₦airaland Forum

ZimAngel: In the UK, when they have their wives back in Nigeria.
So cunning, these men will do anything for papers.
It's really sad and low

Dumb B
So why are the Zimbabwean girls after Nigerian men?
Money?
Nigerian men are good providers fool

pinky17: I have read your topic on SA and zimbabwean women, some of you seem to have issues with naija men who prefer us southern girls. What is wrong with you women, why hurt another woman for dating your guys, you are welcome to date Zim guys or Sa men I will not scorn you for it. The prroblem with Naija women is you think you are so perfect but lack personality. You are only interested in money and pretending like butter would never melt in your mouths, I am sure we can never conquer all your men,

It is AOK

TisaBone: well he should already know the state of her hair. if all she wears is weaves then its a safe conjecture to make that her hair is jacked up.

Is your hair jacked up?

Goldieluks: I wonder why some people feel or think that the hair thingy is not an issue. What if the chick is hiding some worms up there,or maybe she used her hair for some ritual or something, you never know. Hiding her hair from her guy speaks volume. People should be careful with the type of humans they mingle with. Yes really.

Nigeria with Ritual
God help us

payless: I totally agree with you. Working for twenty years without a hitch shows a lot about his character. He seems to be a good guy trying to feed his family.

What about living in U.S for over twenty years
failing to fix his immigration problem
After 911 any person working in highly sensitive position with somebody else id is dumb
I have seeing people access pull because the people had issue with wives and was arrested

Mr..Cork:
Ok ladies. Send me your CV if you're vacant... Am lookin for a new babe and aint gots time to waste. Please remember to wear make -up. (NO MAKE UP, NO SHOW) cheers!!

Only CV
what about P too

Princek12: My wonderful and intelligent people of Nairaland, my friend has been dated his girlfriend for about six months and said he wants to marry her. Anyway, the koko of the story is that he claims that she always wears a weave, that he has not gotten a chance to see what her real hair actually looks like, and that she has shunned his repeated requests to see her real hair.

While he claims he has no problem with her wearing a weave, he said that he would like to know what her real hair looks like before he pops the question. He asked her to take out the weave so that he can at least know what the natural hair of the lady that may be his wife looks like. She has, however, vehemently refused to reveal her real hair to her boyfriend, claiming that he should accept her the way she is and that she was wearing a weave when he met her.

He argues, however, that he loves her and appreciates her the way she is, but that it is important for him to know the condition or status of the hair of the lady who may one day be his wife, and that her failure to reveal her real hair implies she has something to hide and does not constitute full disclosure and forthrightness, which are prerequisites of a good relationship. In addition, he claims his mother has warned him never to marry a lady without knowing the condition of her real hair.

Nairalanders, what do you think?

Hair is your friend problem
He should be worry about the girl moral value, background
Is the girl considerate, Fair and Respectful
Will this girl bring a balance to his life
What are the girl goal and aspiration

queensmith: You see the problem with Nigerians, they are very selfish people. Everything is transactional, everything is a trade everything is a competition. Everything a gender war on who is the greater/stronger/important sex. Very tiring.

@you are obvioiusly battling with homosexual tendencies. If you have never enjoyed the company of a woman and cannot see the point of being in a relationship with one then it's about time you step out of the closet and pursue relationships with men.
A woman will offer you nothing more than you have mentioned, have sex with prostitutes, remain childless and enjoy the company of your man friend.

Good luck to you with all that.

Relationship is a partnership = transaction ( Business)
Men Please see marriage as a partnership of a business transaction
If you fail to see marriage or relationship as a business transaction
You are going to pay off

MsDarkSkin: I agree with the OP on this..
I am a woman and I think it's unreasonable to have a whole shopping list of the qualities you want a man to have but don't expect to do anything in return. What every woman wants is to feel secure, loved and appreciated. BUT REAL WOMEN NOT ONLY want these things but are willing to return the favor.

Why must we beg for "mr. perfection" when we are not? Hell! Some of us aren't even half decent but want "Mr. Perfect" aka "Sir do it all". I've always been a 50/50 woman and I hope I will remain that way.

My thing is "do right by me, I will do right by you". Period.

This was a curve ball from you MsDarkSkin
Smart Lady
I like the comment "do right by me, I will do right by you"

La Parisienne: Personally, I like to be treated like a Queen by my man. He's my soulmate, my best friend, my shield and my provider, all wrapped in one. As the head of our union, it's his responsibilty to care for me and to provide for me the best way he can (that's the traditional purpose for which God created the alpha male ). I know I can be high maintenace sometimes, but my man derives joy in pampering me. Now that's one hell of a responsible man who knows how to take care of his family

My duty is to love him back, respect him, appreciate his efforts, remain faithful to him and only him, help where I can and also spoil him with gifts once in a while.

I don't get it when some lame men want their women to pay 50% of their expenses, WTF
Why is she with a man then, isn't she better off alone?

Advice to the sistas: ensure that your man can take care of you, it's very important. Don't let some wimp take advantage of you

Just saying......................

