₦airaland Forum

ogbeche77: Hahahahah:...... Nairalanders should expect a topic in a few month that goes like ... I Just Got A Text From My Gf who I Sponsored To Uni that Shes Pregnant For Another Guy....

we are waiting

jennykadry: I did not contribute a dime. Some of you's need to understand that tribes play a vital role in issues like this. I am a solid Igbo girl and I guess the OP is, judging from her username. Where I come from the groom pays for everything, no shaking, if you can't afford it then you are not ready for marriage.

Selfish and me, me, me person
Men should do it all
If you are married and have great job
Hope you are contributing to the marriage

[b][/b]Men should make women contribute to their wedding
If it failed
Guess what both losers

chinwe11: Nairalanders, i have some questions oh. I am getting married in August..............my fiance and i are both working, but the house where he is staying now is having some problems, and might fall soon, so the landlord told them all to evacuate so he can renovate. (The rent was expiring in September anyway) My fiance then decided to use part of the money for the wedding to rent a new house for us. The problem now is, after renting the house, he had to do renovations etc, and now the wedding for the money is almost finished to about 20% left. he is now saying shebi i also have money that i should make up the remaining 80%. Please nairalanders what do you think? Is a woman supposed to pay the bulk money for the wedding?



Afterall what plans did he have for rent after the wedding? I told him to borrow money he said no.

The dude shouldn't marry you
Why? You are not a team player
So you want him to carry all the load by himself

femojie: I will advise the guy to just do it in a registry and invite just few family and friends 20 at most. He can give them a decent reception in a fast food restaurant.

The dude don't have a JOB

Mrs.Chima:
Really? So all the Nigerian men ONLINE and OFFLINE that have professed their true happiness in non-Nigerian women are LYING?

There are several Nigerian men I know OFFLINE that are married to women that are not Nigerian and happily married more than 10 years. IF they married those women for benefits....then what are they waiting on? 10 more years?

Please re-read my comment
"All Nigerian men want to marry Nigerian women, it comes with more challenges "
my above comment was most Nigerian men will prefer to get marry to Nigerian women

daylae: Good investment. should take the loan. . .in no time profits 'll be rolling in.

Dude you sound like investment banker
The profit that will star rolling in are the kids, TOTO and unhappy home?

rakumiii: For you to ask this question that means you already know the answer. So after the wedding are they going to move into the Hall they used for the event? Will there be enough food left to feed them for the next 2 yrs after everyone has gone to their various HOMES? She must have to sell a lot more akara to pay off the loan o...... unless the new husband doesnt mind if she enters the streets and start hustling... GOOD LUCK.......

They can have a very small marriage
You don't get into debt for marriage
Marriage is about happiness, not how big the marriage party was

cshall1120: I became best friends with an Nigerian (Yoruba) man. We both started to have feeling for either and desired to see where the relationship would take us. Now that I am deeply in love with him I am devastated to know that he doesnt think it can go further because his family doesnt like the idea of him dating someone that is not Nigerian (Yoruba) . I am a good person. I dont have any ill motives before being with him. I am ambitious, smart, understanding, respectful, willing to compromise and respect his culture. [b]I am dumb founded they his family wouldnt even consider getting to know me before dismissing the idea. He want to still be best friends though. I dont know what to do. I believe in fighting for love. [/b]I want deeply to understand the situation to atleast try and remain friends but I am very hurt and much in love with him. Does anyone have any advice on what i can do in this situation? Do I even stand a chance? Is there any possible way I can atleast get him to try and make this work? Its just so hard for me to believe if his parent see him happy and successful with someone who is open to his culture and building a relationship with them that they would disown him. Would anyone disown their child for this? Do you think this is right? Anyone advice is welcome, especially the perspective of the Yoruba men and women. Thanks

Let him go marry Yoruba girl or any Nigerian girl
Trust me, his parents are not calling the shot
The dude is going after what he think's is the best for him for now
In few year the dude will star calling your phone no stop
Ask the dude what he want from a marriage?
Ask him do you have what it take to be his wife?
My mother have ask me to do things and I said NO mother, Pray for my happiness
She had to stop and understand I want to be happy and she want me to be happy too

Kuulnomsy: Please is it ok for ladies to demand for the return of expensive gifts or items,
they bought for their boyfriends during relationship, after break up?

No bashing pls

No
it's a gift
Tell her to go Bleep herself, Tell the dumb ass B you don't return gift
If it was engagement Ring you have to return it if she ask for it
The gift was giving out of love
Asking EX to return any thing is just dumb
If you give a woman a gift and you see the smile on her face,
If she was trained well and she say thanks that is your return on that investment or gift

afinic001: Ibo girls. Dey are the finest!

