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kowema:
Most ladies lack contentment.
I lived in the hostel and one thing is common down there and it's sharing.
Ladies share stuffs like make up so why didn't she just beg for it?.

If u have lived in the hostel and u have this one roommate that steals, you know how it goes wen d person is caught one day.
Were dey supposed to pamper her wen dey caught her?.

In some ways I dnt feel sorry for her cus it doesn't look like she is a corrrectable person.
What happens to pleading for forgiveness and moving on and let time heal the shame?.


Cc: mynd44, lalasticlala

Well said. Lack of contentment is what killed her. Is it a must that our ladies put on make up even when they can't afford it? No wonder we have so much beauty without brains these days

dinggle:
Someone must be the head of the family if no be man na woman?
Tho! I see slight sense in what she said, because yeye men full town, so it needs to be revised! A "good" man is the head of the family in the lacking of a good man, a "good" woman takes over.

Hahahaha... funny dude

lovelygurl:
No it's not limited to the roles in a house alone BUT then again you see ladies who CLAIM to be feminists only when it favours them. Those are just confused bunch of people.
The thing is the world is changing. Sorry to say but if a man in this 21st century still thinks he is the only one who has to be going through abnormal stress etc just to take care of his family, then he's on his own. More women are willing to help are in my opinion SUPPOSED to help.

Nice one there. God bless your level of understanding.

lovelygurl:
Now you seem to be educated unlike those quoting me, shouting as if they can change the way the lady thinks.


Why would feminists...? Feminists are INDIVIDUALS because they are humans. Feminism just means equality, not placing the man or the woman higher in EVERY aspect of life, even if it favours the lady.

A feminist can want to marry, have kids etc, another feminist might not want to. A feminist can be a house wife, another might not want to be 1. This is an INDIVIDUAL choice and has nothing to do with feminism. You can't put all in a nutshell because the only thing they have in similar is they believe in equality.

So about the getting married, finding a filmsy excuse to divorce etc, then that's because the lady decided to, NOT because she is a feminist or else all divorced women will be 1.

And about the choice of only wanting to have kids is again an individual choice. The fact that YOU think she'll regret it, doesn't mean she will. This is what makes humans individuals

To be honest my problem with this whole thing is the whinings. There's nothing to question about another persons' belief and thoughts because it's nothing you can change. Birds of the same feather flock together. If you can't deal with a group of people then don't deal with them, go for your kinds and stop whining around because they are different. I mean it's the same thing like mind your business. Live your life and let others live theirs

A man needs respect and the wife needs love. This is what is lacking in today's generation else, there won't be need for this feminism. When we talk about equality is it limited to our roles in the home alone? Can we also be equal when it comes to responsibilities in the house? What then is the need for a man going through hell just to fulfil some marital rites(in some cases run into debts in the process)? Before agitating for equality, do we have the same mindset, ability to deal with issues correctly and efficiently? As much as I frown on women being second best in their homes, I think this issue of equality is really making most of our ladies see themselves as "all sufficient". Marriage is not a ground for claiming our rights, , it's a place where two persons comes together to act as ONE body. Anything outside this is going out of God's plan for marriage. We are to complement one another and not claim any right.

BUTTERBEER:
She's obviously a single mother hence the frustration, she don't want them teaching her daughter that she's missing a father figure

How on earth did you guess this right!!! I did some research and this is just my findings. Majority of our so called feminist are either divorce, single mum or frustrated single ladies. As long as one is a christian, there's need to observe and obey what God had commanded. Though some men took things for granted hence the reason for all these feminists claims...

"The man is the giver in a relationship, while the woman is the receiver."! Please OP, where did you get this notion from? This is what is killing our ladies these days. By making this statement, it shows that men are just nothing more than ATM to ladies. This is why most men are domineering and authoritative in marriages because they are made to look like nothing apart from ATM machines.

MhizTenderly:
I don't think so.

What do you call this?

originalKsp:
Why madam? Truly women face sexual harrasment than men but men are more sexually harrased than we think so. Most men won't report it. That's the point ma.

And to further buttress your point, we see sexual harassment from verbal and physical angle. But the truth is that indecent dressing to work place can also be a form of sexual harassment. Whether we like it or not, men are wired to be moved by what they see and not all have that self control.

