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Praise be to Allaah.

Firstly

Suicide is a major sin. The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) stated that the one who commits suicide will be punished with something like that with which he killed himself.

See the answer to question no. 70363

Secondly

There are known signs of puberty for both males and females. The male reaches puberty when one of three things happens: emission of maniy (semen), growth of pubic hair or reaching the age of fifteen years according to the Hijri calendar, which is a few months before reaching the age of fifteen according to the Gregorian calendar.

In females, puberty is reached when these three signs occur; in addition to that there is a fourth sign, namely menstruation.

It is not stipulated that all of these signs should appear; rather when one of them appears that is sufficient to rule that the individual has reached puberty.


Thirdly

Accountability is waived for the child who has not yet reached puberty, until he reaches that stage, because of the report narrated by Abu Dawood (4403) and at-Tirmidhi (1423) from ‘Ali (may Allah be pleased with him), that the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “The Pen has been lifted from three: from the sleeper until he awakens, from the child until he reaches puberty and from the insane person until he comes to his senses.”

Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Irwa’ al-Ghaleel, 2/4, no. 297

In al-Mawsoo‘ah al-Fiqhiyyah (8/196) it says:

A person becomes accountable for fulfilling obligatory duties and refraining from haraam actions when he or she reaches puberty; one who has not reached puberty is not accountable … and (one who has not reached puberty) is not subject to qisaas (retaliatory punishments) and hadd punishments, such as those for stealing and slander. However, it is permissible for him to be disciplined. End quote.



A person from whom the Pen has been lifted because he is insane or is a minor is not subject to qisaas (retaliatory punishment) if he injures or kills someone, whether the minor had reached the age of discernment or not, because the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “The Pen has been lifted from three: from the child until he reaches puberty, from the insane person until he comes to his senses and from the sleeper until he awakens.”

End quote from al-Haawi al-Kabeer, 12/181

Ibn Qudaamah (may Allah have mercy on him) said: A minor is not to be executed (in the case of apostasy), regardless of whether we say that his apostasy is valid or not, because the child is not subject to punishment, on the basis that the rulings on adultery and theft and other crimes that are subject to hadd punishments are not applicable to him to him and he cannot be executed in a retaliatory punishment (qisaas).

End quote from al-Mughni, 10/62

Based on that, there is no punishment in the Hereafter for a child if he does something before the age of puberty, which is attained when one of the signs mentioned above appears.

https://islamqa.info/en/177657

Praise be to Allah

Firstly:

The scholars differed concerning the relationship between Zakariyya and Maryam (peace be upon them both). There are two views:

i. That he was the husband of her sister

ii. That he was the husband of her maternal aunt.



It was narrated that Zakariyya (peace be upon him) was also one of the paternal cousins of Maryam (peace be upon her), in addition to being the husband of her maternal aunt or sister. See: al-Hidaayah by Makki (2/999).

Secondly:

Allah, may He be glorified and exalted, has told us about Zakariyya’s sponsorship (kafaalah) of Maryam, as He said (interpretation of the meaning):

“So her Lord accepted her with good acceptance and caused her to grow in a good manner and put her in the care [kaffalaha] of Zechariah [Zakariyya]”

[Aal ‘Imraan 3:37].

What is meant by kafaalah [sponsorship or taking care] is that he looked after her affairs and needs. Kafaalah includes taking care of the interests of the Conclusion:

It was narrated that Zakariyya was one of the paternal cousins of Maryam, and he was the husband of her sister or maternal aunt. He was her sponsor (kaafil), meaning that he used to take care of her needs and look after her.



https://islamqa.info/en/275330

Rashduct4luv:
May Allah pardon us for our past. Dating/courtship has polluted us to the extent that we almost can't stop doing it. It's haram. This is the truth according to Sunnah of our Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam. We hear and we obey! Only Islam can bring sanity to the world!

May Allah forgive us all

Ruling on speaking to one's fiancee

https://www.nairaland.com/4270799/ruling-speaking-ones-fiancee

Praise be to Allaah.

It is not permissible except in a case where both parties trust one another and where the parents agree to the marriage and have no objections. In this case it is acceptable for them to speak to one another in a normal manner, discussing matters of life that concern them. But if they know that their parents do not agree to that, then it is not permissible for them to speak to one another in this case.

Shaykh ‘Abd-Allaah ibn Jibreen.

