₦airaland Forum

labelle123:
Spare the rod and spoil the child. Africans parents need to augment in their training of child to reduce all the social vices we are having in our communities especially in the area of a boy child. The boy child should be a priority too like the girl child. As for me, I stopped receiving beating at age 15

Offpoint:
It's actually spelled *PESTEL*

NewDelhi:
When it comes to use of cane, belt, etc, they stopped when I was 12-13.

But physical fight continued till 19-20. Generally when a child clocks 14 and above or when puberty sets in he begins to feel he's above flogging. That's why you try to flog some kids and they hold the cane or restrict you from flogging then.. . I don follow my papa fight gidigbo before... E stubborn with him outdated mentality me sef I stubborn with my newage mentality.

From 21 to over 30 years now we just shout at each other on the phone when there's any disagreement.

Generally I think this African idea of flogging or physically assaulting a child is pure stupidity and inhumane. If you raise a child like an animal, then expect him to behave like an animal. Children like that end up being child abusers and wife beaters. There are different ways to correct a child, physical assault shouldn't be an option.

Stop promoting abusive parenting, kids that went through such will also want to use same method on their own kids too and the cycle continues.

Cc stonemasonn

cooooooks:
11 or 12. Or maybe I was 10 going to 11.

stayclearofme:
Yes...

magicminister:
Thanks for being respectful!
Often times, when i engage peope here, they resort to insult and personal attacks.
So, probs to you!

While i am not against using the rod in cases of extreme misconduct, i still maintain that the punished meted in that video does not fit the misdeed.
Her only "crime" was not heeding to the words of her parents. That can easily be corrected by withdrawing privileges.
Take away the phone, take away the laptop and see if it will not have a humbling effect.

Farki:
Are politicians and police not part of the society? Shouldn't the beatings have shaped them into not stealing public funds or harassment, extortion and unlawful killings of civilians?

All this talk about "moral values" yet Africans especially Nigerians are a global laughing stock known for corruption, stagnation and barbarity.

The global black community can keep deceiving themselves but the result is clear, this doesn't do jack anyone who thinks Africans have better morals than anywhere else is plain and simple deceiving themselves.

The same Africans will still run to the "less moral" countries because they know they will get their salaries on time and won't be killed for rituals.

If you replace "daughter" with "wife" watch as everyone here turns on the man and insults him because usual flogging is not done out of a desire to correct but because the person doing it wants to vent his anger on something.

Image123:
You've not proferred a better solution. The so called 5G children in 100G countries who have never been spanked are no better.

redsun:
They are better because most of them don't need beating, the Quran or the bible to be rational and morally upright. They are better because they effortlessly adapt and fit into the shoes and agendas of the preceding generations. They are structured to carry the baton by being reasonable and tactical and not by being irrational and violent to vulnerable people

There is nothing macho or corrective about beating defenceless people, it is sheer foolishness and the height of mental instability.

cooooooks:
Reminds me of the Egyptian dad who killed his 2 daughters for 'dating white guys'. Bear in mind that their mom is white o.

This their father is the same man who beat them with belt, locked them in their rooms, tried to marry them off in Egypt and always commented on their appearance.

Be careful of overzealous parenting.

stayclearofme:
Lol.... ...yes I did but not excessively.

redsun:
I didn't see that video earlier. It Is utterly distasteful and if that happened in a country where the system is rational, that animal of a father will be locked up tor a long time and will never set eyes on that young lady again.

cooooooks:
Please ask them o.

So no armed robbers or killers in Nigeria were flogged by their parents shebi?

SERAP should investigate if this man has assaulted his kids. Physically and otherwise.

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redsun:
That is why the country is full of mad and unreasonable people. They teach children from birth that violence is the best way of resolving issues and expect them to be rational when they are adults.

Even wild chimps don't beat their young ones to teach them lessons. Very few cannibalistic creatures do, including a foolish man.

