₦airaland Forum

socialmediaman:
People these days consider love as a feeling rather than a decision (choice).

Having said that, let me also note that while 50% of first marriages fail, many divorced people go ahead to remarry and live stable married lives

So yes, marriages are failing at a much higher rate than before, but many people are living happy lives after they remarried, they learned something from their previous marriages that was helpful when the next marriage happened

Talking about learning, for example, when these men-haters and women-beaters end up in a divorce and eventually get the therapy which they didn’t have before their previous marriages, they sometimes learn something positive that helps them become better people

Love is a feeling, marriage is a decision

SeaTrade:
I think marriage was imposed on humans for reasons best known to its creators.
Men want more women,women want more men.
You give this,you lack that ,etc...
Is it something I'm excited about?No.
Will I do it?Well maybe,time shall tell.
Am I scared about it?Yes.
Will I trust my spouse?Well I honestly don't know but I highly doubt it.
It's hard to completely trust a person cos along the line,you'd get disappointed one way or the other,
The only reason a lot of people still trust their unions is ignorance,shine a little light to the dark and all hell breaks lose.
I've learnt to tolerate some excesses and ignore a lot as I grow older when it comes to this whole union thing,just give me my space abeg and don't be all up in my face as I won't do same to you.
If you want to have more,feel free cos I won't even investigate,just don't bring back diseases to pass to me cos I'd kill you honestly .

You gave green light, anything can be brought back to you since you don't care

Meddymeddy:
I have seen plentiful post about failed marriages on the Internet. Most marriages only last a couple of years before divorce comes up. Although there are few happy marriages. The ratio for happy marriages and failed marriages is 20:80. There are many factors that contribute to failed marriages which include cheating, unfaithfulness, finance etc. Some just wake up and realise that their wife is no longer attractive ( did they force her on you? ). Back in the days marriages were pre set up whereby couples barely knows themselves. Nowadays you see couple dating for 6-10years and when they finally get married issues will start poping up.

Maybe marriage should be like a contact after some years it will be terminated depending on how long the couple want it to be

You are talking about marriages as an institution, not as a union.
One union can fail and another can succeed. But marriages as an institution is undoubtedly failing.
And you are equally wrong by 20:80% ratio. Percentage of successful marriages is higher than that of failed ones

Deadlytruth:
What is the percentage of Nigerians on Nairaland?
You think I was referring to Nairalanders alone?

You ever heard of samples or sampling?

Good grammar, legible and beautiful handwriting too.

Deadlytruth:
Per your first paragraph; you just took it out of my mouth.

Per your second paragraph; you seem not to be aware that about 95% of Nigerians are gullible and incapable of deep logical reasoning .

And how many comments have you seen here agreed with the speaker? You guys rate Nigerians very low, thanks to self hating

Animegirl:
Finance, "Money" if not Human beings will show you "shege"Purpose will come when there is money, no matter how small. sweet romance will come when there is finance.

Holluwhakemmy:
Finance. money answereth all things, romance can follow suit

I'm sure these comments above are about the "men must have money". Lol

Jewessgratitud3:
The place of money in a relationship can never be overemphasized. So I think this comparison should be between Romance and purpose leaving money out as money is a very essential part of any human endeavor in life.

If you have all the romance and purpose in a relationship without money, how do you execute the plan and purpose for that relationship at the end of the day? Therefore let money be on standby regardless .

Now, if we are to choose between purpose and romance, I'll say purpose because this is what gives you the drive and direction to a meaningful and healthy lasting relationship.

Romance on the other hand is just to have fun and at the end of the day, you have no clue what you want from this person. Whether you're with them because of the satisfaction you're getting at the moment or you want them for keeps. So you'll just playing around with them aimlessly and saying let's see what happens. in the process things get muddled up, emotions are toyed with until everyone is fed up and begin to retract.

Any relationship a man tells you "let's see how it goes " run because he has no plans for you or the relationship. So putting romance first is not a good idea. Know what you want from this person ( in other words, the purpose for being with them) and run with the vision. Romance can always come after marriage.

