₦airaland Forum

johnkey:
If Anthony Joshua no win make I baf naked for bathroom. Only gullible people(omo ase) will think Ruiz gonna win this.

Lol .. you for wear suit and tie baf nau

Kelvin30286063:
Dating students is stressful, especially if she lives in the same city with you.
I dated one some years ago, she got to my house for the first time. Mobbed the floor of every single room despite the fact that it was a 3 bedroom flat.
Then cleaned the kitchen cabinet and washed all the plates. I was like...why now. I have someone that comes in to do all this things. She said I shouldn't worry...i know she was only acting responsible cuz she noticed I'm all set for marriage.
A week later, she billed me 59k for her school fees. I just laughed and send 20k to her cuz I remembered all the work she did the day she came.

Rich man

amliftedhigher:
My own may soon come. Because my wife is unappreciative, greedy, selfish and self centered. She doesn't want anybody around me especially my family members except hers. She is always nagging and conspired with a stranger to humiliate me and my siblings. She lacks nothing and my siblings love her very very very much but she hates them with passion without a reason. Women hmmmmmm

She’s not a wife, send her packing.

Yes, sex changes everything for a lady especially a virgin. Sex bonds a woman to a man emotionally and keeps her attached in a way. That’s why a woman will never forget the man who deflowers her.
If a lady loves you but you don’t treat her well, she will most likely sleep with you to gain your affection. On the other hand, if a man loves a woman and treats her like a queen, she will not give him sex because he already treats her well without even sleeping with him yet.

Below is a quote from a topic here on nairaland which supports the theory.

“The more important you make a woman feel the less she needs to impress you. (you're impressed already) And the less she needs to sleep with you to feel important (she's important already to you)”

https://www.nairaland.com/5520258/ubunjas-miseducation-female-source-code#83891798

Jgoldie:
It has caught my attention that threads here on nairaland is to bash women, downgrade the opposite sex and so on
If you as a lady or a guy stay too long on a forum like this ,it will be so difficult to find love or bond with the opposite sex.

When i see couples getting married every weekend ,i am so sure they don't read comments and threads here on nairaland.

There all sort of nonsense here, you hear things like red pills, hoes, alphas ,betas...pigs, Igbos, tribalistic comment flying everywhere.

I read comments on youtube and quora.......the content we have here is so depressing.

I regret joining this site,it has changed my views and made me so wild.Gosh i was so innocent with the way i view the world and the people therein some months back.

Look at me now.....

It is time to take a break.

Nairaland was not this bad when I joined in 2008, people communicated on this forum without using foul language and degrading words.
It’s really sad how seun has allowed this forum to become a cesspool of hateful comments and tribal wars.
This forum should be competing with the likes of reddit, quora etc but instead nairaland is the headquarters of vile, bitter and hateful souls. Only few people make sane contributions.
The sad thing is that the insane people on this forum usually provoke the cool headed ones to become abusive as well. It’s a shame

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Many people, especially men, desire to get married but their financial situation is very poor and no woman wants to settle down with a struggling man. That’s why there are so many single ladies and men.

palmshots:
Hey Mahn, I disagree it isnt spiritual..It's the way the 21st Century man is being trained "His father left him for hustle all alone in the cold hands of emotions(mother) to bring him up..Look at our grandfather, In there Time a man at 19 cud av more than a wife and still be in charge of his home but this days u'd see lotta men of 30 above being Toss around by dis soft beings (ladies)..
.So fkd mehn

You are right. The 21st century man lacks the basic knowledge required to handle a woman and avoid being manipulated, no thanks to his father who refused to train him about women but left him alone to learn from harsh experience in his relationships with the opposite sex.

MechanoFit:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D-gzahjOuic

So push ups helps men to last longer?

No money no romance... you didn’t overreact my man, no woman wants to be in a relationship with a struggling man, it’s the bitter truth. Pls leave her and hustle to make it financially in life.
Na money be fine bobo o

This your story no get head and leg... which kain confusion be dis? Na by force to carry matter come nairaland?!

Fountainofyouth:
Pls don't ask me a stupid question, I believe no one is a kid here.

You’re always angry and bitter! Who hurt you anty?!

pansophist:
My username is derived from the word pansophism, meaning, all-knowing. I choose this handle as it reflects my elemental desire to study from numerous wellsprings of knowledge that concerns humanity, [b]how both genders complement and balance each other, [/b]and the cohesive force that binds all organisms, matters, when analyzed from its contextual application.

