₦airaland Forum

busterr:
Drive which investors?
So it's better to lie to the investors?
Change your name please, there's nothing smart about you

DaTruths:
When will Nigerians come together regardless of Political inclinations and demand for good leadership?

zichien:
It is multifactorial. Generally the older you are at the time of "japa", the harder it is to adjust.
1) It can be socially isolating. At work you have to adjust to the accents, and cant even laugh anyhow, and will just be tensed up... you finish work and come home and wont see anyone to talk t.. you go to church the same thing. Unless you find a Nigerian church.
2) The weather: It can be cold, and annoying, and will make you want to stay in doors and not come out
3) Lack of sunlight. Honestly there is something about seeing the sun that gives one joy. If youve lived in a country like Nigeria with beautiful weather, and correct sunlight, and you are now transported to a place with gloomy depressing weather, ah your brain sef will be doing some how
4) Bills. You've migrated with all the expectations. Your people sent you forth at the airport. They told you job full everywhere, money is everywhere. You work .. and by work I mean you put in those long hard hours ..and are paid your first pay check and see how much is deducted as tax. and how much finally ends up in your account. In Nigeria you are used to surviving on your paycheck + bribe+ plus urgent 1k. You can owe Iya Basira, and owe your landlord, and sort electricity. Now here you are surviving on paycheck alone which is "Salary-(taxes-monthly rent-monthly phone bill-monthly gas/water bill-monthly deduction to send home-monthly deduction for car insurance). What is left off is then saved. And then there is the pressure because you are seeing the ones that are carrying" you know what" flaunting on instagram,and making you look like an idiot, and lazy... and you begin to wonder wether it is not the same Japa,or God that you are serving.
5) When you were in Nigeria, you had an excuse for not succeeding. You could blame Jonathan, Or Buhari, or Tinubu or ipob. Now you are here, and have arrived... and typical oyibo expects one to take accountability for their actions. The buck stops on you. No one to blame for your lack of progress but yourself.. so some folks fall into depression because a sheep in Nigeria is still a sheep in Canada, Uk etc. Someone that used an agent to sort through university, used an agent to find them a school abroad, an agent to apply for their visa, has now come to a setting where you have to DIY. No agent will tell you how to apply for that extra certificate that will help you advance your career, no agent will tell you how to create a strategic long term plan such that in 10years you will be at the top of your career, no agent will tell you what classes to choose to develop the skill sets that are highly sought after. So someone who has always lacked the self efficacy, and accountability, someone who doesnt know how to take ownership, and blames others eg " my mother is a witch", "my village people did me" " they sent me poison"... will struggle badly, and can fall into depression.

This isnt all... but just a few random thoughts

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VULCAN:
As a matter of fact, Israel "may have"hired actors to pretend to kill 1400 people on Oct 7 and they also "may have" hired the 1400 people including babies to act dead for the cameras.

CNN and its overt and covert support for Palestinians and their brand of Terror is just disgusting

naijapikin2:
There are more gun shops in south africa, than there are akara joints in nigeria. Violent con3. With ugly set of men. Their men have fleshless heads.

Ugly set of lazy scumbags... Milking our country dry and rubbing it on our noses because of the vision less leaders we have.

Saturnalia:
Things do not always go as planned. Now, let me analyze how you would eventually end up in the EFCC cell with your watery plan.

The person you would contact at the NIMC would get greedy and demand $3Million from the whole bounty, since he knows it’s a lifetime opportunity.

I trust you, you that mistakenly landed a jackpot that doesn’t belong to you would resist and fight harder, even more than the legitimate owner of the bounty would have fought.

Now, let us assume that common sense prevails and you succumb to the greed of your NIMC’s contact.

Where will you register for the new BVN? A Bank? Hahahaaaaa!

Na for there, EFCC go grab you. Do you know why Bankers are called “Emperors of Greed” ?

Your contact in the Bank would have to settle up to 8 other contacts within the Bank before what you want can get done.

At the end of the day, you might not even get up to a Million Dollars out of the entire bounty because they would make you realize how risky it is for them to get caught.

That same greed that is motivating you to scheme $10.4Million erroneously paid into your account is the same geed that will bury you when you come in contact with the Emperors of Greed.

You no go see Ghana, talk less of Europe.

ycat:
You this delusional idiot can keep crying. Nigeria has always had bad leaders and that's why Nigeria hasn't gotten better after all this years. Nigeria is just a few months in the hands of the only president that can turn things around but you won't give him the chance. Nigeria lost respect everywhere long time ago and it's because of people like you not the leadership, even affrican countries with worse leaders despise you. Nigerian leaders get red carpet where they go, it's you that get the mistreatment.

osuolale95:
Some Yorubas don’t eat this due to ancestry palavas

TheManofTomorrow:
So what do you expect from a society that broke shame financially average guys?

So when the so-called average guys get rich, you expect them to stick to one babe that probably also came to leash off their wealth?