Dumb B
Relationship is a partnership
It is no for you to enslave the man or woman

OP WANT d

La Parisienne: Personally, I like to be treated like a Queen by my man. He's my soulmate, my best friend, my shield and my provider, all wrapped in one. As the head of our union, it's his responsibilty to care for me and to provide for me the best way he can (that's the traditional purpose for which God created the alpha male ). I know I can be high maintenace sometimes, but my man derives joy in pampering me. Now that's one hell of a responsible man who knows how to take care of his family

My duty is to love him back, respect him, appreciate his efforts, remain faithful to him and only him, help where I can and also spoil him with gifts once in a while.

I don't get it when some lame men want their women to pay 50% of their expenses, WTF
Why is she with a man then, isn't she better off alone?

Advice to the sistas: ensure that your man can take care of you, it's very important. Don't let some wimp take advantage of you

Just saying......................

Your duty is to enslave your man
Sorry

onila: I remember when my ex pissed me off

I used the iron part of my diamond belt and hit him on his head and his back up to five times and used my ring on my finger to scratch his face

He didnt lay a hand on me, just left the house and came back a few hours later. this happened years back. I was so angry . never done it again. learnt not to allow my anger control my actions

Lucky You
You need your ass kicked
Put your hands on him
I will defend myself

queensmith[color=#990000:
]You see the problem with Nigerians, t[/color]hey are very selfish people. Everything is transactional, everything is a trade everything is a competition. Everything a gender war on who is the greater/stronger/important sex. Very tiring.

@you are obvioiusly battling with homosexual tendencies. If you have never enjoyed the company of a woman and cannot see the point of being in a relationship with one then it's about time you step out of the closet and pursue relationships with men.
A woman will offer you nothing more than you have mentioned, have sex with prostitutes, remain childless and enjoy the company of your man friend.

Good luck to you with all that.

You are a selfish woman
Who don't want to contribute but receive
Relationship for sale
dumb B
You have two hands and two legs
Men have four hands and four legs?

Mrs.Chima:
The same things men bring to the table....NOT A DAMN THING.

Women will not have any dealing with men
Who don't bring a damn thing to the table --Get real
We need to stop playing

Mrs.Chima:
The same things men bring to the table....NOT A DAMN THING.

Women will not have any dealing with men
Who don't bring a damn thing to the table --Get really
We need to stop playing

lekawo26: Sweetheart, i feel so hurt by ur utterances ..i am a mass communication graduate with a masters degree and pursuing a PhD..does that mean i do not qualify to be someone's dream man? anyways I am ALREADY someone's dream man...

Missus u r running after a pipe dream... i know many doctors I am better off and i know many "illiterates" that are more financially buoyant than I am...what matters in a relationship is that both of you have good prospects, big dreams (that you shall attain together) and can tolerate each others weaknesses. Riches does not even begin to solve ur problem. If u marry based on your criteria of "Mr. Right" u will most probably live a miserable life...#shikena

God bless you
She doesn't want to work for anything
Just come and Reap the fruits

I want, I want mentality
Me, Me, Me, Me!!!!!!!!!
What do you have to offer?
Just TOTO

luvest: Hi! I'm a christian single in search of a responsible guy for a serious relationship, the guy must be an Igbo guy btw the ages of 33 and 38 yrs based in USA nothing less. I'm sure you will like this damsel! Please email me on myfavouryear@yahoo.com, no infuriating words please cos we're all entitled to what we desire.

Must Have Master degree. lawyer or Doctor
Must be 6ft tall
Must be Igbo, well you must be under 25 yrs old

Because
she doesn't how to kiss
She is play hard to get

candytutus: I am an independent young lady, working, very pretty and light skinned. I am in my thirties and bored. I need an intimate companion. I am crazy about looks so he’s got to be tall, handsome and a working class as well. Good fashion sense is very important. I prefer mature guys in their late thirties and above. Someone who is adventurous and fun to be with. Pls forward a mail to my email:candytutus@yahoo.com

Just for the record, boys are not welcome.

Intimate Companion
You are not look for a husband so
Why are boys not welcome?
All you want is D
Dumb B

kristonium: @luckgames
read the post all overgain and u will get the real gest:a man doing the very unusual on the home front.i have come to discover that a very successful marriage is determined mostly by the man.well, this is my personal discovery and hope to be proved wrong.

Dude you got it twisted
For a Successful marriage both partners need to be unselfish
Put their family first
A man alone can't make marriage successful
Their are individual roles and responsibilities
Marriage is not Me,me, me!!!!! mentality
But it has to be we ( family- husband, wife and kids)
Life is not one size fits all

Missfoxy: I dont think so. He never really lets me know whats on his mind. I think its a done deal. I think Im starting to understand nigerian ways but its too late cause I have distanced myself and he probably think im mad at him. We both
have moved on.

Give the dude some TOTO
OK want do you want from the Dude?
Free Charge Card, lunch, Dinner and Movies
I want, I want!!!!!!!!!!!

