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BadInflunece:
My mind is made up.... Can't type it all here. Byt let her go...

Don't you understand that this guy had gone Tru a lot He isn't asking for too much to be happy!!! See let me tell you the truth is yes!! The next girl he gets might be worse but he should never stop searching until he finds the lady that sees supporting her man as her LEGITIMATE RESPONSIBILITY ...GOOD GIRLS FULL NIGERIA ABEG ......make person no go due for Hypertension

Funkyswagzz:
Lol I can see uve never had such experience before

No mind am!! When bad girls show am pepper in go know...bro nothing pass peace of mind o

Funkyswagzz:
Yah it is very terrible.. is it not peace of mind we want instead of trouble. I tut my babe will change and 3yrs went bye without seeing anything significant. The kind of pain I went thru breaking up with her was terrible buh I had to do it for my own good. It's left for u bro. We meet ppl like this once in a life time and we learn from it.

I swear you be real man!!

BadInflunece:
I'm sorry for the lengthy post. But please make time to read

OK fellas, I've actually been in a state of limbo since yesterday because I broke up with my girlfriend and I still miss her terribly.

I'll just explain a few things so you guys understand my plight.

She and I have been dating for three years now. Believe me, she's a lovely and meek soul. Drop dead beautiful. But then, beauty is only for the eyes. The intrinsic attributes that make a happy happy must be present....

We started dating when I was in school. She was in level 200. Now she's in her final year and I've graduated. It's a relationship I hope to nurture into forever. Ever since I graduated, it's been hard landing a job despite making a 2.1. My only saving grace was my discipline to erect a two bedroom flat, and 2 self contain apartments. I use the proceed to keep life going while trying to grow greener pastures.

When I graduated in 2018, I was to move out of my location which was close to the school, but my girlfriend whom at the time stayed in the hostel came to you pleading she wanted to stay a while with me as the matrons sent her out of the hostel. I'm strongly against cohabiting. Told her to find a hostel space and I'll pay, she said there's none. Also told her to look for a friend to stay with, I'll foot the bills. She also couldn't find one. Couldn't throw her out, had to take her in pending when she'd get a place. It's been months and nothing. At one point, armed robbers stormed my compound and make away with my TV, laptop, and other valuable. I could only escape with my phone and hers.

While staying together, I foot the bills. I do a little forex thing too. I changed her phone even when I knew her parents had already given her money for a new one. It was birthday gift to her. I go all out for her. I promised to get her another phone this August to mark this years birthday cos she said she wanted an IPhone. She's been good to me.

But here is the problem. My girlfriend never changes a bad attitude. For three years I've been complaining. She prefers to come online and ignore my messages while doing her thing. I'm the last person she comes to. Even when she does, it difficult to keep a conversation for 10mins without bn distracted. Schools are on break, she's back home. She never texts, hardly calls. Calls when she sees my messages. Hardly keeps a convo and has made a habit of lying to her. I'm not the strict kinda guy, I allow you some latitude to live your life but I think my girlfriend has learnt to take me for granted because she knows I love her so much and wouldn't risk our relationship falling apart.

Few days ago, I came back from calabar where I had attended a job interview. I'm prepping for another in Abuja this month end. I'm completely depleted financially. I hate asking her for money. But I had to bury my ego and do so, told her my gas had finished. Babe said she doesn't have money. But I knew she had more than 20k on her. I just needed 3k. I left her. The next day I called and told her I had issues and I needed 2500 to sort it. Told her it was borrow so I'd return it. Her attitude was cold but she sent it.

I haven't used the money. I had no need for it again. But I was pained. Badly pained. I forgot to add whenever I borrow money from her, I pay double the amount. She's been giving me attitude, and now she can't support unless I'm paying back. I got fed up with the whole thing. Called her and told her I need a break. She's been callin endlessly. Had to call her, gave her all my reasons and called it quit.