The fiancée is still a non-mahram woman and speaking to her is still speaking to a non-mahram woman, so it must be done properly and only as much as is necessary, such as agreeing on specific matters to do with after they get married. Attention must also be paid to the following:

1 – It must be done with the agreement of the woman’s guardian and with no objection on his part to the marriage.

2 – The talk should not involve anything that may provoke desire or cause temptation.

3 – There should be no other way of telling her what he wants to say, such as through his sister or her brother, or by letter.

4 – It should not go beyond what is essential.

And Allaah is the Source of strength.

https://islamqa.info/en/13704

Don't say because truth is bitter and tell lies

Sunanul-Fitrah (Innate practices)

https://www.nairaland.com/4270794/sunanul-fitrah-innate-practices

Sunanul Fitrah (Innate Practices)

_Alhamdulillah wasalatu wasalaam ‘ala rasulillah_

Fitrah means the design of Allaah according to which He has created mankind. It is that when they are done, it is in accordance with the natural pattern on which Allaah made mankind and urged them to follow, so that they will be better and more perfect. This word (fitrah) was mentioned in the Quran and Hadith. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): “So set your face steadily and truly to the Faith: (establish) Allaah’s handiwork according to the pattern (fitrah) on which He has made mankind: no change (let there be) in the work (wrought) by Allaah: that is the standard Religion: but most among mankind understand not.” Q30:30. Al-Tabari (may Allaah have mercy on him) said in his Tafseer: “Fitrah: the deen (way or religion) of Allaah.” - Al-Tabari’s tafseer (commentary) of the aayah (interpretation of the meaning): “[Iblees said] ‘…and indeed I will order them to change the nature created by Allaah.’” Q4:119.

Abu Hurayrah said: “The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: ‘Five things are part of the fitrah: removing the pubic hair, circumcision, trimming the moustache, plucking the armpit hairs, and trimming the nails.” al-jamaa’ah. And it is reported on the authority of Zakariyah ibn Abi’ Zaa’idah, from Mus’ab Ibn Shaybah, from Talq ibn Habeeb, from Ibn az-Zubayr, from Aa’isha (Radiya ‘Llahu ‘anha) that she said “Allah’s Messenger (Sallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam) said: “There are ten things which are part of al-fitrah: Trimming the moustache, growing the beard, using the siwaak, istinshaaq (sniffing water into the nostrils for the purpose of cleaning) with water, clipping the nails, washing the finger joints (and in between them), plucking the armpit hair, shaving the pubic region and cleaning the private parts after excretion.” Zakariya said: ‘Mus’ab said: “I have forgotten the tenth thing, unless it was Madmadah.” (I.e. rinsing the mouth with water). Muslim, Abu Daawood, Tirmidhi Nasaa’I and Ibn Maajah.

*Do you know that…

* Fitrah is the ancient sunnah (way) which was followed by all the Prophets and which was enjoined by all the laws they brought. It is a natural and innate way. (Al-Shawkaani, Nayl al-Awtaar, Baab Sunan al-Fitrah). And Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): “… it is the religion of your father Ibraaheem…” Q 22:78. He also warn those who disobey His Messenger, saying: “Let those who disobey his command beware lest they are subjected to a Fitnah or a painful torment.” Q24:63

* Forty days (of the last cutting) is the specified a time limit within which people should cut their nails, shave their pubic hair, pluck their armpit hair and trim their moustaches. Anas (may Allaah be pleased with him), who was the servant of the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “He set a time for us to trim our moustaches, cut our nails, pluck our armpit hair and shave our pubic hair; we were not to leave that for more than forty days.” Narrated by Imaam Muslim in al-Saheeh (258). It was also narrated by Imaam Ahmad (11823) and by al-Nasaa’i (14), Majmoo’ Fataawa wa Maqaalaat Mutanawwi’ah li Samaahat al-Shaykh Ibn Baaz (may Allaah have mercy on him), 10/50.

* Clipping the nails is one of the Sunan al-Fitrah, as is indicated by the saheeh ahaadeeth, and it is mustahabb to start on the right, because it is proven in Saheeh al-Bukhaari (163) that ‘Aa’ishah (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) used to like to start on the right when putting on shoes, combing his hair, purifying himself and in all his affairs. al-Majmoo’ (1/339), Sharh Saheeh Muslim (3/149), Tarh al-Tathreeb (2/77). And there is no proven hadeeth about the order of fingers when cutting the nails. … Ibn Daqeeq al-Eid rejected the order mentioned by al-Ghazaali and those who followed him, and he said: There is no basis for any of that, and to suggest that it is mustahabb when there is no evidence for that is abhorrent in my view. If anyone were to suggest that it is mustahabb to start with the right forefinger because of its honourable status, there is no basis for the rest of this sequence. Yes there is a basis for starting with the right hand and the right foot, which is “he liked to start on the right.” Ibn Hajar said in Fath al-Baari (10/345).

