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A.D.M.:
I apologize for the comment. It wasn't directed at you.

A.D.M.:
Show me proof of that. If you can't, go f[u]ck yourself. I don't where you live, not that it matters, but where I'm from, I see brothers and sisters together all the time. You just got a self-hatred bone in your body. Admit it, you sellout. You, too, 190, luckgames, and lefulefu. You mean to tell me white women don't have attitudes, whatever that means? As for dark-skinned sisters, I don't go by popularity, I go by talent. Popularity does not equal talent. Fantasia Barrino, Gabrielle Union, Kelly Rowland, I can go on.

TisaBone: u shouldn't trust men, u shud trust ur instincts

yommyismine: Am finding it difficult to trust men....pls advise me[b][/b]

TisaBone: all white men secretly yearn for midnight velvet. it's black women who every man wants. why do you think there are so many pov pornos out there, with white men giving it to a fine soul sistah? nothing compares to a black woman. black women are the goddesses of this earth. we are the original mothers.

baby-mi:
Can anyone give me some concrete and genuine reason why some men marries more than one wife?

Onegai: She can't change her husband. What's she gonna do is be patient, prayerful, more loving and communicative and super-forgiving. Catch flies with Honey mentality. Then, do village settling: run to his family.
I know everyone is gonna jump on this and shout "leave them be o, don't involve family", but when they got married, I presume he brought her home and she got approved? Good, those people who gave approval should help her. Not her family. My mum has 4 daughters in early 30s to mid-40s. She will not let them accidentally sleep in our home if they're fighting with their husbands. When one sister was fighting with her hubby and he refused her money, my mum sent some, and told her to go to his family. It was his dad that corrected him "this isn't how you treat a wife". Use village sense, it worked for our parents, not all these NL whom are part of the Fast-food mentality of changing quick-quick once wahala dey.

Wishcash: Though I feel for her but didn't she see this sturbboness when they were dating?

I hope she didn't marry out of desperation. Me I just ended a relatnship because the guy was too sturbbon and arrogant. I no want make desperatn push me go where I no go fit comot.

cshall1120: Just curious... what does this mean How is it an elderly practice??

odo_von_nestor: Going by culture the man should foot the bill for d wedding. That's d way it should be in africa culture, if he doesn't have enough he should cut to his size. Our custom demands dat a marry should take the whole responsibilty "to be a man ino easy".

That doesn't mean dat d woman should use her money in running of the family buh it must be after she has been married int the house.

But to be sincere our women ar not helping matter. Many of them ar stingy nd believe dat d man should bear evry expenses including dat of a broom in d house. Imagine a colleague told me that her wife wz sick nd he took her to d hospital. D hospital bill wz 20k nd he had only 10k wth him he had to plead wth d doctor so dat he wll bring d blanace later. To his suprise when they got home he open d hand bag d wife was carrying from hospital and saw 40k there. Buh she can't support her own hospital bill. He lamented dat d wife neva use her money to support d running of d family

May our women has a plan.

taryour: it is totally bad to borrow money for ur wedding.. Its not by force to av a big elaborate wedding n besides lots of food will b waisted were there are some ppl out there hungry and wunt even mind eating d leftovers. Cut ur cloth accordin to ur size but if u insist on a big wedding then u shouldnt av a problem dropin d 80% of d funds if u av d money,afterall d house he got n renovated is for d both of u n ur future kids. This happens only once in a life time so no big deal in carrying d expence, marriage is abt love,so if u truely love him n want him for d rest of ur life use d funds u av n a assure u he would appreciate it n cherish u forever but that dosnt mean U SHOULD PUT IT TO HIS FACE AFTER MARRIAGE THAT AFTERALL U FOOTHED ALL D BILLS WEN U AV ARGUMENTS IN UR UNION. If u ever do such then u are shame to womanhood.

dayokanu: With the Mother in law no problem as long as your Daughter in law does exactly the same to you in the next 30yrs.


Anything you do to your MIL, May your DIl do exactly the same to you.

I wonder how many women would say Amen to this prayer

phemi3: When all roads seems heading to a stumbling block n d only way out is calling it quit. Though I know there is no right time/special moment of breaking someone's heart; especially if the person is truly in love with you. My curiousity grows when my friend(girl) told me she just ended her relationship of 5yrs with a phone text message (funny isn't it). Maybe that is the reason I ended up with so many GFs! Just want to know how u pop d pop question. Or how u got d message (bang). D method being used, without much hard feelings.

kilimanjaro: Why not? 10th chance is the maximum! By then, there would be nothing to break again.

kilimanjaro: Why not? 10th chance is the maximum! By then, there would be nothing to break again.

Chimezie198: She broke my heart three good times. But i really love her,
Shuld i give her a 4th chance?

