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MadeINchenzen2:
@ luminouz | what's your take?

Lol...I'm not married bro/sis...


When I do, I'll actively contribute but for now,lemme just watch y'all

Palema007:
You supposed no pay dowry.... Most men won't mind preparing meals or doing it together with their fiancees but once they are Married entering Kitchen becomes an abomination for them. Then you wonder what the deceit for.


Lol I mimic you ooo

Martinez39s:
I think it's actually a victory for women. It's a victory brought about by gynocentrism. The simps over there think a man must provide for and pamper his women. In order to be "progressive," not "misogynistic," and in support of feminism, they believe men must take part in the chores and not leave it to women even if the man is doing all the providing. I kid you not.

Saying that a woman should perform some traditional roles will raise serious eyebrows over there. Not only that, the marital laws can make a woman insist that she isn't doing any chores or that the man do much of chores and other things. The man has to comply or face the divorce courts. Women there wield so much power over men; women there have it so easy. I hate simps.

The women pretending like it's not victory are being disingenuous. They know that stat doesn't mean men aren't providing. Men are providing and still doing the chores.

GBAM!!!

Martinez39s:
This is serious.

I am doing well. I didn't feel the lockdown one bit.


Have you seen the suffering of our western men who are married provider simps?

Now that picture is just so fuqin sad!!!

Yet, these peeps call it gender equality...these US men are really suffering

Palema007:
It's a two way thing, Men do it too. They stop being caring, permissive, enduring,Nice, Respectful, understanding and compromising. After wedding most Men dust off the prince charming suites and take up the DICTATOR Garment. They stop being considerate and demand they be worshipped and answered to at Beck and calls. Things they didn't do during courtship. I believe it's just Humans nature to relax guards after getting what they want, the only problem is Men point accusing fingers when they are given dose of their medicine and paint Women of what they themselves are guilty of.

Stop making this one gender thing, both are guilty.

Dictator garment?

So its dictatorship to ask for respect and good food in your own house from a woman you paid her dowry?

Are you...are you, are you...nörmal?

cooooooks:
They stopped because it had no effect.

If I had cried, they would continued because they may have felt that there was an effect.

By expecting people to cry, you acknowledge that this is just an avenue to meet out barbaric pain.

Yinmu...it had premium effect and you shed ultra premium tears and stopped stealing mummy's meats inside pot...so they left you be.

cooooooks:
My parents didn't flog me like as if they were mad. In my entire life, my dad flogged me maybe 2 or 3 times.

Furthermore, I was one of their first children. They learned from how they raised us and didn't flog my younger ones.

I don't think my younger siblings were ever flogged tbh.

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Those 3 times moulded you so case closed. I bet you cried like a little geh after being caned.

lefulefu:
hope its not luminouz

Lmaoooo...

Olamila:
This is totally out of it because i never ask her anything i told they are richer doesn't mean they're wealthy be mindful of the words u use after all over 5 yrs i have never taken 5k from her im not poor i tried to be contented

Lmaoooo...continue lying

lefulefu:
u should count urself lucky
many guys are looking for girls who will depend on them cos such girls are more submissve
unlike the dependent girls who are desrespectful and feminist

Na conc.liar be that guy...

yomi007k:
Is it not already ending in tears for you?


Stop living in denial.

You believe that shaméless liar

He is looking to generate traffic...

Another crying Freeman...

Hedonisco:
Oyinbo leading the way as usual, while clueless black Africa continues to wallow in the stone age.

What have you done but complain upandan?
No be the same human being you be?

lastclaire4:
No support bad thing. The gender thing is not balanced at all over there. The women go to farm while the man is at home trying wrapper. When the woman comes back she will cook and when it is bed time, the man will untie his wrapper and knack. The women look older than their husband. In some extreme cases the man will marry more wives and they take it in turn to feed the man. Bride price there is not expensive.

I pray your life doesnt look like a typical south south man.

I served in Delta. Isoko nation precisely. You talked true sis. The married women look older than the men, who by the way play ludo very early in the morning, drink ogogoro till evening and when month end comes,they fight over shell/chevron/agip community allocations.

These women always loved the Yorubas and many explicitly told me they'd approve a marriage between their daughters and me, because at least their daughters won't go through the hell they go through. Many of them speak Yoruba too. The ladies were super nice to me. I enjoyed my time there and their Niger Delta music/dance is one of the best I have seen in my life. Banga soup is dope too

Zeuslord:
Yea
it's a problem of its own.
battling for consistency

Ehyaaaaa... I have dated two Geminis and I'm telling you,they were a handful. The key to understanding them is just never to obsess over them. Be neutral emotionally when they are hot or cold. They love mystery and get bored with the norm. Just let them know they have your support and even when they behave like ogbanje, be cool.