Farki:
How is it off point when you said the gun violence in America is the result of a lack of beating, when in Nigeria where we beat, we have similar or even worse problems with less access to firearms?

mariahAngel:
"I know book"

kingxsamz:
Lol, @bolded is not what a bright person would say, but ok.
Actually no one is here to compare intelligence with you, your way of reasoning from your comments already shows how 'not so bright' you are.



Can you see why I said you're not so bright?
According to you, child abuse is not termed by the violent act itself but by the object being used to carry out that act.

"It's only a belt, therefore it's okay to beat the child to stupor since the belt won't kill him".
That's exactly what you're saying.

Well, ignorant folks like you cannot be reasoned with or engaged with in constructive conversations, because you always want to feel right.
Goodnight.

vickydevoka:
U suppose know as en de be na.
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kingxsamz:
I didn't expect any intelligent response from you.
Typical Nigerian folk.
I asked you a simple question.
Would it still be termed discipline if the child died in the process?
Should I start pulling out previous news of physical abuse by parents, step mothers and guardians that led to death, or extreme injuries?
And what has clout chasing got to do with this discussion?
You see, you're not that bright.

futurism:
My brother, you sound someone that is too calculative in everything you do. But the downside of such is that you can end up making up things that doesn't exist.

See you were thinking u won't have or make money when you ended it but here you are with an improvement.

I used be like that but I found out that over thinking things can be detrimental to our lives more than we realize it.

Don't over think it. Just do it. Don't go with your friends yet. Call or chat her up and indirectly or playfully ask the questions to find out if she is getting married soon but if you don't know how do that such that it won't be obvious, then find another way to do it.

Or better still meet her one on one, at a private place and trash everything like a man.

vickydevoka:
Lol. Na opera o

magicminister:
What do you mean bro? We have terrorism, kidnapping, pervasive rape culture, corruption and so much more!!

Clearly, our style of upbringing is not working!!!! Come on!! We have to try something different. Average Nigerian kid only complies with their parents cos they don’t want to get whipped. That is slavery!!! Then when they leave the parents home, they turn into the very deceptive monsters the parents turned them to.

They go to church, cry to God and smile at every one then go back home and rape a child, then kidnap someone, then loot billions, then bomb people.... then ...

Farki:
So all the cultism, herdsmen killings, abuse by soldiers and police, assaulting of shop owners by politicians are what?

Keep deceiving yourself there, if Nigeria had the same gun culture as the US we would all be killing each other over every petty disagreement.

stayclearofme:
I bet my children should be older than you...and they are well trained.

kingxsamz:
Would you have said this if the headline read "Girl dies after dad beats her for joining a whatsapp group"?
I await your response.

magicminister:
The average Nigerian child experiences their first abuse in the hands of those that should protect them. I might get insulted for this but ever wondered why the average Nigerian is so aggressive? If you disagree with them, they retort to insults? Even wondered why the average Nigerian is very afraid of telling the truth?

It all boils down to upbringing like this. Children are individuals with minds of their own and the best way to raise a child is to win that mind over with any means but intimidation and force.


As far as I am concerned, this is child abuse! The child will agree with the dad cos she has no choice..... logic and reasoning and confidence dies the moment you resort to instilling this type of discipline!

stayclearofme:
Guy while I am not against discipling a child...too much of it is very bad and inhuman....to me what the father did is pure child abuse! There are better ways to correct a child especially at certain age.

kingxsamz:
Wow, the rate of nudity just decreased to %0 because of this video.

Maybe when you have children and someone beats your child this way and he/she dies in the process, you'll come online to tell us he/she was only being disciplined. Clown.

Zoie:
You done?

madridsta007:
Then she hasnt actually moved on.
They do not come back if they get to that point where they have mentally moved on.

SweetCunt97:
Aaaawww, congratulations. Your hubby is a real man. Not all these ones bleating like underfed goats everyday here.

God bless your new home.