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Khaleell001:
Look at bigoted tribalist.
Always trying to curry favour from unsuspecting shitheads on Nairaland with his upside down reasoning.



If you can comprehend(i no you can't) You should simply get lost!

Don’t mind him, he’s filled with too much hatred for Yoruba. Hatred is consuming him gradually and he will soon die of it.

Martinez39:
This miseducation for ladies is better than all the boring female miseducation jargons ever written by Sandra8, Missghosted, Eyeness and others. Kudos to Ubunja.

I have always known this that's why I always told boys to stop spending. If any one had read my previous posts, you will observe where I pointed out financial investment in a relationship as the main reason for Nigerian boys committing suicide by sniper during a break up. They've have invested so much money and time and even gone into debt because they want to make their girlfriends happy. Having invested all these, it's not surprising to see them doing all they can to maintain the relationship. They even endure toxicity and disrespect from the girl; they accept all her rules and are willing to bow to her like a fool; they readily forgive her when she cheats and lie; etc. Why are they going through all this? Because they have heavily invested in the relationship and seeing the dissolution of the relationship would mean their investment and sacrifices were all for nothing and had been a waste.

Spending, investing, and sacrificing heavily in a relationship that lasted for quite a long time but end and didn't amount to anything is like wasting part of your life all for nothing. It's even clear, which makes it more painful, that those energy, time, and investment could have been channelled to other things. The more the investment, the greater the hurt during break up. Some really invested so so much (and even went into debt or sacrificed huge parts of their career or business plan just to see that the girl is alright) that they become depressed and suicidal during a break up. They are terrible drained, saddened, and hurt that a great part of their lives had all been for nothing (and have incurred debt and passed on good opportunities all for nothing).

You’re right Martinez, guys need to stop spending on women who are not their wives. Great comment bro.

kunleweb:
I beg you. Let Ubunja be. You're too filled with negative vibe. Its okay if you're unhappy and negative, but let people be without throwing your tantrums/rants/negative thrashy bitchy attitude. Its sickening to imagine you're a woman and a doctor. You're filled with sadness.

My goodness. Don't bother responding. I don't see you better than a vomitt spill


May God forgive whosoever stole your peace

Chai... see finishing! pity the babe o

Pettyprincess:
I guess this write-up is more on female advantage!! I can relate really well!!!
I will rather be called a gold digger than the other way round!!!
If your bf can invest in you without pressuring for sex then he will definitely marry you because he knows he hw much he has invested nd will never let you go!!! Bt Nigerian guys do call them mugu only because they believe every guys needs to be players!! That's why i can never leave my bf ehh,he has done alot!!!
Every lady needs to be smart!!! Stop giving your broke bf free pussy all the name of love!!!

But some ladies still dump their caring boyfriend who has spent a lot on them and plans to even marry them.

SugarBozz:
The reason am trying to sort it out before it gets to that level. Sometimes I just feel like I don't care because if I catch her it's just to go our separate ways. But I don't want it to get to that level anyway.

Wether you feel like having sex or not, perform your duty in the other room. It’s a marital obligation commanded by God.

By the time she seek satisfaction somewhere don’t complain o. You think her body is firewood abi? Even the Bible advice couples not to deny each other but you’re there denying your wife.

please reproduce this post ubunja

Ubunja you’re too much!

Continue the good work bro

sylvez:
You are actually stupid my guy...
I was once this stupid...
I experienced exactly the same thing you are experiencing now....
When i confronted her about one of the guys, she said how will i be asking her weda she is seeing a married man, that the man is a married man na!!!

To cut long story short, i love my woman but sometimes love is not just enough...

We didn't break up, three weeks ago she told me she will travel for a cousin's wedding...i didn't know she traveled for her traditional wedding....she sent me the pictures today and informed me that her white wedding is next weekend.

We never broke up!!!

All the while i was dating myself...It's so painful but you just have to let go....

She did all these to me when i needed her support for my professional exam coming up next tomorrow.

I loved her but see my life now

ha! That babe is more wicked than the devil! She played with your heart like tennis. Just forget about her by focusing on your career and seeing her as a big mistake God helped you to escape.

stanliwiser:
Stop querying and asking her about those guys, that will show your insecurities.

