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Well then....

Ehya. Fight to marry him, fight to keep him. Bp things

datascience:
Oga, I did my MSc abroad and the invite is OSS PhD. Don't tell me I can't read my email. I am sorry, I see no reason to send you a confidential mail.

And No, they are not done with the interview because I was specifically told to come to the PTDF towers

Why so aggressive? Weren't you the one who originally asked the question if the interview was from PTDF?

kaydeefilms:
Nairalanders I need help, my brother in-law is getting married and I was levied to pay a certain amount as support for his wedding because he had spent most of his funds for planning and the bride’s family had various outrageous demands he had to meet. The issues is I have several commitments like, I have my parents and siblings to take care of, coupled with the fact that my son will be starting school this month (which I postponed because of low funds) and my wife just graduated from the university(yet to go on NYSC and has no job, I foot all the bills in the house and all her expenses) I am about to tell my in-laws that I don’t have the said amount to give (I was levied #40,000) I want to give them (#10,000). And this will further inconvenience myself and my small nuclear family. What should I do? I need your advices

Tell your wife to talk to her brother

So, what should be first?

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I agree, rush and marry the wrong man so that you'll be able to emotionally scar your children's with all the fighting you and your husband will be doing.
All this rush rush is why we have so many broken homes nowadays.

Wilson125:
bro her tuition fee isn’t the problem now, i mean i can stop that even now.. but losing a friendship like this is the problem

The fact that you're more than ready to end a 3 years relationship says a lot about you.
Why did you even agree to date her? After 4 years you obviously don't love her.

If you really want to help her, instead of paying for her tuition get her a job. At least you'll stop spending money.

oluwaishow:
I swear to God

They can only wail. The internet forgets too easily. They'll wail for 2 weeks and forget all about it.
The nack cannot be unacked

All the best to you

Some people don't value something until it's in the hands of another

Money2000:
What do you mean? Have you ladies forgotten that a woman has more social responsibility to be faithful than a man.

Funny

ImaIma1:
She forgave him many times but he cannot forgive her once. Ok

Na so life be oo.

My problem is not even the apologizing part....my problem is what stops this situation (or even worse) from repeating itself? And if he's vexing because of ordinary friend said you insulted him what will na happen if his mom says you slapped her
I don't even know what to say cause if you apologize it might keep on repeating itself and getting worse cause his friend will know that your husband will always believe him over you.
I don't like chucking mouth inside family matters cause they are so delicate. This isn't just about you and him, it's also about your kids who didn't ask to be born.
I feel for you.
Anyhow sha, plan for the worse. Hope you get work sha. If your family members are reasonable you can ask for advice from them. Especially your dad, they know how to advice in situations like this best.

aanuoluwami14:
The case is vice versa, some men too are interested in money too with some ladies. Both guts should should use their senses.

Lol, there'll always be humans that are looking for people to take advantage of irrespective of gender.

tunize:
i didn't see any...!!
i don't really understand nairaland much.
how are you today?
can we chat up on whatapp.

Check your Email. I replied you there.

tunize:
okay.
i jst sent you a mail i dont know if it went tru

I've replied

If money is all you have to offer when looking for a wife, You'll end up with a gold digger who will suck you dry and move on to the next available option when the cash is gone.

tunize:
Amen oooh lovelybug.......can i send u a private msg cos ur gist is full of wisdom.

Sure

tunize:
speaking in general or personal experience?

General

tunize:
hmmm really is there?

From what I've seen, there is.

tunize:
hmmm u sound " sorry to use this term" sensible and mature.... be like nor be our planent u come from.

Ah! Iss Nigeria they born me oo
All these stuff depends on environment and the mentality you were raised with.
Like I said there's something wrong with the mentality we have in this country.
You'll find people accepting the illogical as the norms.
May God help us sha.

tunize:
yes but it depends on the instance.....