They are not bad and could be great partners especially when they love you and want to make the relationship work. Their tendency to explore new sexual opportunities,regardless of wherever tends to make other star signs wary of them.

#luminouznuggets#

flyingpig:
I'm sort of a final year student in a professional health course, my gf too but she's directly a class lower.

She's really beautiful, chocolate skin, lovely ass, loves me as much as the OP's girlfriend loves him. Always texts me goodnight before she sleeps and good morning once she wakes for the past 10months we dated. We have our disagreements but she is very obedient. Gave me her phone password and I check it everytime, nothing incriminating. I know stories of everybody who's toasted her. She's even lied to her family far away that she had infection just to get money and give me when i was having family issues. She's very optimistic about life. Infact she's never repeated a class or written a resit in our professional course. She's the type who would tell you jobs dey Nigeria and jobs no dey, but it depends on your approach to it. While I'm the type who would say jobs no dey Nigeria and quickly point you to thousands of graduates driving keke, selling wigs and make up on instagram, and leaving the country through traffickers in the name of Greener pastures. She defends me a lot against those who try to intimidate me because I had a rough start in my medical course.

Here lays the problem. I'm the first son in family of 8, and have 5 siblings below me, three young boys below me too. My Elder ones are not doing good jobs, dad and mom are retired so they're just waiting for me to finish school and assist in running my junior ones where the last two still in sec school. So I'm painting I have huge responsibilities in my family and won't be ready for marriage soon after graduation because after lifting my family who stood by me through difficult times, I still have to build and establish to myself before stepping into marriage, so it can be a smooth journey. All these take years, it's not easy making money in this Nigeria of today. My gf on the other hand would love to marry soon after graduation and wants it to be me. She's said she can wait for me to settle and all of that but here is the problem. While she's waiting for me to settle my family and establish myself in order not to be overwhelmed inside marriage, I fear I may succeed, but then have an upgraded taste in a wife. And it is even starting now. Since my primary school days all my crush at school were light skin girls, those pretty kind of instagram girls. Now I'm over 24, it has changed to girls who are hippy. I Am strongly strongly dawn to hippy girls. My gf sadly has found out and she jokingly teases me about it. Mind you I said hips and not ass (she has this one), the summary is I am gradually losing sexual attraction for my gf and I find her less sexually appealing. If you ask me why I went for her in first place if she did not meet my appeal, truth is I didn't know it would lead to marriage or she would hope it leads to marriage. I thought its something that we date while in school and after school we part ways but she's innocently making advanced plans. Whereas I find hippy girls extremely beautiful, I wouldn't want to end up with a wife that few years into the marriage, I starve her of sex due to lack of sexual appeal, not to mention start cheating on her. Also don't say it's just the grass being greener on the other side thing because I've dated a hippy girl before and through the 2years of on and off relationship I always found her sexually appealing. I don't want to lose sexual appeal to a wife in a union supposed to be eternity. In the same vein, I can never advise her to go under surgical enhancement for my sake, never. Besides that she ticks all the morals I would love in a wife and I would have loved a woman who had those morals, love me that much then have that looks I want. I would Queen her for eternity. Please don't insult me for being shallow minded and saying beauty is temporary and that the hips will fade. If I'm already losing sexual appeal for her these days how much marriage that will be ahead. At the same time i don't want to hurt her now by dumping her while we're still in medical school cause people are already telling us it'll end in tears people don't date while in medical school. If it is to end it that will be after she has graduated and left that place to avoid mocks since I'll be out a year before her. But i am very afraid of settling family and establishing myself only to find the girl who meets the physical looks but not the moral quality of my gf. Note my gf is not bad at all, I won't brag but she's desperately wanted by even the Senate President of the SUG, thick over all. If you want to understand the body I've been talking about, pic is attached below. Please read my post twice to understand my worries and fears

I will give you a detailed post later but if that's the kind of body she has, dont worry, it will get hippier with time and love.
She is not looking bad at all(if thats her body type sha)


Modified::
Yeah,I'm back!!!


First of all, its not all the time you have he-goatish sexual appeal strength for the babe you love. So many things are on your mind so that was why. As a Gemini, you have a dual, unpredictable nature, always switching and inconsistent. But I always advise people with that star sign that whenever they feel like that with their partner, they should always go back to the basic questions....

1.. Does she love you?

2... Is she still loyal?

3... What has she done wrong that needs amendment on your part?

If she passes all these, then give yourself space and time, you will reconnect back to her, faster if she understands your kind of person.

On the marriage and future plan stuff, you will need to discuss your plans with her. All your inhibitions can be surmounted so long she understands and agrees with your plan. As medical personnel, chances of getting jobs are high, so being able to cater for your siblings and being the man of the house,won't be a problem,so long your wife understand and supports your vision. Don't chase that geh away on the altar of not being sure about the future bro. The thing is,no one is sure about the future. Since she has the morals you desire and a big ASS, why not give her time, her hips will come out too (I'm a big ass lover so I get your point).