Stop posting her own pictures also, reduce the way you chat and communicate with her, you need to start letting her miss you a little. if she confront you, don't cry and pour out your emotions like a naughty baby, just comport yourself and tell her that you're busy and carried away with job. Don't confess how you feel, if you do she will laugh hard on how important she is in your life. SHOW A GIRL HOW IMPORTANT THEY ARE ACCORDING TO HOW MUCH THEY START BECOMING COMMITED TO YOU. 30% commitment deserve 30% percent compliments and nothing more.

Focus on your life and get your focus on your career and plans. Get busy with your hobbies and work, stop unnecessary expectation from her

Give her some space to miss you, and stop your UNNECESSARY GIFTS, FAVOURS AND LONG CHAT AND HANGING OUT.

You said she don't post your pictures, YOU ARE AN UNDERCOVER LOVER. Open your eyes, You're chasing shadows. Go out and date other girls and don't tell her, if she finds out, tell her it is nothing serious BUT stop this act as soon as she start showing much commitment.

To get her attention you need to respect yourself and understand you deserve someone better than her, follow 50/50 rule, never loves her more than she loves you.

MY CONCLUSION IS THAT YOU TRYING TOO HARD TO LOVE THIS GIRL. SHE OBVIOUSLY DON'T KNOW HOW TO TELL YOU TO STOP.

I HAVE DEALT WITH HER TYPE AND I LOVE THEM, IF YOU'RE NOT LIKE ME THEN TELL HER YOU WANNA QUIT AND IF SHE AS WHY, TELL HER YOU WANNA FOCUS ON YOUR FUTURE CAREER

@ poster, follow this solid advice, it will help you.

Great write up bro! Men needs to be more smarter and alert about their partners, women can not be trusted totally.

pansophist:
Good job Ubunja.

To add to that, no man should be in a relationship where he is not respected. A man can not feel loved if his partner does not respect him. Also, a woman can never love a man she does not respect. When a woman loves you, it means she respects you, and if she loses her respect, she loses her love. Respect should be treated as indispensable, unnegotiable, and perpetual. Men need respect, women need love. A woman cannot love a man in the way men understand love.

A woman's love is to receive, a man's love is to give. A man's love for a woman is greater, it will make him protect her, provide and sacrifice for her, a display of love that is untypical to the feminine. Even the bible requires men to love their women but requires women to respect their men (Ephesians 5:22-25).

About shit testing, the surest way you to pass it is not to respond to it, and in anything you do, do not sell yourself short. A shit test is a way women separate boys from men. Also, women generally are not consciously aware they are shit testing, it is an evolutionary trait that they do unconsciously. 3rd and 4th wave Feminism is an example of shit testing on a massive scale allied with political power and corporate backing, and men have fallen for it, leading to the emasculation of men.

Little to no surprise lots of western men travel to Asia for wives, and their women go to Jamaica with masculine men for sexual adventure. Giving in to shit testing will seem like it will yield desirable outcomes, but the opposite is true. If you give way to shit testing, you will continuously be squeezed inside a box, until you become worthless, a direction western men are becoming to their women, which will only get worse.

@pansophist, I’m a great fan of yours, always looking forward to your amazing comments.
By not giving in to shit testing, men will gain more respect from women and avoid female manipulations.

Following you bumper to bumper

Agp19:
Boss!! Have been reading your miseducation for a while now. My situation is peculiar and related to this topic. My present galfriend chose me, she went out of her way to get me and she's my type of gal. But of late have discovered am the one now to attach. B4 now she will do anything I ask go out of her way to please me, but recently I find out am the one trying to keep her. making her feel to comfortable.
How do I get her back to default??

To go back to default, simply pretend to withdraw the attention and love you’re showing her, act uninterested in her. If she still genuinely loves you, she will come back to her senses and shower you with love and attention. My woman also tried doing the same thing, she fell in love crazily and I also loved her in return. Later she started acting like a goddess that must be worshipped, so I withdrew my love for her and started acting like I’m no longer interested in the relationship. Trust me, within a week she became worried due to my attitude towards her and asked if she offended me. I told her point blank that I changed towards her because of her recent attitude and she apologized intensely. She’s back to being all loved up now, although I don’t intend to reciprocate it openly like I did before.

Keep them coming bro... let it rain!
Following the miseducations bumper to bumper.

