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Lukmanraji:
My gf of seven years has been giving me attitude recently which I noticed sometimes last year. I observed that she always check my phone to look for something to hold against me. Yes, she suspected that I'm having something with someone. So, every time she's around me, she always find one or two thing that will lead to argument and all that. Aside that, the respect, love and intimacy between us reduced drastically.

Fast forward to this year, She successfully read a chat on my phone where I was talking dirty with someone. That's the genesis of the whole mess I'm in right now. She just walked out quietly and decided to end it all. Since then, I've not been myself because this is the person I have planned to live the rest of my life with. So, I started begging her but she's not giving me any green light. I called, messaged her but no response. I asked my Junior brother to beg on my behalf but she didn't succumb to that not until my dad intervened to apologize on my behalf.

So, she call me that we need to see. I rushed to visit her and apologize again and again. She agreed to continue with the relationship but she hasn't forgiven me. After few weeks of the whole issue. I suspected that she's hiding something from me. Then one fateful night, I spy on her phone when she was unlocking her phone. That night, I was able to access her phone while she was asleep.

I checked her WhatsApp, I discovered that she has been clearing her chat with one particular guy who happens to be her friend from NYSC since 2021. They became close as they both work in the same financial institution but in a different branch. Then I went further to her Instagram page to see what's going there.

To my greatest surprise, I discovered that they have been having an affair since 2023. My gf has been throwing herself to this guy, they have been going to the cinema together and other places. On her birthday, my babe and this guy went out together without my knowledge, they both book uber to somewhere without my knowledge, they were both sharing their feelings online, talking about marriage, how to raise their kids irrespective of their religion differences and my babe even throwing herself to the guy for sex. Everything thing I found in their chat especially how my babe has been treating this guy with love and respect is the opposite of how my babe has been treating me lately.

So, I screenshoted all the evidence and save on my phone. I then challenged her that she's cheating on me with that guy but she blatantly denied it. Not until I showed her all the evidences with me before she began to cry fowl and started debunking all I saw. She claimed that they are not true, they were just playing and not into any thing serious. They are friends and that's how they banter each other online. All her excuses were not genuine but I still forgive her on one condition that I don't want to see her with the guy again and she should cut off any form of friendship or relationship between them because I had done something more than that to her just recently and she forgive me.

Meanwhile, during the cause of this issue, I proposed to my gf that we should take this relationship to the next level by seeing her parents this year and maybe by the end of the year, we do the whole thing. The shock response I got from her was that she's not in a rush to settle down with me. Not even this year as she's just healing from the heartbreak I caused her and I can't use marriage to tie her down then I continue breaking her heart. There's no how I tried convincing her that I am a changed man now as I am ready to take responsibility and be a responsible person.

After few weeks, I logged into her whatsapp on my system and then again I found out that she's still talking to this guy and they were even planning on going out again. I got angry and send proof to her but guess what, my babe para for me for cloning her whatsapp on my system. Hell almost let lose that evening. This time around, she felt unapologetic about the primary issue that I warned her to desist from. Funny enough, after close observation, I learnt that they move their chats from whatsapp to Snapchat where their chat is just "view once". Then I knew that this lady is not ready to stop talking to this guy. I have shouted over and over this matter but this time around, my babe is now feeling lackadaisical about this issue.

Right now, my babe is now comfortable with the guy and she's now sitting on defense about this matter. In our last conversation, my GF literarily told me that she doesn't love me anymore. And then she started rewinding all my past during the cause of the relation and using it as an excuse for not been able to love me like she used to. In our conversation, the only thing she didn't mention is that we should go on our separate ways (break up) but everything she said to me indirectly simply means that she is done with me.

I felt unloved as this is the woman I never placed anyone above, this is the woman I've nurtured when we were in school and outside school. I respected her and love her so much that she has become part of me. My parents, family and friends are expecting us to tie the knot soon but here is my babe telling me she's not in love with me anymore. I felt unloved about this whole thing and I'm heartbroken.

