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Hmm. Try to open up to him on how you feel about it. And also ask him who you are to him.

Chubhie:
Her mother wanted to beat/flog her and she asked her to try it and she calls 911. The mum became weak at how she suddenly lost power and control.

She remembered the power she used to wield over her daughter in Africa with nostalgia.

For me I think the problem with most nigerian children-parent relationships is that most of the time the children are beaten into submission I.e they do not respect their parents because their parents do not give them any reason too. You do not have to beat a child before he does as you say.

makinde851:
[Do I regret it? Of course I do! More than anything in the world.

As the other person answered, US could be a heaven and could be a hell, depending on how lucky you are!

For me, I came to US back in 2006, I was filled with dreams like Sofjan which for the most part were fine, until I woke up on the most terrible nightmare a person can dream of!

I came as a software engineer in Microsoft. Was a completely law abiding citizen who didn’t do anything wrong at all not even a parking ticket, got married to someone from my home country (Egypt) and brought her with me to US in 2009

Spent a couple of years with her until I got my green card in 2011, my financial life started to go down the drain because she was spending much more than I was making, started to stack dept and moving between jobs, until in January 22 2012, I was coming home back after a fight that she wanted to start and I just left because I didn’t want to fight and I came back, found police waiting for me, got arrested, thrown in jail, found that I am charged with trying to kill her, trying to kill my son, using weapons on them and torturing her for 3 years!

I later received a bail of $250K (which usually us placed only on murder suspects in WA, but I was one of the few lucky ones to receive it on a misdemeanor case) and was released a week later when my friends collected the bail from each others (and they were all common friends between me and my ex-wife who would have never paid a single dime if any of her accusations sound true)

Someone may say “but there were evidence for that, right?” ZIP! Not a single evidence! Even police reports stated clearly there was no sign of anything from her claims, but welcome to US and welcome to WA state!

Later on, I went out to find that she cleared my bank account, took over my apartment (which I bought prior to our marriage), took my car, and I became homeless and jobless, just like that! And on the top of that, I was not allowed to go within 1 mile of my son and they enforced that by adding a GPS device on my ankle that required me to stay at a certain address for at least half of each day!

I spent a couple of months in this mess, prosecutors tried to offer me a deal that I just say I am guilty and I will receive no jail time and nothing except maybe some classes and I kept refusing because I did nothing at all and they kept offering more stuff because they didn’t have a case! I had more than 70 witness on my side, I had actual PHYSICAL EVIDENCE that proves her lies and none of that mattered! Until one day, I receive a call from my sister in law that my ex was in accident and she needed my help and as an idiot, I called and texted her multiple times and I became in violation of the “no contact order” and next day, I went to the police station, gave myself up, thought that I was in that “dreamy” country Sofjan was talking about were the only thing mattered is justice and guess what? I was charged with like 30 different charges with the ability of adding 100 more and the probability of receiving a jail sentence of about 130 years! Yup, you heard it right, 130 years for making phone calls and texts to make sure my ex-wife and son were alright!

I then spent 9 months in jail, during that time, I was not allowed to see my son although the court gave me that right, so I filled a case with the court, the court notified me to send the case documents to my ex directly because I was PRO SE (means I was working on my case myself without a lawyer) and they even gave me a forwarding address to send the docs to.

So I followed the court orders to the letter, forwarded a copy from the case docs to that address from the jail system, and guess what? I Was charged AGAIN for violation of no contact order on a felony basis this time which could send me to jail for 10 years (2 cases and each one carry 5 years max), my new lawyer was pulling her hair off because according to the law, what I did was not a violation by any mean, everyone in the court room, including the judge herself, was saying “where is the violation?” and there was nothing!

A couple of weeks later, the senior prosecutor came back from him vacation, went to my lawyer and basically told her “we had no case, but we can’t release him otherwise he will sue us, so I have an offer for you. He needs to let go of his green card and leave the country and I will drop all charges”! Just complete and basic blackmail! I did that, and just after I left the country, they filed 4 violations for violating my release conditions and leaving the country without permissions and filed 4 warrants for my arrest!

Does it end there? Of course not! My ex-wife died in a terrible accident in 2015 (call it Karma) and I found that she was married to someone who she was in relationship with since 5th of January of 2012 (yes, before sending me to jail which all clicked of why she did that) and I just sent him a single message on facebook that maybe it’s better to send my son to me now his mother is dead and he is not his biological father, and guess what? I was charged with a felony of “cyber stalking” !!

So now not only I can’t come back to US, but my entire life outside US is bleeped because there are so many jobs and countries I cant go to because technically, I have warrants and ongoing cases against me in US, and I can’t even come back to US to fight these charges because they won’t give me the visa to do that!