She's been callin endlessly. Apologizing for lying and all. She said she'd change but I know she won't. She thinks I love her so much to let her go. She's 23 and I'm 29...

I won't cast aspersion on her by typing all her wrongs her. But truth is, I miss her badly. I gave in so much and I feel I'm getting so little. How can I be begging my partner for attention. When girls dey beg for my own. Even her friend.

But mehn, I miss her, I don't know how to start over. I don even forget how to toast babe. Should I give her another chance?

Please guys, advise me...... I need it..

PS. Don't insult her cos I know how the energy flows here. Just give your advise. I still love that babe

Bro you are a real man and I must commend you for taking care of her eve when the resources are scarce....Funny enough , we both date the same kind of girl...when my girl didn't have a phone we would talk everyday ...no day goes without her calling me...baba this girl would go as far as borrowing 500 from Airtel just to call me....I do call her too ....but when I got her a phone upon say I no get money she hardly chats me online not because she doesn't want to but just because it's either she's watching videos on FB or YouTube ... initially I was angry until when she came to see me at EBONYI state where I was serving ...and I noticed that's what she does most of the times she's online ...she hardly chats na just videos she dey watch...so at that point I didn't get angry again cos na this same baba dey call me like craze when she been no get browsing phone.....now to the second part , we attended the same university I met her when she just entered 200L I had nothing then I was dead broke and I was squatting with a friend .

This my babe would always cook food and call me to come and eat...when ever I wanted her around , she would send money to my account in advance make that guy wey I dey squat with no know say na she dey pay the bills ...like there was a day she was to come spend like 3 days with me she sent 3K in advance so we go use take care of things when she's with me till she goes back...now the day came when she was to go back to her lodge , what was remaining was #800 I gave her #500 tell am say make she hold am make I hold #300 omo she no gree collect . She said I needed the money more I said no saying she's a lady and needs it more...she said I'm broke and I need money that she'll soon go back home while I'm still here...omo naso we begin drag am until I got pissed off and she collected the money and the next thing I saw was tears on her cheeks and she hugged me and said " BABE YOU NEVER SEIZE TO SURPRISE ME "

Now I went for service with 7K and sometime been happen and I needed money badly I was a bit ashamed to ask her cos I know say she no get so instead of calling I sent her a text...after like 3mins I just summoned courage to call her when she picked the 1st thing she said was "BAE HAVE YOU GOTTEN THE ALERT?"

So far so good she's been supportive and the good thing is she appreciates the little things I do for her and she doesn't relent in doing things for me.She sees doing things for me as her LEGITIMATE RIGHT AND RESPONSIBILITY AS A GIRLFRIEND...

NOW BRO SHES 23 AND YOU'RE 29 you don't expect her to think the same way you think you will always be more matured than her....BUT THE PROBLEM HERE IS THAT NATURALLY YOUR GIRL SEEMS TO BE SELF CENTERED AND STINGY....bro you have been doing your part as a man in the relationship and you are not asking for too much for her to just be supportive!!! BRO MY ADVICE TO YOU IS TO LEAVE HER AND FORGE AHEAD!!! YES ITS PAINFUL COS LEAVING A SAFE SPOT YOU'VE BEEN USED TO FOR 3YRS bro I have a friend that dated a girl for 8Yrs this guy was suffering in the relationship for good 8yrs he was footing the bills and this his girl will never give him money until he's gonna pay back she doesn't see him if he wouldn't pay transport this same guy don pay this girl school fees like 2 times when we dey School....but if things hard for the guy the babe go dey para for am dey talk say na him be man say make in look for way fix him self ....until the guy couldn't take it anymore.

The girl had even broken up with him on 3 occasions Asin the girl was taking his meek nature for granted until he had had enough and a time came they had a little misunderstanding and she did her normal stuff by breaking up with him and my guy said that's it and he's not going back ...my guy got another girl and withing 4 months proposed to the girl now they are married ...I swear that's the best Payback ever!!!