* Circumcision is an obligation for men and an honour, not an obligation, for women. Al-Bukhaari (6298) and Muslim (2370) narrated that Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Ibraaheem (peace be upon him) circumcised himself when he was eighty years old, and he circumcised himself with an adze.” And Allaah (Subhanahu wa ta’ala) said to His Prophet (Sallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam): “Then we sent the Revelation to you [O Muhammad, saying]: “Follow the true Religion of Ibraaheem…” Q16: 123. Ibn Qudaamah (may Allaah have mercy on him) said in his book al-Mughni: “Circumcision is an obligation for men and an honour, not an obligation, for women.” This is the opinion of a number of scholars. And it is preferred that the circumcision be performed on the seventh day after the birth, according to the hadeeth of Jaabir (Radiya ‘Llahu ‘anhu), where he states that: “Allaah’s Messenger (Sallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam) held the aqeeqah of Al-Hasan and Al-Husayn and circumcised them on the seventh day.” At-Tabaraani – Al-Ma’jam as-Sagheer

* Growing the beard is obligatory and shaving it is forbidden, because it entails changing Allaah’s creation and it is one of the deeds of Satan, who said: “And I will surely order them to change the creation of Allaah….” Q4:119. The Sunnah of the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) indicates that it is obligatory to let the beard grow and that it is haraam to shave it or cut it. It was narrated in al-Saheehayn that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Cut the moustache and let the beard grow; be different from the mushrikeen.” al-Bukhaari, al-Libaas, 5442; Muslim, al-Tahaarah, 382, Kitaab al-Libaas wa’l-Zeenah, 2102). It is also the sunnah to take care of the beard. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) recommended combing hair, and said, “Whoever has hair, let him take care of it.” (Abu Dawood, Kitaab al-Tarajjul, 3632. Al-Albaani said in Saheeh Sunan Abi Dawood: it is hasan saheeh. Hadeeth no. 3509). Fataawa al-Lajnah al-Daa’imah, 5/133

* The Siwaak means cleaning the mouth and teeth with a siwaak (a stick or twig used for this purpose). Siwaak is a method of cleaning the mouth which also earns the pleasure of Allaah, as is proven in the hadeeth of ‘Aa’ishah (may Allaah be pleased with her) who said: “The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said, ‘Siwaak cleanses the mouth and pleases the Lord.’” al-Bukhaari in his Saheeh, 2/274, Ahmad, 6/47, and al-Nisaa’i, 1/50. Its isnaad is saheeh, see al-Irwa’ 1/105). Use of the siwaak is repeatedly encouraged, as in the hadeeth of Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him), who reported that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Were it not for the fact that I did not want to make things too hard for my ummah, I would have commanded them to use the siwaak at every time of prayer.” (Reported by al-Bukhaari, 2/299 and Muslim, 1/151). According to another report narrated by al-Bukhaari, he said: “…at every time of making wudoo’.” It is recommended at all times of night and day; when making wudoo’ and at times of prayer, when entering one’s home to be with one’s family, when getting up from sleep, when the smell of one’s mouth changes, when going to the mosque, when reading Qur’aan etc. al-Bukhaari, 1/98, 2/299 and Muslim, 1/220, 1/151.

http://fiqhclass.org/index.php/2017/07/03/sunanul-fitrah-innate-practices-2-of-2/
http://fiqhclass.org/index.php/2017/07/03/sunanul-fitrah-innate-practices-1-of-2/

May Allaah grant us understanding

sorextee:
Op, wen next u want to write nice post like this, make it short and simple. U know we Nigerians are lazy readers. I guess those derailing d thread couldn't read it all cos its too long. They only commenting based on d topic.

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bloodmoneyspita:
smoy and muhajid777 will not see this and believe this, habbey99 decided to visit maclatunji without the lukgaf let's be more tolerant of itstutsi and then we can become rashduct4luv

What do u mean by this?

