₦airaland Forum

dkidd:
Instead of all that why not respect his choice as an individual.. My dad kept five and saw us all through uni even to the point of starting our own families and is still strong and sound travelling around the globe at will till tomorrow. So just congratulate the man or lock up. Abi na u dey help polygamous men handle their families?

I tired for them o. Most of them have not even been able to marry one o! Dem marriage experts

JASONjnr:
This is foolishness....

Handling just one woman is a stress and you added two more.

If this man will keep these three women under the same roof, he might not live long enough to see his children at 10.

But I wonder how the Muslims handle their four wives.??🤔

And you knew all these, how?

Kingpele:
Tinubu is a thief and we shouldn't be shocked if u see majority of his appointees stealing public funds

When have Nigerian politicians not been stealing public funds?
This is not about Tinubu. You are too dumb for my liking.

cenaman:
I believe they (the 4 traditional rulers) didn't support the evil party called APC in the last governorship election.

You are saying that this is the consequences of their action?

atobs4real:
Any body that is a terrorist doesn't deserve to leave

That's an accurate description of Israel govt

Righteousness2:
ISRAEL is Bombarding your Heads off! You are Here lamenting and Wailing.
Who Pass you pass you

Israel has entangled itself in what could possibly turn out to be a prolonged war. To make it worse, she's fighting on multiple fronts. That will affect her economy terribly among many other things, which is already happening.
USA supports for Israel in terms of military and economic aids is there, right. But for how long? Ukraine is a typical example

Mayplays:
You have the timing wrong, actually it was before women couldn’t talk back to men and had no rights

It is now that women have the opportunity to do that without getting beaten, imprisoned or killed at no consequence

Lastly as far as your hearts are growing cold and you are killing only the women in your families, the rest of us will only read your news and laugh here on Nairaland

Princessfumi:
most time he apologizes but that won't stop another one from happening..

That's the problem, he is supposed to be growing up in all aspects of his life, getting mature everyday. That's what I do, keep being better for myself, wife and kids because no one is perfect. We just need to recognise our flaws and work on it.

aside that he doesn't help me with anything in the house when he's free, even when I'm very exhausted and if I ask him for help whala will start again, it's just too exhausted I almost lost my life some months ago I fell when I was carrying a bucket of water..

Even if his job or schedule doesn't allow him to help, there is what I called incentives. Husbands can motivate their wives with that, just what individual can afford. I do that once in a while.

hummm om thinking of leaving the marriage I'm tired I'm too young to be going tru hard time

Leaving! If everything doesn't work, may be separation is what you need and not outright divorce. Sometimes, all what it takes for husband to realise the importance, usefulness and worthiness of his wife is her wife's absence, not divorce. If he misses you and make steps to reconcile, that should give you opportunity to renegotiate.
Hang tight!

Usmanovic95:
https://www.nairaland.com/7942868/japa-bank-manager-skyscraper-cleaner/10

t's obvious you missed the thread of a bank manager in nigeria who is now a sky scraper cleaner in UK. Dey there,oga! forget prestige,the crave for more money and enjoy enjoy the bliss that comes with living in a good society is what is driving NIGERIANS out. In future time after making enough money,they can always come back and live that stereotype big man life in Nigeria again.

Lol. People felt sorry for him, I felt sorry for him too. He didn't bargain for that. Or, you meant to say that he got that job before he left Nigeria, so he knew what he was getting into?
Ask yourself, why leaving a work in an office with AC for one of the most dangerous jobs in the world? He didn't move up the ladder, he downgraded himself.
There are professors driving cab in Canada, they didn't plan for that but they had to survive because they realised the bitter truth too late.
I will say it again, you don't know opportunities that comes with being a bank manager

Hehe! So, this is possible?

omonla10:
I'll tell u this fact for free.. after paying bills and eating well for the month as an average unskilled family, u can still save more than 2 to 3 million naira monthly if u convert ur remaining pounds to naira..