I am lost and crying inside silently as I never expected someone I have sacrificed something huge for before to be acting like this to me. I'm depressed. I need mature advise from you guys. Thank you.

Damn ...

See as your gf cheated on you, and you forgave her after all we told y'all?

Never forgive a cheating woman....she never ever repents.

Mcslize:
Whereas there is a group I belong, I won't mention it (due to my confidential nature), there is a cumrade who is changing puzzies like pampers in that same abroad o.

It's all about your style and how much level you have as a guy. If you don't know how to toast women in Nigeria before leaving for abroad, you won't know how to toast women when you get to abroad. Our elders once said, a fowl that sleeps on top of roof tops in the village, when taken to the city, it will also sleep on roof tops. A goat 🐐 can never give birth to a pigeon. Same applies in the dating game.

Back then when we were in the university, me and 2 of my guys usually go hunting for ladies to try our toasting skills. Even though we studied engineering courses that are so demanding, we still carved out time to go hunting. We called it hunting at the time, cuz girls too many for school. That really helped in making us to learn how to talk to women aside reading design process, fluid mechanics, heat transfer, process separation and the like.

It was all fun walking up to ladies and talking to them.

It's all about you. You don't have to have money before you are able to pull girls as a man. Just get small swag and dress nice, you will never lack ladies in your bed.

Any way, we have repented.

So, back to that cumrade I mentioned earlier, go and see the ladies he is bunking abroad. Some black thick girls with big yansh. Normal working ladies no be joke. Some are even married o. The latest one he is bunking is a married lady.

Women! Any way, let's keep it there. What happens in Rome remains in Rome that's my rule of engagement with women.

He is a real nigga

iamL:
A woman that knows how to hit a man hard after helping him build his wealth. This generation of enlightened women are making me proud.

I nor go follow you build your wealth for nothing.

Shut up...broke ass mumu dey talk


Are you allergic to making your own money?

janeedema:
Did she marry Bill gates a millionaire? You don’t seem to understand that moral and intellectual support is a thing. Do I blame you?

A woman puts her life on hold to carry child and put the home in order so when the man comes, he can relax and you think she doesn’t deserve to be compensated in the event of a divorce?

You be better mumu I swear....you don't even know he was already worth millions of dollars when they married...and she was the fucking secretary.

So because she carried his child and all that...she deserved compensation? See mentality. Nah your type dey demand money for sex na...

Gerrard59:
Thank God you don see am for yourself. Mine is a dating/friendship group comprising largely young people within a particular region. I noticed the introductory posts by new members: the ladies looked pretty good, while the men weren't so good. I don't look at complexion, but general dress sense, structure of face, dentition, hair style etc. Where you see a handsome lad, even other males dey confirm say this dude is fine. The lad gets many positive responses from the lasses, with some "green light comments". Before readers think it is a group of poor people, no it is not. It is mixed, but mainly young people who are unmarried and very few married folks.

After a series of introductory posts, I con dey think say our men aren't really that handsome. This was before the yukay wave of videos. When I saw the faces involved in these videos, it confirmed my observations: Nigerian men are not handsome. Now, how can these men compete with born and bred Black British or African American men? No be say we get long preek pass Sudanese, Gambians or Senegalese. No be say we tall like those people sef. Our ambitious spirit might be a positive factor, but that is not a phenotypic feature.

Another thing too, people tend to think of Nigeria as just Lagos and Abuja, but there exist other places in Nigeria; and there, being ugly is the standard. Places like Kogi, Bayelsa, Ebonyi and Kwara would never have handsome men no matter how hard they try.

When I call you ignorant, it would seem very harsh

So in your wisdom, all men in Kogi, Bayelsa, Ebonyi and Kwara are UGLY?
What kind of mad assumption be that?
You are always on some insane shiit..so no biggie

cococandy:
You sound rabid hence most likely being influenced by a wild dog near you. Your neighborhood or lack thereof has little to do with it.