As a Gemini, you might be passing through a ZIT stage, where your sexual attraction indexes fluctuates and its best to get such stuff out of your system. Find a hippy geh and date her for a while,to satisfy this phase. Trust me, in no time, you will get tired of her and go back to your gf. Geminis may be become bored of the normal routine as they need change and excitement often in their life. You can introduce these exciting phases or plan routine breaks(hiking, sightseeing, mountain climbing, zoo trips or nature reserve excursions).

The baseline to your issue are those questions I told you to ask yourself. What you have in hand is more than what some of us ever had, a good woman.

Onyi22:
I don't like him, so therefore he won't win that money

So you liked buhari and that was why he won?

flyingpig:
Yup I am Gemini too

I'll tell you my own story

Wanna hear?

I'm all ears bro/sis

flyingpig:

Are you a Gemini too?


Sorry about that but its their nature. The push-pull,ying-yang and flip-flop interaction of their dual nature make them unpredictable emotionally.

Alexaonfleek:
The thing sef shock me ooo
Omo see views for this thread

Big brezz is better than PhD degree

Stop EET!!!

dom80:
moving on is hard for both gender especially the one that is more committed in the relationship. some guys or girls may move on to the next person and the person may not possess the attribute their exs got.

my ex gf who broke up with me 3yrs ago and got married 2yrs later decided to ring my number some days ago. I was surprise because she was the least person I expected to call me. she told me she miss me and that she still has feelings for me...

most time, nobody move on.. the feelings is all there.

Why she break up in the first place?

Besides, her partner lacked in one aspect,thats why she called you back. You think if she is happy with him,she will call you?

vickydevoka:
I be man

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Farki:
The African model has done nothing to curb bad behaviour and we are simply going along with it like robots. Those countries you mentioned also beat and have capital punishment yet they have the same problems. Why don't you ask the European countries Africans keep running to how they impart values onto their children?

The girl is 18 and legally can be married, so if a husband did the same thing to his wife under the same circumstances would you be supporting it as eagerly as you are now?

Anyways it has been an interesting exchange of ideas.

I don't agree with your points. 18 years or not, so long she is under her parents,she is subject ro their rules.

Nice swapping ideas with you too

redsun:
Your type are like oyinbo laboratory educated chimps. Able to read, write and pronounce words, but still chimps, caged and mentally incapacitated. And that is why your society is not functionning. At this time and age, you still don't understand the concept of street cleaning as a society and the same animals as you think is right to beat a child.

K

tollyboy5:
The African family settings I know too well is very primitive , kills vision. Ill boldly say most of us had grandparent where mothers got married to from their fathers house being joblessly waiting for bride price. If it work for our grandparents it'll work a bit for our parent. Nowadays ladies start finding one or two things to do after getting married. Before then they were jobless and when circumstances makes them single mothers they become of what is unexpected regardless of upbringing.
In science change is constant in the world but what I see is that it seems we black don't know where to apply change.
Women in the north are seen as second class citizen and are been giving out like tubers of yam purchased in the name of getting married.
Ladies in the east don't have right to their father properties after his death, I even once heard women are been married to their husband brother when the husband dies.
We all read one time and still happening in some African countries where men entertain their friends with their wife.
Don't paint African culture gold most especially those that need adjustment. Ill tell you the mode of decipline is part of you thats why you ignore all the wrongs of our culture.
Now back to the topic we all know the way African parent are swift to using rod instead of words, so spare me the excuse that he discussed it with his daughter before assaulting her. African parents don't discuss with their children most especially fathers they only give warning!
There is no actual logical understanding of the child in this part of the world. Children obeyed instruction like slave.
They kill the logical thinking method of most children. Children who are bitterly affected with such upbringing are children with goals.
African parent don't know what is autism in children neither do they understand some children has complex nature.
Once you misbehave they'll resort to assault and take you for diliverance. Many children grow up with fear of not been beating and not knowledge of why they should not do certain things.
I've seen a lady been proud of her mother giving her mark on her face with the broken plate she broke when she was young. I told her its child abuse on the mother side but she disagreed. I've seen I child thanking his parent for stopping him from using his left hand , while me still use my left hand till date.
The western world who don't really practice all this things are the reason why we use gadget today.
Our kids are not different from theirs its not that the black kids has low IQ but the African culture has reduce the logical thinking faculty of our children which make black less intelligent. Only black kids who grew up in a more civilized society show more positive way of thinking.
Our country is bad today not because of the present generation but because of the so called cultured senior and grand senior generation that enforce religious bigotry, tribalism, corruption , godfatherism , slave mentality to our present youth. Our present generation are just trying to come out of all this and some people say its copying of white culture.
I don't need to give you reason why africa model of discipline don't favor us. Except you shy away from the actual truth and blame the problem of Nigeria on present generation who don't even have much say in government.
Well behave children , is that the best African culture could produce? we need astronomers , great scientist and engineers not the type we are producing.
The African family settings are not góod for women and children. Thanks to civilization many are adjusting. All I'm trying to say is that the way we were trained made us need all this assault In the name of discipline

Jesus...all this epistle?