Hiccups:
Men faces more harassment at work place than ladies #Fact. Ladies mostly get Harassed by their boss, the case of men is completely different, since co-workers, superiors, interiors, and even customers do harass men more. Unfortunately, the society will consider any man reporting such cases as weakling. I have repeatedly seen & experienced such, but I handled it as a gentleman

That's the point. Men handles theirs while women can't. They mostly don't have that logics to deal with most of it. But just as you said, it's mostly from their superior to them so it makes it difficult for them. But still, put a man in that situation, he will handle it.

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FelixFelicis:
Kimbra and ZarZar, two strong-willed opinion givers Their combo is a terrible one

It's very serious mostly ZarZar. Her opinion is her opinion no matter how strong or wrong( if yours is right dou lol) it sounds. I like such people dou mostly if it's a she because it shows a sense of reasoning and opinionated personality.

ZarZar:
Just because you don't smoke doesn't mean you'll live longer than someone that does. 1000 ways to die as they say. I once read an ironic story about a vegetarian that was killed by meat So, on this one morning this guy went out. While waiting by the side of the road for the lights to turn green, so he could cross the street, a huge chunk of meat fell out of the window of the building he was standing under & crushed his skull. So yeah, tomorrow is not promised to anybody, today.

I am marvelled at this your instance. The issue is whether smoking is good for our health or not (as I rightly stated in my earlier comment). This your example is a case of accident which is way different from the issue we are talking about. Death is inevitable but taking something that may likely take one close to his/her grave is what am talking about. There are many things that when done, could cause harm for us and smoking is sure one of them.

Even the producers said that "smokers are liable to die young"! Then it only portrays the fact that smoking isn't good for our health. Then I wondered why we should keep taking what will only cause harm to us instead of good.

Nomfanelo99:
as long as he doesn't do it in my presence thn we good . Smoking is a bad habit though . It doesn't do any good except harm your health

So with this your submission, smoking isn't good for our health but as long as he doesn't do it in your presence... does this mean you really don't care about the guy's lifestyle?

Benz4pimp:
I support the comment on u sending her num for verification....2 sides to every story

Well, as valid as that may seems, I believe she will deny if anyone calls her to verify the authenticity of this. Either way, there are 3 sides to this story; His own, her own and the truth.

folarinmiles:
Is Lotachukwu a Yoruba name

Meanwhile,
"They offered me five thousand naira to smuggle the drugs to Indonesia”
Yet d smelly mouths will open dere wide mouth to castigate anoda tribe

Hahaha... but it was *five thousand dollars" the OP meant to write o. So it was a mistake

Benita27:
So you wash your bra after your second outing?. I wear bra more than twice and it doesn't smell as you're putting it.

what the OP is trying to say is that it's necessary not to wear a single bra for more than two days for hygienic reason. Sweat induced by chores and other energy sapping activities can actually cause bras to smell. Therefore, there's need to be mindful of your activities and to determine if there's need to change it often or not.

Aderola15:
Yeah because I still love them

Haaa... still love "them" ke!

Aderola15:
Yeah because I still love them

GloriaNinja:
hmm hunger dey., that's why some hungry people rush to events but the girl is mean for uttering that statement.

Hahahaha maybe she will appreciate uninvited guests when the wedding venue is almost empty.

babadee1:
It's a show for adults and not for children. It clearly says 18+ on the screen. Grown folks should be mature enough to watch whatever they want to watch. Nobody's business.

You are very right ok. But then of what basic importance is the show to those adults or humanity? What message are they trying to pass across to those adults?

annibro:
I wonder! Program without Objective, no purpose, no reason, no gain... Only just propagating the kingdom of darkness and reaping innocent young nigerian job seekers of their hard earn money via voting
....Anyway, d voters aren't innocent. Dey ve only failed to use their common sense.... If all Nigerians were like me, no one will vote, let big brother just choose the winner of his choice... Caseclosed

Nope dear, I won't call it "reaping innocent young naija job seekers..."! It is our gullibility, ignorance and naivity that is the issue. BBN didn't force anyone to vote but voluntarily.

Then I asked again what the impact of this program is? If a participant thinks she doesn't want her daughter to see what she's done then why are we celebrating them

zanga420:
then this is the time to lend our voices and put more efforts and pressure for the bill to succeed. All hands should be on deck. Thanks

Even the judges that are to prosecute them are also guilty of corruption. What we need is a new set of people that are guilty free as at the time they are elected. Anything outside this is just like asking an armed robber to catch another armed robber even when they both knew they were guilty. Corruption is in every part of this country. God help Naija.

ybalogs:
Most of those in the house presently are already guilty of the crime. What's next now?