Bro this your girl can't even help you at the time of NEED Guy RUN!!!!!!! BEFORE YOU MAKE THE GREATEST MISTAKE OF YOUR LIFE BY MARRYING HER!!! THIS TYPE OF GIRL WOULD BE WORKING AND BE KEEPING HER MONEY AND WOULD WARRANT YOU TO OAY HER SHOP BILLS MORE LIKE YOUR MONEY IS YOU PEOPLE'S MONEY AND ITS YOUR RIGHT TO TAKE CARE OF HER COS ITS YOUR RESPONSIBILITY AND HER OWN MONEY IS TOTALLY FOR HER!!! NIGGER WITH TIME YOIR PAIN WOULD GO AWAY!!! TRUST ME I'VE BEEN IN YOUR SHOES AND I'M ENJOYING MY BABE COS SHE BE JOY GIVER

BRO ABEG I GO LIKE MAKE WE TALO FOR PHONE

kroger:
Hey bro long time, I have been super duper busy lately.. I got your quote and decided to respond. Hope i never miss much..

It's actually an old post you commented on which I've read jawe....I just say make I hala u

kroger:
Hey bro that was my quote a while back.. I work very closely with Indians and I have learnt so much from them. Honesty, information, learning/education and unity within themselves. All these are Alien to the black race. It is very hard to beat unity that is why they have taken over the IT sector in america. On the other hand we Nigerians are something else.. Nobody is willing to show you the way cos they want you to suffer and be beneath them.

The way they take the america thing so serious sometimes I ask myself, no be the same America all of us dey, america no pass like this na. Helping your fellow Nigerian is a problem, show them the small way you took is a problem.. it's so sad how we Nigerians treat each other in America.

I once talked about training people on my field to copy how the Indians operate they labeled me a liar, that the money I claim to be making is false. I kukuma keep quiet to allow them keep hustling day and night while I follow my Indians make 6 figures with ease.

My boss has spoken....make nobody challenge my boss ooo if not I go arrange THUNDER from Oshogbo make in corner am o

Danielhouston:
I’ve not met them since I moved here but they know I’m in Germany. The wife could not get pregnant and even up till now, she’s in her 50s and she’s still barren. She left my uncle and ran to the UK. I heard she’s a pastor now. I just wonder what her life is like right now and if the people around her, know all the things she has done.

My uncle wanted to see me when I visited Nigeria but I refused. He tried to add me on Facebook and I did not accept his request. He remarried and he’s miserable in Nigeria. I don’t know about the house girl. I just hope anywhere she is, that she is happy now and she at least got a chance to enjoy life. She was so young at that time.

One thing I realized is that life takes care of people, whether they like it or not. No matter how much you maltreat someone or try to destroy them, you cannot stop their light from shining. One day you will lose that power and what will be, will be. When success comes, it will find you anywhere you are and nobody can stop it.

I swear you just keep making sense every now and then!!! E good as you no see the Wicked man! Just imagine that your uncle's wife being a pastor...na only God go help her members...see Daniel that's why I don't really give a daaam about any pastor or any person wey carry church for head!!! I look mainly at Personality and Character....I have 2 friends who smoke weed like mad!!! But these guys can never sleep when I am in need!!! Why my so called church couldn't help me with Accommodation during my 200L so many years back in school ...even after the numerous offerings I was paying ....Life has a way of Putting people in their place ....it's cool as you didn't see that uncle of yours...last last na to Ask you for money and constant billing.....I wish you would some day see the man and his wicked wife and look staright and deep into their Guilty filled Conscience of a soul and watch them bow in shame and struggle to smile as if they did the best for you way back then( Spits!!!)

Samtium:
Please can anyone recommend a good IT institute here in Lagos I can learn web development/design.
Please it’s very urgent
Thanks

Check STUTERN or Univelcity I'm currently undergoing a course at STUTERN

Danielhouston:
I’ve told you guys how I was bullied and beaten, even by my parents. Now I have come to realize that a lot of the things they did to me, was a result of the trauma they had to lived with and never got fixed. It has also helped me to forgive them and a lot of other people.