Bad timing
Next year would have being better
He will have big problem in the south

llullipup: i will rather die than to confess

cowgurl: Well, it depends. If u c ursef as one of 'em Principled+Disciplined guys, den it's a GO but if not, DON'T DARE IT even if she's d only one wit great expertise.



"Iam very discipline when it come to a lady matters am not a loose type."

Go help the girl
Get her pregnant and keep it a secret

kristonium: Personally,

I look at a person’s life as having different levels of challenge/mastery, which are like Karate belts

White belt – Single Person
Brown belt – Married
Black belt – Married with Children

Being married with Children is the ultimate level with many challenges and tests to learn from (along with the many joys that come along with this).

Here are some key areas that have been keys to my successful marriage:

Communication
For my wife and me communication has been the KEY. You really have to talk to each other and listen to what the other person is saying. Acknowledge their feelings and make sure they feel that you understand them. Marriage is a partnership; it’s not all about you.

Acknowledgement
I see many wives who do so much to take care of their husbands, children, the household, as well as work a full time job. In many of the cases the wives are frustrated and overwhelmed. It is so important to help each other out and not be lazy. The biggest thing you can do is to at least take the time to appreciate your spouse. If you do this they will love you even more, and feel really good about doing those things. When you don’t show appreciation or help out, resentment can come in and feelings of not being supported. Every time my wife makes me a meal or does something for me I thank her and make sure I tell her how delicious the food was. She loves to cook for me because she knows it means a lot to me and she gets well appreciated.

Finances
I used to deal with all the finances in our household, but the problem was my wife had no concept of how much money we had, and how easy it was spent. Women love to buy things. Even more than guys like electronics. I know many people’s wives that spend the money as fast as they make it. The key I have found is to make the woman of the house responsible for the finances so that she relates to the money. This turned our finances from just making it by every month to saving a lot of money.

Arguments
If you have an argument or fight, don’t run off or leave things unfinished. You need to get closure and work things out. It’s ok to take a few minutes to think about things or cool down, but you don’t want to slam the door and take off in an angry burst. Feelings of anger and frustration will just grow and grow till it ruins your marriage. Don’t bottle things up, talk about it and work something out.

Compromise and Change
Couples have different things in their household life which are important, but in most cases they are small things. Things like cleaning up after your self, putting the toilet seat down, arranging the house in a certain way. Don’t resist change on these small things. I have found that if I just adapt and do the small things that are important to her it makes a huge difference. Then when there are things that are important to me I let her know and she adapts and changes to my needs. It is a give and take.

Romance
We live in a busy fast moving age. You come home, eat dinner, maybe watch TV and then go to sleep. It is too easy to loose the romance that is such a binding force for a marriage. As a guy I know it is hard to do the romantic stuff, but women NEED this. If you don’t take the time to do fun things, surprise her, do things which make her feel loved and appreciated, you’ll be in trouble. I used to give excuses about many of the holidays being so commercial and not wanting to buy into it. My wife let me get away with it for a while. The problemdidn’t that I didn’t do much in place of those holidays. In the end she sdidn’tthat she didn’t care if they were commercial holidays, and that she expected flowers, cards, gifts, surprises.

These were just some things. There is so much more. Marriage is such a beautiful and fulfilling thing. Enjoy it! Learn from it!

Dude
Lot of good points
It was all about her
What about You?
Nigerian men are bad with chores, eating out and vacations
I hope she appreciate you

llullipup: I CANT DISGRACE MY SELF WITH HER SHE IS NOT MY TYPE AND MY GAL IS MORE BEAUTIFUL AND EDUCATED THAN HER I JUST WANTED TO HELP HER . WHEN I SAW HER LASTWEEK SHE TOLD ME THAT SHE STAYING AT HOME THAT SHE IS LOOKING FOR WORK, THE FUNIEST THING IS THAT MY LEVEL HAS CHANGE I WAS NOT LIKE THIS WHEN SHE KNEW ME.

O boy
Now pussy O
D man go look the girl before you know it
O my God

wahabcoal: We've been dating for 4 years now, her love and sincererity has been obvious likewise me, i never had any person apart from her. She wants a breakup because she said when she prays for something for a week and doesnt manifest, it means God do not want her to have it, she claimed she did the same thing about US, that she didnt get anything hence terminating the relationship and she's adamant on it. We've been apart for 2months now, we communicate through text and phone call. Even if her claim is real, could God not suppport a relationship because this time around He chose to be silent about it? I need suggestions.

Sorry
She got a new man
You are history

Yes
Buy her a 9mm Gun too
So if she get mad, she can take you out

pinkstar: are the Nigerian men true.

You ask questions ,
You don't like the respond and getting mad
Ask yourself?
Are you a giver?
You love to share

Back to your posting of April 27
You want to play the field



"Today many marriages that married for Love are regretting their marriage and been married,caused by infidelity & other factors,especially,the high rate of infidelity in married men to women.Most spouse(s),have lost their life,in the fight & believe of Love and Trust.I believe so much in Love,for God is not only Love but in him to obtain True-Love.......But it is a thing of the heart and head....love and trust is all God's grace,that is sufficient & will be sufficient in homes."