Mad dogs roam together

Keep your projections to yourself

Dog will bite you this week ..

cococandy:
That’s actually more likely to happen to you than to me.

Statistically and logically speaking 🤷🏽‍♀️

I mean you claim to be logical no?

Lol...you assume I am not in your neighborhood or even remotely close to where you are.

You see how illogical you are?

Anyways, dog will still bite your yansh

cococandy:
The insult wasn’t emotional when you used it but when I turned it back to you it became emotional?

Same old same old

K

cococandy:
Am I that pained she got money in her divorce settlement or that they got divorced?

? ? ?

Quote me again and dog will bite you this week!!!

cococandy:
Your hopeless father is the ozuor

Lmaoooo...exactly what I wanted...to trigger you!!!

Tut tut tut...what a bunch of emotions you are!!!

Now buzz off, fishlips!!!

franchasofficia:
My Secretary counts as part of my success because I know how much she has contributed to my small firm's success.


She being his secretary doesn't undermine her contribution to his success, please give credit to whom one is due, cheers mate

So a secretary that's being paid by the boss is now being held as equal to the boss? Why about your driver? Your gateman or your cook!!!

Simps would always find excuses to defend women...oponu

cococandy:
Oh Yes of course he’s lying. You were obviously there when they co-founded the company and know better than him.

And the women who got their fair share of the business proceeds when divorced also didn’t earn it. How could they have?

Typical of you misogynistic lot not to give women credit where due. That’s why a family business can only be attributed to the man’s effort. Even though anyone with an iota of thought understands that it’s nearly impossible to succeed in running both a family and a business without the both partners putting in equal amount of work.

You are always shouting misogyny upandan!!! At least check Google like he said and stop arguing! How can you keep a home if you argue like this with your husband?

Ozuor!!!

cococandy:
He was good while he was having affairs in their marriage?

I don’t even dislike Bill Gates but you internet boys are insufferable

May your wife or future wife have as many affairs on you as Bill had on Melinda. Since that’s your definition of a good spouse

Damn...your pain is always delicious to read. 🤣🤣🤣

1Sharon:
All you lots that want to japa, learn. In the West you would be held accountable. Religious sentiments and emotional blackmail doesn't work on westerners, you would still be queried and face the law.

"Daddy in the Lord" " "Touch not my anointed" ends in Nigeria.

This one again!!!
Always on some crack!!

Philosopher1979:
U see if you discover your purpose, destiny and talent in life you won't simp for any girl. Great men live for their dreams and not pussy.
If you understand how unique you are you won't put any lady or person on a pedestal in the first place.
Zuckerberg invented Facebook, Newton discover gravity, Bill Gates became the world richest man, victor osimhen great footballer.
If you ate pursuing your passion and you feel important women will look like feaces shit to you. In fact you will be so arrogant that they will complain that you are proud. Imagine working on a cure for cancer and a girl is wasting your time. If you understand your destiny you might slap her. I n fact, you are doi g her a favour by Bern around her for sex or anything. Time is precious men.
It's not only about sex but saying what is on your mind. Just say whatever.
I like philosophy and I can tell any woman around me that the universe is vibrating without caring if she likes it or not. She us not the queen of England or sime goddess.

We know all this..

We also know it takes great will to do that because our testosterone always rages.

thesicilian:
You didn't strike any nerve bro. I'm just tired of unintelligent debates

K

Karlifate:
No matter how you try to sugar coat it...

Once your hymen has been broken and/or you've engaged in one romantic/sexual romp or the other, you're no longer a virgin. 💯

Exceptions abound, but they don't rule out the majority.


This is for those accountability dodgers & their SIMPu foot soldiers.

Lol, their ability to twist any narrative to avoid accountability via men-shaming, reverse psychology, rope-a-dope technique is unparalleled.