I visited a Nigerian friend one day and he was cooking beans. When I got in and smelled the beans, I panicked. I got instant anxiety, which he noticed but I covered it up. I realized that I still had pain inside me that beans triggers. I have not eaten beans in over 15 years and I’ll never eat it again in my life. Here’s why.....

When I lived with my uncle and his wife in Nigeria, they maltreated me so much. Beans was the only thing I ate for months. His wife would go to the market and buy other foods but buy buckets of beans just for me and the house girl. The beans was cooked with only salt and palm oil. We didn’t even have to ask what we were going to eat. We already knew it was either beans or we starve.

There was a Ghanaian woman selling food on our street and we became friends. I’d help her wash her pots and plates and she gave me food in return. That was my only chance of tasting rice or anything else. Sometimes I’d hide some rice in nylon for the house girl to eat. My uncle’s wife noticed that we were not eating the beans and she reported to my uncle. He beat us like thieves.

I ate beans, morning, afternoon and night for months until I left that house. It made me hate beans and any time I smell beans, I remember the pain I went through and I panic. Imagine how someone’s wicked act has left me traumatized for years and even up till now, I am still dealing with it.

Thank God for your life...Baba God don change your story jawe!!! How about that your uncle and his wife Have you had the chance to meet them again after you have settled in Germany How was the look on their face How did they react Please I would like to know Cos I've always heard the greatest revenge in life is SUCCEES ....PLEASE IM DYING TO KNOW

Also what about the house girl??

sharpwriter:
You see, nairaland may be a place of where some are crazy, idiotic and foolish dumb-heads, but really, it is a place of comedy. People get words of laughter wey go dey make you love this forum.

Intellects are also here

This thread is really funny.

I swear!!! I laugh tire today

Joshmodest:
Any body watching this big brother Cameroon needs evaluation ...Nigerian own weh we dey vex put no worse reach this one ....only God know wetin dem go put inside pesin microwave ,weh dem borrow !
Make them kuku dey buy food outside , instead of them to blow pesin house weh dem borrow . ....after all the food weh I see them dey chop yesterday no different from palliative ?!
Dwarf brother Cameroon !

Hahahaahaa laf won kill me oooo ...you say na Palliative!!!

tolani91:
Life is different here. I hardly have time to come to nairaland as before

Yes oo naso the hustle be jawe...I'm happy for you baba...omo please if you get any good info to help pple like me who are sincere to make it easier to relocate to Europe please do endeavor to drop it here...I'm currently undergoing a training in software engineering sha

oluwamile:
.another waste of govt resources all because of politics
In as much I used to be a lover of obaseki,his recent antics and fights are really showing the kind of person he is
Imagine refusing to inaugurate 14members of the house of assembly since June last year and u expect things to be well with u?

How do you pple think self So if you're in Obaseki's shoes , you'll inaugurate people who you know wants to remove you

omoluabiguy:
Lol... no be so. Life has been busy and as traffic no Dey for the post, no ginger to follow up, but I’ll be back.

Abeg do we dey wait ooo

tensazangetsu20:
Almost done with Front end. My goal na full stack sha. I wan wrap up the project I dey and my own personal website and one other website idea I get before I start learning back end stuff.

E make sense ooo ...I just started out...done HTML , CSS about to go into JavaScript

Etinosa1234:
be like the guy Dom forget him story

In suppose dey busy...you know say this world to pay bills person suppose hustle ooo

tensazangetsu20:
Omho I still dey learn o. Started in February and have been doing it 10 hours a day since. Na the only thing wey dey my head now

Which Stack you dey learn?

khia:
Crazy boy. Your own people insult Nigeria/NIGERIANS more than I ever have/could. Of course if you attack my people expect retaliation, that's the law of nature.

