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pansophist:
This female behaviour is completely understood when you understand the underlying female psychology. Female psychology is in reverse to the Male.

Men are hardwired to care and be sacrificial for others, meanwhile, women are hardwired to be cared and catered for. Their psychology is in reverse to the Male, hence, the observation the poster described accurately. Treat a woman nice, she will think she is better and awesome, and might consider you undeserving of her, it appeals to her self centeredness and narcissism. Conversely, Treats a man nice and he will think you're awesome, and treat you like the best thing ever. This is also why some men are stuck in the friend zone, since they are judging a woman from their own worldview. They think that when you are like a saviour to her, she will honour and wants you, just as a man will behave. That's a fatal mistake.

To break yourself through and not be a victim of her psychology, you have to put yourself first, treat yourself nice and focus all the energy in making yourself like the best thing. In other words, be as selfish and self centred as her, and set your standards high, that's when she interpret such as a sign of a quality man, and sit up to get your commitment. Dont worship her, shower her with attention and dont even spend much on her, it's a death sentence and an instant attraction killer. Thank me later.

Newsyworld:
A BATTERED mum beaten by her brute ex in a row over Britain’s Got Talent says she is finally free after he agreed to sign divorce papers.

Suzanne Hill was left with horror injuries after she was headbutted, choked and beaten until she passed out by her violent husband.

Sick David Jennison, 53, then tied the mum up with electrical flex and bundled her into a sleeping bag before leaving her in a pool of blood in her hallway for her son to find.

The thug then refused to divorce her from his prison cell, where he is serving three years and three months.

His refusal led Suzanne to fear she may never be able to...https://www.newsyworld.com/wife-beaten-to-a-pulp-by-husband-in-row-over-britains-got-talent-is-finally-free-as-he-agrees-to-divorce-two-years-on/

delpee:
Unnecessary tribal rant!
Google Oluyinka Olutoye MD for instance.

Kennyswag:
Thu is not an acheievement.. go and check what an afonja doctor did in US and you will bow

yommen:
Are you actually feeling inferior? You seem to look for slighest opportunities to engage Yorubas in tribal wars. In your achievements, you engage Yo'ba. In your failure too, you mention Yo'ba. Does it mean you can't actually without us?

pansophist:
Okafor's Law of Congodynamics (C1 + P = C∞)

It states that once a Congo has been shined once (C1 ), it can always be shined (C∞ ) provided it was shined properly ( P) the previous times. (emphasis on properly). In other words, "....a woman once knacked, superbly can be reknacked..."

You see it, that lots of women (married or not) go back to their ex, or keep their ex as a side knacking mate because he surely delivers satisfactorily unless the new partner's sexual skills supersede the predecessor.

''Okafor law'' is to women, what ''oneitis'' is to men. The cure to it is having an abundance, as with quantity, you shall find a quality, far better than what you had, or go the hard way, which is to live without sexual satisfaction, and it's harder than being in prison. It also has something to do with sexual imprinting, ubunja has miseducation on that, check it out to know more about it.

Romanoff:
What data are you using to back your comment?

You're not just wicked, you're heartless as well for not having pity on women who are maltreated. Means you're capable of such a thing as well.

Papertrail11:
Can we all cut it with this mentality and stop commercializing relationships it brings out the worst in people over time.

Men and women should create an avenue to get to know each other and build something.

CsRockefeller:
Bros let's look at it objectively o.

What if this guy is a need, throughout out his youthful days, he spent his time reading. Got to the University, didn't chase girls, was so focused on his books, graduated with a good grade and at an early age.

After service, had high hopes of getting a decent job, searched, searched and couldn't find any. Even if he found, he found low paying jobs. When he got home frustrated, no one to talk to, no female voice to hear from, the pressures at home is too much, no place to relax or someone to relax with and just tell.him things will be fine.

Now, he's 29, his Finances haven't changed for the better, he's lonely and craves for a feminine touch, he's afraid he may die broke and lonely.