Yea I get. There's always an exception to every rule.

tunize:
Yes the moment ppl start realising it that some persons are jst part of a process in our life like u talk am"not all relationsip lead to marriage"

Exact. It'll be painful to part in the short run especially when some sacrifices have been made but in the long run it pays both of you better.

tunize:
yeah u're absolutely right " but the question is how many ladies do stand to be corrected in our present world of feminism jst some few.

Yea that's true.
Most people don't like to be corrected. They'd rather take offence.
But believe me there are some ladies that will listen and change.

tunize:
well, not all guys.kind of tru ( but is not good to reject a gift, but some gift are somehow worth rejecting at the long run). ppl differ we nor need judge.

Yea I get but some guys eh! The effrontery they use to ask for favours is just not worth it. It's not good to reject a gift if it's from someone you're familiar with and trust but if it's all these fuckboys eh, it's better to reject and save yourself the stress or accept what you can easily return.
Some people don't believe in helping out people without nothing in return( this applies to both genders)
Also for OP's case the girl's problem is greed. She's a greedy person who isn't contented with what they have.
What OP should have called her to her errors. I'm not saying he should date her oo.
She's probably lost his interest but he could have advised her like a bro that what she did isn't good and if she continues like this she'll loose her respect in the eyes of men.
Most of these girls eh,they get these mentality from their friends and mother's. And Unfortunately it has become the societal norms. It's up to people to start correction it if not the future is doomed.
Anyways I'll always say if a stranger(guy) who is interested in you offers to give you something with strings attached and you're 100% sure you can't give the person what they want abeg kindly reject ooo least we here stories that touch.
Also, men are their own problems .
You don't want to train a girl in school but you keep toasting students who's parents aren't even buoyant to supply all their needs. Be ready to turn to a second parent.
To all the guys that are paying their gf's school fees. May god reward you sha.
Keep in mind not all relationships should lead to marriage for yourself, the girls and your unborn children's sake.

Daeylar:

This is a smack down

You're right. Can they give love, respect, fidelity and companionship, no, A good number of these guys, the only thing they can give is money and yet they are reluctant to give even that. Crying and whining all over the place.

Most men eh there's no love in their system.
I don't blame them sha. The system is dysfunctional.
What's supposed to be a relationship of love in Nigeria is more like a transaction.
For the dating stage it's more like the guy gives the girl money so he expects sex in return. Even the marriages sef it's more or less the same. All transactions.
A lot of people don't even marry for love.
Just the available person when they are ready to settle down.
Some men don't even care to raise their kids. It's the wife's job to them.
That's why 90% of the time you see sweet mother, my mummy my love, you suffered for us and all that. How many times do people appreciate their dad's? Most guys don't even have relationships with their kids.

tunize:
So u mustbfu*k any girl wen u carry out on date?

Lol, that's the mentality of some men.
Once they've spent some money on you sex must take place.
That's why I'll always appreciate the advice my mum gave me.
She said, never accept gifts from a man who isn't your husband else be ready to return it when he asks for the unthinkable.
That's why I advice for first dates biko pay for your food.
So that one son of Jezebel wee not be telling you nonsense to your face.
And if you can't pay biko sidown for your house and hussle for yourself cause at the end of the day your money is your money and his money is his money.
Don't let any human being deceive you. There's nothing like our money, just money the partner is willing to share.

Jagaban880:
abeg help mi ans dis

if a girl de close her eyes during sex ...wetin e mean

is she feeling pain or pleasure ...

wich of de above pls?

It means she doesn't want to see your face
On a more serious note it could mean she wants to focus on the activity that's going on.
Or you're not the person she was hoping to do it with but she's managing your face

I was going to say date an independent lady but I realised most independent ladies realised they don't need men, except for love, companionship and a faithful relationship,which most of you guys don't even know how to give so OYO. Look for the least expensive one and marry.
By the way, showering money is not love.
Love is unconditional and has no limitations.
I'm also aware that some of the black hearted men and women were once good people but turned this way cause they were unfortunate to love the wrong person.
May God heal you.
Peace?