The more reason why all these are paper base. The laws are just meant for the masses. The Senates won't accept such law because almost all of them are guilty.

Benita27:
This story made me laugh.
What happened isn't reason enough to end a relationship if he truly cared about you. Dude acted immature tho!.

From the write up, there was no relationship yet. Maybe the guy just needed her company that time ni. But then, the guy didn't act maturely at all. what if she has the intention of peeing only to enter and then poo shows up. It could have happened to anyone.

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LAFO:
after the babe don take him shine.


Mstchew

Who get time to read your apology?
The girl don win

Hahahaha... funny you. The guy bleeped up don't know why some guys believe going out with a lady is a ticket to her heart. Then went online to broadcast it and he got served. But is good he apologised sha. At least he has accepted the fact that he messed up on like some other guys that wouldn't.

Bolster:
Since you're full of 'sanity' and 'knowledge' could you please enlighten us on the aggregate demand for tomato paste in Nigeria and the capacity of each of Dangote, Sonia and Erisco tomato paste factories. Can these factories and others like them in Nigeria meet the demands or not?

Your question is absurd because I have already answered your question in my write up. Kindly go back, read and digest. Have a nice day!

jjbest123:
Hope We Have A Tomato Factory To Meet Local Demand

That is always the problem of Nigeria. We make policies without thinking deeply of the shortcoming.
Those producing locally can't satisfy the demands of the entire populace and we all know what law of demand says. I tell you, people will still find a way to pay the tariff and then transfer the exorbitant prices on final consumers. This will further compound the already worsening condition of average Nigerians. God should just plsssssss have mercy on us and bring back our leaders' sanity because our leaders have gone..... It is well.

kimbra:
Why are some of the guys on this thread making a mountain out of a molehill?.

Most men whose wives are stay at home mothers get monthly stipends which is for their upkeep. Some women inflate prices of things to their husbands as a means to add more money to their wallets, for some men they find out and don't care cos they understand the rationale behind it. As for her rude attitude it's bad and is what should bother you most. Not her inflation of hospital bills. Would you let N11,200 cost you your marriage?.

All well said. But is it proper or justified to always inflate the prices of item just to add more money to your wallet? Why not discuss it with the man and ask for a little increase instead. Remember, trust can't be built in a day but can be broken in seconds. It also shows dishonesty on the part of the woman.
For me, I am not going to pay my wife a dime because the money belongs to both of us. We plan on how to spend together and she would most likely be in charge of finance in the house.

NoToPile:
So sorry OP

So she gets around 30k as pocket money every month, and you pay all the bills buy everything needed and pay fees and school stuffs.That should be okay for her manage for personal effects I think, people earn 30k as salary nau.

That aside I see a lot of"I" "I" "I" in your statements its not all about you bro, You also mentioned the primary duties which you say is baby sitting, cooking your dinner during the week and both dinner and lunch during weekends, its quite a lot of work not as easy as it looks.

Not giving her her pocket money as a form of punishment translates to you not taking up your responsibility as a husband , you are meant to provide for her and take care of her and that should not change because of a misunderstanding especially since she has no source of income yet, where do u expect her to get money from if you seize her allawee.

Its better you communicate (not confront) to her let her know you were not happy with the extra she added on it, ask if she needed some extra stuffs at that time, ask why she did it was the 30k not enough for her that month?
Its not easy being in a position of being totally drpendednt and not having any money of your own, you need to see from her own view point too. She may have had extra need (you didn't mention she has inflated stuffs for you before ) and didn't want ti tell you about it since you already think she's not satisfied with the 17.2%





I don't know if its just me but I found the repetition of 17.2% in your narration quite amusing. OP no vex oo lool. How did you come to the conclusion that its 17.2% she's entitled too loool.

Wow this is so detailed. You've said my mind.

Pieromania:
Bro sori to tel u this,bt u are on a long thing.I see that marriage breaking anytime soon......why on earth wil a man pay his wife salary,what is the rationale behind such absurdity is what i can't fathom out?A STUDENT for that matter,u pay all bills,pay her fees and yet pay her salary.Very soon she wil start cheating on u,if not already started it.
Sori bro,ur case is different

I don't see anything wrong in what the OP did. She's just being carlous and greedy ni. She's a woman and will need some money for upkeeps so the need for the "salary"! Any woman that shows lack of content is doom for destruction. Its unfortunate that good ones always come in contact with the bad ones. Give such woman 1m, she will never be satisfied because she derives satisfaction in living above her means.