Statistically, he stands a better chance getting a lady than a job, so, he decides to go get a lady to make him happy, even if it's for a while.

Can we truly fault this guy sincerely?

Things are really bad in this country Bros. His Finances may never change and it shouldn't stop him from getting a shot at love, we all deserve someone.

MrBrownJay1:
you have such a simple mindset that you believe that me saying that "marriage is a scam" means that this has anything to do with money.... lol!

here let me post again what i wrote, and make sure you educate yourself on the subject so you dont mistakenly rant about money (as if it was relevant to this issue):





if you still believe that any of the above i wrote has anything to do with money, then i cant help you bro.

Phenomenal16:
...am an under G......one guy asked me for a rlship and I accepted.....
Note: I wasn't demanding, not way ward.....in fact I was God minded.......
I av sacrificed a lot for the rlship ....I spent my last card to buy him food.....gives him gifts....... Was not giving him troubles........
It was fine until he stopped calling ...he calls whenever he feels like ........there was no commitment again......
Am 22..I wouldn't say am too beautiful but am not ugly ...m not short ....av d right curves.....
U see,,,,,to ur write up above is contradicting because everyone is not the same.
Currently undergoing an emotional heart break....wouldn't want to be in any rlship for some time.....
This is someone I believed in....I was already seeing the bigger picture......
So u see not every young girl is hoeing......I wish I can hoe but the spirit of God in me won't allow me...

Saintly01:
I am happy for you, your girlfriend has graduated, less worries, especially financial issues. Mine still has a full year to stay in school, I contribute financially, but my biggest cause for worry is Loyalty, I can never be too sure of what she is doing in school. Every action of hers spikes suspicion. I am fed up of this "Monitoring Spirit" kind of lifestyle. When she posts a picture with another guy, Even if there is nothing going on between them, I get all worked up. I am that jealous, this is exactly the cause of our quarrel this evening. This whole thing is driving me nuts.

Saintmary:
I guess this story is fake, else why would a married woman send her pictures to an admirer
The woman is in this story is narcissistic, shallow, immature and possibly promiscuous.
To the woman in this story: marriage is serious business, grow up.

Preciousgirl:
My husband has already warned I delete social media from my phone
Today he is demanding the guy I sent my pictures number
There is nothing between me and that guy, but this will embarrass him.
My reluctance is being misinterpreted as having something to do with him

I intend staging. Giving him a male colleagues number and arrange with my male colleague to take all the threats and insults for me to save my marriage. Please your candid advise

Littlemix:
I just tire.. Imagine the one on frontpage today... Am done with ds shiii

Slayar:
Guys ,how do you cope with all these girls that call 15k,20, on hitwe,badoo and tinder.

Who actually gives them that money,especially for all night

xxxtedyxxx:
Are you ready to get a gf/wife and enjoy all the fun that comes with a race romantic relationship ?? Or you want to continue making excuses, talking yourself out of approaches and spending lonely nights with your Vaseline (no pun intended).

If yes, you can either read on bro or just close this page; and keep on living a life of excuses while your friends, who are more socially aware keep getting all the beautiful girls.

Stated below are 5 attitudes/mistakes which can automatically turn a girl off and suggestions on what you should do instead.

1) Whining - To whine is to complain annoyingly. Take back sec and think about your previous Convo/relationship in which you complained bitterly. Was all all the whining worth it? I bet your answer is no

Learn to always sort things out I'm a mature way. If you continue whining, it won't be long before she starts comparing you with other guys.

2) Clinging/Neediness- This is one of the biggest turnoffs for most women. In the dating scene, it means being emotionally dependent on a woman.

Are you needy?

Logically evaluate your previous convos/relationships to see if you are a victim of this attitude. If yes, then learn to give women space. Allow them to be their own person bro.