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MostBanned:
I believe you

As ur name implies, u sud be banned

Constituted Authority, you n ur family re receiving urself

MostBanned:
[s]"I believe that there no god/God but Allah."
"I believe that Muhammad is God's Holy Prophet."
"I believe that Islam is the Only True Religion."
"lā ʾilāha ʾillā-llāh, muhammadun rasūlu-llāh."[/s]

You are dense. Better:

Believe that Muhammad is God's Holy Prophet."
believe that Islam is the Only True Religion."
"lā ʾilāha ʾillā-llāh, muhammadun rasūlu-llāh. Before it is late

AlBaqir:
# You mean, "you the Wahabi"?! For a fact, you are just one voice out of many. You can not impose your interpretation upon other interpretations.

We are not Wahhabi AlBaqir take note. We follow the steps of the prophet SoLalahu Alas wosalam. We disregard any error said by anybody irrespective of the status once not inline with wat Rosul said. And even our sheikh understand that. We are not suffi that just take things ignorantly without asking the evidences

orion7:
you listen yourself, whts the difference between a niqab and a hijab? nothing. if you allow hijab, what about those that want to wear niqab isn't it the same human right? enough said

But it will be more better they use hijab rather leaving their hair open which is totally bad. At least we start from somewhere

Fighting Temptations on TV and internet

https://www.nairaland.com/4247543/islamic-ways-fighting-temptations-tv

Question:

I am a young man who is, unfortunately, tempted by satellite channels and internet sites to such a degree that I have fallen far short in religious matters. I hope that you can help me and pray for me to be guided. May Allaah reward you.

Answer:


Praise be to Allaah, and blessings and peace be upon the Messenger of Allaah.
We ask Allaah to guide you, and to ward off evil and immorality from you, and to make you one of His sincerely-devoted slaves. For Allaah may delay but He never forgets. How can you be sure that when Allaah sees you committing this sin, He is not going to say, “By My Glory and Majesty, I will not forgive you”?

Look at these physical faculties with which you are committing sin. Do you not see that Allaah is able to deprive you of their blessings and to cause you the pain of losing them?

Then look at how Allaah has concealed you (your sin) and has been patient and forbearing with you. You know about His protective jealousy over His slaves, so how can you be sure that He will not become angry with you and expose your affairs, so that people will come to know your secrets and you will suffer scandal in this world before the Hereafter?

Will you get anything from haraam (unlawful) looks apart from grief, misery and darkness in the heart?

Even if you feel some pleasure for a day or two, or for a month or a year… what will come after that?

Death… then the grave… then the Reckoning… then torment, when all pleasure will vanish and only sorrow will remain.

If you feel ashamed to let your brother see you committing this sin, then how can you think of Allaah as the least important of those who watch you?

Do you not know that Allaah can see you, and that His angels are recording your deeds, and that tomorrow (i.e., on the Day of Resurrection) your own limbs will speak of what used to happen?

Think about what will become of you after you sin: worry and distress in the heart, alienation between you and Allaah, loss of humility… you give up praying at night (qiyaam al-layl)… you forsake fasting… Tell me, by your Lord, what is this life worth?

Every time you look at these devilish screens, a black spot appears on your heart, until it is covered with layers of blackness, then by the raan (stain) which overwhelms the heart, and deprives you of the pleasure of obeying Allaah and of the sweetness of faith.

The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “When a slave commits a sin, a black spot appears on his heart. But if he give it up, seeks forgiveness and repents, his heart will be cleansed, but if he repeats it, (the blackness) will increase until it overwhelms his heart. This is the raan which Allaah mentions: ‘Nay! But on their hearts is the Raan (covering of sins and evil deeds) which they used to earn’ [al-Mutaffifeen 83:14 – interpretation of the meaning].”

(Narrated by al-Tirmidhi, 3257; Ibn Maajah, 4234; classed as hasan (sound) by al-Albaani in Saheeh Ibn Maajah, 3422).

So be among those who give up sin, seek forgiveness and repent. Beseech Allaah frequently to purify your heart and protect your chastity, and to grant you refuge from the traps of the Shaytaan.

Avoid everything that may call you to haraam things or remind you of them, if you are sincere and really want to repent.

Hasten to get this (satellite) dish out of your house, and cut your connection to these bad sites on the internet. Note that the best means of helping yourself give up the haraam things that you have gotten used to is to nip it in the bud, and ward off every thought of looking that crosses your mind, before it becomes a desire, wish or intention, and then an action.