Too much explanation yet you still missed the point. Why do you think you need money to define the purpose for which the two of you came together as one? Defining your purpose for being in a relationship with someone doesn't have anything to do with money. Okay?

Purpose should be the most important but today, it is finance

Paramount01:
Is everything you guys don't use to see, 50% discount you don't see anybody with the way news brocaste everything, yet you don't see it, cement I still but tiday, yet you don't see it, are you sure you guys are in Nigeria?

How much did you buy it today before thunder fire your yansh?

bigiyaro:
you don't have to understand me.

Fvck off

bigiyaro:
It's a very tough challenge, how do you eliminate 2 million+ terrorists? Total elimination of hamas equals total elimination of the strip. In any case, isreal is trying, at least, no more paragliding and firing of 5k rockets per day.

I don't understand you. By 2m+ terrorists, you meant Hamas alone or all Palestinians? That's how you people use hatred and overzealousness to start or support genocide without even knowing it

XAUBulls:
Indeed.

The extensive tunnel infrastructure built over the last few years has aided the resilience of these criminal group called Hamas. To make things even more complex, most Palestinians from childhood have been indoctrinated to have intense hate for all Israelis, the Western countries, and non-Muslims just like the Thai and two Tanzanian citizens that were killed (the 21-year-old Black Tanzanian worker in Southern Israel who was videoed being deliberately stabbed to death despite NOT being an Israeli citizen).

What do you expect if the picture diagram attached below is anything to go by?

IamDora:
Useless men, all they know how to do is complain complain and complain all the time

Watch how his fellow useless men will avoid this thread or create excuses for him, but when the table turns, they start insulting and talking down on the lady without knowing her side of the story,

The way NL men reason sometimes leaves me in awe, sometimes I wonder if most of them even experienced a mother's love. They insult us 2.4.7 yet slide-in to our Dms with alternates.

Alpha Nonsense online, mighty simps offline

Wrong intervention from you. You could do better but this your contribution would only make him more determine to end the relationship. You didn't do the woman any good by your hate and anger towards this man (and men in general as it is obvious).

I don't think there is any.

[quote author=falcon01 post=127566993][b] The IT GURU is wrong and st*pid for pulling out a knife on a cop.

That aside, I've seen white men attacking cops with Knife and they take so long to take a shot and most time don't shoot at all. For a black man, putting your hands in the pocket for just a microsecond is an automatic death sentence. It takes the average cop 0.001 second to pull the trigger on a black man

Did he? No evidence yet that he did that. They even said only one cop tried to talk to him, then the shots followed, lol.

flokii:
The thought of getting harassed, jailed and possibly killed over trivial things as a young black man is why I don't see any point relocating to the US.. the black Americans there are being killed like animals by the racist US Police and some jailed unjustly by their racist justice system talk more of African migrants.

Just like George Flyod and many other blacks killed by US Police, nothing will come out of this case .

The who killed Flyod is in prison serving sentence

Laird:
Please let's call a spade a spade for what it is

Why would he go overseas and stay carrying knife to attack police crew

What Nonsense

You really believed that crap? Lol. You're a kid if you think an IT guru who has everything would be looking for police officers to attack with knife. Have USA police never given stupid excuses as to why they shot all the innocent black men they have murdered?

RepoMan007:
if same had happened in Nigeria, he probably will be paraded as a armed robber with one rusty pistol. Jakpa still favoured him.

What is this crap that you just typed? Assuming that what you said about being arrested in Nigeria is possible, how does being murdered in cold blood in USA better than being roped in Nigeria to be in prison? At least, you have hope to regain your freedom one day.

At least the money in his account will go to his next of kin and not a nest of killers.

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Just listen to yourself, you're pathetic and disgusting. What an handicapped way to reason?

shadrach77:
There is power failure everywhere including the US and the UK. The only difference between the western world and Nigeria is that the blackouts are very rare and light is often restored within 12 hours. That man is obviously new in the land hence his ignorance

If it is rare, then there is no basis for comparison at all

ElohimShenRa:
Wetin you expect before ? Dem don carry their witchcraft & idols go UK.

Nigeria’s woes & misery began in “FESTAC 77” when they imported all the evil spirits & idols from all over the World into Nigeria.