Pansophist kindly create a thread on how both genders complement each other, i want to fully understand female nature and simply make peace with it. It seem the best thing is to understand women, they are complex beings with unpredictable behavior. Thanks.

Jakpon:
The allegation against Allen Onyeama is a calculated attempt by the US Justice Department to marginalise we Igbos. America is jealous of we Igbos because we are the one that developed America. 99% of the mansions in America belongs to we Igbos. AMERICA IS NO MANS LAND!!

Sarcasm at its best

slam7000:
You and your likes are idiots. You are not different from stupid Uwazurike and Kanu who have responded to Onyema issue. These two are no favourites of millions of Igbos and do not speak our mind.

If you want to direct your hate filled nonsense, focus on Uwazurike whose reaction you should be reacting to.
People like you and Omenka always are same as Uwazurike and Kanu. You always leave the two trouble makers to speak against millions of Igbos. That’s very wrong.

I haven’t seen any Igbo offline who supports Onyema. Everyone I’ve discussed this issue with believes that he should face his accusers and come clean.

Stop being a nuisance online like Kanu and Uwazurike.

Foolish man full of hatred. You will die of hatred. Supporter and defender of criminals and thieves.

So FBI that investigated him is a Nigerian agency right? Why do ibos like to attach tribal sentiments when an ibo man is accused of fraud? Let the law take its course simple.

Low self esteem is a bad thing o.
Appreciate yourself the way you are and feel good about your body.

classyc:
My brother is currently running his at Ace Africa. He paid just 20k, and it's for 6months......This month will make it his second month, my brother is already a guru in web development.....The 20k covers all software development programmes for 20k

Where’s ACE Africa located?

Eyeness:
the reason you wrote this is because you don't have much. if she is a good person despite this, then marry her. Actually, you are the provider in the family. How come i never see rich men complain of stingy women?

Stupid comment!
It’s obvious you are also a stingy person. People like you will keep collecting without giving back anything. Thief.

Tembebe:
Hi,thank God you are here.Been meaning to talk to you for some time now because you are one of the Mods on this forum.
I feel it would be easy to talk to you,you being a lady
Pls,you guys must really do something about the yoruba/ Igbo tribal war that is fast getting out of hand.
I don't want to believe that Seun and you mods are in the know but choose to look the other way.
This forum is fast losing it's credibility and it's fast becoming a hate zone.
Pls,you guys should go rub minds together and come up with a lasting solution to this.
I hope you do the needful because posterity will not be kind to anybody who is in a position and has the power to effect positive changes on this forum and did nothing.
Thanks

My brother you think seun and the mods are not aware? I think they are even enjoying the tribal show of shame for whatever reasons known to them. Nairaland is proving to be a forum that promotes disunity in this country because I see no reason why they can’t permanently ban people who initiate tribal attacks. Another set of nonentities degrading the forum are those pornography and nairabet posters. Quite unfortunate nairaland can not be compared to quora and reddit in terms of standard and moderation. It’s a sorry case.

pansophist:
Your hypocrisy and cognitive dissonance are monumental, jeez, and sadly, you are over 32 (judging from your topic about a husband searching) and haven't understood how the worlds work at such matured age, not surprised, judging from your post so far.

Women and I repeat women, expect their men to be rich, it is an established, historical, scientifically proven, generally accepted fact. Women look for resources in men, and whether you prefer to fool yourself or not, it is the very thing you want from any man that you will be with. If not, then why do you and the other female posters need a man for sperm and resources? How is it that you operate on two different mentalities and not see your hypocrisy? how can you blame men for placing their value on the ability to provide (assuming it is true) even though it is the qualifying criteria that will make women enter a relationship with them? why are women not dating all the broke guys in Nigeria that are in need of companionship?

Truly, there are men that choose to consciously not be available in the life of their child, but using the world ''average'' is not only wrong, but it is also a lie and nonsense you have to convince yourself with to have some form of validity. The vast majority of Nigerian men (as well as women) are traditional and want to always be present in their kid's life. Where do you get such a ridiculous fact? can you point it to me? Besides, my former questions still stand, though you and ladycewhy just conveniently ignored answering the question, and rant about things that will at best, be classified as red-herring.

