₦airaland Forum

DailyNews: Just like somebody here rightfully said, the Nigerian men are not afraid of marriage but are afraid of getting trapped in a deadly marriage with a deadly woman...so to say, the Nigerian men are afraid of commitment with the Nigerian ladies cos of fear of what the women has turned into. But then, if u as a lady distinguish yourself by being real, true, & realistic with life, then u have nothing to worry about cos the right men will come knocking on your door with seriousness. But when a lady thinks life is a platter of gold for her just cos she is a pretty female who gets admired by so many men, then she will only regret it later or sooner in her life. So to say my sister, be yourself, be honest, pray to God, get a working life, don't be rude with strangers, always try & be modest even in places like this, do away with bad friends, discard every unworkable & time-wasting relationships u have with any unworthy guys, stay focused, pursue your life dreams with passion, always smile & look happy, offer help to people when u can, avoid offloading all your life problem on any guy u meet, try making him assume u have a life yourself even though things might not be that awesome for u, just try as much as u can to hide your misery at times & let the guy discover it himself, surely men have a heart of gold, he will never abandon your problems if he truly cares, but you yourself should not make it his responsibility through pestering attitudes. Goodluck dear & welcome to Nairaland the world of wisdom enrichment for mankind!

Great comment
Not scare of Marriage
But women that we can’t trust
Women that doesn’t know their first priority
Women that is Me , Me, Me
Women that are ungrateful

sweetcheecks: @Omega, thanks for your opinion I really do want to do my best but i also do not want to waste my time. I will consider your advice.

@Luckgames,
No one said that but it is my assumption based on what i have been reading on the blog. I guess you are right but i know it her ex's loss. He is great has a great spirit and is a goodman.

That is how they try to play the men
We Nigerian love women and are good providers

ertipha :

We are deceiving you
So, get a life

sweetcheecks: Hi y'all, I am knew in this site and would like help understanding sometin. I am dating a wonderful, thoughtful and amazing niaja guy. I have known him for over a year before we started dating. But the problem is he is ball of pain although he wants to behave like he does not care. It hurts me to realise that becouse of the past experience he has stopped being real and human. He discounts everything to being about money, not falling inlove or you will be hurt and moving on from anything that looks like a challenge. From what i have been reading here I think contrary to what a lot of us would like to believe, naijerians are highly principled people. Your women abstain as a matter of culture were as we and others did this as matter of religious conviction but not a standard social norm anymore. What I want to know is what would have happened to him? I do no see a naija woman cheating on her husband to an extent that he is destroyed :'( . Is that mostlikely to happen. My heart is breaking for him. I like him but do not want to waste my time if this is a permanent damage.Thanks in advance for you responses.

Who told you Nigerian women don't cheat?
Please stop playing?
The women just know how to hid it.
For the dude he need to move on from his pass and accept your as his future if you make him happy
Lot of Nigerian men damage form their past relationship

Will not touch that with a 2X4

Payless
I think it's time to cut off this BS
You must have lot of down time
if he can get on you to post your graduation photo
He is wining
I don't have a graduation photo's
I have not attended any graduation ceremony but I have graduated three time
for me it was always what is next

Great words of wisdom

"There is no greater happiness for a man/woman than approaching a door at the end of a day knowing someone on the other side of that door is waiting for the sound of his/her footsteps".

It's called happiness
Wanting to come home after work or visiting friend because you know somebody that love you is waiting for you


Added woman and her to the quote above

millco88: luckgames has never left Nigeria.

I don't want to leave Nigeria
ikeja One
What does the number 88 represent?

Mrs.Chima:
How does White men dress?

Great question but I have heard that from AA ladies

rokiatu: I mean whats up with this? I mean as you tell your bf/husband I have a friend but he is male there whole facial expression change. Is it a crime to have a male friend when you are in a relationship?

Because he don't want to share

For U.K, Canada and USA resident
Should only respond

Tell the child of a man to grow up

gulfer: A wife asked her husband to drop her at her friend's house, where a wedding was taking place. He said he would be too busy in the office and gave her some money for taxi. He left for office. Later at the wedding place, she met a fine girl and they got talking to each other. Soon they became friends. In the evening when everyone was leaving, the girl asked the woman how she was going home. She replied that her husband is too busy in d office, so he can't come to pick her and she was going in a taxi.
The girl now said,'My boyfriend who brought me here is coming to pick me up. I just spoke with him on phone and he's on his way to pick me. Why don't you join me in his car and we drop you at your house?' The woman agreed and a few minutes later, her husband's car arrived.
The girl entered the front passenger's seat of the car and asked the woman to sit at the back, which she did. The girl introduced her new friend to the boyfriend. When he turned round to greet the woman, he recognized her as his wife. They dropped the wife at home and left
Babes:If you were the wife, what would you do when your husband returns...
Guys:If you were the husband what will you say to your wife when you return?

The Wife should be is first priority
Tell the girl to get out and give her money for a cab
He was very disrespectful to his wife
He shouldn't come back home

Mrs.Chima:
You don't even know what Nationality I am but yet you assumed my complexion is dark?

Let us keep playing the guessing game
Just messing with you but nationality, race should not be the criteria for love

Mrs.Chima:
White men rocks!!