Redpill for life! I will take overdose sef

Kudos

Officialgarri:
You have big problem in your head. I guess the prison made you have some sort of mental illness.
Because in your last thread, you were seriously fighting to get back your daughter, and now you have her at last, and then you are asking what to do with her.

Why not throw her in a well?

Why fight for a child when you have no plans for her?

Lol .. the man is confused. He wanted something and got it but he’s still complaining

DesChyko:
Uh.. Wasn't it just yesterday I read about someone being out of jail and was released and you were looking for how to gain custody of your 5-year old daughter (and heavily pregnant wife)?
Today today, your 5-year old daughter don show even before I finished reading comments on the other thread.
Make I better follow this thread closely because the way e dey go, be like your daughter go get admission to University within the next twelve hours

Lol ... I tire for the man o. His daughter is with him now but he’s still complaining instead of rejoicing.

sp749513:
My daughter is now with me.

The man my wife is living with said he can't father and take care of a child not his so my wife have to release her to me.

She is a cute little child that needs proper care which may not be possible due to my state of joblessness.
Since i was out of prison i have been living of from a good neighbour of mine and putting my child under his care is unwise.
The neighbour is a bachelor in his early thirtys.

I am happy she is with me but sad at the same time on how to take care of her properly.

What is the way forward for me?

cc'' lalasticlala

You wanted your daughter to live with you and your wish has come through so what else is the problem?!
In the other thread you opened, you planned to fight the man who snatched your wife and we told you to leave your cheating wife and get your child back. Now that you have your daughter you should be happy nau.

AdeeT:
Abuse and curse me all you wished, the did is already done, the one I am not proud of, and never wished for to happen. I took all the blame, and only wanted a best idea/advice to safe landing.

My mind is pushing me towards visiting her to relate with her all that has happened. And again, another mind is telling me that all would be lost afterwards. I don't want to loose her, she's already an integral part of my life.

How best can I confront her without loosing her?

Bro there are some secrets that must be taken to the grave... what you posted up there is one of them. You will surely loose her the moment you confess. The ball is in your court

ichidodo:
[color=#1980BC] The thing is you are getting this red pill thing all wrong because your box A and B analogy empowers the female....Red pill is all about taking back those powers as a male and use as you see fit. I don't need to have houses or assets or even looks to qualify implementing Game,those variables are just bonuses in the General equations of things.As a gamer,IT IS YOU,who should have the Boxes A and B even C,D E up to Z..And not the females. If at all, you should strife to be in the Box A or Box AA (if she already is occupied,you can still share and hit that pvssy)and not settle for anything less.[/color]

Thumbs up my man!

It’s all about the man, men are the prize not women.

Ubunja the man! This post is the bomb!!!

If only sissy and wimpy guys can follow this red pill guide, female manipulations will cease to exist.

Guys, we all need to realize that we’re the prize that should be chased by women and not the other way round.

It’s funny how guys will be running after ladies and wooing them with cash and gifts instead of using that money to make their own lives better.

Some pvssy chasing guys will even spend their last cash on an unappreciative girl with a nonsense sense of entitlement who has nothing to offer than an overfvcked pvssy.

Words on marble! The more important you make a woman feel the less she needs to impress you. (You're impressed already) And the less she needs to sleep with you to feel important (she's important already to you)

Acidosis:
So when person A pays N100, a special marital law forbids person B from paying another N100? Person B never baths with water before meeting person A? You've being bathing before marriage na, then continue to bath na.

Bros why are you talking as if you’re not living in Nigeria? In naija, the husband provides for more than 90 percent of the needs in the home. The husband must feed his family, provide shelter and other essential things. Do you think women in Nigeria are interested in sharing bills with their husband? A typical naija woman doesn’t share any fvcking bills bro, the man must shoulder everything. Only very FEW women contribute financially for the upkeep of the home o, and they even do it while complaining. Moreover, family and friends will come to you regularly for financial support, will you turn them away all the time without being labeled a bad person?