So for the umpteenth time, and in an attempt to give a benefit of the doubt that my previous questions were not paid attention to, isn't it child abuse to deny a child the ability to bond with his/her father? secondly, why is it that a man that is good for a sperm donor and financial support not also good to be present in his child's life?

You can have any standards you want, all power to you, go girl, but it is left for any man to choose to be relegated to that role and trap you guys have set for him. And if such fool of a man even exists, you would probably be married already at 32 and not creating threads about a husband searching. So you seriously believed that a reasonable man that will want you for a relationship will still foolishly go ahead and pm you after all the man-hating rubbish you have written, especially about needing his money and sperm? In the end, you may want to look at the mirror, as it holds the answer to what might be holding you back.

@Duggedised12, ladycewhy and their cohorts are simply deluded and hypocritical. Women are mostly confused beings who don’t even know what they want in life. That’s why a man must not live his life to satisfy a woman’s inordinate desires, else, he will end up loosing himself in such pursuits.

Respect55:
I'm just surprised because I make sure we share what we have. What if I tell u she waited for me outside the church gate this morning to collect some money for offering and ish

Hope you didn’t give her.

MetaPhysical:
Let me practice some wailing and emotional tantrum.



This is Ibo conspiracy. Nigeria hates Yoruba. Ibo is jealous they want to bring mompha down. We told mompha when he was giving scholarship not to include Ibo because we knew they will bring him down.

This is handwork of Ibo hatred and bad belle because we Yoruba are better than them in politics.

Lol... I see the sarcasm, Yoruba doesn’t protect and support criminals like most igbos do, like the case of invictus and now allen onyeama.

candidtalk:
You and your folks have problems. They are called double-standards, hypocrisy, deception, ingratitude and mindless hatred of others. In short, you are IGBO -"I go/gain before others". When you cannot go/gain before others, such as Invictus Obi not been set free after committing criminal offence, you begin shouting Yorubas are evil. When AIr Peace boss gets himself in trouble, "Yorubas are evil" or "Fulani will come for him" as your messiah Kanu has now announced.

I should not be able to 'grow up' amongst white supremacist same as you should not have been able to grow up in the SW where people "don't know god" and are "evil". Yet you are here today ,alive and well, to tell your tales of lies against a people adjudged one of the most liberal, tolerant and accommodating in the whole world. Scholars worldwide have praised the religious tolerance of the Yorubas, not even seen in Nations like the UK and USA, as a panacea model for world peace. You are not prevented from buying property or setting up businesses in the SW.

In fact most of your successful businessmen leaders work and live in the sane SW with no intention of ever going back to the SE, like Tony Elumelu for example, where they feel they may be killed or targeted by Evans and the greed of their own kinsmen. So much for Yorubas been evil yet your folks can never depart from them even when they have made money and can afford to live anywhere. They chose to remain with "evil Yoruba" speaking his language and raising their kids more Yoruba than even myself.

Yet, paying homage to the terrible indoctrination that has ruined most Igbos, you are here demonising Yorubas who have been nothing but good to you lot since the war. I hope gullible Yorubas are reading what the likes of this chap is writing to note who their real enemies are and understand why Igbos are hated universally. Everyone, everywhere is their "enemy" who is evil and wants to kill them and frustrate their ordained progress as 'the only children of god'. Yet we must ask why Igbos can never look at themselves to note the problem is with them and not others.

The yeebos are a bunch of hate filled tribe. I have never seen a tribe with so much hatred and bile like the yeebos. I’m glad that Yorubas now know the level of hatred the yeebos have towards them. Soon their hatred for Yoruba will consume and send them to their early graves.

That Kuwaiti dinar is the bomb

victorian:
Thank God I'm not in any relationship with any guy from nairaland.

80percent of guys here wailing every second what has women has to offer to a man is just sex!

Really? What do u guys want? A woman to be crediting your account every day.

Awon Ole!
Don't go and hustle work and be a man. Be waiting for woman to come feed u guys. Bloody gold diggers!
Smhhhh!

That's why I love igbo guys, u won't hear an igbo guy spew this rubbish!

They are not waiting for their women to come and credit their accounts.

Awon Ole jati jati! You guys are so shameless! God forbid!