How dafuq do these comments make any sense?

Karlifate:
Women want to feel safe around you.

The best way to make her feel safe is to show her that you've the capacity to be dangerous, but decided to put it on a leash. 💯

Nice take

There must always be that undercurrent of strength and capacity for violence in a man. It keeps the woman in check and also turns her on.

mablie:
One of the features i strongly admire in women is how they can do anything...ANYTHING that is in their best self-interest.

This is a quality men generally lack.Men care too much about others especially women.Women do not.

Now ask yourself,"What will i gain by this lady coming to stay with me?"

No matter what she says,You will eventually feed her,give her pocket money,if you have a car,you'll begin dropping her at various destinations etc.Even if you finally enter the vagina,all that stress because of that overrated hole?Vagina is now your reward/payment?

That lady simply wants to use you.Tell her she cant stay with you.Believe me,she is a woman she will find another option.That is what they do best.

Men have got to elevate their mindsets when it comes to these women.You have got to be cold-blooded with all of them...COLD-BLOODED because they are cold-blooded with men.

Now there is a nigga who finally understands what I have been saying for ages.
Respect.

thesicilian:
I no longer argue with faceless entities.
Keep your opinions to yourselves as I have kept mine to myself.

Lol, seems I struck a nerve!!!

Poor poor Jon Snow🤣🤣🤣

VIKTO83:
Mbape will never win champions league and world Cup in his entire career.
Mark this statement.

Lmaooo..he won the 2018 World Cup, dûmbass!!!


Are you måd?

thesicilian:
He's currently 25yrs. Football wise he has almost if not already passed his peak. 3yrs from now his value will almost become half of what it is today.
So now would be the time to make that move he's been delaying for years

You know nothing Snow!!!

heartofcity12:
Let these women keep teaching these simps the hard way like this, a simp and his money part ways..
When we try to tell them here, they call us all sort of bad names and get trolled heavily, y’all simps will always end up in blogs as objects of ridicule and mockery like this simp, it’s not a cuss. #trp

Oh I love the lessons they keep getting. They don't want to listen to redpillers right? Then, they will learn from the billers,leeches and gizzards who eat them up

CalmElder:
I don't hate him but his lifestyle that will lead him astray.
If you are impressed by the guy, you are doomed.

K

CalmElder:
Alpha fucker ko, reaping red pill my foot.
There's more to it abeg, women are not as universally foolish as red pilers make it seem.

Something else is involved.

You are a very fuulish elder, hating on a dude because he got more pussies than you....

So he is using jazz or what? Clown!!

marksonrick:
Long Read

I started work for this organization in December last year and I am heading my department. A new manager, a female was brought in January from a different state as the overall head. It wasn't easy for her as a lot of junior staff fought against her decisions. I was her go to person even though there are other people heading various departments.
As time went on, some junior and senior members of the organization began to disassociate from her. This made us come more closer. We hug each other every morning on resumption of duty, she visits my office, eat there if she came with food and most times, will sleep on my office.
She is always jealous whenever she sees me holding other female colleagues. I don't go beyond the hugging because she is married and I respect her marriage. Even the hugging, I don't hug in the front, but at the side.
With time, she was able to push a lot of junior staffs away and new ones were employed.
One of the new guy employed last month, knows the game to unlocking women's leg.
Within last month and this month, he has slept with almost all the girls in the organization and even the girls I usually play left me, both the one that has visited me in my house although, we didn't do anything.
Some weeks ago, he began coming close to the overall manager, and the woman, started developing emotions for him and becomebtoo attracted to him. Last week, I and the guy were having some good time then she appeared, came to the chair where I sat and looked straight into the guys eyes. I caught her, and she became uncomfortable. She left my office and then closed work after 5 mins even though it wasn't her closing time.
She lives with her husband and I do go to visit them. I never knew I had feelings for her all these while until that particular act happened. Well, after that act, I restrained her from coming to my office. She came begging me. She asked me what was wrong. I couldn't tell her because she is married but i was dying. She even asked me if i am in love with her but i kept mum. Two days ago, I was with her in her office when she heard the guy's voice and how the other women are happy, chanting and laughing. Immediately, she became uncomfortable and after 5 mins, she told me that she was coming and left. 10 minutes later, I went out and caught she and the guy in a happy mood. I became very angry and hurt, the only friend I had was gone.
Yesterday, I called her to her office and asked her if she loves the guy. She was furious but I continued by pointing out all that I have observed about her and the guy. She became cold, and her countenance changed. After i left her office, she sat there without stepping out the whole day except the time she closed for the day.

