!

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Happyguy201:
JUST SAY E MONEY AND REMOVE KCEE FROM THERE BECAUSE WE ALL KNOW THAT E MONEY IS THE ONE WITH THE DOUGH KCEE NO GET ANYTHING

Stop eeeet!

geraldinai:
Nairalanders, this is a long post but please read till the end.

My bf just broke up with me over what he termed incompatibility. This guy and I have been together for two years and we both loved each other. It was a long-distance relationship, he stays in Lagos while I schooled in another town in the west. I had no problem with the distance because I'm not the attention-craving type and I like my space.

He's a complete extrovert, while I'm an introvert(not to the extreme though) and this has been an issue most of the time. He complains that I'm too quiet and not on the same social level as him. I don't do social media like that while he's uploading new pictures every minute. I also didn't like the fact that he relates too well with girls; he had a lot of female friends and easily socializes with new ones. Well, I blended with that so well as I didn't see any trace of unfaithfulness in him.

Fast forward to late last year, there was a breakdown in our communication, he stopped calling and chatting as he used to, I asked him what the matter was but he said there's nothing. I was a bit scared if something went wrong with him and I asked again after some days, that was when he said he would tell me when the time comes, so I stopped asking. With all the signs he showed me, my mind was telling me he wanted a breakup but I didn't ask him further as I was preparing for my final exam and him breaking up with me that period would leave me devastated so I focused on my exam with the hope that after then, we would talk about it.

After my exam, I sent him a text apologizing and asked us to continue as we were but he didn't reply. He invited me over to his place and that was when he told me he's no longer interested in the relationship, that he has no feelings for me again. He gave one thousand and one reasons for us not to be together anymore. He said I'm less expressive, I agree with anything he says and does and that during the break in our communication, I didn't make efforts to find out why he did so and challenge him. Funnily enough, I didn't react when he told me, I just said it's all right as I envisaged it earlier. With the reasons he gave me, my heart was broken and felt there was no need to push further. He was surprised with how calm I was when he told me, personally, I don't believe in forcing someone to love me.

I moved on well but after a week when I was alone and reflecting, the feeling of guilt overwhelmed me that I probably pushed him away with my seemingly “not too caring” attitude. I see myself with him and I never thought we could separate. I showed love and care in my how way and in the best way, I know-how. I did love him wholeheartedly and he knew it but he seemed unable to cope with my private/ less emotional lifestyle.
Nairalanders, did I actually push him away?

May I?
You're an ambivert.
I can tell because I am one too.
You think highly of yourself too.
Maybe you might even suffer from the god complex(thinking your decisions and ways are better than anyone else).

You don't argue. You state facts. If they disagree, they are wrong and should go find out why. But you can't be.

Often times, you are. That's why you feel no need to curb it.

You're intelligent. Far more than the average person around you.


Now, what to do!
You go back to the guy, and apologize.
Tell him the truth.
Even if he rejects you, you need it.

You need to be rejected properly to undo your ego.
It will be devastating but it will make you doubt your excellent perception of your self importance.

The result from this is,
1. You'll try more.
2. Make more efforts in a relationship with someone you love
3. You'll understand that logic should be discarded when emotions are involved.

Note, he did nothing wrong.
You did everything wrong.

If he rejects you still, move on and take with you the lessons from your experimental interaction and don't forget to use it in your next relationship.

PS: One more thing, it felt good finding someone who hates to beg after being rejected or broken up with. But you need to try to curb it.

Fareee123:
Hi elders in the house, I'm a lady, I'm 21 years old. There's this guy I've been dating for about 3 years, we got along so fast that it feels like I've known him all my life, he's in his final year and I'm in my third year, not in the same school though.

He used to call and text often until middle last year, he stopped calling like he used to, I still do the calling, but I got tired, he wasn't reciprocating, when I complained, he said he's always busy, I feel that if he loves me like he claims, he will always check on me, whenever we're together, the vibes of the relationship is still there, but when we aren't together, he's a different person.

There was a time I broke up, I blocked him, he found a way to reach me and we ironed things out, he changed for 2 weeks before he went to his normal self. He answers to my needs guys, he has been paying my rent since my first year in school, he gives me 10k every 2 weeks, he pays for my hair when I need him to + other stuffs too.

Do you think he can change or do I just leave the relationship?? Please ignore the errors, I'm not perfect.

I understand the frustration, believe me.
The money becomes useless without the love.
I think you need to find out for yourself, what exactly is the problem.


Stop asking him what the problem is. Obviously he doesn't want to be honest with you.

You are a woman. Use your God given superpowers. I don't know why women abandon their intelligence when in love.

Note, I'm a guy and I really want you to fix it because being in this position for too long might deal with you.