I'm telling u from experience, provided u have the normal resident permit

Why would you do that when you are not in Nigeria or spending naira anymore? It means you are still struggling

Whatisurproblem:
do you know how much is one Pound convert to Naira? Washing dishes in UK is better than Bank manager in Nigeria.

Probably you don't know what it means to be a bank manager in Nigeria
Forex and businesses seeking loans are enough for bank managers in Nigeria to chop belleful. Dey dia.

Mautinmatthew:
A dishwasher who is having 12hrs a day shift and do five days a week would pay his house rent and feed himself conveniently, to cap it all, he would be richer than Nigeria bank manager

Damn! Why do you guys find this line convenient to throw up every time? Some of you would even proudly tell us that USA prison is better than Banana island . And would gladly say that a slave in abroad is better than a king in Nigeria. How can anyone grow financially with this kind of mentality and mindset?

Windblown2much:
Make una free the dishwasher na... una wan use insults and shaming take finish the guy haba na! he's still better than millions of u lots attacking him U guys dunno what God has done for anyone that has successfully left this shithole.

Na wa!

You are wrong if you leave through illegal means, three months visa or landed in a wrong country

Schoolshooter:
Any job better than no job


Money way I don earn as dish washer fit build bungalow for naija

What can it build in UK because you're not working or living in Nigeria anymore? That money can't even get you permission alone in UK.
This is my problem with you japa guys, you are always measuring your income and growth in terms of naira which is a Nigerian standard and that's very wrong.
When the only time you can see yourself as growing is when you have to measure your achievements in naira or by naija standard despite living in abroad, that to me, is not a commensurate growth

Educationalserv:
with the constant change in the Uk visa the Many are now too ashamed to come back to Nigeria
Uk just want you visa and Ihs fees money to fund wage increases
dont sell your property to japa to uk
is not worth the stress only very few succeed

Not like I'm a fan or advocate of japa by all means but your write up lacks substances. You could have done better than this.

karmaolu1:
Religion of WaR and not peace,

All what you saw here is religion because they're Muslims, you piece of shit, mothefvcking fanatics.
The woman lawyer who murdered her lawyer husband in Lagos state and another woman lawyer who murdered her own lawyer husband too in Ibadan practise religion of war too?

Princessfumi:
my husband is hot tempered he gets angry over every damn thing, nd his insult can make someone commit suicide , the worst part his parents are late there's he fears nobody, nd if I tried telling people what he's doing, another trouble will start. . kai I don't deserve this...it is well

Try to be talking to him when he's not angry: that you don't like how he normally reacts, most especially when he is angry, that he makes you feel less of a human.

Chicagograduate:
They want to increase fuel price again.
Do those countries with high fuel price have a high unemployment rate?How much is their minimum wage?
Do they refine fuel abroad and import back into their country to sell?
Do they have months of blackout like Nigeria?
A whole opec country cannot boast of a functional refinery.
The media is even helping to drive this wicked move by Tinubu and Akpabio after sending prayers to lawmakers mailboxes.
Na that fuel go explode for inside that Una convoy

Media is not driving anything, they're just doing their job. They put information out there worldwide for everyone, it is left for individual country to do what they like with the information.

Raskimonojendor:
What's the rent and expenses in those places too?

More information are needed

You are still unknowingly talking about their income.
Many oil producing nations selling below 50 naira but the price in Nigeria is like x20 per liter despite having higher wages than Nigeria. What a shame

VeeVeeMyLuv:
If an individuals keep listening to nairaland members with their bad mouth, they will never get married

This is all I have to say. Thank you

Dem alpha males who have never been married but would be glad to tell you that all married men are suffering in silence and are just smiling to fake happiness.

coleon:
You are deviating from the real issues here my friend and trying to divert blame on your principal to the states.
While not exonerating the states for their incompetence, the very idea of sharing money every month to states is even wrong in a federation. This is because the states are also meant to stand on their own and generate their wealth.
To the issue you raised, the federal government is to blame for the massive inflation going on in Nigeria today. The states do not control the economy and they don't dictate the fiscal and monetary policies affecting the economy. Specifically, Tinubu's policy of floating the naira and fuel subsidy removal is what has caused the massive inflation going on in Nigeria today so why are you blaming the states for that?