GreatResearcher:
we never dated. met few months, seen twice b4 marriage. d third time of seein was on weddin day

Are you kidding me?!
No dating? You just met her twice and it was wedding straight? Were you that desperate to get married? I guess you felt you’re very old and needed to settle down. It’s really pathetic o. It’s well.

iammo:




since atiku is no longer cumming


the big question is will PDP they served day and night consider them because am 100% sure APC aint giving them


how much i love to see an Ibo man campaign in core north, face fulani, face muslims and come south ace yoruba, and campaign in tinubu's strong hold them go no say people no dey smile at them


Muslim are peadophile terrorist, fulani are all killers, middlebelt are docile, yoruba are cowards, na 2023 them go come use thier big mouth wash gutter and beg us

when God wants to humiliate the proud he puts what they need in the hands of who they have mistreated


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Jeez.. this is really funny o

Pearl1996:
Thank you so much. Despite saying I am beyond that6months mark they were all still saying HIV. I even went with my ex for his test still negative. You can imagine a micro biology graduate saying some strain stays more that two years undetected.
Its never a nice thing asking for solution on naira land. I will go back to UBTH. Its just the cold thing now. The rash has reduce but comes and goes and the mouth sores reduced too.
Thanks for your input.

My sister, a lot of people on nairaland are frustrated and jobless morons who take joy in insulting others. Their lives are already upside down and finished so they vent their frustrations on innocent people who come here to seek help. Just ignore those imbecil.es insulting you.
You will be healed by God’s grace.

Trump my man

kestolove95:
10 sec is ok, wat abt people DAT don't HV preeq? Guy give tanks

Wow.. if only guys could thank God for this.

salford:
We actually condemn them, but fraud is like a bug or bad habit. When they catch it, it's hard to let go. Just like being a mafia sole or drug cartel member.

You wonder why countries like the US comes hard on fraudsters.
They don't want it to spread among their citizens else they are doomed. Their financial systems are based on trust. Humans are the first line of defence when it comes to fraud.

I have two cousins who are big into yahoo. one is in Malaysia and follows baddy osha up and down. The other is in SA and has been a yahoo boy since 2002.
They are younger cousins of mine, and they know I am against their lifestyle, but their cases are a lost cause. They know the that the law will eventually catch up with them but don't care.

Kindly shed more light on how their financial system is based on trust. Just curious.

kensmoney:
Hmmm. Just keep learning, build good project, just focus on full stack development,

I have not gotten job, but I am still learning.
I am a full stack web dev.
Check my crud app.
Django and react


crudappclient.herokuapp.com

Thanks for your encouragement bro

FrLukas:
I'm sure you think you've typed something reasonable.

I initially wanted to read through and not contribute a word to this thread cos it doesn't deserve any. You don't cast pearls and silver before swine as is shown here already. But I saw your post and I couldn't help myself.

First, your so-called "greatest take away" is based on falsehood probably colored by resentment and bias against the Yoruba people.

What you call greatest take away shows you can't even analyse and sift out nuggets from mud. Every group that answers the name "Yoruba" admit that they have one progenitor and they speak a local variant of the general Yoruba language, from Egba to Ondo. Were Yorubas always united? No. There was constant civil war amongst the various sub ethnic groups. But did they ever deny that they weren't from Ile-Ife or that Oduduwa was their progenitor? No.

Second, tagging a whole people deceitful or implying that ”many of them still are" shows your bias in full glare. I believe the words "deceitful" and "betrayer" which a particular tribe in Nigeria always use as a prop whenever they want to insult the Yorubas is as a result of the civil war.

My only response to them and probably to you also in case you fall in that same category is to look to your immediate past history. Don't look too far. Also, look at the present crime situation of Nigeria and make your judgement.

While no race is made up of only angels, I dare say those pointing fingers at others wouldn't do so of they have any iota of shame in them.
I won't say more than that.

For your information, in case you are not aware, the Yorubas are majorly a people of integrity and prosperity. They don't need to "become" one like you have so self-righteously put it.

I am a proud Yoruba and if you are proud of your ethnicity, put it out here and let's place it on a scale against Yoruba integrity and prosperity.

As for FFK, one doesn't exchange words with a loose cannon. Pretending to have sense isn't exactly the same as having sense. He and Reno Omokri are aberrations of the human genome. That's for sure. No apologies whatsoever.

Well written. The level of hatred and bile the igbos exhibit towards Yoruba is out of this world! I have never seen a whole tribe display so much hatred towards another like the way igbos are doing. It’s really a shame.