*spits*

Lol... gold digging ass.hole bitc.h like you. Ole omo, laying your filthy infected fingers on men’s wallets is your hobby. Anuofia

Jgoldie:
Dear husband,I am not evil,yes I can nag but that is it...I would never ever kill you...because I will be so bored without you by my side

You no fine sef

Shadbay:
I've been in extreme emotional pains for the past few months. I don't even know where to start to narrate my ordeal. I do not want this experience to damage me emotionally and psychologically, that's why I'm seeking help. Please pardon the length and blunders.

Earlier this year, just two weeks after my birthday, my ex-gf (gf of almost 7 years) broke up with me. I had just visited her and left two days prior to the breakup.
I went through the most challenging period of my life because I just suffered some job and graduate school rejections that period. The breakup worsened my situation and pushed me into a depression. I have never felt defeated in life till that point. She blocked me on all mediums of communication. It was too extreme. I went from 91kg to 85 kg in less than 3 weeks.

I visited her to understand the whole situation cos her behaviour was too extreme and I got a toxic dosage of embarrassments. She said she was done with me. She said a lot of hurtful things to me. The height of the embarrassments was calling her new boyfriend (barely 3 weeks after breaking up with me) right in front of me and telling him she doesn't know what I'm doing in her place. She even called some of her friends to inform them of my presence. They all sounded scared and concerned for her as if I was some kind of predator. They told her to leave her place at once and come to their place. All these calls were on speaker! This is someone I invested all these years and emotions for. I went through hell that period cos I was dealing with some other personal tribulations.

I can't imagine treating her or anybody else the way she treated me. I NEVER cheated on her, NOT ONCE or by chance! I have walked away from compromising situation countless times because I placed her so high. I had so much respect for her. She now went on to slander my name, accusing me of cheating!!! When I asked who was feeding her all those lies, she said her friends told her. How? Did I date you or your friends? It still boggles my mind to think she'll believe them and go about spreading those ugly rumours about me.

The straw that broke the camels back was when a friend of mine told me that she said she's grateful to God she didn't contract any infection/disease from me! I couldn't believe my ears. I broke down. This didn't just break my heart, it shattered my spirit. This is someone I imagined spending the rest of my life with. My whole family (even extended) accepted her as one of us.

I had to accept that things were beyond salvaging because any attempt from me to fix things kept doing the opposite. The minute it involved my sisters I had to accept defeat.

I never harmed her or attempt to lay a finger on her. I might not be perfect but I gave it my all. The situation is far worse than I described it here, it's even painful remembering them. I loved her to a fault.

I got a text from her about a month ago after I refused to answer her calls because I had just lost a loved one. She said she's getting married and hopes I find peace as she has found hers. I stared at those words speechless. The worst set of people one could ever encounter are those that hurt you, know that they hurt you and still turn around to play victim accusing you of hurting them. If there's anything I'm proud of is my level of self-control. I know few of my friends who made fun of me being extremely loyal to one girl, warning me severally that I'm wasting my time and good looks, that my youth is passing me by. At least I have a clean conscience that I never betrayed her trust. I never went about telling other people our business. Now I understand why they say good guys always finish last.


Women don't deserve loyalty, forget all their cliche that men are not faithful and honest. I went the faithful, loyal path what did I get in return? Venom! I feel repulsed when I hear women say "Men are dogs", "Men always cheat".

I just don't want this experience to turn me into something I'm not or make me an embittered soul. I'm traumatized beyond words. This was my first and only relationship and I gave it everything. I'm in my mid-twenties and I don't think I can ever love genuinely again. I need mature advice on how to come out of this ordeal a better person. I don't want to transfer any aggressions or micro-aggressions on anybody because of this experience. Please mature advice needed. Thank you.

My brother you just experienced the ugly truth about women, they can be downright cold hearted and wicked. All men must realize that their careers and life goals deserve the utmost attention, not women.
In a relationship, the one who loves less has the power and control while the other partner is at their mercy.
You must know this truth bro, women claim that they want to be loved and pampered, but the moment you shower them with love and adoration you will be taken for granted and made a fool. Don’t ever love a woman more than she loves you or else you’re a goner.
Time heals all wounds and you will get over it and come out stronger and wiser.

Riele:
Lmao .

What do you say in the case of broke guys with loyal ladies?

Are there any resources or money to part away with ? .

Perhaps a broke guy with huge potential to make it financially in the nearest future.