This is USA, the land of justice and dreams . I agreee with you I got this from Quora quote author=lastmessenger post=68341999]The united state has a way of making women forget where they are coming from. I'm not in any way condoning killing buy at the same time it is hard to just stay and watch your hard earned wealth taking away from you because of a biased legal system designed to favour women.
Any sensible man should forget about bringing a woman over to the united states as the uncertainties are much. A lot can go wrong especially if the woman is the selfish type. Some of them are so promiscuous neglecting the man that brought them to US. Imagine your wife jumping from one club to another,calling police to come arrest you just because of a simple argument.
The worst you can do to man is to take away his pride and expect him not to take action. This is the root cause of the killing. In every situation a man wants to be in control of his family and be in charge and be accorded his place.
For me it is not advisable to marry a woman with the hope of bringing her over cos in tbe long run you will be in a very delicate situation.

If what you say is true then wow! Am speachless

zicoisaac:
I was once in his shoes. I cried on my wedding day because I remembered what we both went through especially the obstacles I overcame during our courtship. she came from a Muslim home while I came from a Christian home. It's pastor's son getting married to Alhaja's daughter. To God alone be the glory at the end.

Wow! True love is beautiful.
It must have been hard.

As for the person who gave her 5k I won't say anything because the person might not be the owner of the money. Now all those governors that know how to give bb naija people millions and land where were they when this woman returned the money?

It may be that the man didn't immediately die when he was hit with the stone because I don't think that someone can die from one stone hit. If he was given proper medical attention he might have still been alive . Also if the doctor was sure that he was dead he wouldn't have suggested that the man be put outside in an airy place. It may be that he was only unconscious but died from lack of proper medical care

They might not even be Nigerians. When arrested some Africans from really bad countries claim to me Nigerians when they are not.

reminiscing:
I am very sorry.you made me remember something that happened some years back.Accept my apologies,i am truly sorry

Apology accepted

fucktoto:
all my brothers in islam, don't you think muric is overreacting?

it's just a video for allah's sake; they never mentioned islam or any other religion.


my conclusion: it is not HARAM!

muslim brothers' opinions needed (Christians please stay away) :

Oyarimo

blackpanda

shamecurls

okoroawusa

vedaxcool/vexdacool

saarkki

caseless

LZAA

abuforallah1

isaabubakar

asalamyalekum, brothers.

I honestly don't have a problem with the song and the video I even have them on my phone.
But remember people are different
There are a lot of over sensitive people in the world.
What I may find offensive others may not.

Nelsizzy:
Why are Muslims so touchy? Did the video not show a pastor touching a female member breast or churches building schools and charging high fees? Why has CAN not come out to criticize the video or claim the video is against the Christian faith? How many circulars has MURIC as a group released to criticize the killings in it territory by Muslim terrorist? You even went as far as claiming that the media hides Christian terrorist just to prove a point that does not exist. The earlier you guys realize the world does not revolve around Muslims the better. Imagine threatening a musician for performing art. We have lost it, all because of hate.

First of all I never said I was in support of murric is I did kindly point it out if not then your first statement is void.
Secondly whether you like it or not the media really does not publicize the actions of Christian terrorist not all of them but the most popular ones don't anyway.

I never said the world revolves around all Muslims did I?
Stop trying to look intelligent when your not
I was correcting someone who made a false statement about all the Muslims in the world as if she had ever met them.
And also I don't recall threatening anybody because of the video. Muric does not speak for all Muslims he speaks for only himself and the few who agree with him remember he is just a man and not all Muslim agree with him.
Have a good day!

reminiscing:
Madam get out of my space.Do you think I am some person with a low self esteem that come online to lie about what doesn't exist.you are a bloody fool.i was born and brought up in the west and I have met and mingled with Muslims.The Yoruba Muslims are nice and they practice real Islam but the Hausa Muslims still call them infidels.The house Muslims are in great number they dominate over the Yoruba Muslims and they are violent.
And damn you,i have lost someone to their violence .Don't even let me curse you from afar because it will find you!!!!Bloody cheap attention seeker

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Its really funny how I never insulted you once but it didn't take anything for you to start insulting me! Ha!
It really says a lot about your character.
This may be a faceless forum but remember God sees all especially what's in your heart

reminiscing:
Lovely bug,please stay out of this.I have got pesticides for bugs

I asked you a simple question which was explain to me why you think Muslims are brainwashed fanatics and what you saw and you couldn't give a single answer! Rather you resolved to calling me a bug!

Your a liar!

