Marriage in Nigeria isn't just a 'thing' between two people. More like a cross-breeding of different families and cultures. So it's more complicated than 2 people deciding they want to spend their lives together.
First there's the religious consideration. While one religion to certain extent can be pacifist on choice of partner, a certain other religion is not so tolerant. There are certain instances world wide where family members of that intolerant religion approved or carried out so called mercy or honour killings of their relative or in-law or both because of the simple issue of religion. Is one puna really worth the elevated risk of losing one's life or limb?
What about culturalization? Certain demograph are also renowned for intolerance in matters like this. Even amongst the elites. I had a love interest once that told me her cousin had been making moves on her which was quite common in their culture. In this instance though her dad however, and surprisingly, was hesitant about the arrangement. While I personally do not have anything against the practice, cultures in the predominantly southern region however are strongly opposed to such. And little things like this can chip away at the couple's happiness together. There's the risk of the offsprings of such union becoming social outcasts. Again, is one puna worth risking generations of trauma for?
Finally but not exhaustively, there's location. Due to the communal life-set practiced in Nigeria, celebrations involve so much logistical risks and challenges. Even simple events like birthday, child naming, burial etc require families to travel en masse to celebrate with their in-laws and all. It's not enough for just the couple themselves to show up at such functions in Nigeria. Unless you're opulent, imagine the financial and logistical implications in attending burial functions, marriages, birthdays etc for both sets of families. it is akin to financial harakiri.
There are many other reasons but the few above are personal experiences that spotlight why people prefer to stick with the options nearer home.
Ps: I love Hausa/Fulani girls. Especially the accented intelligent ones. But no sooner are you ready to settle down that you find out your love interest has been arranged by her father as a third or fourth wife to an octogenarian.
codedgalaxy: Women are heartless, women are this and that many folks lament and lambast,but, i for one think there is a part of woman'sphere that is so underrated, and that is a womans "naive love" damn! Have you ever seen a woman simping? damn! very annoying This side of a woman is the most annoying side of a woman i tell you, women know this and thats why they try hard to hide it. Trust me gents you dont want to be in that drama of a woman. She will start behaving like someone possesd with marine spirit aswear. She can do the undo, just to see you or make you happy.
"have you ever seen love and ran away"?
No be lie OP.. I see love that year I tuama. I see love so Tay one certain banny dah year con make me dey pass bush road and cross swamp just to enter or comot house dah year 🤣🤣 because anything wey make her sight me pass front of her shop, I musto branch. And that time love nor dey my dictionary. Only money thoughts..
If woman never fly her papa fence for night come knack you, or thief her papa or boyfriend money come give you.. you never experience wetin be love yet
alanto: So I stumbled on this old video of a conversation between a Nigeria drug dealer and a Thai Police. It's 5 minutes long but the most important part is at the last 45 seconds.
This is an unrepentant black goat soiling the reputation of hard working and over achieving Nigerians the world over. Such pathetic entitlement mentality with zero integrity. Waste of sperm.
The LP had asked members of the party in the national assembly to kick against “wastage”.
While responding to questions during a press conference in Abuja on Monday, the former governor of Anambra said the SUVs are not personal cars of the lawmakers, noting that they are for official use.
“Let me start with the issue of Labour Party members in the house. I have actually discussed this issue with them,” Obi said.
“Surprisingly, I can tell you I heard that these vehicles are official cars. They have to use it. It is meant for office.
“So it is not as if it is their vehicle. They said it is official cars and you are meant to use it while you are in the senate.”
Obi also hinted at contesting for the country’s number one position in 2027, adding that Nigeria deserves dedicated and visionary leaders who will lead the country towards a brighter future.
Journalist: how do you intend to engage members of your party who are members of the house, so that they can stand different.......?
PO: Let me start with the issue of labour party members in the house, have actually discussed this issue with them, surprisingly, I can tell you , I heard that this vehicles are official cars,and are they normally,it is, they have to use it, is meant for official vehicle,so is not as if it is their vehicle, that is meant for official car and everything, because we campaigned for it, and said listen, if it is your car, you return it, or d.... But they said is official car and everybody is meant to uuu, you're meant to use it while you're in the senate, but you know how things work here, it's not going to be like that.