Calm down .... life's too short for all these back and forth

omoluabiguy:
After over 22 hours long flight of relief and knowing I’m going back home, we finally touched down MMIA at Ikeja. The landing, gallops, impatience, people and so many unexplainable occurrences quickly tapped me to the reality of being back to Nigeria.
Wow! Not much had changed as I looked around the atmosphere.
The walkway to baggage claims, escalator not working and few things I wouldn’t mention here to save the little dignity left in my home country. Immigration officers at the port of entry still wants me to roger, but I was too tired to even relate with anyone. I moved!!

Finally came outside the airport to look for my people. I quickly bought an MTN line and recharge card, slot it into my phone and called my people to let them know I’m outside. They were at the airport car park so they came to get me... Again, We moved!
After few months in Nigeria with no progress on sight, bunch of job applications actually exposed me to the reality that I would need to get a certificate of service (NYSC) and with no time to waste, I got myself together, braced up and went to Abuja to register for NYSC!
After all process, I left back for Lagos to wait for my posting and to cut the long story short, I got posted to somewhere in the north central. It came off as unbelievable, confusing, stressing, unimaginable, but guess the worst part? It’s reality!!! I’m going for NYSC in a state in the north central. I’m not even going to do what others were doing to get posted to their state of choice because I don’t have any extra resources to play with at that point in time. I’m going to NYSC for real!

I was almost setting into depression, but I dusted off the feelings and look forward to the NYSC adventure! Off to camp.... It’s a journey to a whole new adventure. Whatever happened in the camp, stays at the camp! I initially thought it would be fun, but guess what? Your guess is as good as mine. The most horrible and longest 3 weeks of my life. I somehow, miraculously survived it and to make the matter worst, I got posted to a rural town in the middle of no where. A new reality has dawned on me.
How did I get here? Why the hell did I come back to Nigeria? What was I thinking?
On the other side, I was encouraging myself and going with the adventure, no doubt I met some great friends and really cool people during service. The universe compensated me with a very good “winks” as well. Remember, whatever happened in NYSC, stays at NYSC. Okay I felt better and settled.... I became so calm and started revisiting my coding skills fresh off college, I took advantage of the isolation in the small town to horn my programming skills.
The end of NYSC became the beginning of a new reality of hell..... would I survive this one? Meeehhn Nigeria is bleeped, but still we move!
Completed my NYSC after a year in the middle of no where and made it back to Lagos.
Fresh off NYSC and new to the over saturated, clustered job market.... Its deeper than a market! It’s a different world, it’s the average Nigerian graduates reality!
At this point, It was no longer getting funny.......

I still dey wait oooo.... update!! Update!!

tensazangetsu20:
I wish this could get to FrontPage.

Good morning...I've noticed you're always particular about tech and you clamour for it a while lot...that's cool! I'm on a 4 months course at STUTERN training to be a Full stack Software Engineer... And I have this burning desire to also mentor and assist youths around me of which I am doing currently even while still studying the course ...one thing I know is that I would have achieved my aim of being a Software Engineer in 2017 if I had a mentor.... Currently I get discouraged cos of light issues data issues and finance ...omo but I still dey forget ahead meeen cos IT go change my life .... Abeg I hope you don mind if you mentor me

deepwater:
NairaBET

Yeah I Googled it...so if I may ask what do you think Akin ALABI succeed and Seun couldn't ?

deepwater:
Lol

Are you guys still under lockdown in Nigeria


"I will never believe that there is a god/God called Mr. Allah and Mr. Muhammad is His Prophet, because I commented on a thread about kano state and Salah break.

Just read this thread and explain why I have to swear to comment -
https://www.nairaland.com/6007995/kano-suspends-eid-el-kabir-festivities-over

Seun, you lost the opportunity you had.

Nairaland was supposed to be the best online export from AFRICA.

Today it is a terrorist site promoting Jihad!