3) Tightwad/Stingy How stingy are you bro? Do you freely give? I do not mean giving like a maga or ATM oh.. . Learn to give to a girl when she deserves it. Armed with this idea you won't given like a "maga" or be considered as one. For example, a guy sending cash/or 1500 MTN to a girl who doesn'tfl call him/or give him attention is a pure "maga". She doesn't value you bro, so why waste your time?. Only do things for girls when they deserve it or when they are invested in you too.

4) Laziness Are your passionate about your life or just like spending hours looking/chatting with girls? Chatting and looking for girls all day will, in the long run, only make you look jobless and lazy.

Get busy with yourself bro. Focus on your dreams and aspirations( Work, School, Hobbies,Talents). Start doing something worthy and women will like and appreciate you more.

5) Over eagerness for Intimacy/Groping- This one is huge. You will need to understand attraction is in stages before you get rid of this one. You met a girl off this morning and you want her to be your wife/gf on thwe evening of that same day? Calm down bro.

Attraction, as it pertains to women, is not a logical thing- it's emotional bro. No need to rush it. If you are exhibiting the qualities of a bf/husband/ already, you won't even need to to ask her out.

Over eagerness for intimacy, often times, is a sure symptom of being clingy which invariably results in desperation.

Evaluate your dating scenarios and make the necessary corrections. Worthy mentions no included here are: jealousy and hot temper/getting angry easily.

Peace.

irumole1975:
pussy is the ultimate controller in life. men can do anything just to worship pussy. Just today I spent #35,700 to buy phone for a girl when I only had 41,620 exactly in my account. I had to collecting extra 1k to take the phone to her in iyana ipaja. no thank you from her. And all she has ever given me is a hug. I don't know what to do with the 4k Left in my account na. I'm crying rn

pansophist:
A guy that knows you're married, and still keep flirting and satisfying your emotional needs is someone dangerous, stay away from him.

Relationship is all about compromise, you cant have it all. He is a good father, he provides for you and the kids, and is living up to his manly duties, he doesn't deserve to be cheated on.

Men Express love by action. Personally, I hardly tell my woman I love her, but she has not for one single moment doubted my love. For men, love is in the action. A man that provides for you loves you. Where he spends his cash, is where his heart his.

Lots of people make the horrible mistake of dropping what they have for the uncertain future, and realized later on that the grass is not always greener, and it would be too late by then.

Being an adult is all about responsibility, and being responsible for your actions and inactions. The day you choose to marry him, is the day you have chosen to live with him for who he is. Surely, he was not emotionally available before marriage, why go ahead and expect he would be during marriage?

You're still young, and it's high likely you're still in your youthful exuberance. You're at your peak of beauty and youthfulness, and the new guy is a migrating predator that will feast on you and leave.

So what is the end goal? Is it to cheat on your husband, or you are under the illusion that he will marry you and train your kids ? Be wise.

The best decision is to stop talking to that guy, and discuss this issues with your husband. Teach him, see a counselor, and use any means available to make him the man you want him to be. Outsourcing your emotional need via cheating is a fatal mistake, the one you will live to regret.

fairfora:
People should go to idumota under one uncompleted building. Kwara people full there dey sell human parts. There was a day I went to see one of our distributors in idumota. I missed my way and ran into these Kwara cannibals. They rushed at me, asking if I needed parts and in case there was somebody who offended me I needed them to help me finish or make run mad. I told them none of the above. I couldn't believe my ears .

noble2faith:
Akotileta has scored!

AfroKnight:










Guys, I hope you can see how money ties a woman to you. Even though you are cheating carelessly and she knows it, she would even make excuse for your infidelity. Why? Cos you’re rich.

There might be one guy in her life, who treats her like a queen but she would always dismiss him, giving the stupîd excuse that he may be playing nice because he isn’t rich yet. Lol. See women.

When we tell you guys to get money, we know what we are saying.

Money stops nonsense. That’s why ladies need to start making their own money and stop setting standards based on the pockets of the men nacking them.