Na FESTAC 77 say make all your leaders of yesterday, today and tomorrow turned to thieves and selfish citizens? Dey dia dey deceive yourself

Aboks:
Nigerians are virus to any country they travel to

Really! What a mentality to be carrying around? Pity

DrDoc:
Unless you have excess, it is better to expand income generating systems. I.e build more businesses than build a house that doesnt generate or create substantial wealth on time

Answer the question if you have the answer, not giving unsolicited advice.

naijapips04:
The best thing I've read this year. Aside status, owning a house is not a good investment. For a struggling guy, grow the shit out of that 25m. 25m in a good business should give us at least 70m in a year. Rent and grow this. In , 4 years, use the residual income to buy a house. Don't go and dump all your life savings in a house.

Another, I too sabi

Zonefree:
Must be skit.

No African mother will reject a successful son unless she's a witch.

The joy of every mother is to see her sons progress.


So, a 22 year old 200 level student should be broke and poor in Nigeria?
I bought my first land in 300 level.

This is the problem with Nigerians. The reason police profile a young boy driving a car as yahoo boy.

Young boys are making money without yahoo. Yahoo is not the only means of making money online.

As a student, learn a skill while studying. Don't always depend on your parents.

Land: 300k! Car: 4m naira!
Besides, we know the source.

BLESSED.
Worsening economic atmosphere in general. But I still managed to buy land, started my house project, completed it and moved in within 2023. That's something by my standard

Available9:
I don't support any Nigerian politicians...you may have reason to die for tinubu, Atiku or obi...but most of us don't give a shit

You don't support but attacking the ones who support? Lol. Will Nigeria govern itself or what? Your response even exposed you as someone who is confused. If you don't any aspiring presidential candidate, what then is your business with politics or governance?

EmperorCaesar:


I have always maintained that death isnt a negative occurence and so no need to pity the dead

We only grieve cause the dead person is a big loss to his people and they will sure miss him, since he's been in one way or the other, involved in their everyday life

The dead dont even know they are dead, and what they experience is total shift in consciousness and eternal peace like we all felt in the year 1800 when we all arent aware of whats happening around us

What if the other side is actually lively and great, then our mourning is useless and a disservice to the dead person

What other side?

Romanoff:
You didn't tell her you were going through personal challenges and will need some space to sort things put, you just ghosted her. Stop ghosting people, learn to communicate. She probably just assumed herself unattached after you ghosted her and with young girls these days, it's normal.

And she didn't have his number too before making such decision? Let's keep defending bullshits

Jeon:
Why can't women be polygamous since men are polygamous in nature?.

I always laugh whenever I see complains like this, for fuvk sake men also engage in sexual explore with other ladies, but will get pissed off if the same card is been played on them.

modified:The nonsense justification coming from the weak gender that can't takes what they gave out

You know that woman's extramarrital affairs could lead to mix up if she's not careful and that could turns out to be big problem for a her?

Carcholce:
In 2024, one thing I really want to do is to be able to completely avoid threads that has to do with man and woman relationship. I don tire to read these things. Reading posts as these is not helpful to the mind, and if you are not strong minded, it plants hates towards the opposite gender.

OP, sorry for not contributing to help your situation. Happy new year in advance. Extend my greetings to your fiancée!

On the contrary, you're already addicted to it . Just look at this, you're the first to comment. If you are going to stop next week, is this for you to say goodbye to us here? Lol

[quote author=wwwtortoise post=127643822]Needing a helper or a financier is within her human rights. After all we all have a covert wish list. It’s now left for who can fill the gap to make the move or not.
Life is not that difficult is it?[/quote]My post was in response to your comment

Being single with peace of mind trumps an unhealthy relationship.

. To let you realise that she has tasted SINGLENESS and she doesn't like it with that PEACE OF MIND you're advising . Got it?

LordCenturion:
His wife killed him, the man was sick, yet she's dragging him to come back home so that the deputy will not take the seat, just look at what eventually happened..

They did the same thing with late gov Suntai with the connivance of his wife back then. They never learned

mascot87:
It is not time to allocate blames

It might be the truth