The best revenge is love.
Hate gets forgotten too easily.
When she finally becomes wiser, the pain will start to appear.

Ishilove:
What are they 'probing' again bikonu?? Two adult women scratched their itch and got pregnant. End of.

They should tell who are responsible for the pregnancies and have the Catholic church squeeze them for child support

You funny oh. That's what they want to investigate naw. To find out who is responsible.

Sammy07:
How much do they pay Pls and tell me more about it

30k

roymary:
I know you are nothing but an APC Bot -Let's hope the rotten meat you grill on a regular has not ruined your discernment completely. Do you know why Lagos is overcrowded? I guess not-

Lagos is packed because people are suffering back home. They all left their various states with the hope of achieving some miracles in Lagos.

I know the agenda is to ensure the west and south become financially handicapped so the North can easily transmit power to their next generation but somehow Nigeria will overpower her oppressors.

Wicked government.

You're woke jor

kiddoiLL:
Bro, I don't want that secret dating, it's really messed up.
I really respect my guy and
I do know how it'll look if he ends up finding out himself that I've been secretly dating his sister that's why I decided I needed to tell him myself but she was scared regarding the way he'll react since we were already dating.
Bro I won't deny or pretend, this particular bro code really messed stuffs up and made me all cranky

Guy this brocode isn't bad at all.
You call him your bro, and for real, whether you like it or not, he sees you like an actual brother.
Imagine your brother sleeping with your sister.
E no just go well.

Then imagine if the relationship ends, how will your friendship look like?
It will mess up your friendship.
Is it really worth it?
Unless you're not really a friend to your friend.

LIFE AFTER CONCUPISCENCE by Anthony Okosa

May we never lose our way.
People from time to time say that maturity this, maturity that.

I don't know. But then, I still believe that the intelligence I had as a 10 year old was unchanged up till now and people still listen to me talk.

I had the pleasure of reading my autobiography I started writing when I was in secondary school. That's over 10 years ago.

I still admire the things I wrote and how I processed stuff.

Back to the matter.
There are lots of ideas I believe growing up.
These ideas still remain correct.
The truth be told, maturity is just getting used to sin.

When you get so used to SIN, you are called matured.
Because when you indeed get used to SIN, you see it as okay. You process it as normal.

It's psychologically proven.
So much so, it's one of the sins against the Holy Spirit— Presumption down to Final impenitence.

You see what I did there?
Those 6 sins are stages, not really separate sins.

1. Presumption: The first stage— The sinner presumes he's holy despite his sin. Self righteousness. He feels he's perfect. In fact, that there are sins he cannot commit and looks down at sinners. This is due to his human efforts which he thinks will win him salvation.

2. Despair: He is soon faced with temptation and falls. The sinner tries but fails to stop committing sin. So the sinner begins to give up hope of repentance.


3. Resisting the known truth:
At this stage, the sinner thinks to himself— how can a perfect man like me be a sinner? This thing is not a sin. The church just wants to cage us by telling us this thing is a sin. It can't be a sin because how a whole me will be the one committing it? Me that is perfect. Holy and righteous.
Also he may also want to go on committing it so he tells himself, maybe this sin is not even a sin

4. Envy of another's spiritual good:
A part of him knows his messing up. He begins to despise those who try to do what is right. He attacks them with words like— "see them, Na them go church pass but Na them sin pass." "See am, she wear long skirt dey form holy holy."
"This one go dey donate money every time. You sure say e dey pay so?"

5. Obstinacy in Sin: Repeating the sin again and again has become normal. You no longer see anything bad in it again.
No matter how many times you preached to, you still go and do that sin that you want to do. You don't care about hell again. After YOLO— You only live once.
"And he gave them over to their stubbornness of heart."

6. Final impenitence: Impenitence means unable to ask God for forgiveness. At the this stage, the sinner doesn't even believe he's a sinner. I mean, he's busy telling everyone that what he does is not sin. That that which he does is even a good. And he really believes that he's sin is not a sin.
And when one doesn't believe that what he does is a sin, he can never ask for forgiveness. It's not that if he asks God for forgiveness God will not forgive him but he can't even ask because he does think he is sinful.


PS: If you were to list your current sins, trust me, most of you who only be to list only about 10 to 20. But you know in your heart of hearts, that you've committed if not all the sins in the world.

But ask yourself, why don't you remember them one by one?
Why because you will only remember the sins that new to you. The ones you are used to will die in your memory.

WHAT TO DO?
Thank God you read this.
Make firm purpose of amendment.
Sorrow for your sins.
Go for confession
Make an act of contrition.
Do good to replace every wrong you have ever done.

Verifiable reference for sins against the Holy Spirit:
https://www.google.com/amp/s/aleteia.org/2018/06/04/6-sins-against-the-holy-spirit/amp/