Where are the white men at? Come on out studmuffins!

I am in love with Mrs. Chima
Her complexion
the darker the sweeter the juice

KateSpade: Condoms, safe sex.

If you are having issues with ladies not wanting you to wear a condom, you can always refuse and find yourself another lady.

Thanks
I will remember that

CocoNilla: I'm so tired of hearing about "ladies these days" there are so many dirty females, just like there are so many dirty males. there always has been, just that they had to hide it more back in the day, and now they don't care.
While I dont agree with this behavior in women OR MEN, I say good! now men know what it feels like lol... also, there is a phrase, only a dog will lay with a dog, or "birds of a feather flock together" ok, so how can so many complain about dirty females when so many men are just as nasty or maybe more nasty.
You attract what you are. sluts attract sluts, that's it. I never understood how a dirty man expects a clean woman... decent women want a decent man, and if u cant find a decent woman, it says more about u than it says about an entire gender.

OK

Brixtonyute: ^^^That my baby sitting on 22s... Black chrome wheels, all black everything.

My dislike for the challenger is bad for snow
The car is all over the place on a snowing day
You have to put sand bag in the truck

SAFO: You're right killz except that the Dodge Challenger isn't a hatchback

@OP, Americans mainly drive SUV's and Japanese cars. Nobody cares about European over here. That's why they do everything opposite to them. ie. Drive on the other side of the road, rectangular electrical plugs instead of round etc.

Dude sorry
I am in love with the BMW 335is convertible or Lexus IS350 convertible
I was told to get BMW X5 sorry no SUV

NO
Don't need friend like you

Chimezie198: U see? Dat shows am ladyz guy. Pls advise!

Three cows toasting you

laurachi: A guy told his girlfriend that they cannot get married because they are from different ethnic groups, according to him he would prefer to marry a girl from his tribe that he could only date her, he also said that in the course of their relationship if she finds a man who wants to marry her she should let him know. Nairalanders do you think such a girl should maintain such a relationship without a future?

Ok
It is all about Fucking
The dude put it out there---Good guy

pendo89: You are not married
You dont have kids
What next?

May be he need to marry you

payless: He never questions my country of birth the way you look at it. He ask that question just for everyone to know that I am a Nigerian. The manager like starting conversation with me about something bad he heard about Nigeria or Nigerians. Anytime something bad happens with Nigerian name attached to it, they ask me questions like I know the person or persons involved. For example when the Abdulmutalab saga happened and when the Boko Haram bombed the United Nation buliding in Abuja. It was in the news for few days, non stop.

You sound like a kid, who just got off the plane
I am not sure how long you have lived in the U.S
The type of job you do?
Your education but you need to deal with the issue
There are people around you who can give you good advice
Lot of Nigerian tell people all day long that they are Nigerian

cowgurl: Every being be he a Beliver or an Unbeliever knows who God is even the devil does, not strange but indeed funny.

You are unbeliever

dayokanu: 20yrs no criminal record. If na your cousin, Max 20days and he don don show himself




The name can belong to an African American

Dumb ass
Name has no color

docokwy: Men! Yoruba people na helele. He killed the man and began using his ID all these years? This is another first.

Pleas stop the BS
We know he was dumb to use the id for twenty years but kill the person
I don't think so

cowgurl: Do you have a preference in complexion when u date? I.e. Black complexioned (ebony black or charcoal), fair complexioned (white or albino) or just chocolate (does dis v it's types too?)

Preference in complexion NO but
Like to have unconditional love
Unselfish relationship, NO Me, Me person
Considerate, Fair, respectful
not secretive and hiding information
Good Family background = good moral value
A person that know how to say thanks
Supportive

OK/2/NV:
pussiey!
that shitt is worth more than gold and crack !

Get off crack

queensmith: You can never be satisfied viewing a relationship as a partnership because someone will always end up with the short end of the deal. If the rewards of the partnership were to be more sentimental than always trying to maintain a degree of profit then it is completely different.

If life was as simple as 'plug in some money' 'be gratified' then there won't be many struggles. bottom line is there is no successful relationship with your point of view. There are just miserable people and their manipulators.

You got it twisted
Ok
Any men that failed not to view relationship as partnership his more likely to CRY
There is profit in relationship that is called happiness
Successful relationship is unselfish relationship
Do you manipulate people? you sound like that
MsDarkSkin:"do right by me, I will do right by you"

DON’T BE SURPRISE THAT A NIGERIAN MIGHT HAVE RETURN THIS DUDE IN

tialundra: nairalanders whats the beef btwn Naija man and Zimba men they always DISS each OTHA.it seemz naijimbos tend to throne themselves in all aspects that is from being romantic,sex,sweet,having style,owning businesses,being intelligence,treating their woman ryte, very rich etc.howeva i hear Nigerians can be very violent,possesive.Zimba men on the otha hand are resilient,hardworking and they are not styingy when it comes to treating or pampering their ladies and they indeed are gud in bed,educated their English IS cool compared to Nigerians whose accent is horrible and disgusting.

i hve noticed wth great concern tht Naijimbos dnt wanna compare themselves to Zimbos whateva it maybe whats with these men they are always against each atha and wld lyk to call them RIVALS on all angles.

Dumb