Blupen969: You guys might know me well for always begging on this platform, always broke, always looking for a job, but the universe didn't forget about me as I thought it did, I am a 25years old chronic introvert it's worst when am jobless cus I can be indoors for 1week straight, I stopped believing a job would set me financially free long time ago but wetin man go do " you never give up right"? So I was always searching for a job but many still called me lazy because am an introvert many hated me because of my nature like it's my nature I can't change it..... but I never gave up on bet and the truth was that I moved up to playing only jackpot games because I believe nothing is impossible for the universe now am a millionaire I won 53million naira with 100# playing the jackpot games, I am truly grateful to the universe, I am cus I have been through a lot and I deserve what I got....... Am just posting this to motivate others like me especially the introvert guys that think dey can never make it being an introvert well the good news is that you can, you can get a laptop learn an online skill and be making money at home yes you can, you see the word "believe" is a very strong word and it works just like walking and running my question is do you believe you can become a millionaire?? That you can be financially set for life, that you can be rich ?? Do you believe you are a potential millionaire ?? All you gotta do is believe and let the universe use you as an instrument to make your beliefs come true.....thank you
since yesterday i don't have appetite,I'm very moody and sad, i have headache, having suicidal thoughts
So the way the country dey nor reach to break your heart give you headache join.. na because of kpekus you dey reason kpuff yourself. Kpekus wey the banny go still cut give like 16 boys wey nor reach your mama last born for age before she marry nai you wan kpuff put. You wan waste your papa sperm and bedmatics wey dem take born you because of kpekus. To konk you dey hungry me
(1) Building or buying two Mansions for me in two different locations, one in Ibeju-Lekki, Lagos, the other in Iyana Iyesi, Ota, Ogun State, close to Canaanland. On the 20th August, 2023, the Lord delivered the promise to me, saying:
"Mo fun o ni Ile meji, ibi to ma ma gbe titi ojo aye re gbogbo."
Interpretation:
"I give you two houses where you will be living for the rest of your life."
Then, subsequently, the Lord mentioned the locations, one in Ibeju-Lekki, Lagos, the other in Iyana Iyesi, Ota. God chose the locations on purpose best known to Him. But one thing I know, anywhere I live, God always give me the impression that He is the Landlord of the place, controlling the place, controlling the area, the Ota location, Canaanland could be His target. It has to do with Spiritual Metron, there must be a chosen church in the area where my Spiritual Metron is connected to - speaking from experience. In other words, God Himself is going to be the real owner of the Mansions, only using me to front for greater manifestation of His power within my Spiritual Metron. The Lord spoke further, He asked me to specify the type of houses I wanted, I chose Mansions, He later approved it, I chose Mansions because, my house is God's house, Mansions befits God and also this package is the definition of the type of work God is currently doing in LFC, Worldwide through my ministry, what He called "Mighty Works / Mighty Jobs."
(2) Provision of a brand new Toyota Venza, 2012 Model, brown.
(3) Provision of a new job ( a good job with a good pay )
(4) Feeding Allowance
(5) By genuinely showing some love
(6) Expedite action.
How God linked me with Architect Gbenga Alalade Martins, the brain behind the designs of the buildings the Holy Spirit described as "Masonic Lodges" within Canaanland, Ota, the challenge encountered and God's reactions.
In 2009, Architect Gbenga Alalade Martins lured me to join Living Faith Church / Winners Chapel, during the time we were both Corps Members, serving in Niger State. Some years after service year, during the time I was desperately searching for job, because of Gbenga who was well placed in Covenant University / Canaanland and my passion to be worshipping in Faith Tabernacle / Canaanland and at the same time working in either Covenant University or Canaanland, I sold my rickety car, used the proceed to secure an apartment in Canaanland environment. Immediately I secured the apartment, I informed Gbenga that I am now living in Canaanland environment, the same way I nformed about every progress I made in the church, how I became born again under the church, the programmes I have done within the church, showing him the evidences via Facebook Inbox and E-mail. Then, I later implored Gbenga severally to help me get a job in either Covenant University or Canaanland, using his influence, he never replied any of my messages or returned my call as I called his wife Mrs Morenike Alalade that I needed to speak to her husband, the wife prevented me from reaching him, told me I should contact him on Facebook. Gbenga and his wife are so pompous and proud, Gbenga felt being a PhD holder or a Master's holder, processing his PhD then, he could no longer relate with a common B.Sc holder as I was, somebody that was a fellow Corps Member, served the same year, accommodated me in Kontagora NYSC Secretariat where he lived, in fact, we used to share the same bed. Gbenga also called NYSC "useless and waste of time". To get the job, all efforts proved abortive and since then, I became jobless. That was 2018, but spiritually, I kept growing with grace. The stone Gbenga rejected, today, has become Cornerstone as the Lord has empowered me to openly, boldly criticize him, criticize his works - the church buildings he designed / built, what the Holy Spirit described as "Masonic Lodges", part of which by implication, making the foundation of the church to be faulty, leading to God's wrath against the church. God further reacted, saying:
"This is mischievous use of power in Architecture"
One person links with the other, as Bishop David Oyedepo don't know me, Bishop knows Gbenga, Gbenga knows Bishop, Gbenga knows me, therefore, the Lord now commanded me, "tell Gbenga to forward this message to his Boss, Bishop David Oyedepo.