You claimed that Muslims are brainwashed but you don't even have anything to say! I thought your case was just a case of the average misinformed Nigerian but I can see that your just one of the people that hate people of other religion and will do anything to make them look bad even lie!

Smh

LZAA:
My bad
Alex bissonette was having mental issues and is still on anti psychotic meds
This is very different from isis or bh and other world terrorists who believe they are doing God's will

Don't all terrorist have mental problems?

I don't think anyone in their right minds will wake up one day and decide to kill people especially in the name of God.

SomehowBROWN:
My dear the media doesn't keep anything down! News is news, I have watched people straight out of mosque they moved to killing, I have witnessed first hand the fanatics Islam can breed, there r terrorist across all religions n tribes but when a ratio is 80:20 which poses a bigger threat? I'm tired of Muslims trying to control everything, I have good Muslim friends no doubt but u guys, ur sheikhs and scholars have hearts of black and pure evil, it's too much...that's where the problem is, ur religious leaders teach to much wickedness. That's my own. Kawai!

How did you come across your facts? How do you know that the percentage of bad Muslim to good is 80:20? Believe it or not there are more good Muslims than there are bad its just that the actions if the bad Muslims are always publicized.

The media isn't keeping anything down but whenever there is a christian terrorist attack how many times has it been reported on notable news outlets? Compare to when there is a Muslim bombing. When Muslims are killed by either Muslims it Christians nobody seems to care but reverse is the case when Christians are killed.

I am not saying all Christians do not care about people of other religion lives because I am aware that I cannot generalise because I have not met all the Christians in the world

How many Muslims have you met? Are they up to 1/5 the total population of Muslims on earth? If not then you have no right to judge all Muslims by the very little you've met. Hell even if you have met 3/5 of them you still would have no right because in life people's character will always superseded their religion.

America a developed country couldn't stop their elections from being rigged please who is Nigeria?

reminiscing:
Madam,this isn't a boxing competition.I am not hating,as a matter of fact,i have Muslim friends.Trust me,they are really brainwashed

If you have the time can you give me an example of situations which made you believe that they are brainwashed?

akinszz:
i didn't say all Muslims are terrorist, i said all terrorists are Muslim. it seems you have comprehension problem..... examples are all over the place... I know you know the truth, we know how you operate.

Unfortunately for you not all terrorist are Muslims.

Please make sure you get solid and correct facts before making such statements.

ollah2:
The Christians terrorist in the second image is Akexdandre Bissoonnette. He shouted "Allah Akabar" before the attack on the mosque yet he was a christian.

There are christian terrorist but the media always keeps quite whenever it happens. I don't know why it may be that the news of christian terrorist doesn't sell or it may be an agenda on Islam or it might just be that Christians tend to ignore the fact that there are Christians who do not mind taking the hatred in their hearts to the extent of murder!

But I think you will agree with me that the chances that you hear of mass killings by Muslims is far greater than the chances that you hear of Christians ones not because there aren't Christian terrorist but for the fact that the media never like to carry the news.

reminiscing:
A large number of them are violent and can exhibit terrorism at any given go ahead.So I am generalizing it,the good number of the bad eggs ruined the little good eggs.

if that's the case then I can say that the bad number of Christians ruined the good ones as believe it or not there are a lot of bad Christians out there!. A lot!
But I know that that is really not true as it is not fair to anybody to judge them by their religion.
Keep this in mind what's stopping a lot of Christians from becoming terrorists and killing Muslims is the fact that their pastors have not given them the go ahead.

For some Christians the amount of hatred in their hearts is so much that if given the opportunity they can slaughter anyone that isn't a believer of their religion.

Please please and please do not judge anybody by their religion, tribe or race. It is wrong always give the benefit of doubt.

I hope you get the chance to meet good people who will enlighten you and change your mindset. Have a good day!

M

When people realise they can sue SARS for damages and collect millions, SARS will change their ways.

ChildOfDoom:
which grammar be this again? Vaseline i know.......

Vasectomy:Vasectomy is a surgical procedure for male sterilization or permanent contraception. During the procedure, the male vas deferens are cut and tied or sealed so as to prevent sperm from entering into the urethra and thereby prevent fertilization.

You said you don't like children and your worst fear is to get a woman pregnant. The logical thing to do would be to get a vasectomy as it would eradicate the possibility of that happening.

See that hesitation when you consider getting one? That means you don't hate the thought of having children as much as you think.

I believe your still young and your opinion will change as you mature.