Your mouth like Ibo girl

~Killz~:
[color=#000030]Will you shut up? [/color]

NO
kiss my A?? B

Guitarlife: Eheheheee ROTFLMBBOWMJTNVIABMBHLBLO. . . . . Now fasten your seat belt for the meaning #rollingOnTheFloorLaughingMyBlackButtOffWithMyJohnThomasNoddingVigorouslyInAgreementBcosMyBoxersHaveLongBeenLaughedOff.
Now I advice you stop reading because I already lost my hence of humour after that. And i can see how NLDers are petting you. Do you know what your name is?
A f00l and I'll prove it.
You are 35 fccking years old and you are not a 2nd wife o, you are worse than that a mistress with no drop of shame speading terror, unhappiness , hatred, venom into happy home's. You started long ago and you have so much perfected this evil act that your conscience is now smeared dead with a hot iron. You are so evil and drop so much sadness in your trail yet you do not want NLders to tell you the truh so that you will not cry? Now you should be competing in the crying competition at the olympic's not only because you earned it but because you do ot see anything wrong in the fact that your whole life is wasting away right now and all you can come up with is that you want to make money? Please answer this question's truthfully and maybe we will take it from there
1. Have you ever beem molested as a child or even in your adulthood.
2, why does your concience not prick you at this great evil you are doing?
3. Was any of your parent's a victim of spousal violence?
4. After making the whole money in the world whom do you want to spend it with?
5. Have you ever come across the world RESPONSIBLE in your dictionary.
6. Why have you decided to turm yourself into a source of sorrow for mankind?
There are still more to come. I hope i didn't make you cry.

I am crying for the A.O lady at 35 years part time second wife
You try O

You Fucking a married man
What type of help do you want from NL
Change your number
If he try to say any thing tell him to go to hell
Tell him no more your TOTO for him, You can keep giving him your TOTO till you turn 60 yrs
The ball is in your court
Sorry, Part-time second wife
That will work for you

london2lasgidi: I'm moving to Nigeria next month, and I want to enjoy my stay over there.

Can some please tell me where to visit, to enjoy the Nigerian hospitality.

Cheers.

What about A . O

solomon111: Indeed,you have very valid points!
One thing,i am sure of is the women back home cannot be worse than the women here in the west!
Anyway,i hope God leads me right.
Amen.

I do like to speak to you
set it up
family background is very important
Please research her family background
If you want to get marry star search now, don't wait till you get to 30 yr and think you still have time

solomon111: I have being used to the african culture,despite my long stay in the west,thanks to my family.
You can call me a chauvinist or anything,but it dosen't change the fact that i want a woman who can cook my african delicacies,listen to me when i speak and not trying to assert her authority unnecessarily,dont want a woman who shouts at me at every turn,threatens me with the police everytime we have a small altercation,dont want a woman who drinks like a fish, and parties like a LovePeddler,dont want a woman,who doesn't know what it mean to lead from behind.
I want my children to know my culture,not the trash i am surrounded with in America.Who best to teach them,but a good Nigerian woman.
My mother is an embodiment of most of what i want in a Woman,and she gives me the hope that somewhere,in Nigerian,the woman of my dreams lives.
As for Nigerian women,in the west;
it seems like they have been mutated into something else.
We cannot differentiate them from the very same women we are running from.
They have lost their africaness. The original unadulterated african essence is gone from most of them!
They have lost that innocence and simplicity.
Sorry,i think i will pass.

I am sorry keep dreaming
I pray God hear your prayers
Our sisters in the west are different? Really
So your sisters live in Nigeria?
You will go to Nigeria and bring this woman -- will she change?
Lot of Nigerian men and women have story of bring people to the West for the same reason you stated above
and still have issues
I will tell you brother from one man to other- YOU NEED GOD TO LEAD THIS JOURNEY FOR YOU
The Nigerian woman you will bring will not threaten you with a cop. Really
So Nigerian woman will not shout at you and assert her authority. Really

Solomon1111
TisaBone has question for you answer her question
“hmmm this is interesting....what makes a proper nigerian woman....the type u want to marry?”

My question for you Solomon111 “hat is why most of Us,just want to catch our fun,and then come back home.:
Are there no Nigerian women in the country in live in?
Why coming home?

makky: Saw him just this sunday, and today I got a text on my phone from his friend, his marriage iv!
Ive bn in shock since morning, dnt knw who to talk to cos i dnt kip friends, i absolutely may go suicidal on this. A man that didnt even have a house, a job, no money when i met him. I cook for him, he spent virtually all his time at my place, even most times borrowed as lil as N200 from me. He cried at the bustop one evening begging me not to let go, that single tear kept me. I dnt have a regular job, I buy & sell things just to keep going till a job comes. Ive chased suitors away all in d bid to make this man feel save cos i believe in tomorrow. He is a divorcee, i didnt worry abt that. I stood by him since last year till he got a house dis february. Bx march i started noticing things. Ive asked him severally what d problem was but he said its just stress cos he got an event contract with a company. At a point he even borrowed some money from me, got to find out that it was cos of d girl he is planning to marry that came visiting bt he was too broke to host her.
This life and thd men in it are heartless. Tell me how i can ever love another? Am dying silently, please i need friends to talk to or even a proper job to help me get over this hurt, am self destructive!