Outstrip: I wish all these men would be as vocal when a woman comes on here and says that her mother in law has been living with her for 3 years and its time for mama to leave. They will ask her if she is the one who married the man or if he married her. That is why this culture thing is bullshit to me. Always has and always will. If you are going to say that she should not whine then please drop the culture thing all together. Anyway it seems that they are not ready to get married. The man especially is not ready and he has been expressing it quite clearly

nubianqueen: I am married to an Ibo man and i am Yoruba. A few weeks to our wedding (four years ago), hubby's investment, which he had hoped will cover expenses for the wedding (house renovation et al) fell through. I put down N1.2 million to assist him. People please, it's no biggie. Let's stop all the 'my way or the high way' mentality already. What works for you doesn't necessarily have to work for me. I have no regrets whatsoever and i will do it all over again if i have to. Five months after our wedding, hubby took a loan to buy me a brand new car (his way of showing appreciation? i dunno)If you have made up your mind to spend the rest of your life with someone, then i think seeking people's opinions on the matter should not even come up. Nobody needs to know who is contributing what abeg. Per letting it get to your head? Does it get to his head when he spends money on you? why should it get to your head that you were able to help your man in his time of need? abi am i missing something? Marriage to me, is not about finding a partner to carry your financial burden for the rest of your life na?

nubianqueen: I am married to an Ibo man and i am Yoruba. A few weeks to our wedding (four years ago), hubby's investment, which he had hoped will cover expenses for the wedding (house renovation et al) fell through. I put down N1.2 million to assist him. People please, it's no biggie. Let's stop all the 'my way or the high way' mentality already. What works for you doesn't necessarily have to work for me. I have no regrets whatsoever and i will do it all over again if i have to. Five months after our wedding, hubby took a loan to buy me a brand new car (his way of showing appreciation? i dunno)If you have made up your mind to spend the rest of your life with someone, then i think seeking people's opinions on the matter should not even come up. Nobody needs to know who is contributing what abeg. Per letting it get to your head? Does it get to his head when he spends money on you? why should it get to your head that you were able to help your man in his time of need? abi am i missing something? Marriage to me, is not about finding a partner to carry your financial burden for the rest of your life na?

Taiw: if i were ur fiance, its a bye bye for me.i wonder why most nigerian ladies are so selfish.ur case is not the first.how can you tell your husband to borrow money when you have money as a wife?i sensed your fiance has noticed you are a selfish lady and that is why he said shebi.please when he dumps you, dont come back to nl and say men are wicked.learn from this.my neigbor has a husband used to be a molue driver.she had to convince her husband to stop d work cos its embarassing.she takes care of d family wit her income and the man does the house chores.and they live fine.recently she opened a shop him.my point is, we all get to a stage in life when we rely on our partners for help.

dayokanu: Ronke, the plain truth is any human who has the guts to suggest borrowing for wedding deserves worse. I would have told her worse things sef if she ventured to suggest that to me.

Most men are okay with a simple wedding and get done with it, Its usually the women that want a big wedding, And if you as the bride can see the huge unbudgeted expense I have made and my financial situation and still insist on a huge wedding or I should go borrow to finance that huge wedding. Then i think the guy didnt insult him well enough

i trust myself. Omo Oyo- Oyo mesi oro (Oyo knows the appropriate reply). I would just tell her that if we want to borrow can we use her fathers house for collateral? SIMPLE

Johnny: She came back from wherever she went and condom fell dowm from her pocket right in my presence.

jennykadry: I am a typical IGBO babe from ABIA STATE and I tell yous that the groom is supposed to pay for it all . What happens if the girl is a student? should she go and borrow from her father?

ME I AM NOT INTERESTED IN CHANGING MY CULTURAL VALUES BECAUSE OF A MAN. Thank you very much

dokunbam: Help your hubby out ☀̤̣̈̇f the situation. Woman you don't need τ̅☺ ask us here. You should know the right thing τ̅☺ do. Women ₪☺ D̶̲̥̅̊ε̲̣̣̣̥γ̲̣̣̥ won spend their own moni. Haba

MRbrownJAY: *****MBJ goes on his knees and start praying*****

[b]In the name of Jesus, I want to thank you father for sparing my life from ever meeting such ungrateful wicked women/monsters, as some of the ones portrayed on this thread. o holy father pls keep on guiding me away from these leeches and guarding me from being trapped by one of them. I give you glory for your creation, but these our sistas are just too much, obviously the evil serpent still has a hold on their minds. In your name I bind all demonic forces that have come upon their possessed minds, and I seal all of them in the protection of Your Precious Blood that was shed for us on the cross. Mary, our Mother, we seek your guidance to lead these women on the right path with the Sacred Heart of Jesus, and surround us with your mantle of love to discourage these enemies of progress to ever succeed. St. Michael and our Guardian Angels, come protect us in battle against all the evil greedy ungrateful women that roam the earth. In the Name of Jesus, I bind and command all the powers and forces of evil to depart RIGHT NOW away from the minds of these lost women, our homes and our lands. And we thank you Lord Jesus for You are a faithful and compassionate God.

let me hear you say AMEN[/b]

ronkebp: Claus i like what you have just posted here, but my question is, forget about the emergency situation, the guys rent was supposed to expire september anyways, that is, it will be a month or few weeks after his wedding. Where did he think he was going to get the money to renew his rent or get a new place?

armyofone: and how does that feed you a nice starbuck white chocolate mocha? how is it ya god damned business if i am omni centered?
phew, bruv don't make me miss playing my humvee simulation game.
Now, enjoy the rest of the day. gal gotta go for training

singing and hummming ''the potter's hand''

armyofone: lol, which one is hurting you or electrifying ya nerves now?
you said yours, i said mine so why the name calling?

i think you forgot to take your medication bruv johnny
if you would need oshuka to carry the case on ya head, ya lenge lenge neck not withstanding, let me know i can fedex one to you.

relax oh boy! relax, life is fun.

armyofone:
work hard for the money and stop complaining
work hard for the money and damn treat her right.

armyofone: You should see the current bride price and dowry for my head
but Nkem is joyous a man should be able to do everything without eyeing his lady's wallet . after marriage, yes, before marriage, nah!
OP, this guy na future kata kata, watch out.

He that findeth a good lady, findeth joy from the Lord.
i forget the chapter and v, no ask me.