With these few points of mine, I hope I have... Nah, f~ck it.

pansophist:
My young bro, take heart. The sad truth is, she has found someone better, and you should accept it even if you do not feature in the picture. It's about emotional maturity and letting this just be.

Your next step is to give yourself time, as time has a way of healing things. You'll pass through it, and you'll like yourself better after this. I experienced something you passed through when I was 18, and felt even worse than you, but I was naive, innocent, and didnt understood the timeless truth of female nature, keeping attraction, and stimulating the relationship sustainably. Looking back those times, I could see clearly the mistake I made, and I've refined myself to a point that such could not happen again. And in the unlikely scenario that it does, well, a replacement is around the corner. You should do the same.

It seems to me that your relationship with her is your job, you specialized in loving her and treating her as the best thing, while ignoring your own personal growth. Listen attentively, women DO NOT want to be your goal. They want to be part/beneficiary of it, not the goal. You treated her nice and gave her everything to the best of your ability and probably didn't focus on your growth, and compete with other men in the free world.

You were too available, making you appear as someone with female scarcity, with no option and not a real catch. Also, pursuing her even after her formal declaration for relationship withdrawal is something that men with no options do. You cannot beg a woman into a relationship with you, it's an instant attraction killer. You attract and keep her with the lifestyle you've built for yourself, and the man you've developed yourself to be.

Remember the biblical story of when God told Adam (after eating the forbidden fruit from Eve), that henceforth he would toil the ground for food and survival, and cursed Eve that she will suffer doing child birth? The true meaning of this story is that as a man, you have to be out there hustling, pursuing your goal and fulfilling your dreams, as no woman want to be for a man that is not out there toiling the ground.

She dont want to cry during child birth for man with no purpose, and be amother to his kids. Whether you believe in this story or not, you may comb any other religion, culture, science, and just observe the world around you, you would see that your value as a man is by being resourceful. Women are made, men are born. You see where a woman automatically becomes a first lady or a queen just because her husband is a president or a king? But it doesn't work in the opposite direction, there is no first firstman for the husband of a female president. You should know that women are rewarded for being women, all she has to do is look beautiful, and men and society will reward her. For a man, you must build yourself to be rewarded by women and society.

You're almost depressed (that's if you're not), because you are not pursuing things in the real world that would make her wonder why you do not call her always, that even if she breaks up with you, you're too busy achieving and breaking through to even feel an inch of her jilting you. She is at a stage of her life with male abundance, she wont do anything special and men will find her attracted and seek her commitment. All she has to do is sit back and choose, and if she left you for someone else, it means the other guys playing their game better. Loving her is not playing, buying her gift is not playing, but to play, you must develop yourself to be a good catch. That your presence is enough for her to find you attractive. Any man can save, spend and impress, but not every man is a top dog.

That even if she breaks up with you, in the back of mind, she knows there are younger and far beautiful women out there waiting to take her place, and will question herself if she can get a man in the same calibre as you. Do you think Davido will be worried if Chioma decides to leave him? Davido will laugh at her because he knows that she will be dead lucky to meet a man in his status, and she knows this as well. In every relationship, many young boys are clouded with feelings and love without understanding the power dynamics that is ever present and playing in the background.

I hope you get well, but remember this, you will never loose women chasing money (interpret it as goals, achievements, purpose etc), but you'll always loose money chasing women. Men compete with other men for success, women compete with other women for successful men. If you do not have women competing for your commitment, then you've either not reached there yet, or you're doing it wrong.

If there is any such thing as to "man-up", it's now. Man up friend.

Goodluck young blood.

brunofarad:
No one is safe again

All these boys with expired brains sef

vybzkartel:
My friends husband is threatening her with divorce
His reason is that, he has dreamt three times seeing her sleeping with another man. He claims his dreams always are true and that he has caught her.

Please, is this divorce justified? The other funny thing is, this my embattled lady friend wants me to marry her if she is divorced .