As way back 2006, akinalabi was a member of this forum!!!! You were the owner

Akin went on to do his thing and accepted people regardless of their belief system. Today you know where he is, you are still here giving Al-Q-ae-da moral support

Please who's AKINLABI?

tolani91:
Today makes it exactly 1 year I left Nigeria. To mark this little anniversary, I decided to share how it happened for me on the forum that made it happen. I am not a good writer. Pardon me if the sequence of events in my story appear scrambled.

About 3 years ago, after graduating from Poly Ibadan with my OND, I searched for work everywhere. All the pay in Ibadan were under N20k. I decided, instead of taking a job for N20k, I should pursue my passion which is cars. I became an agent selling cars. I would visit car stands. Take pics, share on whatsapp, social media and all. I was able to get by with few sales every month. I would also look for cheap cars on Nairaland and help the seller get a buyer within Lagos/Ibadan/Ogun states.

In 2017, people started asking me if they can import their own cars directly. I would help them search on mobile.de and autoscoute24.de for cars. To cut the long story short, I assisted to import 4 cars before the end of 2017. 3 of the cars were from a particular car dealership in Genoa, Italy. In January 2018, anther buyer needed a car. We did our search and found a car from this dealership. Since I already saved some money as commission from the cars I have sold, both imported and locally, I decided to try my luck with the dealership. I requested that they allow me come check the car in person. And, they sent me an invitation without hesitation. I did the Visa and all. Then I traveled to Italy February 7th 2018.

While in Italy, I talked to the MD of the dealership. I told him to look at the few sales I have brought him. I told him I can do more if I am employed as his sales agent. He said sales men in his dealership are commission based. I said I can accept the commission based job because I have a lot of connects in Nigeria. After a second discussion with him, he offered me the job. The job had monthly and quarterly sales targets. No salary. Only commission. The good thing was that there was no resumption or closing time. No fixed working hours. Just meet your target. This will enable me take up other fixed paying jobs in Italy while I sell cars on the side.

After all was concluded, and I received my appointment contract, I returned to Nigeria. I reapplied for a working Visa this time around. My previous visa was a visit visa. I would have been able to apply and do the change in Italy but the process would have taken a longer time. The best option was for me to return to Nigeria and reapply. My Visa was granted. And on the 20th of March 2018, I left Nigeria to resume my job.

It has been great since I got here. Absolutely great. I traveled without using agents or anything. Only trying my luck in requesting for what I wanted. If you are looking for a way out of Nigeria, this could be your best route. This can work with any dealership in Europe and in any European country.

As you celebrate with me today, I wish you success in your endeavours. If you have questions you can drop your number for whatsapp.

Bro what's good I hope you're staying safe??

Swissheart:
My question is how come you were 27years on 04th July and you are 29years today? How are you growing?

Laf won kill me!!!! U funny die!!

Goldenrod1:
Na only 3 of them remain for this country


Hold her firm

Laf won kill me oo

Goldenrod1:
Na only 3 of them remain for this country


Hold her firm

Hahahahahahah Laf don kill me for here

Slawormir:
Damnnnnn niggarrr
Too bad
May his soul rest in peace

Remember this guy that year trying to be 2face
ray power/Ait, Kenny and dayo d1 package this guy reach
Still he nor fit be like tuface...

He try copy tuface voice even future tuface for one of he song title " hold on"
Still no level...low budget asss Moda fuckkking noisy tuface...na so he career take die

Why hating on this dude He did nothing to you!!! Baba let's support who ever won see road cos this 9ja no easy!!! One love!

Beverlyjean:
Good day nairalanders , am new on this forum and I actually registered here so that I can get a credible and mature solution to my lingering emotional and relationship problem.