If it doesn't then consider getting a vasectomy as fathering a child that you don't care for is completely irresponsible and cruel.

reminiscing:
How many people have they killed?give me an instance.
I won't waste my time arguing with a terrorist with no humane feelings.

bro there are a lot of christian murders,serial killers, rapist and co. Hell they might even be more than the amount of criminal Muslims the only difference is that;
1) when Christians commit crimes they don't do it in the name of their God last last they will blame it on the devil or someone( they know how to play the blame game)
2)Christians don't really do mass bombings for no reason, it's either they are seeking revenge or something like that.

I think its wrong to say that Christians don't commit murder as the fact that they don't kill in large numbers make it hard for the murders to enter the news.

I think what you should have said was show me a christian terrorist. Those are harder to find.

Also please realise that you can't judge a whole religion by the actions if a group of people. As what I have said doesn't apply to 100% of the population of Christians on earth.

It's also really unfortunate that you haven't seen any good Muslims to set a good example for you

Also stop assuming that Christians arnt violent as in life one thing I have learnt is that you can only speak for your self, not your family or friends but only your self for your the only one that knows what is in your heart.

Get a vasectomy

Hmm

My problem is not even the fact that op doesn't like older women or that he doesn't have any love for her, my problem is knowing fully well that you hate those attributed and you don't have any love for her, what demon possessed you to not only date her but propose to her?

wristbangle:
The lady is a huge hypocrite. Did she ignore the christian part of the video?

What of the ones wearing hi jab committing various atrocities such as prostitution and suicide bombing?

Meanwhile it is no longer a news that the most violence places on earth are the Islamic region. Violence feeds in their blood.

last time I checked Saudi Arabia and Dubai were not violent places. Your religious intolerance is really disgusting .

Pataricatering:
I tire for all this woman wrapper men ! Carry woman issues on yo your head like gala ! Don’t you people get tired ? You need to rid yourselves of this obsession with women ! It won’t change anything !

when they are jobless what do you expect? We don't see women opening threads about men do we? I don't know how someone can sit down and start thinking about women and how to run their lives. I will always say this when your looking for who to marry, make sure you marry someone with your mentality. If you want a submissive wife go and look for an uneducated girl in your village and get married to her you cannot come and marry an independent,working educated woman and be giving her order like her father and expect her to answer you. Smh when they've not finished respecting their parents .

Everybody is busy singing where's her baby daddy asking is she's pregnant out of wedlock as if they don't know that 90% of girls 16 and above are not longer virgens I don't see wizkid and davido being criticized like this. Is it because she's a woman? The way she's so happy it seems she has long given up on marriage and has been trying to get pregnant for a while. If not she wouldn't be so happy about being pregnant cause it not too hard to get pregnant. I end this saying. Only those who wear the shoe know where it pinches . I also suspect she went to a sperm bank or got a sperm donor, And by the way that 'bastard' baby she's about to give birth to is 100% better than those married couples impoverished children who hawk on the bridge during traffic.

sobmos:
We all know that yahoo yahoo is bad. It’s taking money from hard working people and destroying their lives,giving them emotional breakdowns.

But we have to look at it from another angle, I’m not in support of Yahoo, neither am I against it. I’m not against it because the Government has failed us the masses.

Yahoo is a way of liberating oneself from the shackles of poverty. I know several yahooboys that are employers of labor today. I know several yahooboys that are the breadwinner of their family.

I’m against yahooboys that scams locally, scamming your fellow Nigerians, I’m totally against that. If you must scam, scam the white folks.

I’m against yahooboys that goes to club and squanders thousands and millions of naira on drinks just to show that they’ve “arrived”. It doesn’t make any sense .

I know a yahooboy that owns several mobile phone outlets, several businesses, doesn’t attend night clubs and the night life is definitely not for him. He’s married with kids. This guy and several others relies on yahoo yahoo to survive .

If we scold yahooboys , let’s also remember the Nigerian economy,unfavorable standard of living, made the boys do what they do today.

They’re the lesser devils , instead of kidnapping , murder and armed robbery, these boys chose to scam the white people.

If I’m to choose between an armed robber and a yahoo boy . I’ll gladly go for the lesser devil( yahoo yahoo).

I am sorry to say this but there really is no difference between fraud and armed robbery because at the end of the day they both have the same effect on their victims. Trauma. Their victims will end up depressed and if you think about it robbery might even be better because when you are robbed most likely they will only take a fraction of your total worth but when fraud is committed the victims normally end up penniless. I say the main reason why you support fraud is because you think it's done to the white people not Nigerians. And your wrong about that because 80% of the so called Yahoo jobs are actually done in Nigerians and their victims are Nigerians .

Madam if you have a problem with that wizzy of a boy go and inbox him and stop disgracing your poor son! Are we wizkid? Is he us? We are him? If WizKid says he won't take responsibility for your child then you shut up! Because after all you should have thought of that before doing the do without a condom.