The African family setting is not perfect but saying its the cause of our backwardness is wrong biko.

You went off key with the northern, western, eastern women and children diatribe. I'd rather stick to the issue at hand.

Its not the African men who wrote the Bible and have you seen the 'spare the rod and spare the child' quote in proverbs? Since you think everything foreign is dope, then their bible subscribed to correcting a child, with love not hate. That's the point i have been trying ro make biko. Dont dump your insecurities on me naaaaa. Even before the coming of the white men, Africans have a defined moral code, I support correcting my kids with love,not hate...if I have to beat them,I'd do with love.

The moral training I was given made me who I am today and I'm grateful for it and as long as that template still works,I'd continue applying it as part of my Yoruba culture.

Now,can you let this issue rest in peace?

Have a nice day

redsun:
What is it that you didn't get? That you are not a big baby? A sycophant or a slowpoke in a dysfunctional society where rationality is out the window?

K

You see now?

redsun:
Adeboye calls your type babies because that what you really are. Unreasonable, irrational and violent. You may think you got away unscathed from the beatings of your primitive parents because you managed to make a living mentally distorted adult in a dysfunctional stone age society that works only for violent thieve and sycophants or you are sulking up to Whiteman
somewhere in a white man's land to make a prodigal living.

STILL SAID NOTHING!!!

lots of big words jumbled together don't make you savvy.

Bye PurpleStar

tollyboy5:
I'll still try to follow the argument gently but I must reply this. I believe people don't think beyond the walls of their knowledge . thats the problem of black man. Whenever they talk about awoken black, many don't really understand this concept that these are people who's mentality has almost total revolution . we talk of slave mentality I guarantee you that many africans has that mentality.
The way people see African mode of decipline children its not because its actually working or its right. They been brought up to believe the system and it won't be easy to rethink the whole matter. They'll always see the positive result of such decipline.
Its more like telling someone who grew up has a Christian that he should know about kemet science which should belong to Africa not the British Christianity, such person would see you has a devil incarnate even though you show enough reason why not to be a christian.
Now it not because both party are wrong but there is an already embedded mentality that can't be changed. Thats just how it is for African style of decipline, many thought they've achieved a lot because their parent where deciplinarian.
I once lived with my dads uncle and I was massively deciplined. If I spend most of my life with them I would okay by now working in a good company and start thanking them for all the decipline I received . but thing are not rosy for me because I actually left their place back then. But I'll tell you , I'm more exposed to reality presently and I see many potentials killed by our African style of upbringing, children are not expose to pursuing goals everything is about having nice family and giving back to parents. Such African mentality and mode of upbringimg is the cause of our blind leaders , Internet fraudstar , almost all ladies in this country are poor with little or no vision in life.
If such decipline favor some children it should be just ℅10 of them. Im not against flogging in this kind of matter, what I'm saying is , we were being brought up in a way that'll be needing to be caned. Seizing the phone would have been a better option

You have some points though many were outside the scope of the topic.

Discipline doesn't favour 10%, if you think it does,then gimme proof. Africans generally are raised in a family values and morals setting. Thats who we are,or who we once were. When the family core started getting broken (unemployment and economic hardship), then no one got to train the kids anymore and look how so many vices abound. These vices weren't the norm when i was young. Our model may not be perfect but it works. Besides, We are Africans,not Europeans,Americans or Chinese, dont expect us to copy a model which hadn't worked for the colonials for a long time. We have our own identity and I will stick to it. African parents may seem harsh in dealing out punishments but they do so with love and to correct you. Once you get the correction or you get older,they stop and hoped the little they taught you can continue to guide you. No African parent delight in senselessly beating his/her kids,it makes no sense. Watch that video, she knew the reason she was flogged and was apologetic about her misdemeanors.

Seizing the phone would work in some situations but how do you know the dad hadn't tried that? Besides, she could always get another phone to use outside the home.

Oiza131:
At 19... She will still flog me if I misbehave tomorrow... Iya Bose, disciplinarian toh bad!!!... My daddy will use proverb to reset somebody bwain

Still a small geh sef...

Bose pele ooooh

jaeyking:
or rather the last breed of a stupid generation.
what generation runs the government??
you enjoyed free schools with high amenities and yet u destroyed it and made this generation to pay heavy fees for what u enjoyed for free.

I can boldly shout that ur generation is a curse to this country. You guys clearly destroyed it.
so don't come saying you were a blessing u are rather a curse

Easy tiger!!!


Who drank your zobo this morning?