Al-Ghazzaali (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: “If the first inward thought is not warded off, it will generate a desire, then the desire will generate a wish, and the wish will generate an intention, and the intention will generate the action, and the action will result in ruin and divine wrath. So evil must be cut off at its root, which is when it is simply a thought that crosses the mind, from which all the other things follow on.” (Ihyaa’ ‘Uloom al-Deen, 6/17).

This is based on the words of Allaah (interpretation of the meaning):

“O you who believe! Follow not the footsteps of Shaytaan (Satan). And whosoever follows the footsteps of Shaytaan (Satan), then, verily, he commands Al-Fahsha’ [i.e. to commit indecency (illegal sexual intercourse)], and Al-Munkar [disbelief and polytheism (i.e. to do evil and wicked deeds; and to speak or to do what is forbidden in Islam)]”

[al-Noor 24:21]

If you can do without the Internet altogether, then go ahead and do that, until you feel that your heart and your faith are stronger.

Strive to find righteous friends, strive to perform all the prayers on time, and do a lot of naafil (voluntary) acts of worship. Avoid being alone and thinking about haraam things as much as possible.

Sincerity in seeking treatment opens the door to good, and closes the door to evil.

We ask Allaah to enable us and you to repent sincerely.

And Allaah knows best.

https://islamqa.info/en/26985

Rashduct4luv:
Moderate (as an adjective) means average in amount, intensity, quality or degree!


Moderation in Islam means that one does not exaggerate and go beyond the limit set by Allaah, and that one does not neglect it and fall short of the limit set by Allaah.
Moderation in religion means following the example of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him). Exaggeration means trying to do more than he did, and negligence means not reaching that level.

For example, a man says, “I want to spend all night in prayer (qiyaam al-layl), and never sleep all my life, because prayer is one of the best acts of worship, so I want to spend the entire night in prayer.” We say, this is going to extremes in the religion of Allaah, and this is not right. Something like this happened at the time of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), when a group of men got together and one of them said, “I will pray at night and never sleep.” Another said, “I will fast and never break my fast.” The third one said, “I will never marry women.” News of that reached the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and he said, “What is wrong with people who say such and such? I fast and I break my fast. I sleep, and I marry women. Whoever overlooks my Sunnah does not belong to me.” These people had gone to extremes in religion, and so the Messenger (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) disowned them, because they overlooked his Sunnah which includes fasting and not fasting, praying at night and sleeping, and marrying women.
The one who is falling short is one who says, “I do not need to do voluntary (naafil) actions, so I will not do them. I will only do the fard actions. He may even be falling short in the fard actions, so this person is lacking.
The moderate person is one who follows the path of the Messenger (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and his rightly-guided successors (al-Khulafaa’ al-Raashidoon).

Another example: three men are faced with an immoral man. One of them says, “I will not greet this immoral man and I will boycott him, keep away from him and not speak to him.”
The second one says, “I will go with this immoral man, greet him and smile at him. I will invite him to my place and accept his invitation. He is just like any righteous man to me.”
The third one says, “I hate this immoral man for his immoral actions, but I love him for his faith. I will not boycott him unless doing so is in his best interests. If there is nothing to be gained by boycotting him, and if that will only increase him in his immorality, then I will not boycott him.”
We say that the first man is going to extremes, the second is negligent and the third is moderate.

The same applies to all other acts of worship and dealings with others. People vary between extremism, negligence and moderation.

A third example: A man is a prisoner of his wife, who directs him as she wishes and he does not stop her from committing sin, or urge her to do good. She has taken over his reason and has become the one who is in charge of him.
Another man treats his wife in a harsh, arrogant and high-handed manner. He does not care about her and regards her as less than a servant.
A third man is moderate in his dealings with his wife, as Allaah and His Messenger commanded.
“And they (women) have rights (over their husbands as regards living expenses) similar (to those of their husbands) over them (as regards obedience and respect) to what is reasonable”
[al-Baqarah 2:228 – interpretation of the meaning]
[The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:] “Let no believing man hate a believing woman. If he dislikes one of her characteristics he will be pleased with another.”
This last man is the one who is moderate. The second one is extreme in his dealings with his wife, and the first is falling short.

The same applies to all other deeds and acts of worship.