It goes like this; I have a bf that I have been dating for a year now and he is a very wonderful Person, he is my first love and I really love him so much because he gives me a different kind of feeling that I have never felt before , but my dilemma is that I met another guy a month after I accepted to date my bf , we were normal friends for the first one month though I never told him I had a bf until he surprisingly made his intentions known to me . This other guy has been an angel in my life and we started hanging out frequently due to my bf not being around because he traveled out of the country , this other guy has been the most loving and caring guy that I have ever met, he is always there for me and showers me with so much care love and time . He then introduced me to my introduced me to his family ( his mum and dad inclusive) and they loved me at an instant and started welcoming me and calling me their daughter . Now this other guy is 30 while I turned 21 in December and my guy is 23 . This other guy has a great job and ready to settle but his not rushing me saying that he will wait till I am ready . The problem is that I don't have the type of love he wants me to have for him , the thing is that I love my bf so much and I am not ready to let him go . My bf missed my graduation , my birthday and Val's because he had some pressing issues though he sent me my gifts through mail but the other guy was there for me , came for my grad at gwagwalada, took me to a lovely restaurant on my bday and surprised me with a lovely gift and also spent time with me on Val's day and it was so lovely. My bf is around but I see him only 3 times a month and I don't complain but this other guy sees me like 4 times a week .

I have been in a romantic relationship with the new guy although we have done something's apart from direct sex because I am a virgin . This other guy has sacrificed a lot for me but I wanna let him go because he really want me to leave my bf and stay permanently with him , but I love my bf so much and my feeling for him is not strong . He said the reason why I don't love him is because my heart is somewhere else and the moment I leave my bf , I will start loving him as long as I concentrate solely with him.

He also said that even if I leave him and my bf should later find out what I did with him , that my bf will dump me , if not now but later and I will loose the opportunity of everlasting happiness with him ( the other guy)

I care a lot about the other guy and I have feelings for him but I love my bf a lot , even though he loves me more that my bf does.

The other guy also said my bf is still young and might disappoint me in the future . I believe my bf will not because I can guarantee that he is not cheating on me and will not .

The following are the questions that keep on giving me sleepless nights :

1. Will my bf dump me if he eventually finds out bout what I did with the other guy.
2 . Will my bf or me fall out of love as we grow due to the age
3. Am I sure that he is not cheating on me or later leave me for someone else
4. Should I loose my virginity to him to prove my love
5. Will I find another lovin guy like the other guy later in life if my guy leaves me
6 . Will I leave to regret leaving the other guy
7 . Should I follow my heart or head because my heart says my bf but my head says the other guy
8. Will I fall inlove with the other guy if I stop seeing my bf?

Please help me with very mature answers because this will play a vital role in my life in the future .

Ladies that have experienced this come forth and guys that understand the way guys reason should help out pleaseeeee , because am still a novice when it comes to relationship issues. Thank you

My sister how this matter take end You later went back to your boyfriend??

khiaa:
I'm not making excuses that's why I said Nigerians need to do better and clean up your own shithole and stop spreading your shithole behavior to other countries. All of those 419 scams, prostitution, illegal marriages, identify theft, love scams, and drugs sales need to stop or at least leave it in Nigeria.

I guess all these things you mentioned are all over the world .not just in Nigeria dear

khiaa:
You cant judge a nation of people by a tv show, that's foolish. Do you judge the whites by the same show, I very much doubt that you do? Am I to judge all Nigerians like the idiots I see on Nollywood movies?

You even watch Nollywood Movies Daaaaaaaam!!

khiaa:
Please follow me, I except your challenge. You will see who will come to regrets. You better ask somebody.
By the way, the shame and sin is not on the one being sold but the one doing the selling. You reap what you sow, that's why Africa is in the shape it's in. Also, your life doesn't matter to Africans, not even your fellow Nigerians. Ponder that.

As much as there are lots of truths hidden in your written words...we should be unting and not Being against each other...we all have the same roots ...the only difference is that we opened our eyes in 2 different continent

khiaa:
How did you come to the conclusion that they are lazy blacks, you can't compare them with lazy Nigerians?

Hmm seems you like Nigerians