You are very funny, man

nedekid:
Winning elections in Nigeria is not just by forming alliances, it is by controlling inec, mobilizing criminal thugs, snatching boxes, killings, ethnic intimidation, tons of money etc.
Yes, as you rightly said, politics can never work out of south east and yes Nigeria may never work well and progress unfortunately because of tribal issues when a proper person comes along. Igbos were not tribal when it came to voting for Obasanjo twice, even against an igbo candidate, they were not tribal when they voted Jonathan, neither tribal when they voted Tinubu in Lagos and gave overwhelming support to fashola, even when tinubu wanted him out for his 2nd term.
I put it to you, had igbos such as rochas, uzor Kalu, uzodimma contested against eg Osibanjo, akinwumi ambode, 100% igbos will vote for Ambode and Osibanjo.
For igbos it is not about tribe, but who the believe will perform, make their lives better, their business, trade, education and standard of living. Same thing with Yorubas, but for a few that were wrongly mobilized to look at ethnicity, basically to have their hold on their source of income eg oluomo and his group. Was it not so with the LP candidate in Lagos, just because he has an igbo mother he was termed not a proper Yoruba and Lagosian even by those not from Lagos state?
Some even went as far as saying even if their person will destroy the country and make them paupers, they do not mind as far as their person is on seat.
The earlier all sections of this country, Igbos, Yorubas, Hausa etc remove tribalism from our politics, the faster Nigeria will progress.
The alternative is to appeal to UK to provide us a president, Russia a minister of finance and cbn governor (see how they managed the Russian economy despite the sanctions), American to be minister of Defense (because they like war), American as oil minister ( because the like oil and will bring war democracy to our neighbors with oil, We will grab their oil), Israeli as agric minister (they will grab all the farm land in Niger, Chad, Cameroon etc, they like to grab land eg Palestinian land), Norwegian as water resources minister (they like water too much and we will grab all the fish around Ghana, Cameron etc). Let's kukuma outsource governance if that is what will make Nigeria better.

OLAADEGBU:
https://saharareporters.com/2023/11/10/israel-rules-out-ceasefire-find-civilian-government-govern-gaza

Emmaomotob:
There is a difference between having more than you need and having more than you want. Many people can easily get more than they need. You cannot observe people from the point of your present reality. Material wealth starts to diminish in value after you have more than you need to be comfortable in a modern society. Then comes popping out other needs that have remained dormant.
Nevertheless, I understand your point. Most women don't know how to respect a man. They either worship or humiliate. They know no middle ground. They think it is their natural right to insult a man, even if he just wants to be a friend or colleague. Thus, the richer a woman is the more obnoxious and overbearing they become. The less a man has to come in contact with women in general, the better it is for him. But what is good is always hard to do.

accordadoga29:
Hehehehe

Sons of Ojukwu go wail tire.

With this appointment, even Ojukwu will not sleep well in his grave tonight

Shalommy:
Op, allow those strange men and women to smash you to calm your urge. Chaii.... Ogbanje!

obinna58:
Every life matters except the terrorists, spare none of them cos the innocent people protecting them doesn’t understand what they’re capable of.

How can you claim to be resistance squad while you attacked, kidnapped and killed innocent people provoking war. Defenders does not attack, they simply resist

Death to all hamas terrorists and fvk America and Israel too

TheSuperX:
Just read the rubbish you typed, who's the one commiting genocide on innocence children and women? Fvcking Israel or Hamas? Nonsense.

Beverlyjean:
Those loan apps are also criminals

Dennisochampa:
She should wait until they use her or one of her loved ones for rituals or dupe her.....
Then we will know if they are hard working or not
With such people, how will Nigeria ever become great?
Openly endorsing criminals?
Damn!!

Beverlyjean:
Tomorrow if this one is killed and harvested....people will start to pity her

phorget:
Ball was already out of play...

aysnoopy:
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Be like u never jam mad woman b4
Na that time insult go start. She'll tell u if u don't beat her, no be Ur papa born u.
I think you're still in your 20s and you're not married yet, if not u won't even say this

nairalanda1:
All in all, we never do find out why the woman is yelling and abusing him

Stories like this always end up being 'My spouse suddenly changed'.

There is something OP is not telling us. Until he tells us what he is not telling us, there is nothing that can be done.

He has come to hear what he wants to hear.

Namaster:
What your wife is doing to you is domestic abuse. Domestic abuse from men manifests in physical abuse. Domestic abuse from women manifests in verbal abuse.

Obviously, your wife neither respect nor love you. Her attraction to you is dead. You are the cash cow now.

You have two options:

1. Divorce her: This is your best option. It's the soft way out. Zero scandal. More peace of mind. Plus, you can use the money you're spending on the ungrateful b1tch to expand your business or investment.

Send her packing and bring in a new, fresh and young 23-year old girl with big yansh that thinks the world of you. You don't have to tolerate an aging, unattractive woman who belittles you.

This is one of the best parts about living in Nigeria. The bitch gets no alimony or child support. You don't have to give her a dime. Throw her sh1t out and let her fend for herself.

Let Renewed Hope engulf her in a tight hug without the benefit of your financial resources shielding her.

She'll understand why some women are going naked to pray for husbands.

2. Beat the shit out of her: Your wife is a bully. Bullies get more confident and empowered when their victims don't fight back.

And you sound like one of those men who vow to never hit a woman no matter what. That's a fine ideal. But brash people who wilfully take actions to harm you deserve whatever they get.

She's attacking you. You need to defend yourself. Take a cue from Israel and respond with overwhelming force. If she comes at you with sharp words and loud voice. Retaliate with hard slaps and heavy blows.

Fight fire with inferno. It's a FAFO world now.

She's playing to her strength by attacking you with words. You will fail if you try to respond with words. You can NEVER match her.

Your strength is physical. Beat the living shit out of her. She can NEVER match you.

The downside to this is that you could end up killing her. Your tale would become one of the ones we read on Nairaland.

Beating her is a solution. She'll come to fear and respect you. Plus, she'll no longer feel bored with being with you. She'll constantly anticipate the next direction the vawulence will come from. Also, make up sex.

This is twisted but if you still love her, you'll begin to whoop her silly.

That said, it's in your best interest to just divorce her and move on. Don't let her drag you into her twisted ways.