Majmoo’ Fataawa wa Rasaa’il li Fadeelat al-Shaykh Muhammad ibn Saalih al-‘Uthaymeen, vol. 1, p. 42

IN SUMMARY

Whatever is in accordance with sharee’ah is moderate; whatever exceeds that is extreme and whatever falls short of that is laxity. The standard in all cases is sharee’ah and the meaning of moderation is that which is in accordance with the sharee’ah. Whatever is in accordance with sharee’ah is moderate. And Allah knows best

May Allah grant us understanding!

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Jazakumlah Khaeran.

ShaheedBinAliyu and AlBaqir. Hope you read this. Take things easy with your brothers. May Allah grant us better understanding

Rashduct4luv:
May Allah bless us and our wives. May He provide righteous wives for all those still searching. May He grant us risq, hiqmah and hidaya.

we ask for pious children for those Muslims still searching for the fruit of the womb.

Grant us the best in this world and in the after-world and prevent from us (with our family) from Hell.

Aamin

Amin sheikh

38 reasons why Jesus is not God


https://www.nairaland.com/4240586/38-reasons-why-jesus-not#63504653

This should reach first page Mods pls

orion7:
if she can't practise law, she should go and become a trader in bodija $market. at least no one will bother her even if she wears niqab

Don't talk like this bro. Reason like a graduate now

Praise be to Allah

The husband is obliged to spend on his wife’s maintenance, on a reasonable basis, because Allah, may He be exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning):

“Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has made one of them to excel the other, and because they spend (to support them) from their means”

[an-Nisa; 4:34]

“Let the rich man spend according to his means, and the man whose resources are restricted, let him spend according to what Allah has given him. Allah puts no burden on any person beyond what He has given him”

[at-Talaq 65:7].

It was narrated that Mu‘awiyah al-Qushayri (may Allah be pleased with him) said: I said: O Messenger of Allah, what are the rights of the wife of one of us over him? He said: “That you feed her as you feed yourself, clothe her as you clothe yourself, do not strike the face, do not disgrace her and if you want to shun her (by way of disciplining her) do not leave home.”

Narrated by Abu Dawood (2142) and Ibn Majah (1850); classed as saheeh by al-Albani in Saheeh Abi Dawood.

This has been discussed previously in fatwa no. 145722

If the husband fails to spend on his wife’s maintenance, then she has the choice of leaving him or putting up with him.

If she chooses to put up with him, in the hope that he will change, if he is withholding her maintenance out of miserliness and stinginess, or until his financial situation improves, if he is not well off, then she is not obliged to allow him to be intimate with her.

Ash-Shirazi ash-Shaafi‘i said in al-Muhadhdhab fi Fiqh al-Imam ash-Shaafi‘i (3/155):

If she chooses to stay after he becomes unable to spend on her, she is not obliged to allow him to be intimate with her, and she may leave his house, because allowing intimacy is in return for maintenance, so it is not obligatory when there is no maintenance. End quote.

Muhammad Najeeb al-Mutee‘i said in his Sharh (20/169):

If it is proven that the husband is no longer able to spend on her, she has the choice of three options: she may annul the marriage; she may stay with him and allow him to be intimate with her, and it is her right that she should spend on her whatever he is able to spend; or she may remain married to him, without having to allow him to be intimate with her – rather she may leave his house, because allowing intimacy is only obligatory upon her when he spends on her maintenance, but he is not doing so in this case, but she is not entitled to maintenance when she is keeping herself away from him, because maintenance is only enjoined in return for allowing intimacy, but in this case she is not allowing him to be intimate with her. End quote.

Al-Bahooti (may Allah have mercy on him) said in Kashshaf al-Qina‘ (5/477):

She has the right to remain in the marriage and not allow him to be intimate with her, so she does not have to allow intimacy or reside in his house, and he must not detain her; rather he should let her earn money, even if she is well off, because he has not given her anything in return for intimacy with her. End quote.

However we should draw the wife’s attention to the fact that refusing intimacy with the aim of making him mend his ways, correcting his behaviour and the like is a means of amending and correcting someone’s behaviour in which attention should be paid to the husband’s condition and character, and the negative outcomes that may result from that, as well as the hoped-for benefits. It may make some husbands escalate the quarrel and become stubborn and get angry with his wife if she does such a thing, and he would forget his own shortcomings and the wife’s aim of reforming him, to the point that he ends up destroying the marriage.

So be very careful, lest you make matters worse between yourself and your husband when you are trying to put things right. Look carefully at your husband’s situation and what you think will have a positive impact on him; if you have a right over him, be wise and prudent in exercising your rights.

And Allah knows best.

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