I don't know if it was wrong to have told her about the guy since I'm not the husband.

As it stands now, I've decided to cut close ties with her as I know clearly, the guy has won.

Before she went home yesterday, I went into her office and noticed that she was crying and then, her hand shaking. I asked her why was she crying and why is her hand shaking. She did not say anything, so I told her to do what's on her mind, because I know clearly that that I've lost her.

Ever since yesterday, I've been feeling jealousy towards them.

She didn't come to work today but I'm worried about her, me and the guy tomorrow.

Lol...

It's the alpha fucker that I am here for.

Dude is repping the redpill well. He understands women. But you....I don't have words for this shiit you typed

heartofcity12:
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I think there is actually a translator that changes yes to no and no to yes because these replies are downright crazy

Iykegodslove:
Good day everyone!! I am emotionally shattered as I type this message. I have been suspecting my wife for years now but no concrete evidence to confront her.

There is a boss of my mine who happens to be our family friend. Each time he calls my wife, she deletes the call history immediately. This has been happening for years but I keep quite because i love my wife and my children so much.

Of recent, i decided to know what is happening by hacking her call with him. Lo and behold, they are into deep relationship that my wife calls him baby. Infact, sleep has gone out of my eyes and am thinking of how to deal with the situation.

It should be noted that i am not working under the man in question only that we are church members and he has rendered countless of help to me. I am wondering what puts my wife into this mess. I am graduate but i decided not to work for anybody but to focus on my farming. I am doing well financially bcs i can boost of 500k or more every month. We are not lacking anything at all.

Please house ignore my typo and help with good advice.

Note: i dnt want to divorce my wife and am ready to forgive her bcs she has been of great help to my success and moreover, i love my family very well. What should i do to stop them?

You don't need help. A simp is a disgusting fellow to me. Your kids are definitely not yours too

Danja:
How come there is no single comment from a female nairalander. If it were a man molesting a female minor, they will call for his head.

Their hypocrisy stinks like a mudafucker

MrBrownJay1:
she will get a slap on the wrist (possibly wont spend a day in jail), and go on to marry her sweetheart and have a wonderful life together.

some of these men out there are true simps...like the husband of that police officer who was the slut at the office and had been gangbangged by everyone at the police station, he forgave her and is still married to this nymphomaniac wh0re he calls his wife.

For once in my life, I agree with you, especially on the simps part

You never forgive a woman for cheating, they would fûck you up and cheat again

MrBrownJay1:
many go to the gym to look for their next client/BF etc, not to actually train... and unless your mind is at the wrong place, why should you care?

BTW if a man has made up his mind to "make the heavenly race" then it shouldnt really matter to him what these babes are wearing. thats just temptation like any other out there (whether at the gym, at the club or at the supermarket)

Who asked you to preach now? As if you be saint!

You better not lemme send a dog to bite your yansh

Fiscus105:
Never see a selfish and wicked people like this, ......they want to sleep with every hole available, go to all clubs,drink and take all known hard drugs. When it's time to get married, ........A beautiful,elegant and untouched maiden to leave with them for the rest of their life.

Who does that? You reap what you sow ok.

Dog will bite your yansh this week