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As I said earlier, Architect Gbenga Alalade Martins and I met in Kontagora NYSC Secretariat, Niger State, for the very first time when we were both Corps Members, 2008 / 2009 Session. Gbenga is brilliant, smart, vocal, accommodating, and I used to perceive him as a born again Christian, reason he was made our Corpers Liaison Officer (C.L.O.), Gbenga served with M.Sc. in Architecture either with First Class or Second Class Upper Division, Covenant University, Ota. In Architectural Department of most universities, they don't allow First Degree holders in Architecture to graduate / serve, until they make it to M.Sc. level. But me, I served with B.Sc./Ed. Business Studies, Second Class Lower Division, University of Lagos. God now spoke to me, the way Gbenga and I met in Niger State was not by accident, everything is God's plan, since then, God has been preparing both of us for mighty works, for mighty jobs for Living Faith Church, Worldwide, what is manifesting today, but Gbenga has issue with God, God called him, "Proud". Indeed, Gbenga is proud and pompous, during the service year, he gave every Corps Member who held HND and First Degree impression that he was better than us because he came with M.Sc., personally, because I held B.Sc., he treated me as if I can not amount to anything in life.
Another offence, God called Gbenga, "an Occult Member, designer / builder of Masonic Lodges", reason why God said the foundation of the church is faulty. By implication, according to the Holy Spirit, despite his PhD, God now demoted him, placed him under me, made him my "wife". God called Gbenga my "wife" severally.
Interpretation:
The term.
This one don smoke too much garri.. Garri don block all him thinking ports.. hope you dey use eye drop sha..
victorclean: Very funny indeed. . Oduduwpigs are out with their arsenals for me ooooo. Oga I wish there is complete brain transplant surgical procedure. You know the first brainless skull patient I will refer?
It will still not stop me from WAILING as a baptise WAILER
Las las, sense is far from you. Your ignorance cannot even be impressed upon you. Only to be borne in dignified silence by the people around you.
Not promoting division or anything of the likes but he is right. Black neighborhoods are predominantly known for their violence, drive-by shootings, gang-related violence and the sorts. Not all but you just can't tell which is safer. Crime is not specific to race or colour but having knowledge of something can help one make informed decisions on choosing where to settle.
A place I will also avoid at all costs is any city that boasts of very very low crime activity every year for decades. This might sound ironic but this is a really blood-red flag. The reason is when you lift the carpet of the so-called crime-free city you will find scores and scores of unsolved murder cases that were swept under so as not to ruin the long-standing reputation of the city. The police in that city are always eager to close a case as having no substance where there is no earth-jarring evidence. A person reporting attempted murder is just playing.
Athena6: Last week I created a thread talking about how my japa plans have been crushed due to the increase in dollar.
Many adviced me to invest in dollar, this was the advice they gave me months ago but I did follow through because I wasn't sure. My last thread hit front page and 90% of the comments were advising me to invest in dollars, one even quoted that in the past 10 years, the dollar haven't fallen but it increases every year.
One even called me a weak minded person and I am scared to take risks. After everything I thought to myself, since so many people felt this dollar will keep on rising, maybe I should invest afterall life is all about risks.
Well guess what, dollar have decreased, I invested 3M in buying dollars and now in today exchange rate. I have 2.6M now and I either cash out now or hope it will increase.
Right now, I am very angry. Those giving me advice should come and contribute the 400k for me o
Another thing, do you think the dollar will increase or should I just cut my loses. I am so tired 😫
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Gamblers know when to quit. You don't want to be the last one sitting at the table wondering where all your money went
Same thing my Infinix Note 11i did to me. Woke up one morning, the finger print was no longer responding and the option had vanished from the phone's settings. No trick I didn't try aside formatting the phone I think. Even my research at the time revealed there was no getting it back after formatting.
Last last I think the makers of these transhit devices know the games dey play with users and e nor go better for diamama shidren.
I may not agree with Kagame's philosophy of leadership observed through the lens of extant democratic parameters, but there's no doubting Paul Kagame is one of Africa's visionary leaders. His score card may be low in the area of democracy, but he scores highly in sustainable development, growth and innovation that has revamped one of Africa's smaller economies into a budding regional giant after the throes of the ill-famed genocide. Therefore, I toast to his success and without hesitation, wish him many more successful years in office.
Ps: The saying goes that unless broken, there's no need to change a working (or winning) system.
Argument broke between them last night This morning the one on floor chop off the other man hand The man pix is not here with one hand the other man finish this one so
these are not hungry people.. they are outlaws. We should call a spade a spade. They are parasites on society's festering sores. Are they the only hungry ones in the society?
Politics / Re: Plateau: Blame PDP For Gov Mutfwang’s Sack, Not Tinubu, Judiciary – Onanuga by LowKeyManny: 3:50pm On Nov 20, 2023 