Generate their own wealth when FG has taken ownership or possession of most resources found in each state? The states are even the ones that should be sending allocations to FG if FG hasn't taken over everything.
And again, govs are thieves. In fact, individual of them steals more than presidents

ogashman:
Exercising right u said? So Voting for dull candidates(both buhari n tinubu) who refused to attend an ordinary debate to at least sell their Ideas to the people is exercising rights?

It is what it is, individual democratic right. Obi or Atiku could have been worse because a lots of factors are responsible for achievement or failure in office

VaginaAcademic:
if she was a Saint you think he would stab her I've been in a similar situation it was just the grace of God I didn't act on my emotions, some women will push you to do unbelievable things.

kingyang:
Very nice poem , well written. Until you're married you will understand. I'm 100 percent against men beating their wives/spouses, or anything that leads to fight, death but women will push you to a point of regrets. The earlier they control their tongues, the better. They shouldn't forget that they are talking to a human not animals or objects. I always walk away when in confrontation because I have seen the outcome several times.

Princessfumi:
u are wrong, I was beaten by my husband because I didn't reply his rant

These guys are kids, don't mind them. I'm a married man and I understand that if my wife ignores me, at times, it makes me angry too. But the truth is that wives ignoring husbands' rants could mean they're trying to prevent the issue from escalating by not saying the wrong words back. The husbands response to the anger is what separates individuals.
These ones think that there is a manual for what makes husbands angry with their wives: like talking back or being stubborn

VaginaAcademic:
if she was a Saint you think he would stab her I've been in a similar situation it was just the grace of God I didn't act on my emotions, some women will push you to do unbelievable things.

I don't even understand why you keep using the word "saint" as if the woman could be a criminal or some sort of an offender.
How many people have you made angry? Why didn't they kill you? Someone made you angry and the best thing to do is to murder him or her.
Killing someone for doing something that makes you angry shouldn't be the act that comes to your mind as a response. No justification for killing that woman no matter what you might have imagined to be her "sin".

davies:
This present administration will pose as of they're fighting corruption but in the real sense they are actually marauding and dining in corruption.

This is about Nigeria and the successive administrations we've been having since 1999. But people like you would rather make it about APC or Tinubu thing. Not every issue of governance should be reduced to politics.

ivolt:
This is easy to defend in court.
Open wifi poses security risk, hence the change in password.

Who go take u to court for changing your own WiFi password? Hehe!

ECASH120:
Is that what will now give you audacity to confront someone because he puts security password on his WiFi

Most especially when you have never at one point or the other told him that you're benefiting from him

Southern states would never show interest in projects like this. Their youths would rather be happy shouting we don't want RUGA through the backdoor

VaginaAcademic:
woman never do you shege see as you dey simp for her dem dey carry stab person do you know how she provoked the man I don't support murder or stabbing but pray you don't find yourself in that scenario the man committed murder but that doesn't make the woman a saint either.

What are you really accusing her of exactly? You are sick upstair! Mtcheeew!!

sparko1:
You can't, because you are a man.

Besides, they are still investigating, it's very sadistic for a man to kill his wife and proceed to sleep with coups.

Just because the report said that they were in bed together? That didn't mean he slept with her corpse

Chai, someone witnessed 2024 that everyone was praying for but wouldn't be allowed to even finish January!

Uyi168:
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Prayers give people a sense of security. They feel Since they have prayed,they are secured. They are covered. There will be provisions for them. That what happened to others can not happen to them.


In reality,this is all nonsense. They still suffer from what others suffer from. They fall sick. Get kidnapped. Fail exams and Job interviews. Get involved in accidents. Die untimely deaths.

Nigeria is one big evidence that prayers don't work.

Many Nigerians still won't agree with you. Lol