Sorry for the pain
You will survive and over come this mess
The lord know best
Let him go, the lord will give you your husband
It is going to be OK
Life is some time a B
Take heart

MsDarkSkin: whom ever devoted their hearts the most...hurt the most.
Unless they were wronged and fed up.

Anybody who can jus sever ties and feel no way about it, never cared.
If not for themselves, the other person.

People just get tired of liar's and getting manipulated
One of the party called that smart, it will back fire
What are you going to say
Bye have a great life
Off she/he goes

Fulaman198: Exactly, Kennedy, and a few others as well. If women had the same power as men in this world, women would be no different.

Correct
I am not trying to go back that far
Just present day Issue

busybee24: That my be so... but the issue is that if she gets caught.. its pretty much game over.. she can say good bye to her kids, her home and so.. A man cheats.. its business as usual back home and dont pretend otherwise.. and as the woman you are just supposed to take it.. because it is what men do... you know very well its true..
I initially decided that I would marry a Nigerian for sure.. but now im not so sure..

Don't let that discourage you
Men cheat of all race, color and nationality look at (Clinton, Edward, Stanford and Schwarzenegger)

ambrosini593: I have come to discover that romantic ups and downs apparently have a greater effect on the mental health of young men than women. 1. Women are more likely to display their depression to friends, men are likely to store up their feelings with emotional distress substance problems like drinking, smoking, indoor locking etc. 2. Men`s health is more affected by the harmful stress of a rocky relationship. 3. Strain in a relationship could also be linked to poor emotional well being because it threatens young men`s sense of identity and feeliings of self worth. 4.[b] Women easily forget past relationship and move ahead with another one because they can get a new man within a minute. But for men breaking up required that they have to put out [/b]effort again to get a new girl. 5. Men tends to protect a relationship more so they get nicer, they get more deeply hurt when that relationship finally breaks

If you are a break dude Yes
If not break move ahead
Men have 5 women waiting to take the place of the dump Ass

sexkillz: [color=#000030]Separation is usually a resultant of one partner stubbornly refusing to yield to serious complaints about his/her attitude or behavior from his/her significant other. The complaints though serious, are not enough to warrant a divorce since he/she could change the annoying habit or attitude. Separation could be needed to correct the attitude and the couple will kiss and make up. You cannot pin-pointedly say it's the man, or the womans fault. It depends on who has the annoying problem and how long the other person can endure it. You should have genuine intentions before separating. There should be a future plan of coming back together as man and wife. The danger of separation is that it could cause infidelity. . . Infidelity is a good reason for divorce, so tread carefully! [/color]

willing to change?

sexylogan: I've thought abt this befor n honestly, it beats me. On my last visit to Nigeria, I asked some of my friends abt this and their response was that yes, there are some nigerian girls that are difficult and demanding but most times, this isn't the case. After my short vacation, I came to the conclusion that most Nigerian men just don't appreciate wot they've got. My mom is British but I'm seriously considering marrying a Nigerian lady I met a while back.from wot one reads on NL, y°u wud easily believe that all Nigerian women are demons when in reality, in my point of view, nothing else cud be further from the truth. Just my 2 Quid btw.

The attitude of Nigerian women toward you has British is completely different for now
I hope you don't find out the other side
Lot of Nigerian men appreciate Nigerian women and women in general
There are unique issues in Nigeria communities in U.K ,Canada and US
Please do your research about these issue will help you a great deal
All Nigerian men want to marry Nigerian women, it comes with more challenges

TisaBone: lol u sound really psychotic.

who's heart did you u say you broke?

YOU

TisaBone: lol u sound really psychotic.

YOU ARE PSYCHOTIC LIAR

TisaBone: has ur heart ever been broken? if so, how did it make u feel?

NO
please don't get it twisted
sorry you can't break my heart
I break peoples heart that !!!!!!!!!!
DID I BROKEN UR HEART, TOO BAD, CHANGE YOUR BAD LYING WAYS AND ATTITUDE

TisaBone: what does that have to do with this topic? this isn't about me, so don't turn this conversation around. lol, nice tactic though.

I am not turn the conversation around
Really
You need to call me

TisaBone: lol that's not my name. maybe too inquisitive, but truly, i mean no harm.

I am sorry
Great
Have a great day